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Hey peeps,

So I am 22 (graduated last year from a T1 engineering college and have 1 yr. experience), and like many others, I am also working as a front-end SDE in a remote startup. My pay is good (~2LPM fixed) thanks to the T1 tag, but I have literally no interest in development. I literally get so tired after reading code and question my life choices. The only reason I survive is because I am hardworking (I literally spend 10-12 hrs every day and weekend working) and have a great manager and Claude.

But I don't feel it's worth it. Like, if I don't like something inherently, then I can't become great at it, right? It will stay as a burden and keep me scared and I will always feel like an imposter.
Moreover, SW Development in itself is going a bit of downhill, and I only do front-end react work.

I am good with numbers/algebra and communication, so i was thinking of going for an MBA from top Indian B-schools, but even that doesn't make sense ROI-wise. For an MBA abroad, the risk and investment seem too high, and I am kind of naive in my knowledge about abroad MBAs. I thought of transferring to product roles, but in my startups, the role hierarchy is pretty strict, and I don't feel they will appreciate my request for an internal transfer.

I have been thinking a lot about this, and it's impacting my mental health at this point, like the more I stay here, the more I go away from the work that I will actually like. Please help me out. I am pretty sure some of you have been in this situation before.

Hey folks,

I am thinking of enrolling myself in the Saarthi UPSC GS Foundation 2028 BATCH. To be honest, I am not a serious candidate. I just wish to gauge the waters without wasting much of my time (in trying to figure out free resources) and money (because 20k already is a big investment as far as I'm concerned).

I was talking to a Saarthi salesperson regarding the same, and to be honest, I was almost on the verge of paying, but then I realised that the course appears to have very little structure, plus there's no doubt solving faculty and negative online reviews, so I pulled back.

I checked a few posts on Reddit, but most of them are like >1 yr, so I wanted a review from a current student.

Also, just FYI, are there any other online courses within 25k INR for the foundation?

Pretty much the title

So basically i wish to read a version which has no superficial elements/ pseudo science like god came as avatar or weapon which can destroy the whole world or virginity regain but rather possible human scenarios and with a interpretations of metaphors like Shantanu marrying Ganga river

Hey folks,

I have been thinking about this for a long time and noticed that for most people the decision of going CF is based on one of two goals -

1. Financial/ DINK Goals
2. Post pregnancy complications

Again I might be very wrong so feel free to correct me.

But for me, none of these things/factors matter. I understand that, I need to take my partner's opinion into consideration but yeah. I love kids, tbh in an ideal world I would have loved to have them and give them all the love I can 🥹

But I didn't have a stable household while growing up (yeah, toxic Indian family) so I feel that I will repeat the cycle with my kids and that scares me to DEATH. Is this a valid reason to go CF? Will I be respected if I share this reason?

Edit - title should have been to *curb* generational

Hey folks,

I have been following this group for a long time and noticed that for most people the decision of going CF is based on two things -

1. Financial/ DINK Goals

2. Post pregnancy complications

Again I might be very wrong so feel free to correct me.

But for me, none of these things/factors matter. I understand that, I need to take my partner's opinion into consideration but yeah.

I love kids, tbh in an ideal world I would have loved to have them and give them all the love I can 🥹 but I didn't have a stable household while growing up (yeah, toxic indian family) so I feel that I will repeat the cycle with my kids and that scares me to DEATH. Is this a valid reason to go CF?

I graduated last year from a top college in India (IIT/BITS types) in CSE and got a pretty good campus placement offer. Current compensation is around 25-30 LPA, so objectively things are going fine, and I know a lot of people would love to be in this position.

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Work ex - Big Tech + Intern at Buldge bracket (JPMC/GS type)
Two PoRs (business domain), Two Research Papers

But the problem is I don’t really enjoy the work and I got admit from IIM C But it's not like that i like MBA

For tech, I can do it; I’m surviving, but I don’t feel interested in coding the way many people around me are. My friends can spend hours talking about tech stacks, systems, side projects, Leetcode, switching companies, etc. I mostly do the work because I have to.

And honestly it gets mentally exhausting after a point.

Now the confusing part is that I also have an admit from one of the top B-schools in the country. So I keep wondering whether I should continue in tech for a few more years or just move now.

At the same time, an MBA also feels scary because it feels like entering another race altogether. School -> entrance exams -> college -> placements -> now again internships, placements, promotions, and packages. Sometimes I genuinely wonder if life just becomes one long optimization problem after a point.

The only thing stopping me from leaving tech completely is that it does provide a pretty comfortable life early on. Pay is good, WLB is relatively decent compared to many industries, and there’s flexibility too. But then there are also layoffs, constant pressure to keep up, and I genuinely cannot picture myself being deeply interested in coding 15-20 years from now.

It’s only been around 10-11 months since I started working, so maybe I’m overthinking too early. That’s why I wanted opinions from people who’ve experienced this phase before.

Did any of you also feel disconnected from tech initially and later settle into it? Or is this usually a sign that you’re probably in the wrong field and shall I go for MBA?

Hey gang,

I am a remote worker looking for homestay to work and explore manali/ nearby areas.

Can anyone please help me with

1. Stay suggestions in Manali or some other area?

2. I am really worried about rain/ landslides in the area/ HP. Is my fear genuine?

I’m an Indian guy working a fully remote software job, and honestly I just want to get out of my hometown for a while.

I come from a tier-3 town; there’s not much happening here, and home conditions also aren’t great right now. Since my work is remote, I’ve been thinking of moving around India slowly while continuing to work.

This is something I’ve wanted to do since childhood, honestly (tbh, I have never stepped outside my home town 😞) - experience different parts of India properly instead of just quick trips. Things like Pushkar Fair, Rann Utsav, festivals in the Northeast, mountain towns, small coastal places, local cultures etc.

I’m planning to start around mid-June, but I’m confused where to begin.

Currently considering places like:

• Bir
• Manali
• Dharamkot
• Sikkim
• Uttarakhand
• maybe South India or Northeast India too

One thing I’m worried about is the monsoon. Are Himachal/Uttarakhand actually practical for remote work during July-August? Or do landslides/power cuts/internet issues become a real problem?

Would really appreciate suggestions from people who’ve done remote work + slow travel in India:

• good places to start from in mid-June
• underrated places with decent internet + peaceful vibe
• whether moving month-by-month is practical
• places that fit roughly within a 30k/month budget, including stay + food + basics

Would genuinely appreciate any advice 😄

I’m an Indian guy working a fully remote software job, and honestly I just want to get out of my hometown for a while.

I come from a tier-3 town; there’s not much happening here, and home conditions also aren’t great right now. Since my work is remote, I’ve been thinking of moving around India slowly while continuing to work.

This is something I’ve wanted to do since childhood, honestly (tbh, I have never stepped outside my home town 😞) - experience different parts of India properly instead of just quick trips. Things like Pushkar Fair, Rann Utsav, festivals in the Northeast, mountain towns, small coastal places, local cultures etc.

I’m planning to start around mid-June, but I’m confused where to begin.

Currently considering places like:

• Bir
• Manali
• Dharamkot
• Sikkim
• Uttarakhand
• maybe South India or Northeast India too

One thing I’m worried about is the monsoon. Are Himachal/Uttarakhand actually practical for remote work during July-August? Or do landslides/power cuts/internet issues become a real problem?

Would really appreciate suggestions from people who’ve done remote work + slow travel in India:

• good places to start from in mid-June
• underrated places with decent internet + peaceful vibe
• whether moving month-by-month is practical
• places that fit roughly within a 30k/month budget, including stay + food + basics

Would genuinely appreciate any advice 😄

I’m an Indian guy working a fully remote software job, and honestly I just want to get out of my hometown for a while.

I come from a tier-3 town; there’s not much happening here, and home conditions also aren’t great right now. Since my work is remote, I’ve been thinking of moving around India slowly while continuing to work.

This is something I’ve wanted to do since childhood, honestly (tbh, I have never stepped outside my home town 😞) - experience different parts of India properly instead of just quick trips. Things like Pushkar Fair, Rann Utsav, festivals in the Northeast, mountain towns, small coastal places, local cultures etc.

I’m planning to start around mid-June, but I’m confused where to begin.

Currently considering places like:

• Bir
• Manali
• Dharamkot
• Sikkim
• Uttarakhand
• maybe South India or Northeast India too

One thing I’m worried about is the monsoon. Are Himachal/Uttarakhand actually practical for remote work during July-August? Or do landslides/power cuts/internet issues become a real problem?

Would really appreciate suggestions from people who’ve done remote work + slow travel in India:

• good places to start from in mid-June
• underrated places with decent internet + peaceful vibe
• whether moving month-by-month is practical
• places that fit roughly within a 30k/month budget, including stay + food + basics

Would genuinely appreciate any advice 😄

I’m an Indian guy working a fully remote software job, and honestly I just want to get out of my hometown for a while.

I come from a tier-3 town; there’s not much happening here, and home conditions also aren’t great right now. Since my work is remote, I’ve been thinking of moving around India slowly while continuing to work.

This is something I’ve wanted to do since childhood, honestly (tbh, I have never stepped outside my home town 😞) - experience different parts of India properly instead of just quick trips. Things like Pushkar Fair, Rann Utsav, festivals in the Northeast, mountain towns, small coastal places, local cultures etc.

I’m planning to start around mid-June, but I’m confused where to begin.

Currently considering places like:

• Bir
• Manali
• Dharamkot
• Sikkim
• Uttarakhand
• maybe South India or Northeast India too

One thing I’m worried about is the monsoon. Are Himachal/Uttarakhand actually practical for remote work during July-August? Or do landslides/power cuts/internet issues become a real problem?

Would really appreciate suggestions from people who’ve done remote work + slow travel in India:

• good places to start from in mid-June
• underrated places with decent internet + peaceful vibe
• whether moving month-by-month is practical
• places that fit roughly within a 30k/month budget, including stay + food + basics

Would genuinely appreciate any advice 😄

I’m an Indian guy working a fully remote software job, and honestly I just want to get out of my hometown for a while.

I come from a tier-3 town; there’s not much happening here, and home conditions also aren’t great right now. Since my work is remote, I’ve been thinking of moving around India slowly while continuing to work.

This is something I’ve wanted to do since childhood, honestly (tbh, I have never stepped outside my home town 😞) - experience different parts of India properly instead of just quick trips. Things like Pushkar Fair, Rann Utsav, festivals in the Northeast, mountain towns, small coastal places, local cultures etc.

I’m planning to start around mid-June, but I’m confused where to begin.

Currently considering places like:

• Bir
• Manali
• Dharamkot
• Sikkim
• Uttarakhand
• maybe South India or Northeast India too

One thing I’m worried about is the monsoon. Are Himachal/Uttarakhand actually practical for remote work during July-August? Or do landslides/power cuts/internet issues become a real problem?

Would really appreciate suggestions from people who’ve done remote work + slow travel in India:

• good places to start from in mid-June
• underrated places with decent internet + peaceful vibe
• whether moving month-by-month is practical
• places that fit roughly within a 30k/month budget, including stay + food + basics

Would genuinely appreciate any advice 😄

Need some genuine advice from people a little ahead in life/career.

I graduated last year from a top college in India (IIT/BITS types) and got a pretty good campus placement offer. Current compensation is around 25-30 LPA, so objectively things are going fine, and I know a lot of people would love to be in this position.

But the problem is I don’t really enjoy the work.

I can do it; I’m surviving, but I don’t feel interested in coding the way many people around me are. My friends can spend hours talking about tech stacks, systems, side projects, Leetcode, switching companies, etc. I mostly do the work because I have to.

And honestly it gets mentally exhausting after a point.

Now the confusing part is that I also have an admit from one of the top B-schools in the country. So I keep wondering whether I should continue in tech for a few more years or just move now.

At the same time, an MBA also feels scary because it feels like entering another race altogether. School -> entrance exams -> college -> placements -> now again internships, placements, promotions, and packages. Sometimes I genuinely wonder if life just becomes one long optimization problem after a point.

The only thing stopping me from leaving tech completely is that it does provide a pretty comfortable life early on. Pay is good, WLB is relatively decent compared to many industries, and there’s flexibility too. But then there are also layoffs and constant pressure to keep up, and I genuinely cannot picture myself being deeply interested in coding 15-20 years from now.

It’s only been around 10-11 months since I started working, so maybe I’m overthinking too early. That’s why I wanted opinions from people who’ve experienced this phase before.

Did any of you also feel disconnected from tech initially and later settle into it? Or is this usually a sign that you’re probably in the wrong field, and shall I go for an MBA?

Hello guys,

I am a 22 year old guy. I am sorted in some aspects, like I earn well for my age and am financially sorted, but I have not been happy for a few years. The reason is that I lack people skills, and more importantly, I can't make decisions. Like I am dependent on others to make/guide me to decisions; earlier this was true for small stuff like choosing what to eat or wear, but now it has started affecting me pretty badly. Like, I had to recently make a few career-related decisions (accepting an offer/ studying/ taking a break), and I had no idea. Everyone told me to follow my heart, but my heart says nothing at all. In the aforementioned scenario, I went with the flow and fucked a pretty good opportunity.

Earlier I equated not having needs to a virtue, but now I realise the side effects. I need a way out; otherwise, I will fuck up my life pretty badly, I feel. My friends already make fun of me for this and they feel I am a weird guy😞

TL;DR -
So I joined a startup around 2 weeks ago and honestly…AND I am considering resigning for higher studies offer. 😞

Good people, chill culture, everyone has been super patient during onboarding, seniors are helpful, founders seem nice, overall way better than some of the stories you hear online 😭

Which is exactly why I’m feeling terrible right now.

A few days after joining, I got an admit/offer for higher studies from a really good university.

The timing is just horrible.

I’ll probably have to leave within the next 2 weeks because I need to physically report there soon. So realistically I won’t be able to serve the full notice period. There is a buyout clause in the contract, but I’ve never dealt with something like this before and I’m honestly scared about how they’ll react.

What’s bothering me most is that these people genuinely trusted me. They spent time onboarding me, gave me access to things quickly, involved me in meetings/discussions etc. So now I feel like I’m screwing them over after barely joining.

And because it’s a startup, it feels even worse because every new hire probably matters more.

A few things I genuinely wanted advice on:

1. How bad does this actually look from the company side? Like if someone leaves literally within weeks of joining.
2. If there’s a buyout clause for notice period, can companies still create problems while relieving you? Like delays in FnF, experience letter, background verification issues later etc.
3. How do managers usually react in situations like this? Professional disappointment? Anger? Passive aggression? Or 😭
4. Is it better to be fully honest and directly say it’s for higher studies at a top university? Or keep things vague/professional?
5. What’s the best way to have this conversation without sounding ungrateful or dishonest?
6. Has anyone here left a startup very early for higher studies or another major opportunity? How did it go?

I know from their side this probably feels like wasted hiring effort/time, which is why I’m feeling pretty guilty about the whole thing.

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So I joined a startup around 2 weeks ago and honestly… it’s actually been great so far.

Good people, chill culture, everyone has been super patient during onboarding, seniors are helpful, founders seem nice, overall way better than some of the stories you hear online 😭

Which is exactly why I’m feeling terrible right now.

A few days after joining, I got an admit/offer for higher studies from a really good university.

The timing is just horrible.

I’ll probably have to leave within the next 2 weeks because I need to physically report there soon. So realistically I won’t be able to serve the full notice period. There is a buyout clause in the contract, but I’ve never dealt with something like this before and I’m honestly scared about how they’ll react.

What’s bothering me most is that these people genuinely trusted me. They spent time onboarding me, gave me access to things quickly, involved me in meetings/discussions etc. So now I feel like I’m screwing them over after barely joining.

And because it’s a startup, it feels even worse because every new hire probably matters more.

A few things I genuinely wanted advice on:

1. How bad does this actually look from the company side?

   Like if someone leaves literally within weeks of joining.

2. If there’s a buyout clause for notice period, can companies still create problems while relieving you?

   Like delays in FnF, experience letter, background verification issues later etc.

3. How do managers usually react in situations like this?

   Professional disappointment?

   Anger?

   Passive aggression?

   Or 😭

4. Is it better to be fully honest and directly say it’s for higher studies at a top university?

   Or keep things vague/professional?

5. What’s the best way to have this conversation without sounding ungrateful or dishonest?

6. Has anyone here left a startup very early for higher studies or another major opportunity?

   How did it go?

I know from their side this probably feels like wasted hiring effort/time, which is why I’m feeling pretty guilty about the whole thing.

So I currently have around 1 year of FTE working as an SDE, but I’ve been trying to move more towards ML/data science/applied scientist-kind of roles because that’s honestly what interests me more long term.

I do have some ML research projects/publications as well, but despite that I’m not getting too many opportunities for ML roles, so this opportunity matters quite a bit to me.

I never even applied for this exact role (Applied Scientist - Central Seller Fulfillment). I had applied for another Applied Scientist opening at Amazon, and the recruiter reached out, saying my profile might fit this team better.

Initially the recruiter sounded very interested. At one point she even mentioned possibly scheduling loop interviews directly without a phone screen, so naturally I got quite excited. But after that the communication suddenly became very inconsistent. Replies became delayed, sometimes no replies at all for long periods, and honestly I thought I had been ghosted or the role got frozen. 😭

Now finally my phone interview is scheduled for next week, so I wanted some honest insights from people who’ve interviewed/worked in similar roles/teams.

1. What is the phone interview usually like for Applied Scientist roles at Amazon?
   • ML theory?
   • coding/DSA?
   • statistics/probability/maths?
   • research discussion
   • LPs?
   • business/product case studies?
2. After clearing the phone screen, how long does it usually take for loop interviews to get scheduled?
   • Does Amazon move fast here or can it drag for weeks?
3. How bad is the WLB actually for Applied Scientist teams at Amazon India?
   • Is it heavily dependent on manager/team?
   • Any specific insights about Central Seller Fulfillment would help.
4. Is recruiter behaviour like this normal at Amazon?
   • Being extremely enthusiastic initially and then becoming almost non-responsive for weeks?
   • Does it usually indicate internal hiring uncertainty/headcount issues or am I just overthinking it?
5. Suppose the process stops midway or I get rejected after phone/loops — is there a cooldown period before interviewing again for Applied Scientist roles at Amazon India?
   • If yes, how strict is it usually?
6. Since I’m trying to transition from SDE -> ML side early in my career, what would you recommend focusing on most during prep?
7. And finally, if you were interviewing a candidate for this role, what would you personally try to evaluate?

Would genuinely appreciate honest insights, especially from people in Amazon science orgs or people who recently interviewed for similar roles.

So I currently have around 1 year of FTE working as an SDE, but I’ve been trying to move more towards ML/data science/applied scientist-kind of roles because that’s honestly what interests me more long term.

I do have some ML research projects/publications as well, but despite that I’m not getting too many opportunities for ML roles, so this opportunity matters quite a bit to me.

I never even applied for this exact role (Applied Scientist - Central Seller Fulfillment). I had applied for another Applied Scientist opening at Amazon, and the recruiter reached out, saying my profile might fit this team better.

Initially the recruiter sounded very interested. At one point she even mentioned possibly scheduling loop interviews directly without a phone screen, so naturally I got quite excited. But after that the communication suddenly became very inconsistent. Replies became delayed, sometimes no replies at all for long periods, and honestly I thought I had been ghosted or the role got frozen. 😭

Now finally my phone interview is scheduled for next week, so I wanted some honest insights from people who’ve interviewed/worked in similar roles/teams.

1. What is the phone interview usually like for Applied Scientist roles at Amazon?
   • ML theory?
   • coding/DSA?
   • statistics/probability/maths?
   • research discussion
   • LPs?
   • business/product case studies?
2. After clearing the phone screen, how long does it usually take for loop interviews to get scheduled?
   • Does Amazon move fast here or can it drag for weeks?
3. How bad is the WLB actually for Applied Scientist teams at Amazon India?
   • Is it heavily dependent on manager/team?
   • Any specific insights about Central Seller Fulfillment would help.
4. Is recruiter behaviour like this normal at Amazon?
   • Being extremely enthusiastic initially and then becoming almost non-responsive for weeks?
   • Does it usually indicate internal hiring uncertainty/headcount issues or am I just overthinking it?
5. Suppose the process stops midway or I get rejected after phone/loops — is there a cooldown period before interviewing again for Applied Scientist roles at Amazon India?
   • If yes, how strict is it usually?
6. Since I’m trying to transition from SDE -> ML side early in my career, what would you recommend focusing on most during prep?
7. And finally, if you were interviewing a candidate for this role, what would you personally try to evaluate?

Would genuinely appreciate honest insights, especially from people in Amazon science orgs or people who recently interviewed for similar roles.

So I currently have around 1 year of FTE working as an SDE, but I’ve been trying to move more towards ML/data science/applied scientist-kind of roles because that’s honestly what interests me more long term.

I do have some ML research projects/publications as well, but despite that I’m not getting too many opportunities for ML roles, so this opportunity matters quite a bit to me.

I never even applied for this exact role (Applied Scientist - Central Seller Fulfillment). I had applied for another Applied Scientist opening at Amazon, and the recruiter reached out, saying my profile might fit this team better.

Initially the recruiter sounded very interested. At one point she even mentioned possibly scheduling loop interviews directly without a phone screen, so naturally I got quite excited. But after that the communication suddenly became very inconsistent. Replies became delayed, sometimes no replies at all for long periods, and honestly I thought I had been ghosted or the role got frozen. 😭

Now finally my phone interview is scheduled for next week, so I wanted some honest insights from people who’ve interviewed/worked in similar roles/teams.

1. What is the phone interview usually like for Applied Scientist roles at Amazon?
   • ML theory?
   • coding/DSA?
   • statistics/probability/maths?
   • research discussion
   • LPs?
   • business/product case studies?
2. After clearing the phone screen, how long does it usually take for loop interviews to get scheduled?
   • Does Amazon move fast here or can it drag for weeks?
3. How bad is the WLB actually for Applied Scientist teams at Amazon India?
   • Is it heavily dependent on manager/team?
   • Any specific insights about Central Seller Fulfillment would help.
4. Is recruiter behaviour like this normal at Amazon?
   • Being extremely enthusiastic initially and then becoming almost non-responsive for weeks?
   • Does it usually indicate internal hiring uncertainty/headcount issues or am I just overthinking it?
5. Suppose the process stops midway or I get rejected after phone/loops — is there a cooldown period before interviewing again for Applied Scientist roles at Amazon India?
   • If yes, how strict is it usually?
6. Since I’m trying to transition from SDE -> ML side early in my career, what would you recommend focusing on most during prep?
7. And finally, if you were interviewing a candidate for this role, what would you personally try to evaluate?

Would genuinely appreciate honest insights, especially from people in Amazon science orgs or people who recently interviewed for similar roles.