u/vruchtenhagel

Hi all, I’d like to run something by you that I’m currently dealing with. If you don’t care, that’s totally understandable, but I’d appreciate any insight you may have. If you reply, I thank you for your time.

Recently, very recently, the light from my phone from an incoming notification filled my bedroom ceiling. I looked at it. It was an old friend who wanted to get together again. Years after I doorslammed that same person because I found the friendship unbearable to carry on my tiny shoulders.

You see, I am an introvert. An extreme introvert. I prefer solitude and spending time doing whatever I please. That usually consists of me listening to music, making a good meal, reading a book, or watching a movie (at the theater). I’ve had several relationships, romantically and platonically, and I’ve burnt out all of them.

People, and I don’t say this with a sense of self-pride, often say they like being with me. That I am a calming presence and that people can rely on me. I offer advice and listen. This is what I feel has attracted narcissists all throughout my adult life. Now, at 33, I am left with no one but myself.

I’m reading a book by a psychiatrist who has built his whole approach to life around being and staying connected to people. That one must be with another to have a sense of purpose. While it’s an interesting book, I don’t feel that way at all.

Juggling connections, doing things I don’t want to do, maintaining and performing in order to keep up appearances, and making sure the other person feels seen and validated is too much work when all it does is leave me drained. Dried up like an old prune.

Now the question is, and I’ve been sitting with this for two days now, should I take the call? Do I need to go out of my way to form connections again? Is the universe guiding me? Or is it alright to just ignore the invite and continue living the most mundane, quiet, and lonely life you never would’ve envisioned for yourself? Not in a bad way, but it is surprising how well that life fits me.

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Hello lovely ghouls and goblins, I’ve recently watched Widow’s Bay on Apple TV, and that made me want to rewatch Room 1408, The Shining, and The Innkeepers. I’d love to watch a scary movie that takes place in an inn or hotel, preferably with a vibe similar to The Shining or the Hollywood Tower of Terror ride at Disney (although it can be more modern).

I’ve seen (and liked) movies like:

The Night House
The Changeling
The Innkeepers
The Shining
Room 1408
Hell House LLC franchise (though not really what I’m looking for here)

Can you pleaseeeeee help me find something that scratches that vintage, retro, scary hotel vibe?
Thanks!