u/saveyourdaylight

hi! I'm getting married next year and have been dreading finding shoes for the wedding. What heels did you guys wear/will you wear for your wedding? Thanks!!

hi! I'm getting married next year and have been dreading finding shoes for the wedding. What heels did you guys wear/will you wear for your wedding? Thanks!!

Wedding is next October, but I'm starting to do some research into wedding dress shops/brands! I'm short (5'3) and also like a size XL/2XL, so if you have any shops that have dresses for short plus sized people pls let me know!! thank you! :)

hi y'all!

So we're planning on having a more casual wedding, at least in comparison to the weddings our families have had recently. Our venue is a very famous cavern (that actually gives all guests a free tour!) and is on Halloween 2027. Both of us are pretty chill with a lot of things, like if family/friends can't come because their kids would rather go trick or treating. Neither of us drink for different reasons but we'll be providing beer/wine and canned cocktails for our guests instead of having a bartender, and I want to not only bring alcohol from both of our cultures (Norway and Mexico) but highlight some local favorites too.

We're also both mostly introverted and don't plan on dancing much outside of our obligatory dances, but I do plan on having a dance space cleared out for people and a playlist for those that do want to dance. The reception is in a barn in the same area as the caverns and has an upstairs/downstairs area, and we were thinking about turning the upstairs area into an "introvert" zone with card games, phone chargers, and maybe a projector with a switch attached for Mario Kart (my little brother plays semi-professionally) and other games. I think it's important to mention that the wedding is held from 5pm-11pm because the caverns only hold weddings after hours.

I guess I'm just wondering what else I should do to make this fun/notable? Are there any immediate holes in this plan that any of you guys can see, or any tips to ground things? My family is very large and Catholic so this is a really weird wedding in comparison to what they're used to. Our dress code is business casual and we're doing a BBQ buffet so it's not really a formal wedding, but like... would this be too weird? We're still in the early stages of planning, like we only have our wedding bands and a deposit on the venue.

they text and email CONSTANTLY and have been leaving ads in my voicemail. it's a nuisance! I get sending out a text or email every now and then, but sending multiple voice mails is crazy. that's all

I have PCOS and the cramps are worse than my usual ones off birth control. what sucks is that I can't take any NSAIDs because I'm on lithium and apparently according to my last blood test I'm having liver issues which means no more Tylenol. I have an ultrasound scheduled next Tuesday to check the placement of the IUD but I can't feel the strings anymore and I'm bleeding heavier now than when it was first inserted. all around I'm having a miserable time lol

I needed to get another pair of shoes so I went to Macy's clearance section and got a $130 pair of Clark's for $25!! I'm so thrilled especially because I have really flat feet and everyone has recommended this brand to me but I can't afford to spend a lot on clothes/shoes. What other stores have good clearance sections? I pretty much only shop at thrift stores/Marshalls/TJ Maxx but are there any other stores you guys like, especially for shoes?

I'm already starting to feel better, it's like I'm slowly getting my energy back. They've been gradually increasing since January and lowering my other meds so it's been a REALLY rough adjustment. I admitted myself to inpatient 3 weeks ago and they raised my dosage to 1200mg and I'm finally at .8! each week I find myself with more energy, like my depressive episode has lasted probably 6 months now and I've barely been able to get out of bed. I'm gonna take a walk today to forage serviceberries!

I'm currently on 1200mg lithium, 7.5mg mirtazipine, and 25mg atomoxetine. Before lithium I was on a lot more meds and had to take over 10 pills a day which sucked, I'm so glad it's helping because my med list is a lot shorter.

so I'm bipolar and am on lithium so like I understand it's hard to find a migraine medicine that won't interact with the lithium or make me manic, but it's been 3 weeks since my first neurology appointment and I still don't have any meds to help. He diagnosed me with migraines and put in an order for emgality, which insurance denied. I tried letting him know and I didn't hear anything back from him until yesterday when he called me and told me he was going to prescribe me naproxen to take every day for my headaches. When I told him I can't take NSAIDs every day because of my lithium, he told me he was going to put in an order for a different medication that's low risk that day. The pharmacy still doesn't have it and I can't find the name of it anywhere on the patient portal.

Then I had a primary care appointment today and apparently I'm having issues with my liver (I don't drink so this was a surprise), and now my primary care doctor told me I need to stop taking Tylenol. So now I can't take any NSAIDs because of my lithium, I can't take Tylenol because of my liver, and I'm still waiting on *anything* from my neurologist because now I just have to raw dog these stupid headaches every day 😭 and I'm also dealing with the aftermath of a mental health inpatient hospital visit a couple weeks ago, issues with my thyroid, and my IUD possibly shifting so this is just another blow health wise. My PCP is also worried about autoimmune issues and I now have to see a rheumatologist and God I'm so overwhelmed and over it all.

I know it isn't a lot, I have great insurance thank God, but even $800 is so much to me. my last paycheck was around $700 because of lost wages, and I feel so stuck because I don't know how to go about this. like can you even do payment plans?

I also found out that I have another medical bill for about $600 that I thought was handled. Back in Oct. 2025 I went to a gynecologist they did a test, and the lab sent me a bill in January for $600. I called them about it and they said they put my insurance info in wrong and that they fixed it. A couple of days ago I got another bill from them and it looks like nothing changed. I'm not even on the insurance I was on when I got that test because I was on my mom's, now I have insurance through my job and there's no way they'd cover that bill.

I know at the end of the day it isn't a lot of medical debt in comparison to a lot of other people in the US, but I live in one of the most expensive counties in the US and it feels like my fiance and I are barely holding ourselves above water. if it weren't for the fact that I knew I would need the good insurance because of my disability we would have been in even more debt and I know I should be lucky, but I'm navigating my health issues blindly on $23/hour and am barely holding it together mentally. I had to tell the inpatient facility I was in that I couldn't stay for long because my job doesn't offer sick leave and I can't afford to be there, so now I'm out but still suffering mentally and trying to hold it together because this is my first full time job and it pays a lot better than some of the other retail jobs in the area.

I just feel stuck, I don't know what to do. I also have $1,500 on my credit card which again isn't a lot in the grand scheme of things, I just feel so overwhelmed as I just left the hospital two weeks ago and haven't fully recovered.

I don't have much to say other than I'm in the hospital and I'm about to have an inpatient stay. almost didn't come when I needed to because my job doesn't give sick time off + rent is due soon. life sucks. I'll recover, I have enough for rent, but we're going to be eating a lot of lentils and rice when I get out.

hi! They just raised my lithium from 600mg to 900mg and I've been dealing with some nausea. which meds do you all take to help with it? I have some pepto-bismol and dramamine, but idk if those will help with nausea caused by lithium? This happened when they raised it from 300mg -> 600mg but it went away eventually, I just didn't eat much in those first few days of adjustment so I'm trying to find a better solution. Thank you!!