Abandonment by FP

I screwed up.

I had finally found my safe person, someone who accepted me as I am. Nothing to hide, nothing to mask. And then an incident happened and I screwed up.

Yes, she was at fault as well, but I needed her more. I was fine being a tool she used as long as I got some care from her. I should have thought it through before reacting. I've been able to control such behaviors in the recent past, but this time I could not.

I could not fix it. Apologies, repentance would not fix it.

It's been 24 hours. I've been cutting myself. It helps.

I truly am a man unworthy of being accepted or cared for. The sad part is she was the one I could talk to when I was spiraling. Now she's not there.


In retrospect, the equation only worked when I had my BPD symptoms under control. No human can possibly handle my BPD symptoms.

I had a rule that I would never call her. It had to be her to call me. I did not want to be clingy, needy etc. It worked.

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u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 8 days ago

We're doing a small mental health support circle in Rose Garden this Sunday. Care to join?

This Sunday Quiet the Noise is hosting a mental wellness discussion. We'll be discussing The Art of Setting Boundaries

Many people know they need boundaries, but they struggle with the guilt of actually enforcing them.

Some of the questions we'll explore:

  • How do Porous, Rigid and Healthy boundaries differ from each other?
  • What are the six types of boundaries?
  • How do use assertive language when setting up boundaries?
  • How to handle the guilt after saying "no"?

It'll be casual. It'll be safe and inclusive. It's just a group of people sitting around and chatting in the beautiful Rose Garden. We're here to listen, not fix or advise, and we're grateful to be a part of your lived experience.

  • Date: Sunday, 9 August 2026
  • Time: 6:00 PM
  • Location: Rose Garden, Sector 16, Chandigarh
  • Eligibility: Anyone aged 18+

Register: https://chd.lol/mental-health-meetup

WhatsApp Group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/E4jSLY710uQ476FhHgmI9d

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u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 15 days ago

We're doing a small mental health support circle in Rose Garden this Sunday. Care to join?

This Sunday Quiet the Noise is hosting a mental wellness discussion. We'll be discussing The Art of Setting Boundaries

Many people know they need boundaries, but they struggle with the guilt of actually enforcing them.

Some of the questions we'll explore: • How do Porous, Rigid and Healthy boundaries differ from each other? • What are the six types of boundaries? • How do use assertive language when setting up boundaries? • How to handle the guilt after saying "no"?

It'll be casual. It'll be safe and inclusive. It's just a group of people sitting around and chatting in the beautiful Rose Garden. We're here to listen, not fix or advise, and we're grateful to be a part of your lived experience.

  • Date: Sunday, 9 August 2026
  • Time: 6:00 PM
  • Location: Rose Garden, Sector 16, Chandigarh
  • Eligibility: Anyone aged 18+

Register: https://chd.lol/mental-health-meetup

WhatsApp Group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/E4jSLY710uQ476FhHgmI9d

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 15 days ago
▲ 12 r/Panchkula+1 crossposts

Mental health meetup today at Rose Garden, Chandigarh

We're hosting a mental wellness discussion today at Rose Garden, Chandigarh at 6pm.

It'll be 5-10 people, discussing their daily mental health challenges in a safe space. We usually begin with a round of introductions followed by a retrospective overview of how the last week was.

The meetup is informal, non-judgemental and inclusive.

You can register for the meetup at https://chd.lol/mental-health-meetup.

Date: Sunday, 2 August 2026

Time: 6:00 PM

Location: Rose Garden, Sector 16, Chandigarh

Eligibility: Anyone aged 18+

💬 WhatsApp Group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/E4jSLY710uQ476FhHgmI9d

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 19 days ago

[Meetup] Less than 24 hours left. A small mental wellness meetup in Chandigarh (5–10 people)

This Saturday we're hosting a mental wellness discussion. We'll be discussing daily life stressors.

Life can get noisy. Work, relationships, uncertainty, expectations, loneliness, overthinking — sometimes it all piles up quietly. Most of us carry more than people realize.

Some of the questions we'll explore:

  • What has been taking up most of your mental space lately?
  • What drains your energy without you realizing it?
  • What's one thing you've been carrying quietly?
  • What's something you wish people asked instead of "How are you?"

Date: Saturday, 25 July 2026

Time: 7:00 PM

Location: Sector 17, Chandigarh (Exact spot shared with registered participants)

Group Size: Limited to 5–10 people max (To ensure everyone feels safe and heard)

Eligibility: Anyone aged 18+

Price: FREE

👉 Register: https://chd.lol/mental-health-meetup

💬 Whatsapp Group for further updates: https://chat.whatsapp.com/E4jSLY710uQ476FhHgmI9d

Disclaimer: This is not therapy, or a professional service. It's just a bunch of people gathering to discuss lived experiences.

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 28 days ago
▲ 27 r/BPDrecovery+1 crossposts

I've been stuck in a BPD episode for weeks

FYI: I'm a man and I understand male BPD is quite different from female BPD. I don;t know if this will resonate with everyone.

That being said, all over these years I've been trying to find people who'd listen, empathize with what I was going through.

Friend 1: "I'm not your therapist. Get your shit together"

Friend 2: "I don't want your death on my conscience"

Friend 3: Straight up ghosted me

It's bloody tough. And I understand we're too much to handle for normal people. We need constant support, re-assurances, care.

I've kinda ODed last week. Woke up a day later.

Everybody suggests building a peer support group. I tried that in the past and I left midway when I was splitting.

I'm trying it again. I've called it trauma support because BPD begins with childhood trauma apart from minor genetic factors

This time I want a bunch of other people who admin the group in case I take break.

I hope we can help each other as sounding boards. We can become active listeners to anyone who;s in pain.

I took 4mg clonazepam, and it isn't helping.

It's not a marketing ad. It's a desperate plea. I do not want to be in this space again.

https://chat.whatsapp.com/KMQBYVYQa97G4tJ9ddg2xd

PS: I just want to drink myself senseless. I wish I could. I don't want to feel all this.

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u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 29 days ago
▲ 3 r/Panchkula+1 crossposts

[Meetup] How have you been doing lately?

This Saturday Quiet the Noise is hosting a mental wellness discussion. We'll be discussing daily life stressors.

Life can get noisy. Work, relationships, uncertainty, expectations, loneliness, overthinking — sometimes it all piles up quietly. Most of us carry more than people realize.

Some of the questions we'll explore:

  • What has been taking up most of your mental space lately?
  • What drains your energy without you realizing it?
  • What's one thing you've been carrying quietly?
  • What's something you wish people asked instead of "How are you?"

Date: Saturday, 11 July 2026

Time: 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM (2 Hours)

Location: Sector 17, Chandigarh (Exact spot shared with registered participants)

Group Size: Limited to 5–10 people max (To ensure everyone feels safe and heard)

Eligibility: Anyone aged 18+

Price: FREE

👉 Register: https://chd.lol/mental-health-meetup

💬 Whatsapp Group for further updates: https://chat.whatsapp.com/E4jSLY710uQ476FhHgmI9d

Disclaimer: This is not therapy, or a professional service. It's just a bunch of people gathering to discuss lived experiences.

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 1 month ago
▲ 693 r/unapologetic_outcaste+4 crossposts

All signs of backwardness combined in one person

Castiesm orthodoxy misogny hatred all combined

Remember genz/genalpha outcastes if you ever encountered such professors/teachers don't argue with them just score good marks and move out of india

As arguing with teachers always ends up bad for students in india

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 2 months ago
▲ 6 r/Chandigarhfriends+2 crossposts

[Meetup] Do you ever replay conversations in your head for days?

Do you ever feel like your mind gets stuck on the same thought?

You replay a conversation from three days ago.

You wonder whether you said the wrong thing.

You imagine every possible outcome of something that hasn't even happened yet.

You tell yourself you're "just thinking it through," but somehow an hour has passed and you're still going in circles.

Psychologists call this rumination—when our minds keep returning to the same thoughts without moving us any closer to an answer.

The difficult part is that rumination often starts with good intentions. Our brains are trying to protect us: understand what happened, avoid future mistakes, or prepare for uncertainty. But instead of finding clarity, we often end up feeling more anxious, more self-critical, and more exhausted.


This Sunday, we're hosting a small meetup to explore ruminations — why our minds get stuck in loops, and how we can relate to those thoughts with a little more understanding and a little less struggle.

Date: Sunday, 5 July 2026

Time: 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM (2 Hours)

Location: Rose Garden, Sector 16, Chandigarh (Exact spot shared with registered participants)

Group Size: Limited to 5–10 people max (To ensure everyone feels safe and heard)

Eligibility: Anyone aged 18+

Price: FREE

👉 Register: https://chd.lol/mental-health-meetup

💬 Whatsapp Group for further upadtes: https://chat.whatsapp.com/E4jSLY710uQ476FhHgmI9d?mode=gi_t

Disclaimer: This is not therapy, or a professional service. It's just a bunch of people gathering to discuss lived experiences

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 2 months ago

I haz BPD. I needed support. So I created a group

I've been battling BPD for over 10 years now. One attempt.

I'm going through a tough time, and for the lack of therapy options, I created a whatsapp group.

I just needed to vent, to be heard. So I do the same thing for everyone in the group - having an episode? Call me and vent, cry and laugh. I'll listen.

All this is in the hopes that when I need to be heard, someone will listen to me too.

I hope you join. https://chat.whatsapp.com/E4jSLY710uQ476FhHgmI9d?mode=gi_t

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u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 2 months ago

Less than 24 hours left. A small anxiety & overthinking meetup in Chandigarh (5–10 people)

If your mind never seems to slow down, this is for you.

Tomorrow evening we're hosting a small, facilitated conversation circle for adults experiencing anxiety, overwhelm, or overthinking.

This isn't therapy or a lecture. It's a confidential, judgment-free space to reflect, share (only if you want to), and learn practical coping tools alongside others who get it.

This week's reflection:

> "What is my anxious mind trying to protect me from?"

Meetup Details

  • Sunday, 28 June
  • 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM
  • Sector 17, Chandigarh (exact location shared after registration)
  • Limited to 5–10 participants
  • Free | 18+

Because the group is intentionally small, registrations close once all spots are filled.

Register: https://chd.lol/mental-health-meetup

WhatsApp updates: https://chd.lol/whatsapp-group

You don't have to carry it all alone.

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 2 months ago

Less than 24 hours left. A small anxiety & overthinking meetup in Chandigarh (5–10 people)

If your mind never seems to slow down, this is for you.

Tomorrow evening we're hosting a small, facilitated conversation circle for adults experiencing anxiety, overwhelm, or overthinking.

This isn't therapy or a lecture. It's a confidential, judgment-free space to reflect, share (only if you want to), and learn practical coping tools alongside others who get it.

This week's reflection:

> "What is my anxious mind trying to protect me from?"

Meetup Details

  • Sunday, 28 June
  • 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM
  • Sector 17, Chandigarh (exact location shared after registration)
  • Limited to 5–10 participants
  • Free | 18+

Because the group is intentionally small, registrations close once all spots are filled.

Register: https://chd.lol/mental-health-meetup

WhatsApp updates: https://chd.lol/whatsapp-group

Location: https://chd.lol/meetup-location

You don't have to carry it all alone.

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 2 months ago

[Meetup] Quiet the Anxiety: A Small Circle Mental Health Support Group (Sector 17, Chandigarh)

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If you are constantly battling overthinking, daily stress, or a mind that refuses to quiet down, you are not alone. We are hosting an intimate, facilitated mental health meetup this coming Sunday to step away from the noise and find some breathing room.

This is not a clinical therapy session or a rigid lecture. It is a small, confidential, and non-judgmental space for adults to untangle their thoughts, share lived experiences, and learn practical coping mechanisms.

Meetup Details

  • Date: Sunday, 28 June 2026
  • Time: 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM (2 Hours)
  • Location: Sector 17, Chandigarh (Exact spot shared with registered participants)
  • Group Size: Limited to 5–10 people max (To ensure everyone feels safe and heard)
  • Eligibility: Anyone aged 18+ experiencing anxiety, overwhelm, or overthinking

The Core Focus

Instead of just discussing symptoms or generic advice, we will guide the conversation around one deep, reflective question:

>"What is my anxious mind trying to protect me from?"

Anxiety is uncomfortable, but it often starts as an overprotective attempt by our brain to keep us safe from failure, rejection, or uncertainty. This meetup is designed to help you build self-compassion instead of self-judgment.

What to Expect:

  • The Weather Report Check-in: A low-pressure way to express your current mental state without feeling forced to be vulnerable immediately.
  • Open Discussion: Exploring what anxiety costs us and reframing its protective nature.
  • Practical Coping Tools: You will learn and practice two immediate regulation techniques: The 90-Second Reset and The Control Map.
  • Ground Rules: Strict confidentiality (stories stay, lessons leave), zero pressure to speak if you choose to pass, and a strict "no fixing/no unsolicited advice" policy.

How to Join

Because we are keeping the group strictly between 5–10 participants to preserve the intimacy of the circle, slots are highly limited.

If you would like to attend, please REGISTER HERE. We will confirm your spot and share the exact location details.

Note: There is no judgment here. You don't have to carry it all alone.

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u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 2 months ago

[Meetup] Quiet the Anxiety: A Small Circle Mental Health Support Group (Sector 17, Chandigarh)

If you are constantly battling overthinking, daily stress, or a mind that refuses to quiet down, you are not alone. We are hosting an intimate, facilitated mental health meetup this coming Sunday to step away from the noise and find some breathing room.

This is not a clinical therapy session or a rigid lecture. It is a small, confidential, and non-judgmental space for adults to untangle their thoughts, share lived experiences, and learn practical coping mechanisms.

Meetup Details

  • Date: Sunday, 28 June 2026
  • Time: 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM (2 Hours)
  • Location: Sector 17, Chandigarh (Exact spot shared with registered participants)
  • Group Size: Limited to 5–10 people max (To ensure everyone feels safe and heard)
  • Eligibility: Anyone aged 18+ experiencing anxiety, overwhelm, or overthinking

The Core Focus

Instead of just discussing symptoms or generic advice, we will guide the conversation around one deep, reflective question:

>"What is my anxious mind trying to protect me from?"

Anxiety is uncomfortable, but it often starts as an overprotective attempt by our brain to keep us safe from failure, rejection, or uncertainty. This meetup is designed to help you build self-compassion instead of self-judgment.

What to Expect:

  • The Weather Report Check-in: A low-pressure way to express your current mental state without feeling forced to be vulnerable immediately.
  • Open Discussion: Exploring what anxiety costs us and reframing its protective nature.
  • Practical Coping Tools: You will learn and practice two immediate regulation techniques: The 90-Second Reset and The Control Map.
  • Ground Rules: Strict confidentiality (stories stay, lessons leave), zero pressure to speak if you choose to pass, and a strict "no fixing/no unsolicited advice" policy.

How to Join

Because we are keeping the group strictly between 5–10 participants to preserve the intimacy of the circle, slots are highly limited.

If you would like to attend, please REGISTER HERE. We will confirm your spot and share the exact location details.

Note: There is no judgment here. You don't have to carry it all alone.

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 2 months ago
▲ 11 r/PanjabUniversity+2 crossposts

[Meetup] Quiet the Anxiety: A Small Circle Mental Health Support Group (Sector 17, Chandigarh)

If you are constantly battling overthinking, daily stress, or a mind that refuses to quiet down, you are not alone. We are hosting an intimate, facilitated mental health meetup this coming Sunday to step away from the noise and find some breathing room.

This is not a clinical therapy session or a rigid lecture. It is a small, confidential, and non-judgmental space for adults to untangle their thoughts, share lived experiences, and learn practical coping mechanisms.

Meetup Details

  • Date: Sunday, 28 June 2026
  • Time: 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM (2 Hours)
  • Location: Sector 17, Chandigarh (Exact spot shared with registered participants)
  • Group Size: Limited to 5–10 people max (To ensure everyone feels safe and heard)
  • Eligibility: Anyone aged 18+ experiencing anxiety, overwhelm, or overthinking

The Core Focus

Instead of just discussing symptoms or generic advice, we will guide the conversation around one deep, reflective question:

>"What is my anxious mind trying to protect me from?"

Anxiety is uncomfortable, but it often starts as an overprotective attempt by our brain to keep us safe from failure, rejection, or uncertainty. This meetup is designed to help you build self-compassion instead of self-judgment.

What to Expect:

  • The Weather Report Check-in: A low-pressure way to express your current mental state without feeling forced to be vulnerable immediately.
  • Open Discussion: Exploring what anxiety costs us and reframing its protective nature.
  • Practical Coping Tools: An open discussion of stanard therapeutic practices and lived experiences
  • Ground Rules: Strict confidentiality (stories stay, lessons leave), zero pressure to speak if you choose to pass, and a strict "no fixing/no unsolicited advice" policy.

How to Join

Because we are keeping the group strictly between 5–10 participants to preserve the intimacy of the circle, slots are highly limited.

If you would like to attend, please Register at https://chat.whatsapp.com/E4jSLY710uQ476FhHgmI9d. We will confirm your spot and share the exact location details.

Note: There is no judgment here. You don't have to carry it all alone.

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 2 months ago
▲ 13 r/Psychology_India+1 crossposts

Professionals recommending Vandrevala Foundation

I was recently directed to a helpful spreadsheet by Mrunmayee Pathare, Fieldwork Supervisor, St. Xavier’s College (Autonomous), Mumbai.

I saw Vandrevala Foundation's name and I had to discuss this openly.

Vandrewala Foundation disguises as a crisis helpline, as clearly shown on their website, but it is a sales funnel designed to upsell their services.

When you're in crisis, and you call, they listen to you for a few minutes and try to sell you their services.

They add you to a sales funnel of automated marketing messages.

And if you don't buy any of their services, they don't pick your calls the next time you're in a crisis.

Sure, they have to make money to run the foundation, but they can't do it while pretending to be a crisis helpline.

I hear from other people too, who've been conned into donating to them.

So, I ask the professionals to not spread their number as a crisis helpline. It raises questions about your ethics, intent and professionalism.

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Edit: There are genuine volunteers who want to help, but I suspect they are far and few. I apologise if I offended them.

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Edit: One of their IT Cell 'Volunteers' started calling me a liar, when clearly other people in the comments have had similar experiences. So people, this is the kind of volunteers Vandrevala Foundation has AND this is the behavior they encourage. Please beware.

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 2 months ago

Vandrevala Foundation Review

I was recently directed to a helpful spreadsheet by Mrunmayee Pathare, Fieldwork Supervisor, St. Xavier’s College (Autonomous), Mumbai.

I saw Vandrevala Foundation's name and I had to write this to warn people who're in the same boat as me.

Vandrewala Foundation disguises as a crisis helpline, as clearly shown on their website, but it is a sales funnel designed to upsell their services.

When you're in crisis, and you call, they listen to you for a few minutes and try to sell you their services.

They add you to a sales funnel of automated marketing messages.

And if you don't buy any of their services, they don't pick your calls the next time you're in a crisis.

Sure, they have to make money to run the foundation, but they can't do it while pretending to be a crisis helpline.

I hear from other people too, who've been conned into donating to them.

So, I ask the professionals to not spread their number as a crisis helpline. It raises questions about your ethics, intent & professionalism.


Edit: There are genuine volunteers who want to help, but I suspect they are far and few. I apologise if I offended them.


Edit: One of their IT Cell 'Volunteers' started calling me a liar, when clearly other people in the comments have had similar experiences. So people, this is the kind of volunteers Vandrevala Foundation has AND this is the behavior they encourage. Please beware.

>u/InformationKnown8808 replied to your comment in r/Psychology_India > >Yes you are a liar > > 17h ago > > >u/InformationKnown8808 replied to your comment in r/Psychology_India > >Its a crisis helpline, if they are not helping you Visit a hospital Volunteers are human as well > >17h ago > > >u/InformationKnown8808 replied to your comment in r/IndiaMentalHealth > >Yes you are a liar > >17h ago


Edit: The surge of posts to change the narrative instead of fixing the issue shows how strong their IT Cell is. Pair that with their spammy WhatsApp Donation campaigns.

So once again, they are not a crisis helpline. Please don't use them as such.

>Gaslight the patient instead of taking accountability

u/ArrogantPublisher3 — 2 months ago