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I really need help because I’m fairly new to dating as someone in her late 20s. I saw a guy for 6 dates from the apps. Around date 4 I began getting a bit worried that we’re both still on the apps but we didn’t talk dating wants or needs between the two of us. He’s also late 20s, has an established career, and lives on his own. I went back to school but I work and I live with my grandparents currently.

I’ve felt that we go from talking about everyday stuff to kissing, mid date, then at the end. It almost goes from casual conversation to suddenly kissing or holding onto one another. It’s not a very natural progression. But we’ve become formulaic in the sense that we make our next plans during the current one. Last time we didn’t.

recently we went to a bar and he said ok wanna kiss in that corner?

So we did. And then after we said bye, it felt different like I brought up plans and he said alrighty! So after that I just felt the gap growing, I feel I’m getting closer physically with him but emotionally I have no idea. His profile said he’s looking for what I’m looking for, which is to have a relationship. But we didn’t talk that. So I text him about that.

I also did mention to him over text that i feel closer physically but I need to know where we’re headed because emotionally there’s been not much. He said his goals align with his profile. That he can discuss this more with me.

But then I asked to make plans. He said ok what do you want to do? We are seemingly planning this but I have no idea what to say or ask him. After about 6 dates I assume people know where they want things to progress and since neither of us have communicated I’m not sure how to broach this in person. I don’t want it to be like an interrogation. At the same time I’m not sure if I just never asked for plans if we’d had never met again given his shift in asking about plans

I saw a guy for 6 dates from the apps. Around date 4 I began getting a bit worried that we’re both still on the apps but we didn’t talk dating wants or needs between the two of us. I’ve felt that we go from talking and stuff to kissing, mid date, then at the end. And we make our next plans after. But recently we went to a bar and he said ok wanna kiss in that corner?

So we did. And then after we said bye, it felt different like I brought up plans and he said alrighty! So after that I just felt the gap growing, I feel I’m getting closer physically with him but emotionally I have no idea. His profile said he’s looking for what I’m looking for, which is to have a relationship. But we didn’t talk that. So I text him about that.

I also did mention a bit of the closer physically stuff but I need to know where we’re headed so I can feel comfortable, otherwise I don’t. He said his goals align with his profile. But then I asked to make plans. He said ok what do you want to do? We are seemingly planning this but I have no idea what to say or ask him. I also don’t know what he wants with me. Especially given the shift after the recent date.

in my 20s and recently had my first dating experience. Things felt like they were going fine, just this guy never acted like he liked me. We talked about life or things going on but there was nothing about dating expectations or any kind of hints that we liked one another.

Our conversations were friendly. And then I just realized that the guy went from kissing and holding my hand at most to full on making out with me and touching me. There was not a sign of any emotional build up he just goes for it.

And usually we had been very on top of texting and making plans. But last time he was giving me a hickey and I asked him if I could stop to ask a question. And he said ok and I asked if we’re going to see each other next week. And he said ok! And went back to kissing me. It feels so different from before. From the jump of just kisses to suddenly this. I swear if we weren’t in public things would’ve escalated more. Everyone is telling me I can plan the date. And I’m trying but he doesn’t seem as happy to go.

I’m worried because I didn’t ever date. In this age group people have dated, I’ve tried communicating to him and asked him about this and he goes back to texting me small talk. He said he doesn’t wanna just hook up or anything but it almost felt like after we did all of that last time, he doesn’t care to keep going but he won’t tell me that.I just want to get over it because it’s taking up too much of my mind. I really regret letting this happen and get so caught up for my first time.

I’m in my 20s and recently had my first dating experience. Things felt like they were going fine, just this guy never acted like he liked me. We talked about life or things going on but there was nothing about dating expectations or any kind of hints that we liked one another. Our conversations were similar to how I’d talk to a friend. And then I just realized that the guy went from kissing and holding my hand at most to full on making out with me and touching me. There was not a sign of any emotional build up he just goes for it.

And usually we had been very on top of texting and making plans. But last time he was giving me a hickey and I asked him if I could stop to ask a question. And he said ok and I asked if we’re going to see each other next week. And he said ok! And went back to kissing me. It feels so different from before. From the jump of just kisses to suddenly this. I swear if we weren’t in public things would’ve escalated more.

I’m worried because I didn’t ever date. In this age group people have dated, I’ve tried communicating to him and asked him about this and he goes back to texting me small talk. He said he doesn’t wanna just hook up or anything but it almost felt like after we did all of that last time, he doesn’t care to keep going. Or meeting me. If I didn’t ask idk how it would go. I just want to get over it because it’s taking up too much of my mind. I really regret letting this happen and get so caught up for my first tim

I’m in my 20s and recently had my first dating experience. Things felt like they were going fine, just this guy never acted like he liked me. We talked about life or things going on but there was nothing about dating expectations or any kind of hints that we liked one another. Our conversations were similar to how I’d talk to a friend. And then I just realized that the guy went from kissing and holding my hand at most to full on making out with me and touching me. There was not a sign of any emotional build up he just goes for it.

And usually we had been very on top of texting and making plans. But last time he was giving me a hickey and I asked him if I could stop to ask a question. And he said ok and I asked if we’re going to see each other next week. And he said ok! And went back to kissing me. It feels so different from before. From the jump of just kisses to suddenly this. I swear if we weren’t in public things would’ve escalated more.

I’m worried because I didn’t ever date. In this age group people have dated, I’ve tried communicating to him and asked him about this and he goes back to texting me small talk. He said he doesn’t wanna just hook up or anything but it almost felt like after we did all of that last time, he doesn’t care to keep going. Or meeting me. If I didn’t ask idk how it would go. I just want to get over it because it’s taking up too much of my mind. I really regret letting this happen and get so caught up for my first tim

Ive been seeing a guy for over a month. Once a week or so. And in recent times he’ll ask my availability for the following week like right on the spot, and we plan it out. But recently he just wanted to continue kissing. so I asked him if he wants to plan anything to which he said I know the days he’s free. So basically he has a work trip coming up really soon and I thought he’d wanna do something before. We aren’t exclusive or anything but I just feel confused. Like we usually mutually talk about plans right then and there. I’m not sure what happened or what changed. Anyway I feel like his reply was not really happy when I asked about plans. It was kind of like yea ok.

The other reason why I feel confused is because we keep increasing the physical aspect here, nothing sexual but like way more touching and kissing. So I’m worried. So I wanna ask something but I don’t know. When he comes back I will be at a friends birthday trip. So I don’t know

Ive been seeing a guy for over a month. Once a week or so. And in recent times he’ll ask my availability for the following week like right on the spot, and we plan it out. But recently he just wanted to continue kissing. so I asked him if he wants to plan anything to which he said I know the days he’s free. So basically he has a work trip coming up really soon and I thought he’d wanna do something before. We aren’t exclusive or anything but I just feel confused. Like we usually mutually talk about plans right then and there. I’m not sure what happened or what changed. Anyway I feel like his reply was not really happy when I asked about plans. It was kind of like yea ok.

The other reason why I feel confused is because we keep increasing the physical aspect here, nothing sexual but like way more touching and kissing. So I’m worried.

I really need advice. Met with a guy from a dating app I thought he was cool, because he said he wants a serious relationship on his profile. We meet once and things go well, we got ice cream. After he hugged me and squeezed me while hugging me. Second time we go to a local activity. Then we talk and he hugs me where he does that squeeze again. The third time he asks me to his place, I said I’m not really comfortable yet. So we meet outside. We go to our cars and say bye. He hugged me then quickly goes in for my face and kisses me. But he missed my lips. So he goes in again and our teeth hit. He walks to his car and drives away.

I’m in my 20s and so is he by the way. So before we kissed we planned our next date. That was the first time we actually planned ahead. Then we met, we held hands this time and we kissed again, and made plans again.

But the next time we meet it goes ok. We talk a while. Walk around but we didn’t hold hands till we go to the beach where he turns to me and starts kissing me and he was using way more tongue. We only ever kissed quickly before. And he went for my neck too.

I feel confused because at the end of it I asked if we’re doing something before I go visit my family. And he said um ok, we can. And he did briefly message me something casually. But we never speak about anything. No complimenting one another. He just suddenly decided to escalate and I feel confused. I feel like physically he’s escalating but the actual making plans or romantic aspect is lacking. I don’t know what to do, I feel very sad about this?

Hi I really need advice. I began seeing a guy from a dating app. I live away from my parents and I’m not close with them but I really need advice. I thought he was cool, because he said he wants a serious relationship on his profile. We meet once and things go well, we got ice cream. After he hugged me and squeezed me while hugging me. Second time we go to a local activity. Then we talk and he hugs me where he does that squeeze again. The third time he asks me to his place, I said I’m not really comfortable yet. So we meet outside. We go to our cars and say bye. He hugged me then quickly goes in for my face and kisses me. But he missed my lips. So he goes in again and our teeth hit. He walks to his car and drives away.

I’m in my 20s and so is he by the way. So before we kissed we planned our next date. That was the first time we actually planned ahead. Then we met, we held hands this time and we kissed again, and made plans again.

But the next time we meet it goes ok. We talk a while. Walk around but we didn’t hold hands till we go to the beach where he turns to me and starts kissing me and he was using way more tongue. We only ever kissed quickly before. And he went for my neck too.

I feel confused because at the end of it I asked if we’re doing something before I go visit my family. And he said um ok, we can. And he did briefly message me something casually. But we never speak about anything. No complimenting one another. He just suddenly decided to escalate and I feel confused. I feel like physically he’s escalating but the actual making plans or romantic aspect is lacking. I don’t know what to do, I feel very sad about this?

Hi I really need advice. I began seeing a guy from a dating app. I live away from my parents and I’m not close with them but I really need advice. I thought he was cool, because he said he wants a serious relationship on his profile. We meet once and things go well, we got ice cream. After he hugged me and squeezed me while hugging me. Second time we go to a local activity. Then we talk and he hugs me where he does that squeeze again. The third time he asks me to his place, I said I’m not really comfortable yet. So we meet outside. We go to our cars and say bye. He hugged me then quickly goes in for my face and kisses me. But he missed my lips. So he goes in again and our teeth hit. He walks to his car and drives away.

I’m in my 20s and so is he by the way. So before we kissed we planned our next date. That was the first time we actually planned ahead. Then we met, we held hands this time and we kissed again, and made plans again.

But the next time we meet it goes ok. We talk a while. Walk around but we didn’t hold hands till we go to the beach where he turns to me and starts kissing me and he was using way more tongue. We only ever kissed quickly before. And he went for my neck too.

I feel confused because at the end of it I asked if we’re doing something before I go visit my family. And he said um ok, we can. And he did briefly message me something casually. But we never speak about anything. No complimenting one another. He just suddenly decided to escalate and I feel confused. I feel like physically he’s escalating but the actual making plans or romantic aspect is lacking. I don’t know what to do, I feel very sad about this?

Hi I really need advice. I began seeing a guy from a dating app. I live away from my parents and I’m not close with them but I really need advice. I thought he was cool, because he said he wants a serious relationship on his profile. We meet once and things go well, we got ice cream. After he hugged me and squeezed me while hugging me. Second time we go to a local activity. Then we talk and he hugs me where he does that squeeze again. The third time he asks me to his place, I said I’m not really comfortable yet. So we meet outside. We go to our cars and say bye. He hugged me then quickly goes in for my face and kisses me. But he missed my lips. So he goes in again and our teeth hit. He walks to his car and drives away.

I’m in my 20s and so is he by the way. So before we kissed we planned our next date. That was the first time we actually planned ahead. Then we met, we held hands this time and we kissed again, and made plans again.

But the next time we meet it goes ok. We talk a while. Walk around but we didn’t hold hands till we go to the beach where he turns to me and starts kissing me and he was using way more tongue. We only ever kissed quickly before. And he went for my neck too.

I feel confused because at the end of it I asked if we’re doing something before I go visit my family. And he said um ok, we can. And he did briefly message me something casually. But we never speak about anything. No complimenting one another. He just suddenly decided to escalate and I feel confused. I feel like physically he’s escalating but the actual making plans or romantic aspect is lacking. I don’t know what to do, I feel very sad about this?

Hi I really need advice. I began seeing a guy from a dating app. I live away from my parents and I’m not close with them but I really need advice. I thought he was cool, because he said he wants a serious relationship on his profile. We meet once and things go well, we got ice cream. After he hugged me and squeezed me while hugging me. Second time we go to a local activity. Then we talk and he hugs me where he does that squeeze again. The third time he asks me to his place, I said I’m not really comfortable yet. So we meet outside. We go to our cars and say bye. He hugged me then quickly goes in for my face and kisses me. But he missed my lips. So he goes in again and our teeth hit. He walks to his car and drives away.

So before we kissed we planned our next date. That was the first time we actually planned ahead. Then we met, we held hands this time and we kissed again, and made plans again.

But the next time we meet it goes ok. We talk a while. Walk around but we didn’t hold hands till we go to the beach where he turns to me and starts kissing me and he was using way more tongue. We only ever kissed quickly before. And he went for my neck too.

I feel confused because at the end of it I asked if we’re doing something before I go visit my family. And he said um ok, we can. And he did briefly message me something casually. But we never speak about anything. No complimenting one another. He just suddenly decided to escalate and I feel confused. I feel like physically he’s escalating but the actual making plans or romantic aspect is lacking. I don’t know what to do, I feel very sad about this?

Hi I really need advice. I began seeing a guy from a dating app. I live away from my parents and I’m not close with them but I really need advice. I thought he was cool, because he said he wants a serious relationship on his profile. We meet once and things go well, we got ice cream. After he hugged me and squeezed me while hugging me. Second time we go to a local activity. Then we talk and he hugs me where he does that squeeze again. The third time he asks me to his place, I said I’m not really comfortable yet. So we meet outside. We go to our cars and say bye. He hugged me then quickly goes in for my face and kisses me. But he missed my lips. So he goes in again and our teeth hit. He walks to his car and drives away.

I’m in my 20s and so is he by the way. So before we kissed we planned our next date. That was the first time we actually planned ahead. Then we met, we held hands this time and we kissed again, and made plans again.

But the next time we meet it goes ok. We talk a while. Walk around but we didn’t hold hands till we go to the beach where he turns to me and starts kissing me and he was using way more tongue. We only ever kissed quickly before. And he went for my neck too.

I feel confused because at the end of it I asked if we’re doing something before I go visit my family. And he said um ok, we can. And he did briefly message me something casually. But we never speak about anything. No complimenting one another. He just suddenly decided to escalate and I feel confused. I feel like physically he’s escalating but the actual making plans or romantic aspect is lacking. I don’t know what to do, I feel very sad about this?

was meeting up with a guy for over a month. I don’t know him from irl, he’s from a dating app. Well I only dated in high school and I’m in my 20s now, so I guess I was surprised because the first few dates we took it slow. Just talked. But we didn’t ever have flirty back and forth. He just started to kiss me one day. And then we meet up and act super friendly, then when we leave whatever we were doing, we walk around and he seems to only want to French kiss and touch me. We didn’t do anything beyond kissing but at one point he was trying to do a lot of that. And he didn’t seem eager to make plans again with me. The kissing lasted a good while this last time and I felt a bit confused on if I liked where it was going. Because he was kissing not only my face so I’m not sure if it would’ve gone beyond that.

He’s not from the U.S., so he visits family abroad each year. I visit my family abroad too especially in the summer because I take off work then. So I asked him if we should meet up again because we won’t see each other for the summer and he didn’t seem enthusiastic about me asking. He looked like he just wanted to keep kissing. And we did plan our dates usually. So the change has me confused a lot. And I just can’t tell what to do.

my first time dating. I only met this guy who I like, we’re in our late 20s. He’s expressed interest in a serious long term relationship. And we took a while to meet up because of me. But we did about once a week. For a month. And now we’re planning the 5th date. On our 3rd date everything was friendly and normal until he turned to me and just got quiet or changed looked nervous. Then he goes in. We hit our faces on that time and he walked to his car after we kissed. We didn’t talk about this. He also got really quiet before and after

Then the 4th date we held hands or he held onto me. Got a bit quiet and stuff. But I didn’t read the room I think he wanted to kiss. Anyway we did kiss at the end but it was really quick.

Well we’re planning a 5th date and he is really slow with replying suddenly. Like we usually send 1-2 back and forths a day but I haven’t heard from him. He initiated the plans this time and he’s going to his brothers graduation and visiting family at the end of this Month. I am too. But he’s going for longer to visit family. So I’m getting really nervous. We’re both still on bumble. I know it’s not my place to act jealous but I just don’t love the uncertainty.

We were supposed to meet today but I had a doctors appointment when he was free. So we moved our plan to Friday. So I guess if he’s not replying yet it’s fine. But I hate feeling so uncertain. Is it on me to initiate the exclusivity talk? Is he just losing interest and I can’t tell? He’s my first ever… everything for now.

It’s my first time dating. I only met this guy who I like, we’re in our late 20s. He’s expressed interest in a serious long term relationship. And we took a while to meet up because of me. But we did about once a week. For a month. And now we’re planning the 5th date. On our 3rd date everything was friendly and normal until he turned to me and just got quiet or changed looked nervous. Then he goes in. We hit our faces on that time and he walked to his car after we kissed. We didn’t talk about this. He also got really quiet before and after

Then the 4th date we held hands or he held onto me. Got a bit quiet and stuff. But I didn’t read the room I think he wanted to kiss. Anyway we did kiss at the end but it was really quick.

Well we’re planning a 5th date and he is really slow with replying suddenly. Like we usually send 1-2 back and forths a day but I haven’t heard from him. He initiated the plans this time and he’s going to his brothers graduation and visiting family at the end of this Month. I am too. But he’s going for longer to visit family. So I’m getting really nervous. We’re both still on bumble. I know it’s not my place to act jealous but I just don’t love the uncertainty.

We were supposed to meet today but I had a doctors appointment when he was free. So we moved our plan to Friday. So I guess if he’s not replying yet it’s fine. But I hate feeling so uncertain. Is it on me to initiate the exclusivity talk? Is he just losing interest and I can’t tell? He’s my first ever… everything for now.

So it’s like date 1-3 friendly. End of 3 kiss. 4- we act more romantic. Idk if we should talk about this

it’s my first time dating. And sadly I used the dating apps which maybe I shouldn’t have. I only met this guy who I like, we’re in our late 20s. He’s expressed interest in a serious long term relationship. It took a while to meet up because of me. But we did about once a week. For a month.

And now we’re planning the 5th date. We only kissed on the 3rd, before then we acted super friendly but like no romantic aspect. We hit our faces on that time and he walked to his car after we kissed. We sort of missed our lips. Then the 4th date we held hands or he held onto me. Got a bit quiet and stuff. But I didn’t read the room I think he wanted to kiss. Anyway we did kiss at the end but it was really quick, which I initiated. (We kissed several times at this point!)

Well we’re planning a 5th date and he is really slow with replying suddenly. Like we usually send 1-2 back and forths a day but I haven’t heard from him. He initiated the plans this time and he’s going to his brothers graduation and visiting family at the end of this Month. I am too. But he’s going for longer to visit family. So I’m getting really nervous. We’re both still on bumble. I know it’s not my place to act jealous but I just don’t love the uncertainty.

He asked to meet today or Friday- but I had a doctors appointment when he was free. So we moved our plan to Friday. So I guess if he’s not replying yet it’s fine. But I hate feeling so uncertain. Is it on me to initiate the exclusivity talk? Is he just losing interest and I can’t tell? He’s my first ever… everything for now. I don’t know if it’s too soon to talk about this but given he’s going away for a graduation and then some family matters, I may not see him for a bit. Apologies if I sound like a teenager. I don’t know what I am doing

Hi. It’s my first time dating. I only met this guy who I like, we’re in our late 20s. He’s expressed interest in a serious long term relationship. And we took a while to meet up because of me. But we did about once a week. For a month. And now we’re planning the 5th date. We only kissed on the 3rd, before then we acted super friendly but like no romantic aspect. We hit our faces on that time and he walked to his car after we kissed. Then the 4th date we held hands or he held onto me. Got a bit quiet and stuff. But I didn’t read the room I think he wanted to kiss. Anyway we did kiss at the end but it was really quick.

Well we’re planning a 5th date and he is really slow with replying suddenly. Like we usually send 1-2 back and forths a day but I haven’t heard from him. He initiated the plans this time and he’s going to his brothers graduation and visiting family at the end of this Month. I am too. But he’s going for longer to visit family. So I’m getting really nervous. We’re both still on bumble. I know it’s not my place to act jealous but I just don’t love the uncertainty.

We were supposed to meet today but I had a doctors appointment when he was free. So we moved our plan to Friday. So I guess if he’s not replying yet it’s fine. But I hate feeling so uncertain. Is it on me to initiate the exclusivity talk? Is he just losing interest and I can’t tell? He’s my first ever… everything for now.

(20s female) i have been dating a guy off of a dating app, he’s a few years older. We meet once a week or so. I’m very in-experienced with dating so I’m not sure beyond some high school "relationship”. On our first few dates we didn’t even flirt or hold hands. We acted like friends. But we really got comfortable with each other I think at least.

Then randomly on a more recent time he leans in and then hesitated but then decided to go for it and kiss me. He missed my lips. And then we just didn’t really address that or try again. But we do hug, he stays in the hug longer and he holds tighter if it makes sense.

the most recent time I saw him he put his arms around me and held tighter but got a bit quiet. And I didn’t read the moment so I talked a bit. I think he was gonna try to maybe kiss then? And then when we hugged goodbye he looked like he wanted to go in for the kiss but I did it this time. I don’t know how to kiss honestly, I barely did it for long. Maybe I have to learn. What else can I do? He seems to be respectful but I think I have to show him more because it might look like I’m complacent?

We have seen each other for a bit over a month now. I still have my profile on the dating app and so does he but I’m not seeing anyone else so I think it’s time to discuss this maybe. My friend is getting married so I won’t be in our area for a few weeks soon. I am not sure how that’ll play into things. I told him about the wedding

(20s female) i have been dating a guy off of bumble, he’s a few years older. We have been meeting up. On our first few dates we didn’t even flirt or hold hands. We acted like friends. But we really got comfortable with each other I think at least.

Then randomly on one date he leans in and then hesitated but then decided to go for it and kiss me. He missed my lips. And then we just didn’t really address that or try again. But we do hug, he stays in the hug longer and he holds tighter if it makes sense.

the most recent time I saw him he put his arms around me and held tighter but got a bit quiet. And I didn’t read the moment so I talked a bit. I think he was gonna try to maybe kiss then? And then when we hugged goodbye he looked like he wanted to go in for the kiss but I did it this time. I don’t know how to kiss honestly, I barely did it for long. Maybe I have to learn. What else can I do? He seems to be respectful but I think I have to show him more because it might look like I’m complacent?