u/-Zima_Blue-

Am I being too picky?

So first things first Im exclusively active on Hinge where you are limited to 8 likes a day and i try to use them up every day.

The problem is that it can take me genuinely hours to do that. I barely ever like a profile and I swipe after waking up, before going to bed, while eating dinner, on the bus, etc.

I fully read every single profile completely before liking or not so it takes a bit to get through all of them and as I said i dont like probably 90+ percent of times.

Despite that though, I think my standards are already very low. Outside of a couple red flags (like smoking) my rule of thumb is to have atleast one singular similiarity in terms of hobbies. Only one. And it doesnt even have to be a hobby we share, just any hobby within atleast the same ballpark. Like anything at all arts and crafty or creative, for example.

Looks I dont even factor in at all, only If the pictures themselves are low effort, like if you can barely even see their face or body in it.

So, is that too much to ask for?

Because im genuinely starting to feel bunt out because of having to invest so much time into that app.

So first things first Im exclusively active on Hinge, imo the best app by far atleast for free users.

You are limited to 8 likes a day and i try to use them up every day.

The problem is that it can take me genuinely hours to do that. I barely ever like a profile and I swipe after waking up, before going to bed, while eating dinner, on the bus, etc.

I fully read every single profile completely before liking or not so it takes a bit to get through all of them and as I said i dont like probably 90+ percent of times.

Despite that though, I think my standards are already very low. Outside of a couple red flags (like smoking) my rule of thumb is to have atleast one singular similiarity in terms of hobbies. Only one. And it doesnt even have to be a hobby we share, just any hobby within atleast the same ballpark. Like anything at all arts and crafty or creative, for example.

Looks I dont even factor in at all, only If the pictures themselves are low effort, like if you can barely even see their face or body in it.

So, is that too much to ask for?

Because im genuinely starting to feel bunt out because of having to invest so much time into that app.

As the title says, the girl I have been dating for a couple of months now texted me completely out of the blue to do her a favour and delete all the pictures I have of her on her phone, only excluding the ones where just her hands are visible.

When I asked her if something was wrong she said no and when I asked her why she wanted me to do that she said "I am feeling afraid that my photos are with you" and "I dont need my photos with others".

I did as she asked me to, she said thanks, and I said that I hope she is doing ok and that Im worried for her but she hasnt replied since.

As Im writing this to check If she still has the Instagram stories with me up (she never showed my face there, only us holding hands and stuff, only pics of the food I made for her), but apparently she removed me as a follower...

She still has me on WhatsApp though so I guess thats something atleast.

For context maybe, she's visited her family in India for a month recently, almost didnt text me at all during that, when she came back she only told me that it was really stressful and not relaxing at all and that she didnt have time to meet up right now because of school. That was almost two weeks ago and this is the first time she texted me since then.

Wtf is going on? I thought things were going really well. I dont want to believe its her just having lost interest. Maybe a bad mental health episode? Shes always been really insecure (we met on a dating app and told me back then too that she was afraid of people misusing her pictures on there and immediately deleted her account again once we exchanged numbers ), or her family pressured her or something? I have no idea.