u/this_be_calista

okay hi, first time posting here!! I am 15, AFAB, have always been a cishet girl and ally of the lgbtqia+ community. lately I’ve been confused about my gender identity and i also started feeling a little dysphoric about my feminine curves and figure; it’s making me a little bit anxious because i don’t know if a different gender identity will make me feel more at home. i want to list out some things about me that bothered me relating to my gender, because maybe it’s easier to read than one really big paragraph :)

— I don’t care about pronouns (she/her, he/him, they/them) and they don’t matter to me. I personally just wouldn’t want neo and xeno pronouns to be used for me but that could just be because I haven’t researched it. If I were to pick a favourite pronoun it would be they/them

— I used to dress feminine as a kid (skirts and dresses were an actual fave) but when I became a teen (maybe around 12-13) I started dressing more androgynous/masculine. I can’t tell for certain if it’s because of body dysmorphia and insecurity, or if it’s because of gender dysphoria and feeling uncomfortable with my feminine body type. I think even if I were to get my “ideal” body type I’d still dress masc

— I really wanted to look androgynous for a long time or even just look like a boy, but because I also don’t hate being a girl and would love to switch between the two it has led me to the genderfluid community. To put it simply, I love being a girl and I know I would love being a boy; I wouldn’t want to be no gender so probably not nonbinary (open to suggestions though!).

— I think my feminine curves would be helpful for me on some days but on the other days it would be horrid! So I’ve been trying to buy a binder without the knowledge of my homophobic parents. (I live in Southeast Asia if you guys can give advice on buying a binder!)

thank you so so so much for reading this and thank you extra if you leave a response, please help!!!💗💗😖😭 (also really love the genderfluid baddies on here YALL ARE ACTUALLY SO COOL THOUGH ???!!!!)

it’s like I can only ever actually see the size of my stomach if i breathe out on purpose and adjust my posture or something because otherwise my breathing has already been adjusted to make my stomach smaller without noticeable discomfort 💀 DOES ANY OF THIS MAKE SENSE ????

i’ve always really admired alternative people and thought they were really cool and that their outfits really spoke about who they were; i would love to start doing that for myself but im not quite sure where to start!!

for starters im still a teenager so costs and potential dress coding from religious/strict parents are definitely still in play. my ideal style would be a mix of grunge and punk, because i love the casualness and comfort in grunge, but love the layering/accessorising and colour palette in punk. i’ve been experimenting with DIY (specifically accessories because im scared to do clothes so far) and looking for more old clothes to upcycle; im not good with it but im learning. im also making plans to visit thrift stores in my city with my friends since my parents don’t allow thrifting.

what am i doing right/wrong as of now? and what would you suggest i can also do alongside these, given my situation? :(( general tips and knowledge for alt babies would be super helpful too!! thank you!! 💗💗

TL;DR :
Teenager with strict and religious parents that don’t allow thrifting though im still trying to go to thrift stores with friends. Experimenting with diy. Would like to dress more grunge-punk. Upcyling tips, general tips for alt babies please 💗💗✨

hello everyone, im a beginner drummer at the moment and i really like it, I would love to continue learning for a long time. I’ve been learning for about 4 months, currently learning my first song on grade 3, and ive been noticing something about me that i feel could be slowing my progress

I can’t seem to play according to beat, but only by ear 😭😭 and when I say that I mean I can’t play a song that I’ve already learned the grooves and fills for just by listening to the BPM and following along, I can only play it after I listen to the song several times and become familiar with how it sounds :(((

any tips on how I can get used to playing with BPM instead of with familiarity? also anyone else has this problem? 💀💔

haiii everyone, im straight and cisgender 15F (but very much queer ally) and im from Asia!! i dont mind friends from halfway across the world, js know our timezones might be different!! i dont mind the gender either but please be 15-17, im not talking to anyone over 18 😖😖 im also open minded so if ur furry/puppy/scenecore its all cool with me!

little bit about myself!! :
hobbies: drawing, reading/writing, i play a bit of drums too 💗 and im trying to get into fashion but im such a newbie LOL

fandoms: alien stage/zombie stage, link click, ominiscent reader’s viewpoint, MDZS/TGCF, arcane, spider-verse (the animated movies)

games: honestly not much😭i play Roblox from time to time but not often, interested in playing HSR tho

i have disc and insta and im willing to share after talking for a bit, but please don’t be dry/don’t js disappear outta nowhere or something 💀 introduce yourself in the comments or DM me an introduction!! if you js say “Hi” in my DMs im ignoring your requests for safety reason :)) OKAY THANKIE BAIII

I think a big thing about me is that growing up, I learned that any emotion which wasn’t happy is not okay, so now i mask my emotions to an insane extent and the way I am around my parents vs the way I am with other people are two completely different people

hello, im 15F living in KL, wanna know if you guys have any idea on where to go to socialise and make friends? im interested in art, music and novels, so an art or book club would be great for me, but i can’t really find anything especially suited for teens 😖💔

any suggestions? 🥹

a lot of the time when i’m alone i’ll always be talking to myself, like having full on conversations with context and developed situations with imaginary people that have names and different personalities

am i crazy HAHAAHHA ??!?!!?!!!
im losing it

im truly very sorry if this is a very stupid/uncomfortable questions😔

they saw my scars and they’re fresh ones from yesterday too
i tried to argue and say it was me scratching myself too hard because i felt itchy but I know they’re suspicious because my sister used to sh
guys im scared
what do i do

im always cutting myself for the sake of making sure I don’t cry in front of my family members, and ofc I had to be tackled by a panic attack TODAY WHEN I DID NOT BRING MY KNIFE WITH ME FAAAAHHHHH

ITS NOT FAAAIIIRRR :(((
i was crying so badly in the public restroom but I couldn’t do anything about it because my knife was at home AAAAAHH
hic hic I could feel everyone’s eyes looking at me it was so embarrassing 😔

hello, I first want to apologise in case im posting this to the wrong subreddit. idk where else to ask this question, please bear with me 😔

I’ve been drawing for two years, and I’ve been doing digital art for maybe 1 and a half years. i keep comparing myself to other artists and feeling like im stuck, like they’re at a level that i’ll never be able to reach no matter how hard and how long i work. i always did art studies pretty consistently, though i’ve been doing more intensive studies this year, and while i definitely have improved significantly, nothing stops the thoughts of “there’s still so much farther to go” “my drawings still look so bad” “what is it going to take to get to their level”

i know art takes a long time to learn and i know im really impatient, but its becoming difficult to say that im an artist when it feels like everyone around me is better :(((

any advice on how you guys usually cope with it?