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My therapist makes seemingly comparative comments sometimes. I can't tell if it comes from a place of rapport building or oneupmanship. Examples:

1. I'm a doctor. His son is in 7th grade. He will often rattle off the advanced classes his son is taking and his grades, and ask if it's enough for him to become a doctor when he grows up. He didn't know this until recently but I was neglected and had no schooling in 7th grade so this is especially painful.

2. Due to the neglect I was briefly living with my swim coach. I was talking about how I'd swim 3 hours a day trying to get an opportunity to live with him. My therapist goes, "yeah, swimming requires a lot of training. I swam 5 hours a day as a child." It was weird and out of place.

Thoughts?

I have wanted to do acrobatics my whole life. I finally got into gymnastics and aerial only to promptly break my arm in half, temporarily paralyzing my hand from the bone fragments damaging my radial nerve. I took up 3m and 1m springboard thinking it would be the "safer" option but on week 2 the anxiety is consiming me. I keep imagining hitting the water and immediately becoming paralyzed or breaking a limb, unable to surface, who will save me, etc.

I wanted to do this for so long, and realistically life is dangerous. Does the fear go away? Or is diving just not for me?

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I recently took up diving at 32 after a bad shoulder injury. Yesterday on the 1m I dove at the wrong angle and smacked my face, torquing my neck back. It didn't hurt or do anything bad but now I am so scared if it happens on the 3m, could I wind up with quadriplegia? Thanks.

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For escape purposes if someone tries to break into my house, is there any concern with this? Any rope recommendations that are 40 ft - thinking either aerial or rock climbing? My entire balcony is solid wrought iron with railing welded to the balcony itself. I could rig to one of the rails.

Thanks!

Please note this is not something I would utilize unless I had no other choice. Like would I be less dead doing this vs. confronting an intruder.

r/springboarddiving is dead and enough gymnasts have gone over to the dark side that I wanted to give it a shot here. Long story short, I am starting adult beginner masters diving tomorrow. I want to look legit and allow my coach to see my lines or whatever since I'll be training alongside the kids and the coach was on national team or whatever so a t-shirt and shorts over a long sleeve bathing suit seems a not ideal for that objective. At the same time I don't want to be weird and have my Vera Wang rashguard long sleeve with fitted shorts on the bottom ... that seems pretty sus. Ahhhh help ... any advice?

My sponsor introduced the topic of SA very early on in our sponsorship relationship - very explicitly told me in no uncertain terms that her father had sexually abused her. Despite our sponsorship relationship being wonderful otherwise, it was completely unsolicited and triggering to me, especially in early sobriety, so with my sponsee I have completely avoided any discussion of childhood abuse.

However, my sponsor's share had an unexpected upside - during my fifth step, it broke the ice for me to share unfiltered about my own experiences, around which I carried a lot of shame. It was hands down one of the most transformative experiences of my life - more helpful to me than years of therapy - so in a way, I'm wondering if I should disclose some aspect of my history to my sponsee. This was underlined by the fact that the other day, I shared some deeply awful things I'd done to people in my drinking days, and my sponsee responded extremely positively - for the first time opening up.

How do I tow the line between opening up lines of communication vs. traumadumping or, worse, triggering my sponsee? What is the right time and level of detail to disclose?

TIA.

Humerus distal spiral fracture with surgery, two plates and 17 screws, had some issues with shoulder stiffness and subluxation during recovery which required cortisone but nothing too bad. I have nearly full elbow mobility back including hyperextension but my shoulder seems stuck at like 155ish. Additionally when I extend my fingers individually, they are markedly less than my unaffected hand. These issues seem small but have implications for handstands and violin. Will they get better if I continue my OT or is this as good as it gets 5 months out?

I broke my arm in half back in April which resulted in radial nerve sensory damage, radial nerve palsy, and post-traumatic cubital tunnel syndrome. The latter two are mostly resolved, but I seem to be dealing with an issue now where my fingers sort of get "stuck" when trying to shift or move them individually. I'm also working with a teacher to drastically overhaul my technique and do have some residual physical weakness and numbness, but I'm worried about developing dystonia. I watched a video of someone with dystonia playing a scale and it reminded me so much of my issues. Is there any way to "nip this in the bud" and make sure this doesn't turn into something that ends my career?

I have a performance on Thursday and just sold plasma. Well when they tried to return, it threw a high pressure error and they said I had a hematoma. I opted not to get the stuff returned to the other arm as I have extensive nerve damage in that arm from an accident and am a bit skittish about sticking it with a needle.

The doctor said I can play violin just fine, but Google AI said it risks breaking the vein back open. Can I play today and tomorrow? I cannot risk losing the money from this concert.

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Historical answers on here say 5, but 20 minutes / 3 minutes per question leans more towards 7? Thanks so much.

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I am getting ready for a flight attendant interview (ODVI) with Delta and have some questions:

\\- What sorts of questions are typically asked in the interview?

\\- What questions did they ask you that were surprising or you didn't expect?

\\- What are they looking for in your answers?

\\- Looking back, what would you have improved in your interview?

\\- Any other advice?

Thanks so much!

I wasn't a music major but play per-service in multiple orchestras. A few months ago I snapped my left arm in half which required surgery and damaged multiple nerves, leaving my left hand temporarily paralyzed. I was so depressed while healing and doctors telling me that I may never regain full function, that I decided to sign up on a website and offer lessons nearly for free ($15/hour) just to feel some connection to the music world.

Well after one student left a review, I can't handle the requests. I have a day job and it just so happens my left hand recovered (praise God) and I have auditions to prepare for on top of everything. I'm tempted to raise my prices just to slow the damn thing down, but am not sure by how much or when to do so.

Advice?

My OT gave me this soft brace that looks like an elbow sock with padding around the elbow. It has really helped my pinky and I want to keep wearing it but it is getting old and itchy and losing its softness. Some nights when I don't wear it my symptoms come back and I want to avoid surgery at all costs since a surgery is what caused this issue to begin with. Any recommendations? If I could just get a pack of these it would be great.

This mindset has really bothered me in meetings, and is actually one of the reasons I've avoided ACA (seems to be more prevalent in ACA/CODA type spaces). Today, someone at an AA meeting shared about how they were a high bottom and that they've "never had a DUI" and "never had anyone videotape their drunk antics" and said that if they had, they'd have "shot themselves." Of course, this person also shared extensively about their childhood trauma and involvement in ACA, etc. This holier-than-thou mindset really bothers me, especially since my husband is currently struggling with the fallout of a DUI. It's heartbreaking to watch him go through that, so when someone gets up and says they'd rather die than go what my husband is going through, I just feel disgust. I haven't had a DUI either (though have arguably done worse in my drinking days), and I can't even imagine saying something like this.

Wondering if anyone has had similar resentments, and how they've dealt with it.

I was seriously injured at my studio during a class while being spotted. Our membership rates have been relatively constant for years, but within months after my injury, they nearly doubled. I haven't made any insurance claims/etc. against the studio except a subrogation form that my insurance company mandated me to fill out, and I'd signed a waiver, but the timing of the price increase is suspicious.

Are studios' insurance rates affected when a student has an accident, even if the student signed a waiver?

After studying the main version extensively for years, it kind of gives me the creeps (in an uncanny valley way) that there's an "original version" out there that Sibelius wrote first, and was performed.

Anyone else get this feeling?

(Goes quickish)

G#-B-E-G#-B!!! (A#-C#-B) E! B! G#! E! F#! G#!!! (G-A-G#) B! G#! E! B! ....

Yadada, yadada, yadada, yadada, yadadadadadadadadadada ...

And then it repeats.

What is it??? Some polonaise or the third movement of some concerto? Has been in my head all day. Tysm.

I fractured my humerus 4 months ago. I had radial nerve palsy which has resolved completely but am numb all the way from the fracture site to the tip of my thumb (outside of arm, radial nerve side). This does not affect my life in any way, but I'm not sure if it's something I should be calling my doctor about. Is there any risk if this numbness persists (besides ... just living with a numb arm)?

500 in savings, 13k CC debt, 33K personal loan debt. My car has 200K miles and is having issues with coolant system - likely head gasket leak or hybrid battery failure in near future. My work is far and public transit isn't an option, nor is carpooling. Should I finance a new car? Not sure it would make a huge difference.

Savings — $200.00

Wife Tax — $500.00

Car Payment — $200.00

Debt payment — $641.00

Gas — $100.00

Hobbies — $450.00

Medical — $230.00

My Rent — $1,250.00

Sallie Mae Loan — $331.00

Phone Payment — $27.00

Bank of America Card — $25.00

Chase Card Minimum — $250.00

In-Laws Mortgage — $1,800.00

Wife Mortgage — $1,450.00

My Electric Bill — $170.00

Townhouse Water Bill — $0.00

Internet — $50.00

Phone Bill — $394.61

My Car Insurance — $200.00

WF Loan — $550.00

Groceries — $365.39