u/Accomplished_Bee6491

Hello there... I have purchased a used Ford Engine which is currently sitting at a storage of a company named Stakry. I am based overseas and there's been a bit of going back and forth between me and Stakry. At first they said they could ship the engine and now they said they can't ship a used engine due to oil residuals and whatnot. Does anyone have any experience with shipping out a used engine out of the US? I haven't been able to find a service provider that can ship this engine out of the US and the engine has been sitting there for more than two months. Any advice and help I can get would be appreciated! Thanks!

I (INFJ female) recently met an ENFP male through Reddit and I have never quite experienced anything like it before. We connected really well and moved to insta in just 3 days. After 6 days of talking this guy, we have made a lot of deep conversations and shared intimate details about our personal lives. He likes me so much he is already considering to move cities to be with me. I understand that most ENFPs lead by feelings and my impression is that ENFP men wear their hearts on their sleeves and are hopeless romantic.

I am wondering if this is how all ENFP bahave when they like someone. Do you guys move this quickly in a relationship when you find a person who you believe is exactly what you've been looking for? I am quite in awe with how trusting ENFPs are and I am wondering if this is the typical pattern of ENFPs or if this guy is just falling too quickly?

I am still in a bit of disbelief how good this guy is. The communication has been stellar and he is so emotionally intelligent and caring and kind and honest and vulnerable. I don't see immediate red flags other than the fact that he is progessing the relationship a lot quicker than most men do.

Just curious if anyone has received an RTP from RMIT in this sub? What's your experience been like organising OSHC? Does the school organise it and pay it for you? Or do you have to organise it yourself and then reimburse it later?

I (female INFJ 35) have gone on two dates with an ENTP guy and I find him amazing. We never ran out of topics to talk about, our conversations are highly intellectually stimulating, we share the same humour, and political views, and everything seems to connect really well. Here is where it gets complicated. While he is kind and warm, I can see that he is very analytical and calculated with whatever "move" he makes. It's also clear that he is protective of his emotions and will take a bit of time for him to express his feelings and whatnot. I can see he is clearly interested, but he is not very forthcoming with his interests/feelings.

I recently stumbled on an ENFP guy on Reddit. We started chatting and the vibe is so completely different. He opens up very immediately about himself and his life and very forthcoming about his vulnerabilities, interests and feelings. It's almost like we can very quickly move into whatever is next in a relationship within a matter of days. I find this whole thing really odd but it's also refreshing to find guys who are so open and not afraid of getting caught with feelings and commitments.

However strangely, I find myself more attracted to the ENTP guy. It's not a fair comparison, because I do know him in real life and he is in my subjective opinion better looking than the ENFP guy. But personality wise, I am still more drawn to the complexity of an ENTP, even when this thing between us take ages to progress but I also kinda like this slow burn which is very different to what I am used to being a hopeless romantic as an INFJ.

Has anyone ever experienced this odd attraction to ENTPs? I am hoping that it's not me repeating patterns of falling with the wrong type of guys. This ENTP guy seems amazing to me. He is mature and healthy and smart and I have never found another guy with so much common interests with me.

This is so random but I woke up this morning to an online article on Facebook feed with a picture of ex-LO who I used to work with. He was stabbed by his ex-wife on the same day he got married to his new wife. We used to work together and he was such a good looking guy with a charm and all the girls had a crush on him including me. I left the job and got over my limerance but goddamn, I was not expecting this to happen to him. Poor guy. Never had a good feeling about his ex-wife at all.

I have been together with my husband (M36) 13 years, and married to him for 9 years. We have opposite personalities and he can get really under my skin, he has a number of communication, self esteem and trauma issues which can really get in the way sometimes, he also has alexythimia which makes it really hard for him to put emotions into words and to express empathy. Our whole relationship hinges on lots of sex, movie nights, and co parenting. Our conversations only circles around work, family and household logistics. We have at least one full blown fight a year, and many times in the heat of fights said let's go our separate ways. However, the past year has been different. We have seriously talked about separation and how to go about it, and he has also let me see this one guy (but sex is off the table).

I went on two dates with this guy I met though work (he asked me out). The first one we had a three hour brunch and the second one we had a two hour lunch. It may be a superficial feeling from bursts of oxytocin, but I never felt seen and heard like I was in that five hours with this guy, than the 13 years I spent with my husband. We have so much in common and it feels like our conversation can just go on and on without sex. We share the same intellectual curiosity for the world and life and our personalities blend so well, like we could complete each other's sentence. We even have the exact same glasses! (Transparent pink frame). I know that this guy doesn't love me and puts me on a pedestal like my husband does and probably will never fall in love with me like my husband did. I just feel like I got a peek at what a healthy man looks like and now I keep daydreaming to be with a guy who knows how to talk, and shares my passion, who can take care of me, who doesn't get under my skin, and loves travelling like I do. I feel guilty to be with my husband because it doesn't matter how hard he tries, he will never be as good as what I expect a partner to be.

I can feel extremely lonely sometimes even when he is right next to me!

Should I just be grateful for what I have and live with this constant fantasy in my head? Or should I break things off and move on, and maybe end up being in a forever chase for a man that does not exist? 😭

Side note we have two children together which is one reason it has been hard to leave. The youngest one is now 7.

Even though we have worked through a number of different issues and he is really making an effort to improve our relationship and to make me feel cared for, our differences in intellect and personality leaves me super lonely... I can't have deep or meaningful conversations with him, we don't really have much to talk about other than practical and logistical things related to running the household... I really don't think that I can continue living like this but I would feel guilty about leaving. We have been together 13 years.

I can't stop thinking 'bout you

I can't stop thinking 'bout you

I can't get high, I can't get by, I can't get through

I can't stop thinking 'bout you

Like poison coursing through me

So clear my vision is blurred

The haze won't put my mind at ease

I've been sleeping later, I've been breathing stronger

I've been digging deeper, but the memories won't stop

I can't stop thinking 'bout you

I can't stop thinking 'bout you

I can't get high, I can't get by, I can't get through

I can't stop thinking 'bout you

say it before you run out of time

(I want you all) say it before it's too late

(I want you all) say what I am feeling now

(I want you all) waiting is insane

I can't stop thinking 'bout you

I can't stop thinking 'bout you

I can't get high, I can't get by, I can't get through

I can't stop thinking 'bout you

I would like to hear from others who navigate partners with alexithymia. What do you do? How do you manage those moments where the other person shows no empathy and anger seems to be the only emotion they know how to express?

Been considering divorce for some time now over a number of issues and one of them is that my husband has alexithymia and especially struggles to show or express sympathy and empathy, to the point that it's extremely hurtful to me. Has anyone else gone through divorce over alexithymia? I understand that he has feelings as a human but I can only process what I can see and receive from my end and he comes across as unempathetic and cold, and I can't live with that.

Curious as to what his MBTI is. What do you think? I am referring to the actor in real life and not Gareth Graham, the character.

Curious as to what his MBTI is. What do you think? I am referring to the actor in real life and not Gareth Graham, the character.

Curious as to what his MBTI is. What do you think? I am referring to the actor in real life and not Gareth Graham, the character.

Please I beg the mods not fo delete my post as I don't know where else to go 😭

I (INFJ 35) went out with an ENTP guy who I met from work. We first met in person 10 months ago and I didn't have any particular impression from this first meeting. But this guy asked me out and we went out 4 months ago, for what I did not think of as a date at a time, but then sorta realised afterwards that he had intended it to be date. We had an amazing 3-hour conversation like nothing I ever had with anyone before and he gave off a lot of signs that he was curious and intrigued by me. We last met two months ago at his office, in which again, he gave off body language and hints that he liked me, but I sensed that he tried hard to mask his true emotions/feelings.

Four weeks after that I texted him and asked him out for dinner. He replied he was out of country but would love to meet when he gets back, and gave my text a love emoji which is the first. His trip back was delayed by a week, and he said he had some friends over and was only available for lunch instead. I said meeting the week after is good for me cause I can only do evenings at the moment.

Now is the week we are supposed to meet but I want to wait for him to initiate/text first cause I already did text him a bunch and don't want to overwhelm him or come across pushy/desperate in whatever way. Is this the right approach? I was confident that he likes me but now I am not sure anymore after that lunch offer, which I felt was him trying to avoid a dinner which would give a bit more time for us to have a proper conversation instead of a rushed lunch during a workday. I have never had any romantic encounters with an ENTP before and I am not sure how to act at this point.

My hair texture turned coarse with strong waves after I turned 35 recently. Does this just come with age?

Husband (M36) and I (F35) have been talking about potentially separating since November 2025. We have had a few different issues, some of which we have managed to work through and some of which we have not. I have one child from previous relationship who my husband raised like his own, and another child from our marriage who is now 7 years old. We have been together a total of 13 years.

I have started to notice more that my husband is more comfortable with the idea of leading a traditional life, in the sense of doing one job, living in one place, and have 3-4 children. I on the other hand, do not feel confortable with that idea at all. I want to leave our home country and start a new life in a developed country. I am applying for a PhD which will start next year, and my initial intention was to have my husband and children eventually move there with me.

At first he totally resisted the idea of moving. A lot of fears on adjusting to a new culture and that he wasn't going to get a job, and he also hated the idea of doing household chores without maids and raising children without having an extended family. I always moved around throughout my life and don't like the idea of only living in one place for the rest of my life.

My thought was that we have a real chance of building a financially stable life where both of us can enjoy travelling and such when we enter our 40s and 50s, since it will not be long when our two children will leave home (one is currently 15 and the other 7). His aspiration is more on having more children and does not care much at all about travelling. He would rather own a home.

There has been a lot of push and pull where I feel like I am more ready to leave the marriage while he is not. While he has slowly come around on the idea of moving to a new country with me, he still wants to have one or two more children, which honestly, I feel like a dealbreaker for me. I don't want to be with someone whose love for me largely depend on childbearing.

I told him that he needs to provide me financial security and stability where I don't have to work, for me to have one more child, and I know that this is something that's just not possible. I have always been the breadwinner with more earnings and earning potentials than him. And I'd rather spend my money travelling than on another child that limits my mobility.

Anyone with similar conflict and expeience? What did you decide? Did you stay and work around it or did you separate? Any regrets?

I met a pretty awesome and unusual guy who seems to be sending very covered signals that he is interested in me. When we meet in person our conversation flows so naturally, and I can feel mutual, warm and genuine connection and admiration of each other. We had an amazing first date but he sort of signaled for me to initiate the next one. Which I did two weeks ago but he was out of country and I said to him text me when you're back (he should be back as of yesterday I assume). He responded warmly and with a love emoji, which was the first time he ever did this with me. We are not on texting basis and he seems a bit awkward on texts versus when we talk in real life so we went weeks without communication.

I really want to see him again and I would really like to have this second date with him. Would it be turn off to text him instead of waiting for him to text me first? I am torn between defending my dignity as a woman and wait for him to text, and making myself vulnerable for someone I really like and follow up on that dinner plan. I am female 35 and he is roughly the same age.