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I have a friend that always makes comments on things I do. Specifically, when it comes to my dating life. Anytime I say I think a guy is cute, unless she thinks he’s actually cute, she’ll always make a face (to imply she thinks hes ugly). Even when I’ve briefly dated a guy she’ll say he’s ugly or I can do better. I have suffered from self esteem related issues, so I kind of have a habit of shooting lower attraction wise, but I still think the unsolicited option thing is not cool.

Over the years, this has kind of caused me to always ask if she thinks someone is ugly or not out of fear that I can’t make good decisions regarding the physical appearance or the guy I date.

Last night for example, I went “oh that guy is cute” while as he walked past us across the street. She then makes a face indicating he’s questionably ugly and I ask her if she thinks hes ugly. She tells me that it doesn’t matter what she thinks and that I need to think more for myself. She’s right, but im confused as to why does she continues to make these comments and faces regarding the people I like or date, just to tell me I need to not respond to what she thinks.

Also, if I were to do the same to her, she would quickly become annoyed or upset. And I mean there are guys she’s dated or had as a boyfriend in the past I thought weren’t cute, but I never said that to her because it’s her decision and not my place to make that comment.

Just stop telling her anything? AIO?

I have a friend that always makes comments on things I do. Specifically, when it comes to my dating life. Anytime I say I think a guy is cute, unless she thinks he’s actually cute, she’ll always make a face (to imply she thinks hes ugly). Even when I’ve briefly dated a guy she’ll say he’s ugly or I can do better. I have suffered from self esteem related issues, so I kind of have a habit of shooting lower attraction wise, but I still think the unsolicited option thing is not cool.

Over the years, this has kind of caused me to always ask if she thinks someone is ugly or not out of fear that I can’t make good decisions regarding the physical appearance or the guy I date.

Last night for example, I went “oh that guy is cute.” She then makes a face indicating he’s questionable and I ask her if she thinks hes ugly. She tells me that it doesn’t matter what she thinks and that I need to think more for myself. She’s right, but why does she continue to make these comments and faces regarding the people I like or date, just to tell me I need to not respond to what she thinks.

Also, if I were to do the same to her, she would quickly become annoyed or upset. And I mean there are guys she’s dated or had as a boyfriend in the past I thought weren’t cute, but I never said that to her because it’s her decision and not my place to make that comment.

Am I crazy for being confused? Just stop telling her anything? AIO?

I have a friend that always makes comments on things I do. Specifically, when it comes to my dating life. Anytime I say I think a guy is cute, unless she thinks he’s actually cute, she’ll always make a face (to imply she thinks hes ugly). Even when I’ve briefly dated a guy she’ll say he’s ugly or I can do better. I have suffered from self esteem related issues, so I kind of have a habit of shooting lower attraction wise.

Over the years, this has kind of caused me to always ask if she thinks someone is ugly or not out of fear that I can’t make good decisions regarding the physical appearance or the guy I date.

Last night for example, I went “oh that guy is cute.” She then makes a face indicating he’s questionable and I ask her if she thinks hes ugly. She tells me that it doesn’t matter what she thinks and that I need to think more for myself. She’s right, but why does she continue to make these comments and faces regarding the people I like or date, just to tell me I need to not respond to what she thinks.

Am I crazy for being confused? Just stop telling her anything?

I have a friend that always makes comments on things I do. Specifically, when it comes to my dating life. Anytime I say I think a guy is cute, unless she thinks he’s actually cute, she’ll always make a face (to imply she thinks hes ugly). Even when I’ve briefly dated a guy she’ll say he’s ugly or I can do better. I have suffered from self esteem related issues, so I kind of have a habit of shooting lower attraction wise.

Over the years, this has kind of caused me to always ask if she thinks someone is ugly or not out of fear that I can’t make good decisions regarding the physical appearance or the guy I date.

Last night for example, I went “oh that guy is cute.” She then makes a face indicating he’s questionable and I ask her if she thinks hes ugly. She tells me that it doesn’t matter what she thinks and that I need to think more for myself. She’s right, but why does she continue to make these comments and faces regarding the people I like or date, just to tell me I need to not respond to what she thinks.

Am I crazy for being confused? Just stop telling her anything?

Waist grabbing and eye contact. Should I act on these two signs alone?

So a few days ago, I 23F went to play kickball and I remember this guy that kept starring at me across the field. We were kind of playing eye tag across the field at one point. We’ve played together twice on two separate days. When we would run at the same time (me trying to get away from him), we would collide a bit and each time he’s either put his hand on my lower back/waist a little and kinda of kept me up. I remember one time he saved me from falling and almost picked me up a little bit before I could hit the ground with both hands around my waist (kind of like a hug, but from behind and in the waist/stomach area). No one else does this or has done this. We just usually let each other fall and then offer a hand up.

The age ranges on my kickball team and other teams are pretty wide and he looks like he could be in his 20s, but idk. And I never got a chance to check out his hands to see if there was a ring or not.

Is this enough to act on, is he just being a good sport, or wait and gather more info?

I know this will vary and flirting is subjective, but I keep being told by other people that I suck at being responsive to flirting. I just don’t pick up on it until afterwards and realize I missed an opportunity.

So, for the men, what are the most obvious tell tale signs you’re flirting with a woman? Since I’m in my 20s I’d ideally like for guys in the same age group to respond (since I know each generation has their own approach lol), but feel free to respond even if you’re not!

I know this will vary and flirting is subjective, but I keep being told by other people that I suck at being responsive to flirting. I just don’t pick up on it until afterwards and realize I missed an opportunity.

So, for the men, what are the most obvious tell tale signs you’re flirting with a woman? Since I’m in my 20s I’d ideally like for guys in the same age group to respond (since I know each generation has their own approach lol), but feel free to respond even if you’re not!

Basically the title. I’ve (23F) gone on dates a handful of times, but I’ve never had a bf or been intimate before. On paper, it’s not really a big deal, but I’m starting to think that maybe I should kind of give up to alleviate the pressure and loneliness that it’s causing me. I have great friends and familial relationships, but I guess it’s just the romantic aspect of things I yearn for.

I have hobbies, which are language classes, trying new coffee shops, and coed soccer. I’ve been flirted with there (sports) before, but I always realize that I’m being flirted with after it’s too late and I can’t make a move. Usually never see the guy again since they drop in and then there are some regulars I see frequently that I’m on a name to name basis with now. I also have a slight fear of shitting where I eat basically.

I really enjoy these hobbies, but I’m afraid that if I start dating guys who also go to these hobbies that things could go south and then it’s uncomfortable. I understand that people meet others to date at hobbies, but I don’t want to make my hobbies an IRL version of dating apps.

Do I just stop focusing on or decenter dating altogether to help ease the pressure of feeling behind? Do I have a bad approach? Am I doing anything wrong?

Basically the title. I’ve (23F) gone on dates a handful of times, but I’ve never had a bf or been intimate before. On paper, it’s not really a big deal, but I’m starting to think that maybe I should kind of give up to alleviate the pressure and loneliness that it’s causing me. I have great friends and familial relationships, but I guess it’s just the romantic aspect of things I yearn for.

I have hobbies, which are language classes, trying new coffee shops, and coed soccer. I’ve been flirted with there (sports) before, but I always realize that I’m being flirted with after it’s too late and I can’t make a move. Usually never see the guy again since they drop in and then there are some regulars I see frequently that I’m on a name to name basis with now. I also have a slight fear of shitting where I eat basically.

I really enjoy these hobbies, but I’m afraid that if I start dating guys who also go to these hobbies that things could go south and then it’s uncomfortable. I understand that people meet others to date at hobbies, but I don’t want to make my hobbies an IRL version of dating apps.

Do I just stop focusing on or decenter dating altogether to help ease the pressure of feeling behind? Do I have a bad approach? Am I doing anything wrong?

Basically the title. I’ve (23F) gone on dates a handful of times, but I’ve never had a bf or been intimate before. On paper, it’s not really a big deal, but I’m starting to think that maybe I should kind of give up to alleviate the pressure and loneliness that it’s causing me. I have great friends and familial relationships, but I guess it’s just the romantic aspect of things I yearn for.

I have hobbies, which are language classes, trying new coffee shops, and coed soccer. I’ve been flirted with there (sports) before, but I always realize that I’m being flirted with after it’s too late and I can’t make a move. Usually never see the guy again since they drop in and then there are some regulars I see frequently that I’m on a name to name basis with now. I also have a slight fear of shitting where I eat basically.

I really enjoy these hobbies, but I’m afraid that if I start dating guys who also go to these hobbies that things could go south and then it’s uncomfortable. I understand that people meet others to date at hobbies, but I don’t want to make my hobbies an IRL version of dating apps.

Do I just stop focusing on or decenter dating altogether to help ease the pressure of feeling behind? Do I have a bad approach? Am I doing anything wrong?

Yesterday, I went to play a pickup soccer game and this guy on the field randomly asks me about the necklace I’m wearing (basic heart locket). He goes “oh I thought you were from my country since we have a similar necklace/pendant.” I ask him what country he’s from and he says Spain.

Fast forward, we switch teams and my team is playing against his. He keeps talking to me while we are playing and says “sorry I didn’t mean to be rude. I meant to ask you where you were from, but I didn’t want to get in your way (I was walking to the other field). We keep playing and he’s asking me where I’m from, how long I’ve been in the state, etc.

During the game he passes me the ball to help me score a goal for my team. I almost get it in and he goes “I tried to help you! And he says “You have a good foot on you.” Mind you, he’s playing for the other team, not mine lol. I say thank you and laugh.

Finally, it’s time for us to switch teams again and as we are walking off the field to get water her goes “man I need your skincare routine. You’re glistening!! I really need that skincare routine (while smiling).” After this I realized he was flirting with me.

I lingered on the field and talked to a few people and I didn’t see him, but then as I’m walking to my car and get in, I see him outside of his car kinda hanging out. The problem is: I’m already driving away, so it would be awkward to hop out of my car to go talk to him.

I knowwww I should have just did it. I’m so mad at myself. There is technically one way I can try and find him, but it’s a little embarrassing. I’d have to individually message like 4 guys with Spanish sounding last names to see if they’re him on the pickup soccer app we have. It tells you who went, but no profile pics. Should I do it or just take my loss for the day? I’ve never seen him play before, so I don’t know how long until I’ll see him again? Too desperate? 😭

Basically the title. At this point I think there’s actually something wrong with me.

Today, I went to play a pickup soccer game and this guy on the field randomly asks me about the necklace I’m wearing (basic heart locket). He goes “oh I thought you were from my country since we have a similar necklace/pendant.” I ask him what country he’s from and he says Spain.

Fast forward, we switch teams and my team is playing against his. He keeps talking to me while we are playing and says “sorry I didn’t mean to be rude. I meant to ask you where you were from, but I didn’t want to get in your way (I was walking to the other field). We keep playing and he’s asking me where I’m from, how long I’ve been in the state, etc.

During the game he passes me the ball to help me score a goal for my team. I almost get it in and he goes “I tried to help you! And he says “You have a good foot on you.” Mind you, he’s playing for the other team, not mine lol. I say thank you and laugh.

Finally, it’s time for us to switch teams again and as we are walking off the field to get water her goes “man I need your skincare routine. You’re glistening!! I really need that skincare routine (while smiling).” After this I realized he was flirting with me.

I lingered on the field and talked to a few people and I didn’t see him, but then as I’m walking to my car and get in, I see him outside of his car kinda hanging out. The problem is: I’m already driving away, so it would be awkward to hop out of my car to go talk to him.

I knowwww I should have just did it. I’m so mad at myself. There is technically one way I can try and find him, but it’s a little embarrassing. I’d have to individually message like 4 guys with Spanish sounding last names to see if they’re him on the pickup soccer app we have. It tells you who went, but no profile pics. Should I do it or just take my loss for the day? I’ve never seen him play before, so I don’t know how long until I’ll see him again? Too desperate? 😭

WHY DO I KEEP FUMBLING MY GOD 😭

How can I start realizing I’m the moment I’m being flirted with vs after the fact? Advice?

Basically the title. At this point I think there’s actually something wrong with me.

Today, I went to play a pickup soccer game and this guy on the field randomly asks me about the necklace I’m wearing (basic heart locket). He goes “oh I thought you were from my country since we have a similar necklace/pendant.” I ask him what country he’s from and he says Spain.

Fast forward, we switch teams and my team is playing against his. He keeps talking to me while we are playing and says “sorry I didn’t mean to be rude. I meant to ask you where you were from, but I didn’t want to get in your way (I was walking to the other field). We keep playing and he’s asking me where I’m from, how long I’ve been in the state, etc.

During the game he passes me the ball to help me score a goal for my team. I almost get it in and he goes “I tried to help you! And he says “You have a good foot on you.” Mind you, he’s playing for the other team, not mine lol. I say thank you and laugh.

Finally, it’s time for us to switch teams again and as we are walking off the field to get water her goes “man I need your skincare routine. You’re glistening!! I really need that skincare routine (while smiling).” After this I realized he was flirting with me.

I lingered on the field and talked to a few people and I didn’t see him, but then as I’m walking to my car and get in, I see him outside of his car kinda hanging out. The problem is: I’m already driving away, so it would be awkward to hop out of my car to go talk to him.

I knowwww I should have just did it. I’m so mad at myself. There is technically one way I can try and find him, but it’s a little embarrassing. I’d have to individually message like 4 guys with Spanish sounding last names to see if they’re him on the pickup soccer app we have. It tells you who went, but no profile pics. Should I do it or just take my loss for the day? I’ve never seen him play before, so I don’t know how long until I’ll see him again? Too desperate? 😭

WHY DO I KEEP FUMBLING MY GOD 😭

How can I start realizing I’m the moment I’m being flirted with vs after the fact? Advice?

So for background, I have a friend group of three. I’ve been friends with the both of them for 7 years and they’ve been friends for about 10. With one friend in particular, I’m starting to feel like maybe our 1-1 friendship is balanced.

So starting last year, I graduated from college and to celebrate, my parents offered to pay for mine and my friends flights and hotel to go to another state to see my aunt who was going to be showing us around the city and celebrating my graduation. Let’s call one friend, friend A (the one who I feel like our relationship is unbalanced) and the other friend B. During that time, friend A was almost avoiding answering definitively whether or not she could come and my parents needed to know if they could go ahead and purchase two tickets or three since friend B confirmed she was coming.

Right before the trip, friend A says she can’t go and I understood. Later she cited that she couldn’t afford to go, but my aunt paid for any expensive dinners (only 1), my dad paid for flights and hotel, and all other expenses are just anything we bought individually at the mall or coffee. I still respect her decision because you never know where someone is at financially and I just want to be a good friend.

Fast forward to her birthday, friend B and I both took the day off of work to hang out with her and we took her to two coffee shops, a fall festival, dinner, and a few other boutique shops. I spent around $150 on her birthday. I don’t care about the money, but it’s something to keep in mind when I explain what we did for my birthday.

For my birthday, Friend B and I hung out after she got off of work, but friend A had work, which I understand. She said happy birthday via text, but that’s the full extent of how my birthday was celebrated. No plans or anything. I’m not big on spending money for my birthday, but it would have been nice to have a group hangout initiated like for their birthdays

For friend B’s birthday, friend A took off of work for two days, she made sure to get her a whole cake, decorated their apartment, got her a few gifts, etc. When we took friend B to brunch, normally for birthdays two of us split the cost of going out to eat and the birthday person doesn’t pay, but this day, when the waiter came and asked how we wanted to split the check, she goes “I’ll pay for mine and hers (Friend B)”, and I just paid for my own tab.

Now that she’s graduating this year from college, her parents are having a grad dinner at a steakhouse in the city. Friend B texts me and asks if I’m working on the day of Friend A’s dinner and if I wanted to come. I do work and I was willing to drive into the city after to go to her dinner, but now that I’m thinking about it, I’m unsure. Not sure if I’m being dramatic, but I don’t really get why Friend A didn’t ask me directly instead of through friend B.

Does this seem like an unequal friendship? Am I being dramatic?

So for background, I 23F have a friend group of three. I’ve been friends with the both of them for 7 years and they’ve been friends for about 10. With one friend in particular, I’m starting to feel like maybe our 1-1 friendship is balanced.

So starting last year, I graduated from college and to celebrate, my parents offered to pay for mine and my friends flights and hotel to go to another nearby state to see my aunt who was going to be showing us around the city and celebrating my graduation. My parents are not rich by any means (they live below their means, save a lot, we live in a rural part of our state, I stayed home for college and drove rather than stay on campus to save money, and we’ve never gone on vacation for perspective). It was just their gift to me for finishing college.

Let’s call one friend, friend A (the one who I feel like our relationship is unbalanced) and the other friend B. During that time, friend A was almost avoiding answering definitively whether or not she could come and my parents needed to know if they could go ahead and purchase two tickets or three since friend B confirmed she was coming.

Right before the trip, friend A says she can’t go and I understood. Later she cited that she couldn’t afford to go, but my aunt paid for any expensive dinners (only 1), my dad paid for flights and hotel, and all other expenses are just anything we bought individually at the mall or coffee. I still respect her decision because you never know where someone is at financially and I just want to be a good friend.

Fast forward to her birthday, friend B and I both took the day off of work to hang out with her and we took her to two coffee shops, a fall festival, dinner, and a few other boutique shops. I spent around $150 on her birthday. I don’t care about the money, but it’s something to keep in mind when I explain what we did for my birthday.

For my birthday, Friend B and I hung out after she got off of work, but friend A had work, which I understand. She said happy birthday via text, but that’s the full extent of how my birthday was celebrated. No plans or anything. I’m not big on spending money for my birthday, but it would have been nice to have a group hangout initiated like for their birthdays

For friend B’s birthday, friend A took off of work for two days, she made sure to get her a whole cake, decorated their apartment, got her a few gifts, etc. When we took friend B to brunch, normally for birthdays two of us split the cost of going out to eat and the birthday person doesn’t pay, but this day, when the waiter came and asked how we wanted to split the check, she goes “I’ll pay for mine and hers (Friend B)”, and I just paid for my own tab.

Now that she’s graduating this year from college, her parents are having a grad dinner at a steakhouse in the city. Friend B texts me and asks if I’m working on the day of Friend A’s dinner and if I wanted to come. I do work and I was willing to drive into the city after to go to her dinner, but now that I’m thinking about it, I’m unsure. Not sure if I’m being dramatic, but I don’t really get why Friend A didn’t ask me directly instead of through friend B.

Does this seem like an unequal friendship? Am I being dramatic? Should I even go to the dinner if friend A hasn’t mentioned anything to me about it and I found out through friend B? What would you all do?

Is my longterm friendship unbalanced? Should I not go to her graduation dinner?

So for background, I have a friend group of three. I’ve been friends with the both of them for 7 years and they’ve been friends for about 10. With one friend in particular, I’m starting to feel like maybe our 1-1 friendship is balanced.

So starting last year, I graduated from college and to celebrate, my parents offered to pay for mine and my friends flights and hotel to go to another state to see my aunt who was going to be showing us around the city and celebrating my graduation. Let’s call one friend, friend A (the one who I feel like our relationship is unbalanced) and the other friend B. During that time, friend A was almost avoiding answering definitively whether or not she could come and my parents needed to know if they could go ahead and purchase two tickets or three since friend B confirmed she was coming.

Right before the trip, friend A says she can’t go and I understood. Later she cited that she couldn’t afford to go, but my aunt paid for any expensive dinners (only 1), my dad paid for flights and hotel, and all other expenses are just anything we bought individually at the mall or coffee. I still respect her decision because you never know where someone is at financially and I just want to be a good friend.

Fast forward to her birthday, friend B and I both took the day off of work to hang out with her and we took her to two coffee shops, a fall festival, dinner, and a few other boutique shops. I spent around $150 on her birthday. I don’t care about the money, but it’s something to keep in mind when I explain what we did for my birthday.

For my birthday, Friend B and I hung out after she got off of work, but friend A had work, which I understand. She said happy birthday via text, but that’s the full extent of how my birthday was celebrated. No plans or anything. I’m not big on spending money for my birthday, but it would have been nice to have a group hangout initiated like for their birthdays

For friend B’s birthday, friend A took off of work for two days, she made sure to get her a whole cake, decorated their apartment, got her a few gifts, etc. When we took friend B to brunch, normally for birthdays two of us split the cost of going out to eat and the birthday person doesn’t pay, but this day, when the waiter came and asked how we wanted to split the check, she goes “I’ll pay for mine and hers (Friend B)”, and I just paid for my own tab.

Now that she’s graduating this year from college, her parents are having a grad dinner at a steakhouse in the city. Friend B texts me and asks if I’m working on the day of Friend A’s dinner and if I wanted to come. I do work and I was willing to drive into the city after to go to her dinner, but now that I’m thinking about it, I’m unsure. Not sure if I’m being dramatic, but I don’t really get why Friend A didn’t ask me directly instead of through friend B.

AITAH? Does this seem like an unequal friendship? Should I even go to the dinner if friend A hasn’t mentioned anything to me about it and I found out through friend B? What would you all do?

So for background, I have a friend group of three. I’ve been friends with the both of them for 7 years and they’ve been friends for about 10. With one friend in particular, I’m starting to feel like maybe our 1-1 friendship is balanced.

So starting last year, I graduated from college and to celebrate, my parents offered to pay for mine and my friends flights and hotel to go to another state to see my aunt who was going to be showing us around the city and celebrating my graduation. Let’s call one friend, friend A (the one who I feel like our relationship is unbalanced) and the other friend B. During that time, friend A was almost avoiding answering definitively whether or not she could come and my parents needed to know if they could go ahead and purchase two tickets or three since friend B confirmed she was coming.

Right before the trip, friend A says she can’t go and I understood. Later she cited that she couldn’t afford to go, but my aunt paid for any expensive dinners (only 1), my dad paid for flights and hotel, and all other expenses are just anything we bought individually at the mall or coffee. I still respect her decision because you never know where someone is at financially and I just want to be a good friend.

Fast forward to her birthday, friend B and I both took the day off of work to hang out with her and we took her to two coffee shops, a fall festival, dinner, and a few other boutique shops. I spent around $150 on her birthday. I don’t care about the money, but it’s something to keep in mind when I explain what we did for my birthday.

For my birthday, Friend B and I hung out after she got off of work, but friend A had work, which I understand. She said happy birthday via text, but that’s the full extent of how my birthday was celebrated. No plans or anything. I’m not big on spending money for my birthday, but it would have been nice to have a group hangout initiated like for their birthdays

For friend B’s birthday, friend A took off of work for two days, she made sure to get her a whole cake, decorated their apartment, got her a few gifts, etc. When we took friend B to brunch, normally for birthdays two of us split the cost of going out to eat and the birthday person doesn’t pay, but this day, when the waiter came and asked how we wanted to split the check, she goes “I’ll pay for mine and hers (Friend B)”, and I just paid for my own tab.

Now that she’s graduating this year from college, her parents are having a grad dinner at a steakhouse in the city. Friend B texts me and asks if I’m working on the day of Friend A’s dinner and if I wanted to come. I do work and I was willing to drive into the city after to go to her dinner, but now that I’m thinking about it, I’m unsure. Not sure if I’m being dramatic, but I don’t really get why Friend A didn’t ask me directly instead of through friend B.

Does this seem like an unequal friendship? Am I being dramatic? Should I even go to the dinner if friend A hasn’t mentioned anything to me about it and I found out through friend B? What would you all do?

There’s a guy who introduced himself to me last week and I think he’s cute. Only problem I have with asking him out is that I know I’m going to have to continue to see him if I ask him out and he says no. This is totally fine and I’m okay with rejection, but I’m wondering if the proximity after the fact could make things awkward. Or if he’s an asshole and tells everyone else.

Should I give it more time to feel things out? See if there’s any chemistry?

I’m not saying I won’t, but I’d like to proceed with caution. Do any of you have any stories of asking a girl out from a hobby you share? What happened? Would you do it again, why or why not?

So I went to a post hobby meet up yesterday night. We all met at a local bar and sat and talked for about 2-3 hours. The guy I ended up sitting next to went to get an extra chair and pulled out a chair for me to sit. I ended up forgetting my drivers license at home, so I got a non alcoholic drink. He asked me what I head having and I told him and he offered to get me a drink. I accepted and we talked on and off and with everyone else we were sitting with for the rest of the time at the bar. He was having a beer and I’ve never had beer before since I’m not much of a drinker , so I asked him what it taste like and he said I could take a sip out of his drink. I drank a little and then I asked him a few more beer related questions just to be engaging and keep the convo going.

He smelled really good and I wanted to tell him that to try and show interest, but I didn’t know if that would be weird lmao. My friend said I should have said it, but of course, my nerves got the best of me.

This is where I messed up. As we are all getting up and saying good night, I go to tell him thank you again for the drink and that I really appreciated it. He said it was no big deal at all as he put his hand on my shoulder maybe 2 second and sigh…..I fist bumped him since everyone was doing it to each other as they left.

I feel so bad and wimpy for not going for it and my friend told me I was being super oblivious and that it was obvious that he wouldn’t have a gf or say not to me giving him my number.

Thankfully, I see him again in two weeks when our group restarts or sooner if I go to a match and he’s also playing this weekend.

What do you guys think? Was I being oblivious or was he being nice? Can I still make it known that I like him the next time I see him or did I fully fumble?