u/sydlovespeeta

As the title suggests my cat phoebe (3) has her own room after experiencing some issues with anxiety after moving last year where she became aggressive with my other cats and began urinating outside of the litter box. I have taken her to the vet and she was on prozac for some time and they recommended her having her own space and has now been weaned off of that as she was doing much better, but taking her outside of the room with the other cats hasn’t improved (we have tried feeding them through the door, and different tactics to acclimate them back together but nothing has worked) I basically just want to know if it’s okay if she has her own room is it psychologically damaging? It is not a large room, but it’s bigger than a standard dorm room, it has windows, a 6 foot cat tree, two litter boxes, and a fountain, literally 100s of toys (i buy the multipacks and let her go crazy lol), but everytime someone asks me about my cats they make me feel like i’m a horrendous cat mom for having her be by herself, but i just don’t know what to do and i she seems happier this way besides getting a little lonely if I am in the kitchen or something longer during the day than normal. Has anyone else experienced this?

editing to add: I also have a cat stroller I take her out in sometimes, I didn’t as much during the summer because it was hot as hell, but now that’s it’s cooling down again I plan on taking her out on walks a few times a month.

I am just posting this to rant because it’s frustrating, but I reached out to a venue to see if they accepted lgbtq couples and they do not. I don’t want to share the details as it’s in a super small town near me which would be a giveaway lol, but it just sucks and I want to vent just to get it off my chest. I am however thrilled because I found a venue that is perfect and very accepting so as much as this stings the grass is greener.

I am mainly just posting this rant and see if others have had similar experiences. Basically I have “unique” hair I guess it’s ginger with blonde front pierced and blonde on the bottom and i’ve had this for years and love it and don’t plan on changing it, but I have this coworker who drives me crazy because she is too comfortable commenting on my appearance lol but she asked me yesterday if i’m dyeing my hair for the wedding and seemed genuinely shocked when i said no. Has anyone else with “unique” hair gotten severely judged by others for it when wedding planning? (she isn’t the only one that has said anything, but she was the most offended looking lol)

editing to add: She is also getting married soon and made it a point to say her sister told her she should dye her hair back to normal or else she would regret it and i would probably feel the same… (mind u she legit just has a balayage like why would she regret that??)

Does anyone else struggle with your cats kicking litter outside of the litter box and then using the litter that’s on the floor to poop or on the litter mat? My I have 3 automatic litter boxes and they work great but my cats always kick litter everywhere and sometimes it sits in little piles right outside and they will use that as an extension of the litter box. i’m kinda losing my mind about it lol does anyone else have any experience or suggestions on how to deal with it?

Just coming to say that I have gotten into ethel within the past two weeks or so after being a passive listener (knew 1 or 2 songs, and knew audio clips on tik tok) and my entire life feels like it’s been changed she really knows how to hit your trauma perfectly and the perspective is insane. I am actually planning on getting an ethel tattoo for sun bleached flies because I feel like it taught me to let go of some of the things i’ve been holding onto for way too long as someone who came from a very religious background with an abusive mom and a being gay I felt like i’ve never been so seen in anyone’s music before. I have deep dived into the lore and it feels like a storybook being played in my ears I truly feel like lighter but also heavier because of finding her music I am just in awe.

I swear for the life of me I can’t remember any tunes or anything like super solid in terms of lyrics, but it essentially says she will show him her secret if he can keep it (alluding to sex) it was a duet and it was in the early 2000s to possibly early 2010s it was a male and female artist and it was either pop or r&b, I do remember it playing on the radio quite frequently so I think it was fairly popular if anyone can think of anything