Should I invite more people?
Initially we were only going to invite our parents and siblings (12 people), but later my partner realised he also wants to invite some aunts who are very important to him. When we discussed it beforehand, I said he can of course invite them, because it fits within our budget, and we should also invite the family of his aunts (his uncles and cousins).
We will have a short ceremony at the city council and dinner after.
We could afford to invite up to 50 people, but right now we’re only at 20 (including his aunts, uncles and 2 cousins). He says I should also invite more of my family because we can still invite 30 more people.
However, I already told my extended family that we were only inviting our parents and siblings. I’m afraid that if I tell them that my partner’s aunts, uncles and cousins are invited after all, my family might feel offended. And if I only invite some of them, the rest will be offended for sure. My partner comes from a small family, but my side of the family is 60 people.
We could spend less on other things (like change the location) to make room in the budget for my entire family, but if I'm honest I don't want to. I wanted a microwedding, and there are a couple of people in my family I would rather not have there. And even if I only invite the people in my family that I feel close with, it would be more than 50 people. I can't pick 30 "favourites", I love spending time with all of them, just not all at the same time.
Is it rude towards my aunts, uncles and cousins if I don't invite them, even though my partner invited his? Would they feel excluded and hurt?