u/rfw1979

Question for everyone

I've tried AA multiple times over the past 16 years, and it never stuck. Last time was over a year ago and was my longest attempt. Got to Step 6, and quit. I don't like meetings, I don't get the point of them. I zone out most of the time. I didn't get anything out of doing the steps. I just didn't get it. So I've found my own way of dealing with it.

My question is how many on here are former AA people? Are the rest of you not willing to give it a shot? And why not?

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u/rfw1979 — 3 hours ago

The best worst movie

This is hilarious because King was famously coked out during the filming of this movie, so this all makes sense.

u/rfw1979 — 1 day ago

I've fucked myself and now I have to go to the ER.

I've been having nausea for months now, with no help from a doctor. I don't drink as often as I used to, but when I do it's a lot. I went 2 weeks before the last binge last week and drank 8 bottles of wine on 50 hours on my days off. I don't even remember doing it. I just woke up to that many bottles on the day I was supposed to go to work, and called out because I felt like i was dying. But that was 4 days ago and I'm feeling worse. It's like the worst acid reflux I've ever had. I'm in pain and can't eat. Other weird stuff going on that has to be related. I know I drank it all laying down in bed too, so that has to play a factor. Barely making it through work. Smoking weed at night helps, but not much. So after work tomorrow night I'm going to the ER. I have no idea what exactly this is, but it's not good and it's getting worse.

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u/rfw1979 — 3 days ago

Who was the genius to make this a feature?

Is it just my store, or do any of you have this? It's by the pet aisle, obnoxious squeaky plastic chickens. Kids will not leave them alone, and several adults too. There was one day I was about to have a mental breakdown, because throughout the store no matter where you went there was a kid playing one and making it squeak over and over. Every time I hear it, it makes me want to pull my hair out. It's the most annoying sound in the world.

u/rfw1979 — 9 days ago

The best character on film vs the books.

You guys, I'm not going to repeat myself on here vs the book subreddit. It's vastly different, these people who follow this character from the books to film. I'm an avid film buff and book reader. Got into Hannibal through the films, then the series. Then the books. It's fun up until the end of "Hannibal", the book. Which makes no sense that Starling ends up with Hannibal, eating people. So she's completely fine with eating Krendler. Enjoys it actually. I've had fights with people on this topic within the book community that this turn for both of them makes no sense. And it's kind of ruined the series for me.

But I've read the books in order and watched the movies in order. And I've recently begun "Hannibal" the series, again after years. It's just so good. All the characters from the first book are there, along with a lot of the plot lines. But unlike the first book, where Will Graham is a boring one note character, he's a multidimensional human being. That becomes reliant on Hannibal Lecter as a focal point for his psychosis. Which from the first episode, Lecter sees this with Will and begins to play a game with him with that fist kill to replicate the Hobbs murders.

From the first episode, Lecter finds his opposite in Will. And produces the fake Hobbs kill, that Will immediately sees as false and an invitation to the game. This is my 3rd rewatch of this amazing show. Beautiful in all aspects. Well written, acted and produced. I still can't belive it was on network TV. Which is why it didn't get a 4th season. But it carried on the character of Hannibal when the book let him down in the end. What a prefect show.

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u/rfw1979 — 11 days ago

That ending...

I just started the book series earlier this year. I'm a fan of the Hannibal Lecter character through the films, but more so for the short-lived masterpiece "Hannibal" series. Don't get me started. However I approach books differently. I don't let the movie influence me at all in terms of the story. Because I know the book will go into more detail and show you more than the movie could.

"Red Dragon" was a good read as a procedural cop drama, but the only one who really stood out was Dr. Lecter. Will Graham didn't really have much of a personality, no one to really care about. All the characters are very cut and paste, there to move the story forward. It was Lecter who was the star of the book, who was in it very little.

In the intro to "The Silence of the Lambs", Thomas Harris tells a story. A story you need to read for yourself. But it's the story of how he came up with the character of Hannibal Lecter, based off an encounter he had in a prison as a journalist. It's quite fascinating. And then you begin the book...

I loved reading "Silence of the Lambs", it felt like a companion piece to the masterpiece of a movie. Clarice Starling. A character way more fleshed out than Graham, who originally caught Lecter. Graham is only mentioned as a low life disfigured alcoholic after the events of "Red Dragon", in passing. It's just like a sentence or 2, but that's the basic description and it's awful. I loved the dynamic between Clarice and Hannibal, and how they were able to get into each other's minds. I didn't see anything romantic or sexual about it. At. Fucking. All.

I knew the movie "Hannibal" got a lot of bad reviews from critics, but I saw it in the theaters when it came out and I had to sleep with the light on, it freaked me out that much. I kept seeing Hannibal in the corner of my room. And I grew to love it. So going into the book, I knew it wasn't going to be the same. I knew it would be the biggest departure from the movies. But it wasn't for 95% of the book.

So we're expected to believe this complete and total character change for Clarice at the end? I get the argument that she's been through hell for constantly doing the right thing to make things safe for others, and she's very very very very very put down at the end. But to the point that she goes from chasing him to lock him up, to being like, "Fuck it"?

So, cannibalism, bad to begin with. Totally OK with and down to try at the end. Plus, just out of nowhere with no relevance to how they've reacted to each other before or in their own words in the books they were not seeing each other as attractive or sexual beings. Now they're fucking all the time. And eating people and fucking all across South America. And we're just supposed to accept this as fact, when there was nothing to lead up to this massive character change.

I haven't felt this violated since the ending of "Game of Thrones". And I feel it's the authors to blame. GoT, bc GRR Martin won't get off his lazy old ass and finish the books, so they came up with that horrendous last season. Thomas Harris was forced to write this book after the success of the movie. You can look it up, he didn't want to write another book about Dr. Lecter. This was a "Fuck you" to everyone who was pressuring him to write another book. And it showed.

I felt like I needed a shower after reading the ending. It just didn't seem right. That was not Clarice, nor was it really Hannibal. It was like some sick fantasy of Thomas Harris, and I feel dirty for reading it. And not in a good way, bc I like a good dirty read.

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u/rfw1979 — 11 days ago

I've only heard about this on here, and my store is in GA. But then again my store ignores other rules the company sets like we wear any kind of hat and hoodies. No one says anything.

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u/rfw1979 — 22 days ago

I grew up in the library. I was often left at the library in the 80s as a way of daycare for my parents. I can't remember exactly the reasons and don't care, bc that was my life as a child. I loved to read and loved the library. I got out of reading bc life, and have gotten back into it and out of it over the years. Well I'm back, and here's what I love: Stephen King, Chuck (can't spell his last name, but the author of Fight Club), comedian memoirs, Christopher Moore, and just random stuff I've read along the way. Like "Gone Girl" wrecked my life when I read it, bc I was in a relationship at the time that that story perfectly represents. Minus the actual murdering horrors. But I'm struggling to find something to read right now. You can't beat Stephen King's "The Dark Tower" series. "IT" and "Jurassic Park" are my favorite books. I would like to claim The Game of Thrones books as one of my favorites, which they are. But they're not complete bc GRR Martin is apparently just waiting to die because he doesn't want to deal with finishing what he started.

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u/rfw1979 — 25 days ago

New here, and been a huge SK fan for years. "IT" is my favorite book next to "Jurassic Park". Also, both my favorite movies. I've recently gotten back into reading through my Amazon Kindle app, and re-read "IT" first. But then saw I had "The Talisman" downloaded but never really began. It shows you where you left off no matter how many years, and I had only gotten 13% through it before I began again. Which I don't remember any of it, so it has been all new to me. And it's a colab between him and Peter Straub. I don't know his work and I really don't know how you collaborate with someone to write a novel together. I'm about 25% in, and I'm underwhelmed. Maybe this is why I gave up on it years ago. It has all the SK tropes that look like a lazy Dark Tower ripoff. But so far no real world building or really an interesting character or story. Should I give up on this book or finish it?

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u/rfw1979 — 25 days ago