u/mxxnlyte

i’m sorry but i don’t recognise misandry as a valid concern, because when men are violated it’s not because they are men, and they cannot be discriminated against FOR BEING MEN when they have been the historical enforcers and benefiters of the patriarchy. men can certainly experience violence too and this obviously isn’t okay: i do not encourage such acts, but automatically accrediting the issue to ‘misandry’ is ignorant. men will hate women and be misogynistic because they believe women as a whole are deficit when this isn’t the case, and they will commit violence against them, like femicide. the term came about in response to feminism, and is often used in anti feminist rhetoric. the patriarchy is still largely prevalent today.

now that we’ve established that, WHY ON EARTH are FEMINISTS giving this term exposure?? they’re doing more harm than they think, and honestly are converting more men to anti feminism because they can point out how ‘oh, this is a misandrist’. once again, misandry is men complaining that women are no longer these subservient possessions they can exploit via unpaid domestic labour and child rearing. misogyny results in the murder and assault of innocent women, a historically marginalised group. men simply cannot be oppressed when referring to the patriarchy specifically when they are, once again, the benefiters and enforcers of said system. misogyny is more of a concern because women haven’t even achieved international legal equality, the bare minimum, yet. social equality is a whole other story.

now to reiterate, violence against anybody is absolutely unacceptable. i will advocate for anybody, no matter who they are, if they have been treated with any less dignity than a human should deserve, which certainly includes male victims. my ideal world is a world where nobody is a victim of evil and suffering by the hands of someone else.

i got tickets for £84 somewhere else (yes, an official site, the presale link directed me to two websites and i chose the other apart from ticket master) that would’ve otherwise costed me like £141 on ticketmaster. £84 for a seat that close to the stage is honestly a bargain imo… cuz like i said it could’ve easily been almost double that price. i wanted to draw attention to this because highlighting this makes it clear that these prices are not bea’s fault. arena tours will be more expensive than a concert hall and i talked about hypothetically if i was an artist i would play concert halls over like 2 nights. even then, that’s a good price for a seat so close. it’s honestly ticket masters fault lol.

yo sorry for lowkey spamming this sub but presale for uk is tomorrow which i have access too. the thing is, my parents are at work tomorrow during the time it starts and i will likely be at school so i really don’t know what to do. i am going to try for london. how were the tickets a few hours after, like 7 ish hours?

i went to the tihtm tour in 2024 but i was in a seat area in the back. it’s my dream to see beabadoobee up at the barricade, she is genuinely my idol and her music means a lot to me and a lot of people i know would nominate me as the biggest beabadoobee fan they know haha. but it seems as if though this dream of mine will only become more impossible. this is because i have terrible (social) anxiety and i do not think i will be able to manage in the pit, i don’t know how ill be by the time its november but i feel as if investing in pit tickets when i realistically wouldnt do that tomorrow feels very selfish, even i really want to. i dont know if theres a possibility of swapping for seat tickets later on, or if i should just get a seat ticket with a family member to be safe, but then if it turns out im doing okay then im suddenly at a seat and that would really suck. i dont know, might play it safe. i dont really know how it works for ticketmaster so experienced people, what are my options??

To all my british folk out there, you know there is about to be a very diabolical heatwave incoming, like almost 40°C. Midnight sun by Zara Larsson was neat and all when it was still cold, but in the summer this has proved to cause a heatwave. Considering how wednesday is the peak of the heatwave (according to my weather app, then it should decrease) beabadoobee’s duty is to reverse the warming effects of midnight sun by then releasing sun has set, to put an end to the ‘never ending midnight sun’ and this is going to prove effective, given the decrease in temperature.

i (17F) am on a bus commuting to school. i like to sit in the back of this bus because its not a double decker bus. so i am at the very back corner. all of a sudden, a man sat next to me on the bus. now i’m not saying i have issues with people sitting next to me, but it was the fact that there were other seats, including one next to another dude sitting on the other side of the back (who later got off, leaving the other two seats vacant), yet this guy sat next to me. this left me quite squished in the very back corner. now, nothing happened to me personally otherwise i would’ve called from the top of the heights, but i was texting my friend on how scary this was and how uncomfortable i was and i noticed that he was peering at my phone, like making the facial expression and everything. i was panicking but thankfully the guy got off. i don’t know if im overreacting but it was odd nonetheless.

i have terrible (social) anxiety and i feel very uncomfortable at the prospect of meeting people outside of school. yet deep down i love meeting people in general but it’s my anxiety that debilitates me from doing so. a friend keeps trying to make plans with me but i have ended up cancelling 2 times last minute, including 3 times because i have a legitimate excuse today. the thing is, i feel as if my friends will grow closer without me. i would love to hang out with them but i just can’t. they’ll all leave me but i suppose that’ll be for the better, they don’t have to deal with somebody constantly bailing out of plans

i have terrible (social) anxiety and i feel very uncomfortable at the prospect of meeting people outside of school. yet deep down i love meeting people in general but it’s my anxiety that debilitates me from doing so. a friend keeps trying to make plans with me but i have ended up cancelling 2 times last minute, including 3 times because i have a legitimate excuse today. the thing is, i feel as if my friends will grow closer without me. i would love to hang out with them but i just can’t. they’ll all leave me but i suppose that’ll be for the better, they don’t have to deal with somebody constantly bailing out of plans

anyway my fav songs are all cleaned out and clementine.

i am genuinely genuinely so confused on where i went wrong (apart from the fact i ran out of time). i got a C for politics (but im being predicted an A) and i got a D in english. i don’t know what my history grade is yet but considering how i did the least prep for that im finished. my friends were talking about applying to oxbridge i am killing myself

this is more of a vent post, because i am a people pleaser more than anything else.

i love my friends very much and i wish they knew how much i did. it feels nice to finally be the kid who is speaking to her friends, rather than the kid sitting in silence focusing on the work next to them. the thing is, my anxiety has proved to be such a burden. i’m always hiding the way i feel. i make plans but cancel last minute because i just can’t see people outside of school without having a panic attack. i wish they knew how much i love being around people but i just can’t do it. i don’t want to burden them anymore, and i guess life would become easier for me too. maybe being the kid who sat alone was supposed to be my place. it would make me incredibly sad but maybe it’s for the best.

a part of the body that is more narrow than the head and chest, and acts as a pathway in between them. well, firstly the neck is pretty long, making it a perfect target for pretty much anything. also, it’s the only way to get oxygen to your brain from your lungs, and to respirate in general. anything happening to your neck is basically instant k.o. and i can’t believe evolution has failed us by giving us necks.

i’m 17F. i’m also not religious… i have suffered trauma from religion and have a very unhealthy relationship with the whole thing. you’ll see why that’s relevant in a bit.

my stepdad’s side of the family or family friends are religious (muslim). the women tend to wear the hijab and are modest (actually, i am the only older woman in an entire room of women who does not wear the hijab or dress modestly). i have made it blatantly clear that i do not go out of my way to dress modestly to cater to people (or more specifically, men) i’m also alternative (gyaru) and therefore love to dress up. i have been treated with respect (for the most part) by others. anyway, we had a huge gathering and i wanted to tag along because i hadn’t been outside in a few days and was dying to dress up. i wore a relatively short skirt (which has built in shorts) with translucent (leaning towards opaque) tights, also a fur jacket over my shirt. there were 2 boys at the gathering that have seen me a few times before and i’ve spoken to them before this gathering.

fast forward to the end when it’s me and my mum in the car. she says that the mother of one of the boys was trying to get them out of the room i was in because of what i was wearing. she felt embarrassed. also kept telling me to cover up. i don’t tolerate this, but im also furious. it makes me sad because men have objectified my body. i have made it especially clear to my mum that i do not want to dress modestly. i feel sick

i hope this post isn’t disrespectful. i respect religious people and i have shown respect. i am surrounded by them and live in a religious(ish) household.

i can’t get over it. i genuinely can’t. i love women so much. thank you thank you thank you vivimeng

hello, i have been debating with christians more specifically and there is an argument they make that unfortunately trips me up. i argue that hell is a fear mongering tactic. they tell me that there’s free will, because you don’t HAVE to believe in god, you can choose to be religious or not be religious. they also argue that if you don’t believe then hell is a place without god and something you chose. If you don’t believe then you don’t want to spend an eternity with god, you want to spend an eternity without god.

how i feel about this is that you can’t force yourself to believe in something you don’t, and who wants to end up in pain and suffering? why would an all loving god want to do that to someone who just questioned?

i love hanging out with people but i have debilitating anxiety, and im traumatized from that one time i had a panic attack in front of somebody i really care about. this leaves me in a very horrible position because i have to ruminate about even replying. seriously, even if i didn’t have anxiety, sometimes people don’t feel like hanging out. so why do we have to make excuses? and then the act of making up an excuses and lying is bad too! if somebody springs plans upon me, i shouldn’t have to go along with it? i don’t know, maybe it’s because im a chronic people pleaser. i just think it should be okay to say ‘sorry, don’t feel like hanging out. nothing against you, maybe we should hang out [insert time], or let’s hang out some other time’.

before you say ‘how would you feel if somebody said that to you’, i would feel completely fine because i understand people are people. i will also continue to offer for them to hang out.

i have mocks and i need to focus on consolidating my knowledge rather than making revision materials like i cannot be doing that right now

i’m a year 12 student, and one of my mock exams fell before half term. i’ve been struggling with my homework and honestly i can’t concentrate, let alone revise. i have so much content to memorise right now (a level edexcel politics paper2). it’ll screw up my predicted grades. i got told i apparently have exams at the start of y13 too. i was aiming for A*AA, i need at least AAA. ‘why didn’t you begin revising earlier?’ ive been revising for a while but i never managed to get past the first unit, leaving 3 units practically unrevised. i’ve been struggling with what to revise with or how to revise, and then when i get to it it takes way longer than expected and ultimately it’s all piled up to this night. im definitely suffering with something which prevents me from being able to study or do work for long periods of time. im having an existential crisis as im typing this out to be honest.