u/sydneyaustralia74

i’ve been through my hometowns hinge so much & i FINALLY found a guy i find attractive that matched w m. we’ve been doing some fun banter and then i havent heard a response in like 4 hours. idk guys ik its not a big deal but i dont want to play games at the same time. i just feel like no response = not interested, but also it’s not that deep.

hi, i’m a 22f who just graduated in May, with my bachelors in criminal justice, with minors in sociology and comm. i just started a job as a court clerk a month ago, and ik the FBI requires at least 3 years of job experience if you don’t have a masters in anything. I consider myself to be a leader, as I was in many leadership roles in college and presidents of many clubs, which I know the FBI likes! my dream is to be a special agent, and I took a tour with their college program in April!

i want to learn a new language, maybe russian, as well as get another job in about a year to build my resume (i feel like court clerk is not good enough for the FBI). the problem is, I don’t want to be a law enforcement officer, and I’m just not sure what job to apply for next to improve my chances.

I’d really like to be a detective or investigator if the FBI doesn’t work out, but once again, so many agencies require you to be an officer. I would love some help!

lol so i was STARVING after a roadtrip and wanted something fast. so i ate trail mix, and i honestly probably had 1.5 cups of it before i could even think. that’s like 1,000 calories in ONE SITTING!!!! that’s actually crazy, therefore im freaking out lolll!

so i put in half the calories today & half the calories for tomorrow (ill eat like 500 less tomorrow)… does that sound like a good plan lol???

i’m also getting my steps in now bc ive been in the car all day. i also haven’t had dinner but i think the trail mix did it for me!

beware, trail mix calories load up FAST!!!

really struggling because i’m doing something really fun tomorrow that should be a dream come true. tonight i just felt like something is gonna go really wrong tomorrow and i cant figure it out. it’s an awful feeling i can’t shake and im so nervous.

i have emeteophobia as well as OCD, so ive tried to trace back to what it could be. i did have a random thought at the gym today that was like “nothings ever gone wrong on one of these trips, so it’s just gotta happen tomorrow.” ive been thinking abt lowkey ever since. also, yesterday, i did have a couple of triggering things happen to me (there was random poop smeared in a bathroom and stuff like that makes my contamination ocd SO bad lol) & exposed myself a lot to triggers today (shopping, trying on clothes, eating with my hands after) bc i like to do something that scares me every day!

anyways, if you have any thoughts on this, please let me know. i haven’t been this anxious in genuinely years, so of course i believe something will happen.

I started my job 4 weeks ago today. i get
paid 1,089 every 2 weeks. low i know but i just graduated from college. now i work for the government, so i get those benefits. i’m starting off with $2,000 credit card debt. dw i have a good credit score tho! i just gained that debt my last year of college bc my parents didn’t offer to pay for my stuff anymore.

anyways, i live at home now, and im wondering how much to save, spend, and pay off credit card debt. i also love to travel and think ill be able to living at home, but i really also want to save for an apartment and move out of state. therefore, im willing to travel less of course! i get housing for free, as well as most food bc of my parents. it’s a blessing to be able to have this and save my money!

advice would be greatly appreciated. i don’t plan on staying at this job much longer than a year bc the benefits dont outweigh the risks. thank you !!

so my sister is overweight. she’s the kindest and best person i know, but every year, she’s gained more and more weight to an unhealthy point. we travel a lot, and the last time we were on a plane she had to get a seatbelt extender. i was so upset for her but i was so chill abt it.

i’ve been wanting to talk to her abt losing weight for so long and ive tried to soft launch the idea. i’m on a wl journey myself so i said you should do this with me! and go to the gym with me. or even step workouts at home. i send her gym tiktoks and calorie tiktoks, but i don’t think she cares.

my dad has talked to her abt her health and she just cried and said he was being mean. she genuinely doesn’t believe it’s a problem. and i’m like if you just ate better, your whole life would change. i haven’t old her this but what do i need to do? have a sit down convo, text, what?!

she sleeps as soon as she gets home from work and shops in the plus size section like it’s no big deal. i’m sorry im not trying to be fatphobic but im so concerned about her health. i wish she was too.

pls help 🥹

i feel SO crazy writing this. i’m a 22f & suddenly, i cannot stop thinking about this guy i liked in middle school. a year after i liked him (confirmed he liked me back later lmaooo), i left schools & our friendship, like most middle school ones do, dwindled. this was literally 10 years ago at this point😭 i would LOVE to believe in fate or something, but is there a logical reason my brain is nonstop thinking about him right now? it’s genuinely been about 2 weeks, and i’m not sure what “triggered” it.

a little context, we have so many coincidences and have randomly run into each other every year since i left that school. he has a gf now so of course im not gonna do anything about this or ever reach out,but im just like what is going on? i feel so weird bc i suddenly cant stop thinking abt how connected we were and how special our friendship was (to me at least). it’s very weird and sudden since i haven’t thought about him in so long!

i barely thought about him in high school and almost completely forgot about him in college. i’ve had so many guys come in and out of my life too, whether it’s friendships, boyfriends, dates, and countless “talking stages” (ugh ikr).
but something about him i can’t stop thinking abt. help!

for context, i actually love to travel and am on a plane somewhere about every 3 months. hear me out tho, i’ve never wanted to go somewhere exotic and i don’t know why. id love to be the girl who goes to crazy places and has wild experiences, but i really have no desire to & i wish i did. i feel like every girl dreams of going to europe (not exotic at all lol), but like i don’t care to do that😭 maybe its bc everyone is doing it and it doesn’t feel special but idk, what is wrong with me?!

the craziest thing id like to do is go to australia, japan, or like russia or something lol. anyone else feel this way?! maybe im just too comfortable with US travel.

hey, i’ve been tracking calories for 3 weeks (yay!!) i’m on the fourth week now which is crazy bc ive been consistent with every calorie, even if i go over! very proud of myself bc im in recovery and feeling healthy even if i do go over a little:)

but yk how the lose it app will tell you how many calories you’re over for the week? well im day 3 and im already over 284… ik it may not sound like a lot but i dont want bad habits or the advice “one day wont mess you up” yk lol!

would it be a bad idea to eat just a little less calories throughout the week? or to walk a little more?
i know we don’t have to earn our calories, but i can’t help but feel like i won’t make progress!

thanks guys!

i’ve been so nauseous bc of my period and i genuinely thought i might puke this morning. i was having unsual pain, but i still ate and kept on with my morning! and yk what? i didn’t worry at all and thought if i throw up ill feel better. now i feel much better, but im incredibly proud of myself! i knew the feeling would pass & it did!

so I’m going to a place for lunch that has korean (chicken japchae, bulgogi rice bowls, and kimbap), mexican (burritos, quesadillas, street tacos), & mediterranean food (lamb gyros, chicken gyros, hummus plates)
what would be lowest calorie option? or highest protein? i’ve gotten the japchae before and had about half, and i think that could be a good option?! i always love more low calorie, yet filling food advice! thank you :-)

hey so i’ve had gerd for a while but haven’t had pains like this in particular. one thing i did change today tho is ive had like 3 cans of diet coke. idk if anyone else feels that it triggers their stomach or what! anyways i was eating dinner and felt deep stomach cramps in the middle of my stomach. not too painful but still cramps. i immediate went to the bathroom and had soft stools. then i felt bloated but fine. then a couple hours later i had a yasseo bar for dessert and started feeling stomach pains again. i took my famotodine(which i only take if needed now thank God) and am now just waiting it out. when i sit up i burp intensely. but i’ve sat up for a while and feel better after sipping water. and i have some chest pain. i just am always scared it’s a bug.

hey so i’ve had gerd for a while but haven’t had pains like this in particular. one thing i did change today tho is ive had like 3 cans of diet coke. idk if anyone else feels that it triggers their stomach or what! anyways i was eating dinner and felt deep stomach cramps in the middle of my stomach. not too painful but still cramps. i immediate went to the bathroom and had soft stools. then i felt bloated but fine. then a couple hours later i had a yasseo bar for dessert and started feeling stomach pains again. i took my famotodine(which i only take if needed now thank God) and am now just waiting it out. when i sit up i burp intensely. but i’ve sat up for a while and feel better after sipping water. and i have some chest pain. i just am always scared it’s a bug.

so abt an 45 minutes ago i had a little bit of dinner but i thought it was so gross bc i hate that meal. i barely touched it but i was starving so i had some. my dad ate it too and feels just fine. but lowkey ever since then ive felt just gross and lost my appetite completely. anyways, now i can’t tell if its just acid reflux, but my throat feels tight and sipping water makes under my throat feels just weird and gross. helpppp im scared. i can’t tell if i actually feel gaggy or im just making it up lol. now my stomach is burning like it does when im hungry? idk