u/isoiledmyplantz

I know most won’t understand this question, but for those who do understand how debilitating and intrusive OCD really is, I could really use some guidance.

Essentially, it’s hard for me to feel the outcome of my manifestations because of how dark and intrusive my thoughts are. Same with “letting it go” after manifesting. I literally cannot do that. My brain latches onto what I want and finds a million and one scenarios in which that doesn’t happen, could go wrong, might hurt me, etc.

Any manifestation pros who also struggle with OCD? How do you “let go” and surrender your manifestations while still feeling the positivity as if you’ve received it?

Tia!

For some context, I have a house that I solely pay for. All in, I pay anywhere between $1700-$1900/mo.

My boyfriend and I have recently had the conversation about him moving in with me. Financially, it would make the most sense for him since he is putting himself through grad school, and his Apartment is increasing his rent yet again.

I feel that it’s only fair we split expenses somehow, I’m just not sure what a fair amount would be considering this is my house, it’s fully decorated as my own, all of my belongings are here and won’t be going anywhere, and he would have minimal space compared to what I have. I’m also keeping the garage.

I was thinking of proposing $650 per month, all in (roughly 36% of my expenses). I would continue handling all of the yardwork and major chores (sweeping, mopping, bedding, etc.) and the baseline expectation would be that he picks up after himself, tidy his things as needed, clean up any immediate messes, and have full responsibility of his cat.

We also have very different preferences, so I thought of proposing us grocery shopping together and sharing any overlapping expenses (planned meals, household items, etc.) but keep some things separate since we like different things (snacks, quick meals, personal product products, etc).

Again, he’s going to have significantly less space than I have. I currently have a spare room, which we’d make into his game room/study room. Aside from that, all of the other space would be shared with my furniture, decor, etc.

I’ve never lived with someone before so I want to make sure this is a fair proposal, and I also don’t want it to feel like a roommate situation. Any suggestions on my proposal or a better alternative?