u/redheadgenx

They looked like extra silly Shriner hats, but the addition of the fringe covering their faces, became menacing.

when Mark or Christian asked Pelle how to behave at the table, and Pelle replied, “You’re American. Just push your way in.”

I read it as contempt.

Feeling better. I can stand a quiet space again. Hammered home to ex that he cannot contact me for any reason (it’s all routed through my best friend anyway).

There’s still an empty spot. That will take a while. Or forever. I don’t know.

It’s nice not to care at the moment.

Thank you to everyone who’s been supportive here. It really made a difference.

I never thought the expression “jaw dropping” was literal.

How does everyone know the cult was called the Hårga? I missed it in the movie, I guess.

I’ve been listening to men friends complain about not getting attention on dating sites.

I think at least some of this can be helped by a female eye, either through rewrites or editing by a professional writer.

Does this sound like something a guy would appreciate?

(Yes, there would be a fee. )

**The lies:** He’s from Brazil. He’s a structural engineer. His accounts were hacked. His site manager defrauded him of 20k. He needs just 2k—-such a small amount of money—- to get building materials on time. Then he can leave and visit me.

**The truth:** He’s a well-known fraud and grifter. The FBI has him in their sights. Speaks more Spanish than Portuguese (surprise! I know some Portuguese, jerk). Preys on anyone to fund his traveling and photography career.

**The worst part:** He claims his son died in a car accident he was blamed for.

He now has a new profile on a kink site. I hope he enjoys it.

The lies: He’s from Brazil. He’s a structural engineer. His accounts were hacked. His site manager defrauded him of 20k. He needs just 2k—-such a small amount of money—- to get building materials on time. Then he can leave and visit me.

The truth: He’s a well-known fraud and grifter. The FBI has him in their sights. Speaks more Spanish than Portuguese (surprise! I know some Portuguese, jerk). Preys on anyone to fund his traveling and photography career.

The worst part: He claims his son died in a car accident he was blamed for.

He now has a new profile on a kink site. I hope he enjoys it.

Happy Birthday, fellow July 19th birthday havers!

From what I’m reading, most people prefer Hereditary to Midsommar. I’m interested in hearing opinions. Thank you.

I was dumped about six weeks ago. It’s been challenging, but I’m okay. I’m completely NC. My choice.

During our relationship, I did a lot of work to heal. We broke up anyway (usual DA stuff, but I’m guilty too).

I may start dating again.

My plan is to really focus on grounding myself when I might otherwise panic and pull away.

I’m open to advice and suggestions.

I wonder whether all the screwed up FA stuff I did contributed to being discarded by a DA.

Once I realized my pattern (which had always, always ruined almost every relationship and friendship I’d had) I changed. I worked very, very hard in a short time, and I healed.

What I’m struggling with is accepting my share of screwed up behavior that led to the discard. I did over react at times. A lot. Rather spectacularly once. I struggle to forgive myself for this, and other shitty behaviors.

But then I think about the exasperation I felt about having to ask and ask again before he understood( that was getting a lot better,though, through work with a couples counselor).

But I’m responsible for my over reactions. No frustration can justify the explosions I had about it, though.

In the end, I was the one willing to stay together and keep working toward a secure relationship. He discarded.

My question is, is it fair to absolve myself because he wasn’t willing
to face his DA demons for us?

I’m having trouble forgiving myself.

Please help!

I don’t even like him anymore, but I miss being loved and feeling love for him.

I haven’t broken NC. I view contacting him as another opportunity for him to hurt me. My ego’s already shot.