u/BLAZE95_

Hi everyone! I’m thinking about getting a spiral-themed tattoo, drawing inspiration from Final Fantasy X (Spira), Naruto, the manga that introduced me to Japanese culture back in 2006 (Uzumaki means “spiral” in Japanese), and Alan Wake, with the meaning that even when it feels like you’re going around in circles, eventually you find your way out of your problems: “It’s not a loop, it’s a spiral.”
I’d like to have it running from my shoulder down to my elbow on my right arm, but I’m not really sure how I could personalize the design. Do you think a simple line would be enough?

31M

La mia ex mi ha lasciato dopo 11 anni di relazione tutto d’un tratto 2 mesi fa, dandomi spiegazioni come “Non voglio più responsabilità”, “Non vedo più un futuro insieme” , “Nom voglio sistemare il rapporto sono solo stufa” , posso accettare,anche se non ha mai aperto bocca sui problemi, preferiva tenersi tutto dentro e non parlarne mai, e alle mie domande se andavo bene mi rispondeva che andavo benissimo così.

Sto cercando di ripartire con la mia vita ma non ho idea di come fare..Le app di incontri vanno male, pochi like e nessuna risponde, non so dove conoscere gente nuova, purtroppo le mie passioni sono il Cinema, la cucina, videogiochi e l’arredamento di casa, non ho idea di dove conoscere anche qualcun’altra per amicizia o qualche frequentazione, temo non troverò mai più nessuno..
Pensavo di aver trovato la mia anima gemella, era molto simile a me per tante cose e sognavo di comprare casa insieme, era il nostro obiettivo..

I thought she was the love of my life. From my perspective, things were good. Sure, we had our problems like every couple does, but I never thought they were dealbreakers.
Then I found out she hadn’t been happy for years and never really told me or made it clear how she felt. On top of that, I learned that nine years ago she slept with her ex and never told me because she didn’t want to hurt me or leave me.
The idea of getting back into dating at 31 honestly scares me. I’ve always been a pretty quiet nerd, and I have no idea where to even start. I also don’t know if I’ll ever be able to love someone as much as I loved her.

Come da titolo,è da un po che seguo questa ragazza su Instagram.La trovo molto interessante perché fa storie sui film che vede al cinema e ne fa una breve recensione,e visto che anche a me piace molto il cinema e ci vado quanto posso vorrei cominciare a conoscerla così,il problema però è che lei non mi segue,posso solo mettere mi piace alle storie e post ma non rispondere alle storie,per scriverle potrei soltanto mandarle una richiesta di messaggio. È già difficile che parta una conoscenza così?

Sono stato lasciato da un mese dopo una relazione di 11 anni,dove c’erano progetti per comprare casa insieme.

Ora mi ritrovo in affitto dove ho convissuto per 6 anni con la mia ex,pagando 365€ al mese di affitto per un Mini appartamento.Purtroppo nel 2028 scadrà il contratto,e non verrà rinnovato,ma venduto a 90.000€.In questo mini ho sia garage che cantina,ed è grande 45MQ come abitazione. Ci sono molto affezionato e mi piace molto il paese in cui si trova,in più è comodo a tanti servizi a piedi(posta,supermercato) e vicino a due grandi paesi dove vado abitualmente e sta a 15 minuti d’auto dal lavoro.

Ho la possibilità di cambiare casa in affitto,avrei un garage doppio in lunghezza e 65MQ a 560€ al mese,il paese non mi fa impazzire e non so come sia messo come servizi.Sarei a 5-6 minuti in auto da lavoro e potrei andarci in bici volendo.

Mi romperebbe le scatole comprare e pagare un mini-appartamento così tanto,ma è la situazione attuale del mercato..che mi consigliate di fare ?

Edit: Ho anche un auto vecchia che vorrei cambiare

M31, F30
I was left by my partner after 11 years together, including 6 years of living together.
How can I ever love someone else as much as I loved her? It feels impossible. I truly believed she was my soulmate, and I wanted to build my future with her. I loved her so deeply that I can’t imagine ever feeling that way about anyone else again. I gave her everything I had, and it still wasn’t enough.

M31, F30
After 11 years together, including 6 years living together, we broke up three weeks ago (for unrelated reasons).
Back in 2016, when we’d been together for about a year, she told me she was going to meet up with one of her exes. I wasn’t happy about it, but I didn’t stop her (stupidly, I know).
Three weeks ago, after we broke up, I finally asked her what had actually happened. I had trusted her 100%, but there had always been this small doubt in the back of my mind.
When they first met, her ex asked her to have sex. She said no and started crying. Then, a few days or maybe a few weeks later (the exact timing doesn’t really matter), they met again and ended up having sex.
Her explanation was that she was young, that she had been a virgin when she first slept with me and had never been with anyone else before, that she wasn’t good at saying no, and things along those lines.
At the time, after it happened, she even considered breaking up with me because of what she’d done, but she couldn’t go through with it because she loved me too much and cared about me.
The anger I feel toward her is overwhelming. It feels like this has stained the entire relationship and all the good memories we shared. My relationship started with this secret, and she never told me because she knew I would have left her immediately if I had found out.
I’m scared of how much anger I’m feeling. I think I’ll need therapy before I’ll be able to fully trust another woman again.

Hi everyone,
After 11 years together, including 6 years living together, my girlfriend left me.
I’m emotionally devastated because I wanted to build a future with her. Watching our home slowly empty as she takes her things away is incredibly painful.
But there’s one thing,just one thing,that’s helping me get through this: a huge amount of anger toward her.
We started dating in the summer of 2015. I was her first sexual partner.
In October 2016, she asked me if she could meet up with one of her exes. I trusted her completely, so I told her, “I’m not happy about it, but if it means something to you, go.” I know that sounds stupid now, but I didn’t want to be controlling. I also knew her parents had divorced partly because of cheating, so I genuinely believed she would never do that to me.
Fast forward to 2026.
I asked her if, back then, she had cheated on me when she met up with her ex. At first, she said no. She told me that he had asked her to have sex, but that she cried and turned him down.
Then she admitted that a few days (or maybe weeks) later, they met again and had sex. She had kept this from me for almost 10 years.
She told me that at the time she wanted to break up with me but couldn’t because she loved me and didn’t want to lose me.
Her explanations were that she was young, that she had only ever had sex with me and wanted to know what it was like with someone else, and that she has trouble saying no.
Finding this out has filled me with so much anger. I spent years building a life with her, creating memories together, completely trusting her. Now all of those memories feel tainted because I know she lied to me for nearly a decade.
The breakup itself hurts, but discovering this betrayal hurts in a completely different way.
How am I ever supposed to trust another woman again after this?
I’ve already started seeing a therapist because of everything that’s happened, and I’m hoping it will help. But right now, I honestly don’t know how people learn to trust again after something like this.

È da qualche mese che ho notato questa ragazza in questo locale dove vado abitualmente,lei lavora lì,e mi piacerebbe chiederle di uscire oppure per cominciare Instagram, come potrei fare senza sembrare cringe ?

Hi everyone,
I’m looking to buy a robot vacuum and mop. After reading a lot of recommendations, I was planning to get the **Roborock Q Revo S Pro** for **€389**.
However, someone I know offered to sell me an **Ecovacs X12 OmniCyclone** for **€500**, and now I’m not sure which one to choose.
I live in a **50 m² (540 sq ft)** apartment, I don’t have any pets, and all I really care about is how well it vacuums and mops the floors. I don’t really need any extra smart features.
Which one would you pick, and why?

Ideally, I’d like it to be as hands-off as possible. I only want to have to refill the clean water tank, empty the dirty water tank, and occasionally replace the dust bag. Other than that, I’d like it to handle everything on its own.

After 11 years together and 6 years living together, she left me. She probably already has someone else.
At least finding out that she cheated on me years ago makes it easier to hate her. It also explains why our relationship always felt tainted, even if I didn’t know the reason at the time.
Now I’ll probably need therapy for this too, because I trusted her 100%, and only now I’ve found out what she did.

I don’t know Where to restart my life

Hi everyone,
I’m looking to buy a robot vacuum and mop. After reading a lot of recommendations, I was planning to get the Roborock Q Revo S Pro for €389.
However, someone I know offered to sell me an Ecovacs X12 OmniCyclone for €500, and now I’m not sure which one to choose.
I live in a 50 m² (540 sq ft) apartment, I don’t have any pets, and all I really care about is how well it vacuums and mops the floors. I don’t really need any extra smart features.
Which one would you pick, and why?

Ideally, I’d like it to be as hands-off as possible. I only want to have to refill the clean water tank, empty the dirty water tank, and occasionally replace the dust bag. Other than that, I’d like it to handle everything on its own.

Hi everyone,
I’m looking to buy a 4K OLED TV mainly for PC gaming. My budget is around **€600–700 max**, and I’d like it to be **48 inches at most**.
What would you recommend? Are there any models that offer good value for gaming (HDMI 2.1, 120Hz, VRR, low input lag, etc.) within that price range?
Thanks!

My girlfriend (30F) and I (31M) have been together for almost 11 years, and we’ve lived together for the last 6.
We’ve had a lot of happy years together, along with some difficult periods. One of my biggest regrets is that I was always afraid of trying couples therapy because I worried it would end up pushing us apart. Looking back, I think that fear probably stopped us from addressing our problems sooner. She, on the other hand, tends to keep her feelings to herself until they build up.
Last Friday, she told me she wanted to take a break and moved back to her mom’s house. I told her that, more than anything, I want her to be happy and to figure out what she truly wants. She says she still loves me and loves what we’ve built together, but she’s no longer sure she sees a future with me. She said she needs time to understand her feelings, although that night she seemed pretty convinced that the relationship was over.
She told me she’s exhausted from constantly worrying about my emetophobia (fear of vomiting), and from the fact that I sometimes tell her I’m scared of losing her. I know that has been emotionally draining for her.
Another issue is our cat. I don’t really like him, while she absolutely adores him, and I know that’s something that’s hurt her more than I realized.
Watching her leave our home last Friday was one of the hardest moments of my life.
The next day, she came back to pick up a few more things. We hugged, kissed, and spent some time cuddling on the couch and in bed. During that time, I encouraged her to take all the time she needed to figure out what she wants from life and whether she still wants me to be part of it.
Since then, we’ve had no contact except for one message today. She told me she’s coming back on Saturday to collect more of her belongings, but she doesn’t want me to be home when she does.
At this point, I’m trying to accept that she’s probably not coming back and that I should treat this as the end of the relationship, even though she still has many of her things here.
The truth is, though, that a small part of me still hopes she’ll come back, agree to couples therapy, and that we’ll be able to rebuild our relationship.
What can I do? Wait or move on?
I’d really appreciate any honest advice, especially from people who’ve been through something similar.

M31,F30

After 11 years together,6 living together,she left our home last night. In the space of an hour, I lost everything, my soulmate,my world,and I feel empty. I didn’t sleep at all last night.
She said she doesn’t know what she wants from life anymore, and she doesn’t know if she sees a future where we buy a house or have a child together,if se wants any.At the same time, she says she loves being with me and the everyday life we share, but she’s not sure whether that’s love or just habit now.
Technically, we’re taking a break, but she seemed pretty convinced that she wants to end the relationship.
She’ll have to come back to the house to pick up the rest of her things. Technically, it’s a break from the relationship, but she’s pretty convinced she wants to end it.
Do you think buying her a bouquet of flowers would be a good idea?

M31,F30

After 11 years together, she left our home last night.In the space of an hour, I lost everything, my soulmate,my world,and I feel empty. I didn’t sleep at all last night.
She said she doesn’t know what she wants from life anymore, and she doesn’t know if she sees a future where we buy a house or have a child together. At the same time, she says she loves being with me and the everyday life we share, but she’s not sure whether that’s love or just habit now.
Technically, we’re taking a break, but she seemed pretty convinced that she wants to end the relationship.
She’ll have to come back to the house to pick up the rest of her things. Technically, it’s a break from the relationship, but she’s pretty convinced she wants to end it.
Do you think buying her a bouquet of flowers would be a good idea?