Yall did I do wrong?
As I’ve mentioned before I haven’t spoken to my dad in 6 years because he treats us like absolute shit .Back in 2020 when they had a fight and he called my mum a bitch. The way he says that word sounds like pure venom. I was only 10 years old and he said shit like this all the time so I was tired of it and so i said She's not a bitch, you are!That’s all I said.
Fast forward to today. My mom brought up a normal conversation about studies mentioning that since my oldest brother is in med school I’ll be going to university after Grade 12 too. My dad goes Well, I don't care. Why should I pay for her university? She called me a dog, didn't she? I was so shocked. He literally twisted what happened 6 years ago lied and claimed I called him a dog multiple times. He always does this. He starts the fights curses at my mum using the most disgusting words imaginable and then months later acts like he is the victim and she was the one abusing him. No man with an ounce of self respect talks to his wife the way he does.
Why turn a simple topic about my education into a weapon over something a 10 year old child said to defend her mum? If he had an ounce of shame and hadn't attacked my mum I would have never said a word to him.
To make it worse my brothers sometimes use it against me. They say stuff like Tum to papa ko bhi galiyan deti ho to ham kon hain or Papa tumse baat nahi karte tumhari zubaan ki waja se . It makes me feel disgusting like I was the one in the wrong at 10 years old.
Honestly I’d rather never step foot in a university than let him pay a single fils for it. I already feel gross letting him pay my school fees and I’m only doing that because I'm forced to go to school.
He’s such a hypocrite too. Before my oldest brother got into med school my dad treated him like absolute garbage calling him a parasite and cursing him out in public. Now that he’s in med school suddenly my dad respects him and treats him like royalty when he visits. He thinks my brother forgot the abuse but he never will. If he doesn't want to pay for me fine. Don't pay I don't want your money anyway.
And my relatives tell me I should still talk to my father because he's still my father and I'm not supposed to talk back to my parents,they don't live how I live they don't have the right to tell me how to be with my dad...he dosent care about me,why should I respect him right??? I won't tolerate disrespect towards my mum