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Even when my dating history was pure mess, I used to be what people usually call "chill girlfriend" or "low maintenance" girlfriend. Hindi strict, literally you can do whatever you want at lahat ng pagkukulang mo sakin iintindihin ko yung tipong kahit sobrang walang wala yung effort na nabibigay ko at kung mag "effort" man sila sakin, below bare minimum lang, tinatanggap ko na lang talaga at hindi nagrereklamo. "At least meron" is what I always tell myself.

Funny thing is, these men I dated have different faces, names, and voices but they all bear two distinct similarities: no emotional intelligence at avoidant. Opening up or communicating your needs always leads to me getting ghosted and jeopardizing the entire relationship kaya unconsciously natatak sa utak ko na setting boundaries means they'll love you less so I always try to suck it up, not complain and say yes to anything kahit di okay sakin.

Pag nag k-kwento ako sa mga friends ko noon they always tell me "Masyado kang understanding" at daig ko pa daw lalaki mag effort. Nag try pa nga ako manligaw ng lalaki HAHAHAHAH YIKES hindi nakakaproud 😔I genuinely thought at first na being low maintenance means they'll love and accept you more but I ended up abused and taken advantage of because most men just love to enjoy girlfriend benefits without exerting real effort.

But everything changed when I met my current boyfriend. I am nothing like what I used to be anymore. Kahit hindi ko siya first bf feeling ko first ko siya kasi first time ko maka-feel ng safety and security sa isang relationship. 1 year na kami at parang 2-3 times lang ako nag overthink HAHA possible pala yun??!?! I'm more outspoken at kaya ko na mag communicate without fearing anything since he made sure that he's a safe space. He met me at a time where I built more walls but he worked his way through and did more than the bare minimum :)

I went from anxious attached to secure attachment. Never na ko babalik sa pagiging low maintenance at mas lalo na tumaas standards ko. Learn to set boundaries without fear and the right person with genuine care for you will respect that. Keep your standards high, someone out there will be willing enough to reach it.

TW: mention of animal death

I see this a lot sa mga cat parents talaga and ang hirap niyang hindi pansinin. The other day, I went out to get coffee sa nearby dunkin when I saw a bloodied dead cat na halatang nasagasaan at mukhang tinabi sa gilid. Mind you, wala pa yun dun sa spot na yun nung pumasok ako ng dunkin, pero biglang nakita ko na dun pagkalabas ko. Naka-collar yung cat at mukhang malinis so its pretty clear na may owner siya.

Pero naisip ko rin naman na baka malay mo nakatakas, di rin akalain ng owner at sobrang unfortunate lang na nagkataon na naaksidente. Pero alam mo yun? It's still a fact that many cat parents still let their cats roam free outside. Usual excuse nila "mas maganda may freedom sila" "kung dun sila masaya".
Nai-ick din ako sa mga nagpopost dito at sa kabilang sub ng mga alaga nila with matching caption "gala ng gala" "lagi nakikipagaway" "laging buntis" tapos iiyak iyak pag isang araw hindi na bumalik yung pusa nila. Minsan pa nga pag bumabalik, hindi nadadala eh hahayaan pa nila ulit lumabas.

Kapon or not kapon please keep them INDOORS. At kung gusto niyo na maiwasan yung lagi gumagala, maging responsable at ipakapon niyo. Gets ko pa kung hindi niyo afford pero meron din tayong mga kapon drives na free or lowcost. May iba nga diyan na sinisikap pa maglaan ng oras at bumyahe para lang mapakapon ang alaga.

Please keep in mind na once you let your cat out, you expose them to ALL KINDS OF DANGER. If you want them to experience the outdoors, you can always supervise them.

MAGING RESPONSIBLE PET PARENTS PO TAYO KUNG MAHAL AT MAY RESPETO TAYO SA BUHAY NG MGA ANAK NATIN.

Imagine pushing 30s ka na or lagpas trenta na tapos jojowa ka ng 19 pababa??? Doesn't matter kung hindi na minor yan pero jusko fresh out of high school palang mga yan. Ikaw, working na at some of you at that age ay established professional na. What do you have in common with someone na pinagbabaunan pa ng magulang at ang weekly responsibility ay mamili ng gamit sa national bookstore para sa project nila?? Teh anong pinaguusapan niyo?? Imagine being an established professional tas every now and then nag m-message ka sa jowa mo ng "mag aral ng mabuti" NAKAKATAWA NA NAKAKAINIS HUHUHU

In other words masyado kayong magkaiba ng stage sa buhay. Ang predatory na lang talaga. Even as a 26 year old grown adult, esp nung single pa ko hindi ko talaga ma-imagine sarili ko jumowa ng tao na kakapasok palang ng college.

Jusko parang guguho mundo niyo pag jumowa kayo ng ka-edad niyo lang eh. Kadiri

Feeling interested in traveling domestically lately and eyeing on Cebu but as someone na hindi fan ng beaches or any sort of nature trip, yung city culture lang gusto ko i-explore.

Saan kaya pwede mag-stay sa cebu if bet ko lang mag cafe hopping, mall and maglakad lakad? TYIA :)

TL;DR: Nag enroll ako sa driving school, my instructor spent the whole session berating and yelling at me. Felt like I spent thousands just to get treated like shit.

Last March, I enrolled sa driving school na ni-reco ng best friend ko at since promo din sila, nag enroll nako. 2 days PDC, 4 hours each. Ff sa PCD, Okay naman instructor ko and mabait siya at nakakakwentuhan. May times lang na napagsasabihan ako pag nagkakamali pero no biggie naman since he'd also acknowledge my efforts din naman. Overall, it was nice. Just gave me constructive criticism. Okay naman daw ako sa highway kulang na lang daw na-maenjoy ko ang driving para maging comfortable nako. Kaso the night before my last day, the school contacted me saying na may family emergency yung instructor ko so they're giving me a different one.

Nung una okay naman, nakakwentuhan ko pa and nagbibiro. Take note, both of these instructors know na zero knowledge ako sa pag d-drive. I started feeling off nung nagkaroon ng still traffic na medyo matagal so i tried applying exactly yung tinuro sakin ng una kong instructor na pag still ang traffic, mag neutral. Nung nagkambyo ako bigla niya akong pinagalitan?? Sabi niya "May sinabi ba akong galawin mo yan?" so sabe ko ito kasi tinuro sakin last time pero di niya pinansin and said "Yung iba diyan nagpapakahirap na nakaapak lang tas ikaw mag n-neutral ka?" He ranted for like a good minute or two and I was just confused kasi di ko gets point niya huhu pero diyan na nag start talaga.

May one time na nagpapabagal siya and binabagalan ko naman and parang di siya satisfied so paulit ulit niya ko sinasabihan ng "magbagal, magbagal, MAGBAGAL!" Tas palakas ng palakas boses niya. The more I make mistakes, the more he gets mad. Then may mga sinasabi na "Pag nabunggo mo to, babayaran mo to" mga ganon tas may mga sarcastic comments siya along the lines with matching fake laugh something like "wala na patay ka na" "wala na patay na si ate" (pertaining sa pedestrian sa labas kahit ang layo ko naman sakanila), "di ka nga natuturuan ng tatay mo mag drive" tapos puro pa siya phone :)))))

then at one point bigla siya nag rant about my first instructor "itong si (first instructor) di nagrereply, dapat hindi ka muna pinagdrive eh" nasa isip ko nasa emergency yung tao tas ginugulo mo??? Bukod sa di niya tinapos yung 4 hours, di pa ko tinuruan mag park??? I went home crushed and discouraged. Di naman ako nagbayad para tratuhin ng ganun.

Then a week later, napakwento ako sa best friend ko and nagulat din siya and nahiya na rin siguro kasi siya yung nag reco. My friend insisted na ireport niya and she did kahit ayaw ko hahaha tas inofferan ako ng school ng another free PDC course pero I declined kasi ayoko na talaga so sabi ko kukunin ko na lang completion certificate ko and more practice na lang before getting a license. Ang ending, friends ko nagturo sakin mag park and natuto ako in less than 30 minutes.

Weeks later medyo nag overthink ako na baka nga OA lang ako and di ko parin nakukuha certificate kasi nahihiya ako magpakita kasi for sure pinagchismisan nako hahahaha di ko tuloy alam kung dapat bang nag report ako :((((