u/ChaoticFaeGay

Hi! Does anyone have any recommendations for a set up that can work ok on a phone? I don’t like trying to carry my iPad many places, but I usually have my phone on me. I have weavechat on my phone, but it’s not intuitive to navigate and I keep forgetting where basic words like “sorry” are unless I add them to the preloaded phrases

Almost all of the interactions I had when I were younger were “therapeutic”. Almost everything my family or therapists did that seemed like genuine connection was in order to mold what I did or didn’t do, and it extended all the way to deciding if my parents would show any love or affection to me as a toddler.

Even when I got older and I didn’t officially have therapy, I later learned directly from one of my parents that almost every single time they actually paid attention to me, or encouraged me, or let me eat my favorite food rather than my mom’s diet food, it was just to reward me for doing what they wanted me to do.

I don’t know how to fix how I see relationships. It’s really hard to believe that my friends and my partner genuinely like me, and I can’t help but view it in terms of what they’re getting from me. I know there’s fundamentals to how humans interact, but I feel like thinking about this and not being used to people actually just liking me without a conscious goal is hard to reciprocate because I don’t know how to make myself feel more?

I wanna add more subreddits (or other resources) for people but idk how to figure out what does / doesn’t exist.

Does anyone have suggestions on what would make sense as to “other places to check out”?

I know there’s radicalmentalhealth , autistictraumasurvivors , and therapyabuse but idk if there’s others that’d make sense to include

Basically, might be delaying ABA related research to do a different niche I’m interested in.

The prof I talked to about the other niche seems pretty receptive and I’m also excited to do it, so I might use it as practice on how to submit stuff to the IRB, run a survey more independently, write, and publish a paper.

Still planning on doing ABA related research (since in some of the papers, I think the small fraction who got positive results might be more related to positive attention + parental involvement having positive effects rather than anything inherent to ABA), but so far it looks like that might be more complicated to tackle if I can’t get a prof at my college to agree to supervise me

I occasionally see people asking about places to meet people or things to do in the area, and I ain’t properly affiliated but the board game night at the Dows Prairie Grange has been fun in my experience, and the only things you gotta pay for are any food you order or raffle tickets you get

It’s got Magic: The Gathering and various TTRPGs besides just the board games, and I’ve met several friends there. Honestly, im mainly recommending it because there’s been less people going recently and I wanna meet more people lol (also the next one is august 22nd im p sure)

Idk, I’m just trying to share stuff so the sub doesn’t fully die and anyone who needs it is more likely to find it

I might be thinking about the wrong thing, but god it irritates me so bad when ABA people deride psychology as “mentalism”, or act like basic psychology concepts like positive/negative and reinforcement/punishment are ABA specific and not just…. General principles.

Mental vs behavioral isn’t even much of a debate anymore, literally all the psych stuff I find acknowledges that there’s a combination of mental, physical, and environmental factors that impact stuff (like the biopsychosocial model!). Like, most people aren’t arguing that it’s just mental anymore, and it feels ridiculous that there’s a group that’s still arguing on focusing just on behavior.

I know there’s a lot of thrift stores in the area, but I’m not entirely sure which ones are mainly clothes and which ones have more stuff to pick through.

I’m mainly interested in finding stuff like dvd/cd players, as well as dvds and CD.

Any recommendations about where to look would be really helpful! The closest I found so far was a place with kitchen appliances

Title, basically. I know it’s old, but I’ve primarily seen people defending ABA or immediately trying to distance themselves from the worst parts rather than advocating to at least stop shocking people. It’s slightly reassuring to see that it might be bias from the types who talk loudly on the internet and who go into survivor spaces to argue

Got lots of good citations within the main body, but this is a relatively new article

Not much else besides the title. I might have a chance to add to the research on ABA, and I’m excited. I know a single paper isn’t gonna change everything, but I’m hoping the more information that’s out there the more things change

Hello!
I’m asking mainly because I’ve dyed with plants before, but I just tried making water colors and I think I messed up grinding everything fine enough or something.

I dried everything on low heat for a while until it crumbled easily, then used a mortar and pestle for reference

I’ve been trying to mix my own pigments and I’ve used them fine previously for dying, but I attempted to make my own watercolors last night and I think I misjudged. I thought there were only a few odd shaped big pieces still in the mix, but so far it’s still clumping up more like wet leaves rather than paint, even though the rose I ground with the same method is in a better state right now.

I’ve seen it recommended as another possible therapy, and from what I can find it evolved from ABA, but it’s more focused on providing alternative skills to help people still get what they want rather than just stopping behaviors, and the person’s satisfaction/happiness is supposed to be taken into consideration.

Any experiences? Is it ok, or is it just a slight variant of ABA?

I recently read Mad World and it ended up teaching me a lot of stuff about the history behind the mental health industry and different ways people could be supported, and I’m currently reading Connections Over Compliance which is making a bunch of interesting points about how schools could be improved to support their students better without blaming them for things outside of their control.

I’ve also previously enjoyed Humankind (discussing how people don’t do things for no reason, so generically saying someone did something bad because they’re bad isn’t helpful) and the myth of normal (talked about the connection between mental health, physical health, and external environmental factors, and how a lot of issues are more tied to external factors like social relationships and environment rather than anything intrinsically in the person)

Does anyone have any other book recs covering mental health or mad pride movements? I love learning more about this and I especially want more like Mad World

Dunno if I fully count as ex-vegan but I had about a month or two where I was eating vegan due to a variety of factors (which, honestly, included being taught a lot of wrong information about nutrition needs), and I got forced into stopping because my body reacted incredibly poorly. I ended up with quite a bit of muscle pain, I was tired and out of it constantly, and I had constant GI issues that were only partially fixed by realizing I react incredibly poorly to soy anything. Probably relevant that I wasn’t taking any supplements besides a generic multivitamin

Several different times now I’ve ended up having vegans argue to me that it’s my own fault that I got ill eating like that, and that I should’ve tried harder to find non-soy non-meat proteins I could eat, that I should’ve been taking a bunch of supplements, and one who said it’s selfish to put my own personal comfort above the lives of animals and that anyone who does that should suffer.

What are the actual issues with the vegan diet? I know my own experience but I genuinely don’t know what the research says or why my body reacted that way. I want to be able to have a better explanation as to what happened because I’m really tired of being berated over this but not knowing enough to say much back

I was wondering what perceptions of ABA y’all have noticed in your areas.

From asking others, It sounds like most autism-adjacent professions that aren’t ABA are more likely to have negative views of ABA, the south is generally more pro ABA, and parents who don’t really know better or just want their kid to be easier to deal with are more pro ABA (along with obviously the people who profit off ABA)