How do I tell people I don't like talking about my weight loss without coming across as an ungrateful jerk?
People like my m40 weight loss. They spent over 25 years telling me how much they... how much I wanted to lose it, and now that I've lost 150 lbs for them... for myself they love telling me about it.
Strangers and acquaintances [I've never been close to anyone in my life tbh so all i have are strangers and acquaintances] come up to me constantly and tell me how much they approve of me changing my body to something less ugly... that they are pleased with how I've improved my health.
I'm not good with people, I'm so bad with people that pretty much all the nice things ever said about me in my life have been about me losing weight for other people... i mean for myself, how I come to work and obey because I don't feel like being yelled at for failing to do so... i mean having good work ethic, being the slave of a photogenic cat, and other acts of obedience. So when they say they approve of my body being less of an eyesore for their approval, I mostly just stammer out something like "Uh I guess." Or "Weight loss is easy." Or "Its no big deal."
I know I'm supposed to thank them and tell them how much I love weight loss, but I don't. I'm not here to convince you I don't love it, ive been trying for a quarter century to say no and the past 2 years to say I hate this, and no one has been stupid enough to believe me or fall for my BA: everyone loves weight loss, the Science is settled, it is known. I know that saying anything negative about my weight loss journey will only get me dirty looks. Im only doing it in hopes one day being less ugly and eventually learning how to act right and fake being normal I might finally be well liked enougglh someone i can talk to who isnt too clever to believe a word I say when it isnt what they expect me to say. Im not expecting it to work.
But I'm only doing this to get people to like me, you're too smart to believe this I know reader, its a secret I'll take to my grave but I hate wasting time and effort doing something that doesn't benefit me except I can touch my toes and sometimes shop for clothes at a store. Its not worth it but I know that saying that will just sabotage myself, as they tell me kneejerk to get therapy so I will love weight loss. Everyone loves their health thats why everyone is healthy, I just need a therapist to fix me, clearly. I'm getting better at keeping this to myself.
So the question is, what do I tell people when they want to inform me that my body changes please and amuse them without thanking them for their moral support or coming across as an ingrate for not smiling and thanking them for their unwanted moral support?