u/BarracudaCultural125

Is there a big stigma with male mental health issues in the US? Sometimes I notice I am supposed to fake being happy and simply shrug off any depression and anxiety as a man.

Before you call me nasty words, please understand that it took me a while to reach to this point and I absolutely want to change my mindset. I have NEVER been disrespectful to couples and never would. It's in my head. I just don't interact with them more than I need to. Yes, I'm aware that not all couples have healthy relationships behind closed doors but this post is only about genuinely happy, lovey dovey couples who have sex all the time. Please give me guidance.

I've noticed some people seem to constantly bring up their boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife in conversations where it has nothing to do with the topic. It almost feels like they're trying to convince everyone how amazing their relationship is or expecting everyone else to be impressed.

I'm not talking about someone mentioning their partner naturally. I mean the people who somehow manage to work them into every conversation or post, almost like it's their entire personality.

Is it just excitement, insecurity, or do some people genuinely think everyone else cares as much as they do? I'm curious what the psychology behind it is because I've always found it a little odd.

In Australia, an Eshay is usually a teenage or young adult male who adopts a tough, street-style image. They often wear brands like Nike, Adidas, or Polo, carry a crossbody bag, speak in distinctive slang, and may hang around train stations or shopping centers in groups. Some can be loud, disrespectful, or involved in petty crime or antisocial behavior.

I (30M) moved to Delaware, US from India for work and honestly I feel really terrible. I have no relatives here, no real support system, and sometimes it feels like people only see me as a stereotype instead of an actual person.

I've had people call me things like "curry muncher" or "smelly" even though none of that is true. I take care of myself, I work hard, I try to fit in and be respectful, but after hearing this stuff enough times you start internalizing it. I catch myself feeling embarrassed about being Indian and giving up the traditions and food I was raised in sometimes and I genuinely hate that because deep down I know there’s nothing wrong with who I am.

The loneliness probably makes it worse. It’s gotten to the point where I’ve started thinking maybe I should just move back to India because I don’t feel appreciated here. I know not everyone in the US is racist and I’ve met kind people too, but lately the negative experiences have been getting to me mentally. I’m sorry if this sounds dramatic. I just needed to vent because I feel exhausted carrying this around alone.

I (30M) moved to Delaware, US from India for work and honestly I feel really terrible. I have no relatives here, no real support system, and sometimes it feels like people only see me as a stereotype instead of an actual person.

I've had people call me things like "curry muncher" or "smelly" even though none of that is true. I take care of myself, I work hard, I try to fit in and be respectful, but after hearing this stuff enough times you start internalizing it. I catch myself feeling embarrassed about being Indian and giving up the traditions and food I was raised in sometimes and I genuinely hate that because deep down I know there’s nothing wrong with who I am.

The loneliness probably makes it worse. It’s gotten to the point where I’ve started thinking maybe I should just move back to India because I don’t feel appreciated here. I know not everyone in the US is racist and I’ve met kind people too, but lately the negative experiences have been getting to me mentally. I’m sorry if this sounds dramatic. I just needed to vent because I feel exhausted carrying this around alone.

I've noticed some people seem to constantly bring up their boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife in conversations where it has nothing to do with the topic. It almost feels like they're trying to convince everyone how amazing their relationship is or expecting everyone else to be impressed.

I'm not talking about someone mentioning their partner naturally. I mean the people who somehow manage to work them into every conversation or post, almost like it's their entire personality.

Is it just excitement, insecurity, or do some people genuinely think everyone else cares as much as they do? I'm curious what the psychology behind it is because I've always found it a little odd.

I'm a 30 year old man and many people my age are dating, engaged, married, and some even have kids but I've never really thought about dating that much. Just wondering if it will be even worth it?

I'm a 30 year old man and many people my age are dating, engaged, married, and some even have kids but I've never really thought about dating that much. Yeah, it can get lonely but then I'm reminded of my freedom, of only spending money on myself, and how I can travel around the world as I please and it fills me with such intense joy. Anybody else feel like this?

Dear Louisville Community,

Does anyone know of an optometrist that has lenses made locally? Someone I know is in hospital and he doesn't have long left to live. I am desperately trying to find a way for him to be able to see properly while he is stuck in a hospital bed waiting for his time to come. He needs bi focal lenses which means they need to be custom made. Off the shelf lenses won't work.

Where I am from owning a horse is very expensive and so anyone who has one is assumed to be rich. Is it the same in Australia? Given there is lots of open spaces in Australia maybe it is more accessible to a wider range of people?

I have lived in Eastern Pennsylvania as an Indian American and have never got sunburnt my whole life but I think I might start wearing it because skin damage from the sun might not always be visible. Anyone else made the same mistake? 😅

Idk why but in a way, it helps me relax. I haven't really told anybody else this because others might see me as weird lol. Do any of you guys do something similar?

I've been living next to him for years and he's sort of become family to me. The only problem is he's says he feels socially outcasted. He's too weak to get out much anymore but there is hardly anyone that visits him, he never married, no kids, his family abandoned him years ago. He told me he regrets not making any friends due to his introverted personality. A month ago, he had fallen outside his apartment and couldn't get up until I spotted him hours later. It's heartbreaking. It makes me cry sometimes. Is there anything I should do?

My friend is Indian American man and he says it's common for him when to put on a bit of cologne when he goes out to bars and hits on girls. Is this really that common in US?

I'm a guy who's been struggling with depression for a while and I'm currently in therapy. I try to be kind to people in public, treat others with respect, and generally mind my own business.

Recently, I've found myself spending some time on Reddit, and honestly some of the things I see women say about men have really gotten to me. I know Reddit isn't real life, and I know not all women think the same way, but when you're already feeling down it's hard not to internalize it.

I'll read threads where men are talked about like they're inherently bad, dangerous, stupid, selfish, or only wanted for what they can provide. Sometimes it feels like some women are judging an entire gender based on the worst examples. Seeing that over and over started making me feel angry, resentful, and hopeless. I found myself having thoughts that were drifting into incel territory, and that honestly scared me because I don't want to become that person.

I don't hate women. I don't think women owe me anything. I don't think I'm entitled to a relationship. What I want is actually pretty simple: I'd like to meet someone who is kind to me, respects me, and genuinely enjoys being around me. That's it.

Therapy has been helping with some things, but in this area I almost feel worse. I feel more aware of my loneliness than I used to be. Then I go online and see gender war discussions everywhere, and it just makes me feel even more disconnected. What do I do?

I'm American and my Australian friend just visited me and told me a lot about Australia that I didn't know previously. He's from Townsville and he likes to take road trips but he says QLD drivers can be aggressive and some tailgate a lot. Is this stereotype really true?