u/mJelly87

For the last few days, my daughter (9yo) hasn't been well, but my son (6yo) has been fine. I let my ex know Sunday night that she wasn't going to school on Monday, as she had gotten worse. Normally if one of them is ill, she'll offer to take the other one to school. She didn't on this occasion.

I don't drive, and have to walk them to school. So this left me with a conundrum. Do I make her walk, so he can still go to school. Or keep him off, so she can rest. Personally I would keep him off, but the school has been quite vocal recently about attendance.

So on this occasion, I asked her to walk with us. We left early, so she could have breaks if she needed. Because of how long I would be out, I didn't feel comfortable leaving her on her own. There are only two people (other than my ex), but it's not very often that they reply quickly. So there aren't many people I could ask on short notice.

Obviously if one of my children was so bad that they couldn't get out of bed, or was having to run to the toilet, I wouldn't take the other. But if they can walk, should I take the other, or just risk the flack from the school?

Edit to add:

Forgot to say, I tried to contact my ex, but she didn't get back to me until well after school started.

I only have contact details for a couple of their friends. One of which is usually slow to reply. The others no longer go to the same school.

Going to and from school takes about an hour. I can't really afford taxis right now. Plus most of them are usually busy doing school runs as it is.

I want to drive, but can't afford it at the moment. I've been trying to save up to move house, but after rent/bills, I'm not left with much. I'm left in that awkward grey area, I don't earn enough to save much, but I earn too much to get assistance from the council.

On Mondays my daughter has an after school club, and we have to walk home. I don't live close to the school, so it's a bit of a trek. By the time we get home, I've got the kids changed etc it doesn't leave a lot of time. Especially if you factor in getting them showered and ready for bed as well.

I know a few recipes for the slow cooker, that I can just dish out once we've gotten home, but they are all very similar things, and the kids get bored of them. On a number of occasions I've just picked something I can chuck in the air fryer. Most of which aren't healthy.

I haven't been that well recently, and haven't had any luck getting into the doctors. So the walk to and from school has been taking it out of me. So I'm also finding it to stand in the kitchen for long periods of time.

I don't want my kids to suffer because I'm struggling. So any suggestions would be great. Thank you.

I discovered recently that I don't always hear the notification sound when I get a message. At first I just thought it was me not hearing it, but on several occasions, I've been looking at my phone when I get the notification and still no sound. On those occasions, I put it down to the fact that maybe it was because I was watching YouTube or tiktok, and it was just a conflict with sound. But then I noticed a few times I've been watching TV, my phone is next to me, locked, and still no sound. It's not a huge deal, as I tend to notice I've had a message within a few minutes, but it is a little annoying.

I'm still waiting for my assessment, which I hope will be soon based on the timeframe they gave me. Seeing the recent post about the mum trying to block their assessment, it made me wonder if an older sibling could be the informant?

My mum fully supports us (both my sister and I are awaiting assessments), but she suffers really bad anxiety when it comes to forms. I've had to help her with job applications in the past. So I don't know if I want to push it on her.

My dad, who we suspect also has ADHD, is a bit of a denier. Although he acknowledges that things like ADHD and autism exist, he often thinks that some of the stereotypical behaviour is because "parents just pander to the children's whims" and make them worse. So he doesn't see a lot of the behaviour as being connected to it, just bad parenting. I'd certainly say I don't fall under the stereotypical ADHD, so he wouldn't associate my behaviour growing up with it.

My sister is the reason I asked for an assessment. Someone had suggested her son might have. So when she looked into it, she realised that not only could it apply to him, it could apply to herself and me.

We were quite close growing, and could easily inform them of what I was like growing up. The only other regular parental figure in my life that could have done, unfortunately passed away a number of years ago. So could my sister do it for me?

My (38M) girlfriend (31D) have been together for almost four years. Tonight, she said I don't put enough effort in. My job has me working mostly working evenings. I've been trying to find a job that would allow me to do more days, but I've not had any luck.

We want to live together, but neither of us can afford anywhere bigger. My place is too small, and she currently lives with her mum (for medical reasons). With pretty much every day off I've had off the last couple of months, I've asked about coming over, and she has had some reason why I shouldn't. She's not well, she's busy, or she's going somewhere. I've asked about coming over before work, but I get the same excuse.

Yet she will ask me to trek to the other side of town to pick up her meds, and I'll go. I have to go close to hers to get to work, so she will ask me to grab things from the shop, and I'll go. They had a room full of junk that needed clearing out. I went there early, spent several hours helping her, went to change and then went to work. Two of her brothers were there, and didn't even lift a finger to help. I lent her money when they needed a new dryer. I've gone without, to make sure she doesn't.

I can't even remember the last time she invited me over to do something. She will tell me at the last moment that they are doing something, and tell me she didn't invite me because I was working, but find out she knew about it for weeks. I could have asked for the day off. It feels like she is purposely trying to find ways to not spend time with me, and then blame it on me.

Is there any way I can make her understand that effort goes both ways?

I'm terrible with money, so when I first moved to a place of my own, I got a second bank account. All my bills (including rent) go out of my first account, and I get paid into it as well. I know how much my bills come to, so what I do is leave that amount in the account and transfer the rest. It's all automated, so I don't look at it until next payday.

A couple of months ago, payment for something ended, so I adjusted how much I left there. I received an email from the letting agent the other day saying I was two months behind with my rent. I was confused, so I looked into it. Apparently the company whose payments should have stopped, were still going out. As my rent is the last thing to go out, it meant there wasn't enough to pay the rent.

I hadn't looked at the transaction history, as I assumed everything was fine. I've emailed the letting agent back and said that I will pay them a little extra each month until it's paid off. I can't afford to pay large chunks off in one go. I don't want to get kicked out, but I can't think of any other way to pay them back.

So would you find it acceptable?

I received a call the other day, that claimed to be Visa, saying that someone spent £700 from my account on Amazon.

I knew this was a scam for a number of reasons.

1 - It came from a mobile number. Why would they call from a mobile number?

2 - Robotic voice that didn't even try to sound human.

3 - None of my cards are Visa.

4 - I currently don't have £700 for someone to spend on Amazon. So it wouldn't have gone through

5 - I get notifications from my banking app about spending. Even if It failed to go through. So it would have said "You attended to spend...". I didn't get a notification.

They might try and change it up a bit. Different amounts, different card issuers, different places spent. If they haven't already, they might get someone where everything seems plausible. So be careful.

I work in a small shop, near a school, on a housing estate. For the last two weeks, there has been signs saying that the road will be closed for roadworks, with the dates on. Today they started. Now there are signs saying that the road is closed. At the far end of either side is a sign saying that the road ahead is closed.

Yet several people have still driven down, and upon discovering the road is closed, have mounted the pavement, and driven around the roadworks. Although school is closed for summer, a number of young children come to the shop. They get there via the pavement they are driving on. Next to the shop is a house with large hedges. Kids aren't going to see vehicles driving down, and the drivers aren't going to see anyone coming from the shop.

It's only a matter of time before someone gets hit. The diversion adds two minutes to their journey. So if they had bothered to read the first sign, then they could have easily gone round. They are obviously moving the cones, as my colleague and I have moved them back several times today. So if you add that time to the time they "saved", it equals the same.

Unfortunately we don't have cameras pointing at the road, and all the incidents happened while we were inside. We only knew it happened because we saw them go past the door. They are complete idiots who don't care about anyone but themselves.

I've been suffering a lot with burnout recently. It's like I never have a chance to recover. My usual method of just having a day where I chill, play games, and order a takeaway, don't seem to be working. And it's really starting to take the strain now.

I've noticed that things like my executive dysfunction happen more. I had created a routine which worked well, but I just can't seem to do it.

And normally I can get hyper focused at work, but I'm really struggling. It's like I don't have the energy to do it properly.

When I have the kids, I am normally quite relaxed. Especially now while they aren't in school. Recently though it feels like a challenge.

Nothing I do seems to help. It's like I just can't fill the tank enough. It's making me depressed, and it's just getting worse. Any advice you can give will be great. TIA

I write short stories as a hobby, so I'm always coming up with ideas. And this happens with the media I consume as well. So here are some of my ideas.

DLC - Return to Windscale.

Not long after the events of the game, it's realised that something remains. You get sent back in to sort it out before the wall comes down.

DLC - The truth remains.

A new area is added. A village that was emptied and was meant to be turned into an airfield. Although for the most part, it would just be a way to get more supplies, add more upgrades, and items/weapons, there would not only be more information about what they were planning, but information about our character.

Sequel - Atomfall 2

It turns out that when Oberon fell to earth, it had split in two. In a whole new area, set after the explosion in the first one. They thought they knew where they went wrong and tried again. Only things got worse.

Do you lot have any ideas?

In another group, on another app, a man posted a rant about how his ex keeps painting their nails and he has to remove it. In the comments people have asked if they wanted it, and all he replies is "No". Nothing further, no "they come to me crying" or "soon as they get to mine, they ask me to get it off". To me, it sounds like karma farming.

The thing is, there were lots of men in the comments saying that it's wrong for boys to have their nails painted. It has never bothered me, and my son occasionally asks his mum or sister to paint his. It's just a bit of nail polish. It's not going to hurt him.

So it made me wonder how dad's away from that group felt.

In the Voyager episode "Message in a bottle", it's established that the EMH can go anywhere in the ship. He even just transfers himself from one part to another. So my question is can he still do that when the ship separates? And if so, what is the maximum distance? I mean sure, I could understand if one section had warped out of the area, but what's the limit? Could they be opposite sides of a solar system, or would it just be like the distance between Earth and the Moon?

I've just finished my first run through, and plan to start again soon to go with a different ending. Obviously your first time round, you are going to make mistakes. Kill the wrong NPC, spend ages trying to do something only to find you could have done it an easier way etc.

For example, I saw someone reported the vicar, so didn't get the key. I've since been told that you can find his body somewhere, but I don't know.

So did you or plan to do different the 2nd/3rd/4th time round?

I've almost completed my first run through, and I'm just checking I haven't missed anything before I head to Oberon. In Wyndham, there is an area that protocol won't let you in. Is there a way to get in, or have I left it too late? Should I have gone at an earlier part of the game. Don't worry about spoilers, as I watched someone playing it, which encouraged me to get the game. They didn't try to go here though, so I'm not sure.

I'm a tenant and this is the first time I've had this issue. I'd been away for a couple of days, and discovered a leak coming from under the sink. My kitchen floor had a nice layer of water on it, and it soaked into the carpet of the adjoining room (about a metre and a half). I managed to shut the water off, and chuck some towels down to start soaking it up. And then called my landlord, who came as soon as possible.

Once he assessed the situation, he went to try and call the plumber he normally deals with, but got no answer. So he sent him a message. It's been nearly 5 hours and I haven't heard anything yet. I've had to come to a friend's house in the meantime, but I'm not sure if it is something that has to be sorted in a set time. Or do I just have to wait? I'm in Wales if that makes any difference.

You have four options (or you could choose none of them). Notes will be at the end.

Option 1:

You sleep for 1, wake up fully refreshed, and will be awake for the next 23 hours.

Option 2:

You sleep for 1 day, wake rested, and are awake for the next 6 days.

Option 3:

You sleep for 1 week, wake refreshed, and stay awake for the next 3 weeks.

Option 4:

You sleep for 30 days, wake up fully refreshed and rested, and don't sleep for the rest of the year.

Notes:

Once you are asleep, no one can wake you. Not even with drugs.

If you choose options 2, 3, or 4, you are given a pod to sleep in, which will maintain your body while you sleep. You can still be harmed or die, but you wouldn't have to get up to pee or change a tampon etc. If you have any medical conditions, it can monitor these as well, and inform the relevant people if there is a problem. It can also be linked to smoke alarms or security systems too.

Legally you cannot be fired or turned down for a job. So if you pick option 4, your job will still be there when you wake up.

Once you pick a start time/date, it cannot be changed. So if you picked option 2, and said 2am every Sunday, it doesn't matter if you are in the pod or driving down the highway, you will fall asleep.

Once you are awake, you will not be able to sleep until the next allotted time. You can be put under for things like surgery, but once the drugs ware off, you will feel just as awake as before.

I saw a video earlier of a 19yo American who had travelled to Europe, and had been drinking alcohol while there, then the disappointment that they couldn't when they returned back.

With different countries having different laws, there must be cases of people doing something legal in country A and return to county B where it's illegal, and there is evidence of it.

I believe the legal drinking age is 18/19 in Canada. So say a 19yo was in Canada, purchased some alcohol, traveled to the US drunk (and still had some alcohol), would anything happen?

Or say something like sex? Obvious evidence of that would be pregnancy. So say an 18yo and 17yo have travelled to a country where the legal age of consent is 16, and they have sex. In the moment, they have not committed any crime. But say the female in this couple falls pregnant. They return to their home country, where the legal age of consent is 18, and it's blatantly obvious that the male is the father. Would the 18yo still be arrested for having sex with a minor, even though they haven't had sex since their return?