u/BadShi-6

So for context, I’ve been single for long ass time. No interest whatsoever after a bad break up — but somehow a guy has made his way in. He wants me to go and stay this weekend but I feel like I’ve forgotten how to function at a date stay over? 😂 (for context he did ask to come to me and I said I didn’t mind travelling, he’s paying for said travel)

What do I take with me? Like what should I pack? What do I DO? 😂
HELP ME 😂

For context, I’m in a housing association property.

I live in a 3rd (top) floor property with a few other blocks of the same size around us. The next block over is probably about 40/50ft away - the people living on the bottom floor of that block are driving me insane, slowly but surely and I’m about ready to snap.

I’ve lived here since April and not had a single full nights sleep because of the noise - I sleep with my TV and fan on, I can hear them over both.
They scream, shout, fight, roar like zombies… it’s ridiculous. I’ve gathered that one resident has quite bad mental health issues and the rest are heavy drug addicts & alcoholics. I can’t actually work out how many people live there because there’s so many people coming and going throughout the day and night. They have a sort of garden area and it’s constantly filled with some really vile characters.
Yesterday there was several women there, all clearly on substances and drinking those large buzzballs - fighting and screaming until gone 4am. I was then woken at 5.30am by somebody holding their car horn down and screaming at their flat. I can’t ever have a lie in after a late night kept up by them because around 6am one of the lads starts pegging his washing out and blasting Christian music. Ironic I know.

The police and ambulance service are there every single day, multiple times a day; I can’t imagine the drain it’s putting on our local emergency services that are already majorly struggling. They never take anybody out of there either, nothing ever comes of it they just arrive with blue lights and sirens, then leave 30-40 mins later. I’ve seen the unwell person removed once, Hannibal Lecter style but they were returned home about an hour later.

My main concern overall is that the unwell individual is being taken advantage of - I don’t want to sound insensitive but that’s not somebody that should be living independently. I used to work in mental health and there’s no way in hell that person is consenting to having these individuals in their property. Several times I’ve heard them screaming and shouting at people to leave.

What can I do? I’m just short of physically fighting most of them. I’ve snapped a few times and verbally confronted them a few times, however non of them can string a sentence together and I don’t want to stress out the person that’s clearly unwell.

I’ve tried to speak to my housing officer and he’s not much interested, just says he’s aware of the situation. I also can’t imagine how the people actually IN that block feel, it must be a living nightmare.

Is she for real? Throwing the shoe at Ciroc then shouting her mouth off from 10ft away? Then she runs around and tries to hide from her? Mariah has never whooped anyone on the cast, not once and she’s going for CIROC? The audacity to then say ‘pick on somebody your own size’ is crazy behaviour, you can’t throw hands then pull out ‘you can’t hit me i’m so small & sweet’. Not how the world works. It’s not even brave it’s dumb. Her confessionals are corny, she can’t fight, she’s annoying across the board. Mariah doesn’t need to come back.

And Lex is just annoying as fuck now. The spitting thing was the final straw for me. To spit on someone not once, but twice is just dirty disgusting behaviour. Tifa needs to knock her ass out in their boxing match because she’s got waaaaay too big for her boots that’s for sure, I’ve never seen such good confidence from someone that cannot dress. Being a heavy hitter doesn’t mean shit when you’ve got a poor personality.

Seriously guys, HELP.

So my whole life I’ve been a terrible insomniac but these last 6 months it’s at its all time high, I’m not getting tired full stop. I can lie in bed from 9pm - 6am and not catch a wink. The weirdest thing? Not tired the following day. Not tired the following night either… last night I slept 3 hours; it’s 2.35pm now and I’m still happily wide awake, not even slightly tired and have done huge tasks today like clearing a house ready to move, mowed two huge gardens etc. I’m very proactive in the day; I work & attend the gym morning and night so I should be exhausted really.

I have a great routine that used to work perfectly for me, I don’t use any screens an hour before bed, I take a warm bath and get into fresh pjs. My bed is super comfortable I’ve made sure of that, I have ear plugs, masks etc at the ready if necessary — still no sleep.

I’ve tried medications like zopiclone (dr won’t give me melatonin im UK based), calms, night sodding nurse at one point, amitriptyline, cocodamol, cannabis the list goes on... I’ve tried meditations and holistic treatments, I’m very well versed in Jason And Michael at this point. I’ve tried therapy, hypnosis, warm milk, white noise, Tv on, TV off, cool room, warm room, exercise, counting sheep — EVERYTHING that i can think of for sleep, I’ve done it or tried it.

What the hell do I do at this point?
The only time I seem to be able to sleep is when my body hits me with ‘okay now it’s time’ and I have to sleep there and then, it’s not very helpful when it’s sometimes 2pm.. 6pm.. but the issue is if I do nod off at day 7/8pm, I’m up and ready to start the day by midnight. When I do sleep, I wake up every hour to 2 hours, without fail. So I never get an actual full nights rest.
My body does not shut off.

I know my poor body is exhausted because it’s not getting any rest, my health has deteriorated massively the last 3/4 years and I’m pretty sure this isn’t helping. Please throw some ideas at me, I’m desperate!

Has anyone had any experience with peeing loads? I feel like it’s never ending!

My first jab it was terrible but wore off and I was told it was likely just the initial losing water retention etc but for some reason it’s come back and my god is it annoying. I need to pee literally all the time. I can drink and within 5/10 minutes I can feel my bladder sort of hinting at me to go, within half hour I’m bursting. I’ve never been one to wake up in the night for the toilet either but recently it’s 2/3/4 times per night.

I do drink well usually, but not an excess amount, for example I’ve been quite poor today and only had around 750ml of an electrolyte drink (8am-1pm) but you best believe I’m still peeing like hell. I’m obviously trying to drink more to combat the liquid I’m losing constantly but I feel like I’m just making it worse.

For medical reference - defo not a UTI or anything like that. Not sure if it’s relevant but my pee is basically clear, there is a slight yellow tint but only slight. Not sure if that’s good hydration (not sure how it would be currently though) or something that needs seeing too?
No pains anywhere or anything like that, no nausea, just slight dizziness now and again but nothing concerning.
Edited to add my scales say my hydration is fine thankfully, not sure how but apparently it is.

I’ve recently moved and I’m having a slight issue on how to actually mount the doorbell here.

I can’t drill the door or doorframe so that’s out of the question, also can’t use any heavy adhesives like ‘no more nails’.
I’ve bought 3 stick on mounts for it so far and every single time, even with good prep, they’ve fallen off. I managed to find one that did hold, however you had to completely remove it to charge the device — which meant after the second charging cycle, the stickiness was gone.

Short of attempting to make it levitate, how would you go about putting in on?

I sold an item a few weeks ago, the buyer received it and noticed a slight pull on one of the threads that I hadn’t before sending - so wanted to return it. No problem whatsoever, all good with me. They returned it & it’s been a wild goose chase ever since so looking for some advice on how to rectify this fairly.

It was reported as at the locker, I’ve tried to collected several times and no luck. Says the code doesn’t exist. Then it said it had been sent to the sorting office, so off I went; again, they can’t locate this parcel.
I’ve contacted vinted probably 10 times at this point and keep getting automated answers, I don’t think I’ve managed to speak to a human once.

Buyer has let me know today they’ve been informed if they don’t sent proof of return in 48hrs I’ll receive the money, but they’ve said they’re on holiday now and can’t access any hard proof until they’re back.

So wtf do I do here? I actually feel quite bad on the buyer really, they’ve returned the parcel and it’s vanished. I don’t want them to have wasted money and I don’t fancy being down an item so what do I do here?

Is there a sub relating to those people? I’m quite interested in discussing the dynamic and behaviour of the kids with others that are interested in the subject of their behaviours etc.

Psychology forums are no good, all full of boring ‘professionals’ that refuse to have open ended conversations (I’m a qualified child and adult psychologist with majors in child psychology and development).

Just wondering if there’s a sub relating to those 3 or somewhere that would welcome the discussion??

For context where I live backs on to a primary school (5yo to 10/11yo for those non UK based) and before anyone says it, I fully understand the stress teachers and assistants are under, a lot of kids are majorly hard work now but I’ve got to add in these kids don’t sound badly behaved, you barely hear the kids themselves.

For the last 3 weeks, I’ve had to listen to a teacher screaming at the children. And I mean SCREAMING.
I assume she’s a PE teacher as they’re always outside but I’m seriously concerned about the way she speaks to the children. Today has been the final straw and I need some advice on what to do with this now. I’m going to pop in to the school itself and have a word but I think it may need to go further than that.
Her language is disgraceful, her attitude is terrible. I have absolutely no idea why she’s chosen to work with children when she clearly doesn’t like them…

The screaming is constant from the moment the lesson starts, to when it ends there’s no actual conversation or polite instruction with these poor kids she’s just barking no orders at them. I’ve heard her call them stupid, I’ve heard her ask children if they’re ‘slow’. I heard her tell one of them to ‘shut up’ earlier, I’m sorry but as someone that’s worked with children you don’t say it so harshly. It should be delivered as ‘at the moment it’s my turn to speak, when I’m finished —‘ or ‘it’s not time for students to speak right now, when I’ve finished instructing we can discuss’ the children themselves aren’t even noisy. She’s screaming and shouting for absolutely no reason.
I’ve also heard her berate the children such as ‘well it’s obvious YOU wouldn’t listen isn’t it’ or ‘this is why I don’t like having you in my class’. These are small children for gods sake.

If I knew a teacher was speaking to my child like this on a daily basis, I’d be devastated.

What the correct things to do from here? What would you do? I can’t listen to it any more, those kids need an actual teacher and not an adult bully.

Has anyone else lost all interest in dealing with people via Vinted? I don’t think I’ve dealt with a decent buyer in months now.

I sold around 20 items last week, 80% of them have tried to refund the item but are also refusing to send it back. Keep in mind all these items are pretty much brand new, never worn or still in boxes. I wouldn’t dream of listing something cuffy, I’ve got raging OCD (diagnosed) so I know everything leaving my home is pristine, any slight mark or pulled thread on something and it’s chucked - yet I’m getting ‘there’s a mark on this item, this item doesn’t fit me, it looks different to what I thought’ - it’s ridiculous the amount of chancers I’ve had!
I sold a brand new pair of Jordans this week that were purchased for a friends child but the wrong size arrived and I couldn’t be bothered to exchange at the time, buyer has tried to claim they had dirt on the soles. How, is absolutely beyond me because they were never on anyone’s feet, they’ve never fit anyone around me lol. Never touched concrete once yet instantly there’s a dirt claim. With no photos may I add.

It’s a waste of my time taking photos of stuff, posting it, waiting for the funds etc when all I keep getting is ‘transaction suspended’ emails. I think it’s time I just start taking stuff to charity shops instead.

After visiting my GP today, I’ve been told I’ve got to stop the MJ. I’m pretty gutted really because for the first time for pretty much 20 years with PCOS, I was finally losing weight. I’ve lost just over a stone in 4-5 weeks.

Since starting a little while back I’ve had some pretty nasty pains in my chest & sides, I also noticed my acid reflux getting worse and worse to the point even drinking cold water is aggravating it, I’ve treated the symptoms as advised and kept my doctor in the loop. Today’s appointment she advised me she’s pretty certain the MJ aggravating my hiatus hernia quite severely and while not widely covered, it’s actually pretty common. I’ve also got to go for further testing to check over my pancreas, gallbladder and make sure there’s no stomach ulcers too just to be safe and cover all bases. It’s looking likely after all the tests are out of the way I’ll be looking at surgery for the hernia.

I didn’t bother to ask at the time if I can restart once it’s out, for now I’d just like this constant pain to go away. I’m currently maxed out on omeprazole and pain killers but nothing is even slightly touching the sides, I feel like some sort of acidic creature currently lol. Hopefully a little further down the line I can try again, it really did make such a different to how I’ve felt overall in my moods, my motivation, the weight loss really was just a bonus. The pain I’m in now? Not a bonus 😂