u/isoiledmyplantz

I’m doing left side stimulation for OCD and MDD. I’m on treatment 19 and have been in a “dip” since around 11. Originally, I was told this dip should only last 2-3 days before I started feeling better.

While I notice some slight improvement with my anxiety and ocd, the depressive symptoms are what feel so heavy right now. I don’t want to do anything, I’m tired 24/7, I’m struggling and sluggish at work, my mood swings are ridiculous, etc. etc.

How long did your “dip” last?

I completed session 15 today and don’t feel any different. I haven’t felt a dip, I haven’t felt a boost, I haven’t felt anything.

I’m doing BrainsWay left side stimulation for OCD and MDD. I was told that most patients see a small benefit within 2-4 weeks with significant improvements throughout weeks 4-6. I’m right around week 3 and…nothing.

How long did it take you to notice improvements?

Been playing PC for a while and I love it. I’ve been on the fence for some time about upgrading, primarily for the water park addition. Aside from this noticeable change, is there really any other reason to upgrade? I’ve heard that the water park, path tool, and coaster styles are really the only major changes.

TIA

I game on my Mac and an updated game I want is PC only, so my alternative option is to use GeForce to play. The original game I have is Mac-friendly and free on GeForce but for the updated version it’s a “premium game” and PC only.

I don’t want to have to pay for a premium subscription for one game. Is there a workaround to this, not necessarily GeForce specific? Not sure where else to post.

TIA

I game on my Mac and PC2 isn’t available for Mac, so my alternative option is to use NVIDIA GeForce one to play. PC1 is free on NVIDIA but for PC2, you have to have a premium subscription for $10/mo. which I don’t want to do.

Is there any other work around to this?

Just finished day 11 - left side stimulation for OCD and Major Depressive Disorder. I don’t feel any different…yet. I told my TMS tech and she sounded a bit surprised, which made me concerned. Everything published says most notice results around 2-4 weeks and I’m at that point, so I was hoping to notice some benefit by now.

I know everyone is different, just wanting to get an idea of when you started to notice an actual improvement in symptoms. Was it subtle at first or did you wake up one day feeling noticeably different?

TIA

I know TMS dip is normal but I’m curious if this is a dip or just me being able to relieve built up emotion?

Today was day 9 and for the last three days, I’ve cried every day which is incredibly unusual for me. Prior to TMS, I’d rarely cry and when I did, it felt incredibly difficult to finally achieve tears. Now, something small that I’d normally feel annoyed by/dismiss is making me cry. Aside from that, I don’t notice anything else, unfortunately.

Is this normal?

OCD and Depression are the main reasons for TMS. My anxiety is typically the textbook pit in the stomach, racing heart, trembling, etc. However, I’m on day three and I feel like every time I become anxious, it feels more negative, almost like irritation/anger instead of general anxiety.

Is this normal and should it go away?

The tech told me it’s because the left side of the brain controls the right side of the body, so they did the finger test on my right hand, but shouldn’t I be able to feel the pulses on the left side if that’s where I’m being treated?

All I feel is a knock on my right temple and it’s throwing me off. This is for OCD so of course I’m overthinking it lol.

I start Monday and lately, all I see and hear about are the negative experiences, particularly rage, anxiety, seizures, and zero results.

Has anyone had an actual good experience? I’d love to hear about it. I’m being treated for major depressive disorder and OCD so I’m really hopeful that this will help me.

I don't really know what to do. I've been sitting with this feeling for a while now and after a nonsense argument that transpired earlier, I've decided that was the final straw and I'm done feeling like this constantly. I want to end things.

We leave for two week trip tomorrow morning, so I'm not sure what to do. If I do it today, I'l (selfishly) miss out on a trip but will be a total asshole for waiting it out. Either way, when we get back, I think this is what needs to happen.

How do I navigate these next two weeks to where I'm not putting my mental health at risk by walking on eggshells, but also to where I'm not blindsight him by breaking things off right as we get back from vacation?

TIA!

For a while, I’ve been solely focusing on the gym - roughly 3-4 times per week with a goal of hypertrophy. For the last several weeks, I’ve made a pivot and have been climbing a lot more, but to my understanding, climbing alone won’t increase muscular hypertrophy.

This leads me to the question - what have you found to be the best balance between climbing and the gym, specifically for muscular hypertrophy?

I’m 6’2, 175 and my goal is to increase muscle size and appearance, while also increasing functional strength so I know I need to blend both routines. Any suggestions?

Any ideas? I want to craft something but I’m bored of drawing, painting, and clay work.

Very bored and on a caffeine detox, so can’t formulate a thought to think of something new.

Tia!

EDITS:
(1) The cat is fine now. It received care and is home safe and healthy.
(2) My bf has a goal to graduate debt free, so he chooses to spend all of his extra money on school. He’s not struggling financially. He also pays $500/mo for all living expenses (housing, utilities, groceries, streaming, wifi, etc.)
(3) The vet offers financing, but my by chooses not to do so because he doesn’t want to be in debt
(4) My boyfriend is a bartender so he could easily pick up a couple extra shifts to make the $1800 but would rather not. Something I cannot do.

My boyfriend and I live together and when he moved in, he brought his cat with him. Prior to this, I have always been a pet-free household.

Recently, the cat got sick and had to receive emergency veterinary care, which totaled around $1,800. My boyfriend asked if I’d split this cost with him, and I said “absolutely not”.

He’s very frustrated with me because he feels that since we live together and have shared duties, this should naturally occur. I reminded him that I deliberately chose to have a pet free life because I don’t like the mess, I don’t want the responsibility, and I don’t want the financial burden. I reminded him that this is his cat, it just happens to live in my house.

His argument is that it’s “our” cat, so responsibility should be shared. He’s also frustrated because he’s trying to pay for grad school and I’m finished with school, so I have significantly more disposable income to spare. Still, I didn’t choose to get a cat.

I’ve doubled down and said that it’s not my cat, I never wanted a cat, and the only reason the cat lives with me is because my boyfriend also lives with me. I refuse to split any vet costs and had we not been together, this would be entirely his responsibility. AITA here?

Skydiving is great and I’ve always been interested in hot air balloon skydiving, but have never been sure how to get involved with it?

Finding a place for traditional diving is easy, there are a few bases near me that will let you go up with tandem divers and dive solo, but no hot air balloon places that I know of.

How does one go about finding a company to let them do this/are there dedicated hot air balloon companies for skydiving?

TIA!

UPDATE: After a sober discussion this morning, he admitted that he’s been cheating and owned up to everything I accused him of. Long story short, I told him I can’t be with someone who I can’t trust and I’m not going to painfully be in a relationship where I’m constantly scanning for flags, so we broke up. Currently trying to find a way home… cheapest flight is now $700 and rental car places are closed due to the holiday. Needless to say, I’m completely heart broken and haven’t been able to keep it together and now I’m about to use the only savings I have to get home. Happy memorial day, am I right?

For context: we have been together for 10 months. Throughout this 10 months, he’s had this dear friend in LA. I’ve always known this person as friend as “my friend __ from LA” that he keeps in touch with and he games with on occasion. No big deal.

Tonight, we’re out for drinks. I walk away to the bathroom and when I come back, I see him scrambling to hang up the phone so naturally, I ask who he was calling (at midnight). He quickly responds “oh just my grandma” to which I pressed “really, this late?”. He was insistent.

Come to find out, it was this friend from LA who after further investigation is his ex that used to live with him. The receipts date back to when we first got together and span throughout the entire length of out relationship. They’ve called and/or messaged daily. I’m talking multiple hour conversations, which he swears are non-explicit and related to their platonic friendship and their game. To top it off, there were several deleted photos, explicit photos sent that had been hearted, and sexual innuendos made throughout multiple conversations.

I feel utterly betrayed. Not once did this “friend from LA” come up as his ex, let alone his ex that he lived with (that he’s told me numerous times was extremely toxic).

I guess I’m wondering if I’m overreacting because (from what I could find) they haven’t had physical contact since September and all of this has been explicitly phone calls, texts, Instagram messages, etc.

Any advice here? I broke down tonight because I feel incredibly betrayed and foolish, but he’s trying to reason that because I asked him from the jump to stop bring up his exs, this is why it was never brought up.

Am I overreacting here? Is this breakup worthy?

I appreciate the insight.

I’m 25 and have always strayed away from relationships because I’m scared to be vulnerable and I don’t like opening up to people.

I’ve been in a committed relationship since September 2025 and tonight, because my partner was drunk and lied to me, I found out that he’s been cheating on me for several months with his ex.

In the bright side, his ex lives states away so they haven’t physically done anything (at least since September based on what I could find) but come to find out, they call daily, message daily, send nudes, sweet talk, etc. He even wished his ex a “very happy birthday” when he completely forgot mine and I had to remind him when we called that same night.

I truly don’t know how to feel right now. In the last few hours, I’ve cried, laughed, become angry, felt confused, felt betrayed, along with so many other emotions I can’t really place. Right now, I feel empty and have a raging headache that I can’t ignore and my mind is racing a million miles per hour. It’s going on 5:30am where I’m at and I can’t sleep.

Unfortunately, we’re on vacation right now so I’m stuck sleeping in the same room as him and what makes me even more angry is the fact that he’s sound asleep while being the root cause of all of this mess.

Any tips on how to process this? Am I over reacting? How do I bring this up again in the morning?… so many questions

Tia