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[MN] Need Advice for Child Support Issue, ProSe

My case has been ongoing for 3 years. We are now going to trial, but the only issue left to be decided is child support.

Based on our salaried income and number of overnights the calculation says I should be paying her nearly $700 a month for child support. What hasn't been taken into consideration is that the respondent owns 11 multi-tenant rental properties.

The respondent has been able to essentially zero out her taxable income by inflating her expenses associated with the properties.

I am going pro se. This case has forced me into bankruptcy and my former lawyers have dropped me as a client due to unpaid bills.

My question is this: What are some ways I can prove that her rentals are a source of income? I have been advised to cross examine her about each property and every expense she has listed. Can this make a difference?

Are properties taken into account by the court for child support calculations? She has made it look like there is zero income being generated. How do I show the court that these properties are appreciating and that her expenses are BS? Is this a lost cause and I should just accept her accounting? Since I no longer have a lawyer supporting me, I am a bit lost as to how to approach these properties in front of a judge.

The respondent recently sold her stake in a large multifamily apartment complex. Should this income be included in the calculation? It isn't regular income, just a large lump sum. I don't want to waste the time of the judge and the court by digging into her finances that won't result in any change to my predicament.

Has anyone been in this situation before? Has anyone been able to prove that property ownership should be included in child support calculations?

Thank you,

Thanks,

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u/tchotchke_editor87 — 19 hours ago

Auction Picked Rick Bartow Mixed Media Going to Auction

Purchased for $seventy dollars a couple weeks ago. I just dropped it off at a local Fine Art auction house. Reserve: fifteen hundred, Est: three to six (k). Not sure how they missed this one. The guy checking me out after the auction was like, "uhhhWTF?!" As he read the items on my invoice. Goes an sale on September 5th. The house was VERY interested when I sent them photos. Their drop-dead date for consignments had already passed but they want to include this piece. I also loved it. I had it for over a month and found myself staring at it all the time. Blessed to have it blessing my walls for a short while.

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 22 days ago

Signed "Kurt Seligmann"

Purchased from an estate sale that had other fine art paintings and prints. So, for $22 I thought I'd give it a go. I was excited to find the canvas and frame seemed the right age, but this is just too wacky and a bit crude? Lots of textures and the artist took some pointed object and made squiggles in the wet paint. I really have been falling for it and it does fit with my collections. Thanks,

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 1 month ago
▲ 3 r/SignatureRequests+1 crossposts

Signature Validity for Surrealist and Occultist, Kurt Seligmann

Meeting with the seller and taking a closer look this really looks legit. But it's almost a cruder, less defined version. The frame and strwtched canvas imply age but I'm not an expert, obviously. Thanks,

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 1 month ago
▲ 54 r/Rockhounding+1 crossposts

Eatin' Up Slabs

45 pounds of Agate and Jasper personally harvested from the finest constructions sites and landscaping MN has to offer. This was the end of a 3 day pre polish with 500 grit Silicon.

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 1 month ago
▲ 52 r/Agates+1 crossposts

Mary Ellen Jasper Slab in Pre-Polish

Inch thick Mary Ellen Jasper from the Iron Range in NE Minnesota. I've had this loaf for over a year now and finally got it on a proper 14" saw. Cabs? Bookends? What should I do with them?

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 1 month ago
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Translation Help Needed - Urdu Inscription from Jaipur

Hi, I am thankful for this community! Can someone tell me what is enscribed on the back of this document? The front has a hand painted image of elephants "fighting"?? And a Jaipur government stamp? Thank you!

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 2 months ago

Origina Ink on Paper Chinese Hunting Scene w/ Provenance From"Eddy Chang's Co Inc, Korea" Retail Sticker on Reverse

Purchased yesterday at an estate sale in Buffalo, MN. The retail sticker on the back says it's from "Eddy Chang's Co Inc Picture Framing, Korea". On further research Eddy is apparently a well known art and antiquities dealer from South Korea. At one point he was arrested for the illegal sale of Korean Antiquities. The painting is in ink with color washes and even small remnants of gilding on the horse's poms and on the cuffs of the hunters. The paper is attached to a second layer of paper/silk perhaps and that layer is matted to a pine board. From my inspection it seems the damage was already present before being mounted. The characters outstretched hands are ready to catch a falling bird pierced with a red arrow falling from the sky located center top of painting. Possibly Qing Dynasty. If anyone knows more, please let me know! Thanks,

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 3 months ago
▲ 35 r/Agates

Monday Night Chapel LSA

My favorite spot. No matter how many times I go, I always find a new place to explore. It was obvious this low ground had never really been gone over by anyone much less myself because baby aggies were everywhere.

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 3 months ago
▲ 58 r/Agates

[MN] Find Lakers Along the IA/MN Border With My Best Bud, Penny

This was the only Agate we found and all day. Penny did find a deer shed, which she is becoming very good at. Fund day in the sun anyway. Thanks,

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 3 months ago
▲ 52 r/Agates

[MN] Complete Laker w/ Amethyst Core on After Work Walk-About

Found this little guy on top of a large pile of discarded rocks mud and trees. Love to find them when they're still whole. With a tiny little peek of purple showing off. Found at a construction site just east of downtown St Paul Minnesota

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 3 months ago
▲ 20 r/wine

True to form, tablespoons are all that's necessary. So deep. molasses, toasted vanilla, Hard candy, cane juice. Clean palate. Zero cloy. I will share it over the week. After I have a thorough inspection. Sláinte

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 4 months ago

Steel toe. Stamp says "9 EE 09514". I can't find anything about that style. Everything seems to start with 8 or 4? I live about 30 minutes from Redwing MN so I could just pop buy lol. They are so comfortable and I love them. Thanks!

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 4 months ago

3 years on and I've finally run out of money. My lawyers are calling in my debt. They are going to withdraw from my case one week before my pretrial hearing. I don't blame them. They have a business to run and they deserve to be paid.

My ex has been trying for 3 years to take my child to Washington State. I live in Minnesota. Kid was born and raised here until mom up and left out of the blue while I was gone on a trip for work. I got the court to issue a ex parte order to force her to return to Minnesota after she refused to return and refused to be served in Washington. Ever since then it's been one defeat after another for her. Her psych eval said she was lying. Our custody evaluator said in her final report that if she wanted to stay in Washington I should be awarded primary custody and that she should only get one week a month. Mom has been flying child back and forth between Minnesota and Washington every week for the past 3 years much to the detriment of the little one. No one can seem to stop her or get it through her head that it is hurting our kid.

Now we finally have our pre trial and mediation in front of the judge. But with everything that has happened mom still refuses to give up.

Problem is she's loaded.

I'm not poor by any means. I've had the same job for 7 years and make over six figures. But I have finally found the bottom. I have emptied my 401k. Took out a second mortgage. And I have over 40K in credit card debt all for the lawyers and evaluators and mediators and the court. I was finally forced to sell my house. But it's taking longer than I had hoped and it won't be finalized before my lawyer withdraws.

Even with the home sale I would break even without being able to pay any of my credit card bills.

So what do I do? I feel like giving up. But then I think about my kid and her growing up without me or at least in a much reduced capacity and I can't bear it.

At this point I plan on going pro se because I have no other choices. Luckily the majority of the complicated stuff is out of the way, and she has already dug her hole for herself. But I find it so overwhelming to think about having to go it alone. And what if I f*** it up. Then I lose the kid and I'm out everything literally everything. I have to stop because I have to go to work and I don't want people to see that I've been crying in my car.

Anyone go pro se and succeed? I just don't have the organizational skills or the discipline too learn everything that I need to know before I go to court.

I'm not a religious man necessarily but pray for me,

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u/tchotchke_editor87 — 4 months ago

I keep thinking about how if this was a character on OeeWee's Playhouse, it would be the Swol Coffee Table that keeps trying to fight everyone at the bar.

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 4 months ago

Hey y'all. A friend of my father's received these items in a shadow box as payment for whatever it is he does. This gentleman asked my father to possibly sell them in his consignment shop that my mother and father run. The guy told my dad that he thought if they were made by a modern knapper. I told him that I thought the obsidian ones were modern but I wasn't sure about the mat black ones. They appear to have been made very long ago and have very soft edges and a sort of patina. We don't want to mislead anyone at the shop obviously, so I said I would post them here to see what y'all think. I appreciate the help. Thanks.

u/tchotchke_editor87 — 4 months ago