u/leftistinlnk

I want to preface that I currently live in Nebraska, making 55k. I don’t have (and don’t want) kids, just 2 pets. I live pretty comfortably now, but I budget a lot and would like a little extra spending money.

The company offered 90k, but I’m wondering if I should try to negotiate…

I think I’m nearing that point of landing the job, but I just can’t get past the finish line. I’ve made it further and further every time, this last time making it through all the rounds and losing out against one other person.

I feel like I am SO close. What random thing do you think helped you finally land the job?

I feel like a lot of vets have more dog knowledge than cat, so I went to All Feline. I’ve felt like they always rush me out, even when I pay extra to be at the appointment. I was waffling on going back, then I found out they hired the guy from this post and now I’m like wtf?! They asked if I wanted an appointment from him and I’m like…no.

My cat has a lot of medical needs so I need someone educated and caring.

Are you making enough to keep in line with cost of living? If you’re not, what keeps you there?

Recently turned 31. I spent a lot of my early 20s alone, got a solid group of friends but they started doing the societal norm things. Getting married, buying houses, etc. So hangouts are few and far between.

So I’m just kind of…over it? I got two cats two years ago and honestly I fear I am becoming a cat lady. Lol. I spent a long time cultivating my cozy space, as well as building up a positive self image. Involving people makes it feel complicated.

I do have a partner, but our relationship is different than most, as we don’t live in the same city, so we’ve always been more independent than most couples. My partner is really wanting to make more friends and I feel guilty and somewhat sad because I just…don’t?

I’m good with me, my cats, and my partner. Is that terrible? The world is so filled with extra people-ly people and I just can’t. I should add my day job is dealing with annoying people a lot so maybe that contributes. Lol.

I had pesto pasta on my menu this week, and stupidly bought a ton of it without knowing about this cyclospora outbreak. I know pesto actually looks more vibrant when you blanche the basil.

If I wash thoroughly and blanche my basil, would that work? Or is the time in the boiling water not long enough to kill any remaining bacteria?

I have so many reusable water bottles I’ve collected over the years. Are there any places that could actually use them? I don’t want to give them to Goodwill, so they can up-charge and sell them. I want these to be given freely to someone who needs them.

I feel like these places are looking for unicorns. An absolutely perfect applicant that ticks every box. But applicants have to settle for less pay, or not great environment, menial benefits. No one wants to train, you must be perfect and that’s it.

I thought I was a shoo in for this position. Almost identical to my current position. Still no. Another month of my time, lost. And I get worse and worse at interviews every time because my confidence is absolutely GONE. A year and a half of searching. Employed, years of experience. Like what are we actually doing…this is ridiculous.

Cat, Domestic Shorthair, Age 2, 10 pounds, Male. Midwest USA.

Has been on Atopica for almost a year, once daily. Has history of URI and possible Feline Herpes.

Has been doing good with Atopica, then last week started itching the leg open, and bottom lip swelling. This has happened before. My vet told me we could drop the dosage to every other day, but I have tried it and he just started itching again, so I’ve kept it to daily.

They did said we could drop down in the warmer months; is it possible me not dropping down to an every other day dose the reason why itching and swelling is ramping up? I thought maybe it was summer allergies since this started when it got warmer, but now I’m wondering if I caused this by not dropping the dosage.

They are wanting to start him on prednisone, which he’s had to do before. Any thoughts?

Former local, going home for 3 days. Any new offerings I should check out? I truthfully want to be jam packed, so give me allll the things. Any location, restaurants, events, etc etc. I’ve done some research but there’s so much to look through now it seems.

Just finished my second round interview yesterday. After the first round, I found out a few hours later, which was unexpected. They told me it would be within “the next couple of weeks” before I hear back about the second one.

I already want to pull my hair out. It’s just like…can y’all let me know if I sucked so I can move on…the anticipation is so icky feeling.

Hi all, interviewing for a senior assoc position soon (my second interview after the phone screening). Anyone have any tips? I’m weirdly nervous for some reason, and kind of intimidated. There’s like 5 people I’m interviewing with.

To preface, I work for senior leadership at my current University, but have never been a senior leader, so it’s a step up for me.

There’s so many! I have done some research, but thought I’d ask here for more specifics. Never lived in Chicago, only visited, and only visited Loop/Chinatown.

Hopefully getting a job in Evanston. I would like to live there but it seems rather expensive. I thought about Rogers Park, but I would be bringing a car (nature of the job requires it) and I wasn’t sure about parking there.

I don’t want to live in Chicago proper. I’ve lived in big cities, and I prefer to be on the outskirts, with public transportation in for easy access.

Other things about me: gay, partnered but not living together for now, woman. Hoping to rent first to see which areas I like, but just need a good first landing spot. I would say no more than $1800 is what I want to spend. No kids, so I don’t care about schools.

I was using a plastic base + stainless top, and people told me to switch to all stainless. I did but maybe it’s the type I have? I feel like it gets grimy so fast. I try to clean it once a week, but even then it’s still gross. I use filtered water too. And my cats will only drink running water, so I can’t just leave out bowls. Ugh.

I don’t really have a price limit, I just want the best for them. I feel guilty when I go to clean it and it has that film buildup on it.

I’ve lived in a few places now; East Coast (Charleston), Northeast (Philadelphia), Midwest (Nebraska).

I’m not really sure where to go next. I am trying to pinpoint a place, so I can really lean in to applying for jobs, since I’m just applying everywhere now.

I would love the PNW, but the jobs are just not paying enough to make it worth it. I’m currently looking at Milwaukee for COL.

I have a newly diagnosed immune disorder that makes me super dis-regulated in hot summers, so the South is out (and I have no interest in returning to all the bugs I dealt with).

Not sure where to look or even go! I don’t need a super big city like Philly, I missed having my car there, but some public transportation is good for me.

I have someone looking for vendors for an event, and we’re wanting to connect with those displaced from Painted Tree. Suggestions on where to find those folks, or let them know about this opportunity?

We used to have sex a lot, when we first started dating. That was two years ago. Now it’s like, maybe once a month. I loveeee being intimate with my girlfriend though. I love kissing and touching and all the things. Truthfully, I just don’t think I like genitals. I love her boobs and her butt and I’m attracted to her.

But performing sexual acts just do not do it for me. I have OCD, and I’m on medication, which has probably killed my libido. But I hate the smells associated with sex, and the unclean feeling. I do enjoy receiving pleasure from my girlfriend, probably because I am far away from the downstairs…

She has told me many times that she would be happy with me even if we never had sex again but I feel so bad and guilty. She deserves more. All the things in the world. It’s causing a rift I think and I feel terrible.