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Someone from Tripura, Northeast India raging and encouraging racism against South asians just because they are discriminated in India. This is ridiculous because I'm South Asian but I grew up in a Southeast asian country and it would be racist if I did the same.

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/eM2Zy

doxxing a certain south asian x east asian couple

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/o4L48

why they believe they should not support mixed East asians as an East Asian. Calls mixed people mules and that they aren't worthy of being known as one of their ethnicities

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/bRyXB

warning to people to steer away from South asians in Canada

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/Jqf8b

talking about South asians "replacing" east asians in Singapore and Hongkong and them "stealing" "their women".

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/yfyrB

seeing a south asian x east asian couple and saying "Indians want to invade asia"

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/9jmGZ

saying they're happy to live in Asia because they don't have to worry about being racist against black people

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/7UY3J

Saying that sexual harassment and assault don't exist in East Asia and that's why non-East Asians should stay out of East Asia. They also said that you never hear about non-East Asians being harassed in East Asia but speaking as someone who's South Asian, I've had friends who are racially harassed in a Southeast Asian country I've lived in. One of them also said that the Singaporean prison system and the greatness of Chinese culture makes Indians commit less crimes in Singapore and that Indians rape a lot in East Asia.

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/ci99C

Saying that East Asian men being gay is negative representation.

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/CkWPG

Someone from Tripura, Northeast India raging and encouraging racism against South asians just because they are discriminated in India. This is ridiculous because I'm South Asian but I grew up in a Southeast asian country and it would be racist if I did the same.

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/eM2Zy

doxxing a certain south asian x east asian couple

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/o4L48

why they believe they should not support mixed East asians as an East Asian. Calls mixed people mules and that they aren't worthy of being known as one of their ethnicities

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/bRyXB

warning to people to steer away from South asians in Canada

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/Jqf8b

talking about South asians "replacing" east asians in Singapore and Hongkong and them "stealing" "their women".

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/yfyrB

seeing a south asian x east asian couple and saying "Indians want to invade asia"

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/9jmGZ

saying they're happy to live in Asia because they don't have to worry about being racist against black people

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/7UY3J

Saying that sexual harassment and assault don't exist in East Asia and that's why non-East Asians should stay out of East Asia. They also said that you never hear about non-East Asians being harassed in East Asia but speaking as someone who's South Asian, I've had friends who are racially harassed in a Southeast Asian country I've lived in. One of them also said that the Singaporean prison system and the greatness of Chinese culture makes Indians commit less crimes in Singapore and that Indians rape a lot in East Asia.

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/ci99C

Saying that East Asian men being gay is negative representation.

https://ghostarchive.org/archive/CkWPG

I have problems with self blame. I grew up as a 3/4 Indian in Myanmar and I would blame myself that "I could've moved somewhere less racist and forget about this", "south asians can be racist too like people in Myanmar, so why am I hurt?", "I should stop having a victim mindset" or "I am so sensitive their words should mean nothing I should get over it by focusing on what I'm doing" when I am angry when they're racist or transphobic. Its been hurting me and I can't stop this self blaming mentality.

I grew up in Myanmar. I'm not saying Southeast or East Asians are all racist and I'm aware of the racism yellow/mongoloid people face in South Asia. Living in this country have tainted my mental health a bit considering I'm also trans male. I can't wait to get out of here. I'm not using this post to dismiss the racism mongoloid/yellow people face in non-mongoloid/yellow countries.

I noticed that they tend to be racist against South Asians behind your back or when they believe they are in a group with only yellow/mongoloid people and no South Asians, but when a South asian is in the friend group, they're silent. I noticed it with one monoracial South Asian classmate I know. When he's sitting near the other boys, they treat him as if he's their equal, but when these same boys are at their school bus, they make racist jokes and speak in mock Hindi/Tamil. The times I faced racism which I remember are:

• people often asking me why my skin is light because they don't think a South Asian can have light skin.
• I told a group of passerby Koreaboo girls who were saying that Burmese men are bad and Korean men are better that Korean men are also humans as well and that good Burmese men exist, and they replied, "How cares? Who likes an Indian man (they used a slur) anyways. They're all ugly".
• one dark skinned Burmese guy looked at me in a stink face without saying anything when he saw me while talking to my friend whom I'm beside with.
• incels talking about how South Asian men are taking their women. From where I come from and what I've noticed in Southeast Asia, South Asian men are kinda talked like they're the equivalent of black men dating white women in the West among incels. Hell, they talk about how exotic South Asian women are but most of them complain about how South Asian men are taking their women and how they're all sex addicted.
• bus drivers making jokes about South Asians but not in our face after seeing me and dad in the front seat It's like as if they only say it straight to your face when you're alone and they're in a group, but when they're alone, they're scared.
• people explaining to me why calling you a slur isnt racist. for eg. saying things like, "you're a p4j33t/k-word so I'll call you a p4j33t/k-word what's wrong with that, aren't you a p4j33t/k-word? are you saying you're actually Burmese? We call Chinese people "တရုတ်" so why is calling you guys k-word bad?" wdym, its like saying its ok to call the n-word because we call Germans Germans instead of Deutsche.

I grew up in Myanmar. I'm not saying Southeast or East Asians are all racist and I'm aware of the racism yellow/mongoloid people face in South Asia. I'm not using this post to dismiss the racism mongoloid/yellow people face in non-mongoloid/yellow countries.

I noticed that they tend to be racist against South Asians behind your back or when they believe they are in a group with only yellow/mongoloid people and no South Asians, but when a South asian is in the friend group, they're silent. I noticed it with one monoracial South Asian classmate I know. When he's sitting near the other boys, they treat him as if he's their equal, but when these same boys are at their school bus, they make racist jokes and speak in mock Hindi/Tamil.

The times I faced racism which I remember are:

- people often asking me why my skin is light because they don't think a South Asian can have light skin.

- I told a group of passerby Koreaboo girls who were saying that Burmese men are bad and Korean men are better that Korean men are also humans as well and that good Burmese men exist, and they replied, "How cares? Who likes an Indian man (they used a slur) anyways. They're all ugly".

- one dark skinned Burmese guy looked at me in a stink face without saying anything when he saw me while talking to my friend whom I'm beside with.

- incels talking about how South Asian men are taking their women. From where I come from and what I've noticed in Southeast Asia, South Asian men are kinda talked like they're the equivalent of black men dating white women in the West among incels. Hell, they talk about how exotic South Asian women are but most of them complain about how South Asian men are taking their women and how they're all sex addicted.

- bus drivers making jokes about South Asians but not in our face after seeing me and dad in the front seat

It's like as if they only say it straight to your face when you're alone and they're in a group, but when they're alone, they're scared.

- people explaining to me why calling you a slur isnt racist. for eg. saying things like, you're a p4j33t so I'll call you a p4j33t what's wrong with that, aren't you a p4j33t? are you saying you're actually Burmese?

I grew up in Myanmar. I'm not saying Southeast or East Asians are all racist and I'm aware of the racism yellow/mongoloid people face in South Asia.

I noticed that they tend to be racist against South Asians behind your back or when they believe they are in a group with only yellow/mongoloid people and no South Asians, but when a South asian is in the friend group, they're silent. I noticed it with one monoracial South Asian classmate I know. When he's sitting near the other boys, they treat him as if he's their equal, but when these same boys are at their school bus, they make racist jokes and speak in mock Hindi/Tamil.

The times I faced racism which I remember are:

- people often asking me why my skin is light because they don't think a South Asian can have light skin.

- I told a group of passerby Koreaboo girls who were saying that Burmese men are bad and Korean men are better that Korean men are also humans as well and that handsome Burmese men exist, and they replied, "How cares? Who likes an Indian man (they used a slur) anyways. They're all ugly".

- one dark skinned Burmese guy looked at me in a stink face without saying anything when he saw me while talking to my friend whom I'm beside with.

- incels talking about how South Asian men are taking their women. In Southeast Asia, South Asian men are kinda talked like they're the equivalent of black men dating white women in the West among incels.

A question from a fellow South Asian (not Pakistani) who grew up abroad and has never been to South Asia. I am a watcher of Pakistani movies and TV shows, and I noticed actresses wearing saree that didn't cover the midriff sometimes in some movies as well as men sometimes being sexualised (or acting sexy, though the reverse is rare) or shirtless. I also noticed that when female actresses cover (unless they're not Punjabi or Sindhi), it is usually a shawl being made to look like a hood that shows the top side of the hair for a tiny portion, instead of a hijab where all the hair is covered

One thing I always wonder is why celebrities can do things they want without scrutiny compared to ordinary folks.

I don't wish to be part white and I am not a right winger. I grew up in a non-white country as a minority and I noticed it gave me a perspective on how people view racism and privilege.

I never understood why people think that mixed people who are part white are privileged and don't deserve being into any POC spaces. I also dislike how people want part white people to only care about their non-white mix and drag them if they ever care about their white part. Like when a mixed person got represented or is successful, monoracial minorities are quick to blame them (why them and not me) instead of targeting the prejudices and injustices of said country. European cultures are quite interesting and diverse, and if I was like half-Slovak or half-Estonian, I would be quite happy to learn about the culture while uplifting my non-white part. "But they're racist towards you" — I dislike white supremacists and the white alt right but growing up as a minority in a non white country made me realise that every race have their extremists. After all, I think its cool to explore your white side as long as you don't downplay your non white side. However, I am not telling everyone to not only identify as their POC self or dictating what people identify as since I only identify as South asian despite having some visible Southeast Asian features.

I've seen people denying a mixed person's POC side and I believe its wrong because even in some monoracial people in some countries, their phenotype and genetic makeup is different based on the individual but they aren't ashamed to tell that they're all the same ethnicity and culture.

I also despise people who say that you can't participate in your culture because you're mixed and don't look like the people from your culture but then scratch heads on "why mixed people are ashamed to connect with their heritage" when not displaying their heritage.

Hi everyone,

I currently live as a minority in a transphobic country, not in South Asia, where transitioning can be dangerous. I plan to move to a more accepting country after college and transition there, but I can’t move right now because of financial difficulties and some serious personal reasons.

I’m South Asian. I’m not saying that facial hair is inherently negative, but I want to have facial hair as well. Since most South Asian men around me have facial hair, this sometimes makes me feel dysphoric.

I want to know how I can create realistic-looking facial hair myself because I can’t buy the stick-on facial hair available on Amazon, and those products aren’t available in my country.

At the moment, I have a few very short mustache hairs, but they aren’t visible enough to look like a mustache.

Hi everyone,

I currently live as a minority in a transphobic country, not in South Asia, where transitioning can be dangerous. I plan to move to a more accepting country after college and transition there, but I can’t move right now because of financial difficulties and some serious personal reasons.

I’m South Asian. I’m not saying that facial hair is inherently negative, but I want to have facial hair as well. Since most South Asian men around me have facial hair, this sometimes makes me feel dysphoric.

I want to know how I can create realistic-looking facial hair myself because I can’t buy the stick-on facial hair available on Amazon, and those products aren’t available in my country.

At the moment, I have a few very short mustache hairs, but they aren’t visible enough to look like a mustache.

Every desi/South Asian and Chinese I know here have Burmese names. You'd never see them being allowed to use ethnic names in jobs, schools and documents unless it's an international school like ILBC. For example, you're not allowed to use Arjun, Pooja, Jiameng, Junaid etc...just Bamar names like Waiyan, Thant Zaw or Burmese adjacent foreign names like July, Sandy and May if you are South Asian or Chinese. I also heard that Christian Karens and Kachins with Latin or Western names have this problem too but I'm not sure if that's true. I once heard of a story online about some girl in a Chin subgroup (she's now an adult and she's talking about her time in Myanmar) who had an ethnic name but the teacher kept calling her Pwint Phyu (her original name translated to Burmese). However, I saw Shan, Kachin and some indigenous ethnic groups being allowed to use their native names.

In summary, I think South Asians and Chinese are not allowed to use their ethnic names but indigenous/state ethnic groups are allowed to.

My dad is North Indian and my mom is Burmese and Malayali (grandpa used to be a Christian). I was born in Myanmar and was raised Theravada Buddhist. I wasn't allowed to eat beef.

For clarification, I am a 5/8 3/8 myself.

Among South Asians, they knew I am mixed with South Asians but for non-South Asians in the West, since I'm lighter skin, some think I'm either Malay or anything else. I guess it's because most people think South Asians are all dark skinned, hairy and have deep set eyes.

I hope this doesn't sound misogynistic and I'm just trying to understand the gender dynamics in South Asian culture. I live in Myanmar, where some ethnic minorities such as the Chinese and South Asians, are forced to adopt Burmese names so unless you're a very dark skinned or bearded south asian, everyone assumes youre burmese. I’m a South Asian male through my family (63%) and I don't look Southeast Asian passing, but I wasn’t raised deeply connected to South Asian culture. Its not something I can control because I was born into a self hating South Asian father where the only thing he passed down is food. Something I’ve noticed is that sometimes, after South Asian women find out I’m half South Asian, their attitude toward me seems to change. After they know, I sometimes feel like there are more expectations placed on me, or there is a kind of “you can’t dominate me” or competitive attitude. I’m not saying all South Asian women act this way, and I don’t want to stereotype anyone. I’m just curious if this could be related to cultural expectations, gender dynamics, or assumptions people make when they learn someone has South Asian heritage.

I hope this doesn't sound misogynistic and I'm just trying to understand the gender dynamics in South Asian culture. I live in Myanmar, where some ethnic minorities such as the Chinese and South Asians, are forced to adopt Burmese names so unless you're a very dark skin south asian, everyone assumes youre burmese. I’m a South Asian male through my family and I don't look Southeast Asian passing, but I wasn’t raised deeply connected to South Asian culture. Something I’ve noticed is that sometimes, after South Asian women find out I’m half South Asian, their attitude toward me seems to change. After they know, I sometimes feel like there are more expectations placed on me, or there is a kind of “you can’t dominate me” or competitive attitude. I’m not saying all South Asian women act this way, and I don’t want to stereotype anyone. I’m just curious if this could be related to cultural expectations, gender dynamics, or assumptions people make when they learn someone has South Asian heritage.

It honestly feels exhausting being mixed sometimes because it feels like every ethnic minority space has a conversation where mixed people become the target.

I understand that many minority communities have real struggles with erasure, stereotypes, and people who only claim an identity when it benefits them. Those conversations are important. But sometimes the discussion goes from “let’s talk about representation and connection” to “mixed people are automatically less authentic" or analysing which part of their face is which after they found out their favourite ethnic representation has some mixed ancestry and that hurts. You even see this with very single race passing mixed people For example, you'd see South Asians in a forum celebrating Zayn Malik but then someone points out he has a white mom and most people there began to overanalyse his features and say he's white passing.

Whenever a biracial person is part of a conservative party or did neo-nazi stuff/hate crimes/something bad (i.e. Elliot R) those POC enclave groups would blame mixed race people as a whole and use that biracial person as a proof that mixed race people will never part of their community.

A lot of mixed people did not choose their circumstances. We did not choose which parent preserved their culture, which parent rejected it, what country we were born in, or whether our family history was disrupted by migration, discrimination, or assimilation.

Some of us are actively trying to reconnect with parts of our heritage that we lost. We are learning languages, exploring culture, finding community, and trying to understand where we come from. That should not be treated as fake just because our experience is different from someone who grew up surrounded by that culture.

Being mixed does not mean someone has no connection. It also does not mean someone automatically understands everything about every side of their background. Like anyone else, mixed people are individuals.

There should be room for complicated identities. A person can acknowledge their privilege, respect their communities, and still be honest about their own heritage.

Instead of asking “Are mixed people enough?” maybe we should ask “What experiences shaped this person, and how do we make space for different ways of belonging?”

A lot of people say mixed people regardless of background can just form community for each other. When I was younger, I used to relate to half East Asian and half White celebrities because there is no one who are from the same background as me but Wasians seemed more closer to me because I have a Wasian mom and South Asians were once considered part of the Caucasoid group. Despite this, I don't fit in Wasian groups because I am South Asian passing and I faced racism from a Wasian before.

Also when I go to a South Asian group, they'll talk about how East Asians are racist, white adjacent or white worshipping and when I go to an East Asian group, they'll talk about how South Asians have it easier due to their Caucasoid features and succeeding in tech, comments about how my mom is a victim of fetishisation, how South Asian men are creeps or how South Asian men are dating East Asian women more.

edit: I don't dislike monoracials. I tend to lurk and hang out in Asian diaspora groups and South Asian social media a lot and they've helped me with overcoming my insecurities.

I am raised in a lesser developed and somehow racist Southeast Asian country that I'm trying to leave but is still stuck inside it and I'm more South Asian presenting. The country forces their non-indigenous ethnic minorities to adopt the names of the dominant ethnic group, which does not even have surnames. You're not allowed to use your ethnic surnames and names if you are a non-indigenous ethnic minority in your legal documents, government school papers or job brochures. You are only allowed to use your ethnic names with your friends and family. Most minorities in my country, including South Asians, lost their surnames and couldn't track them because of this. Because of this reason, it makes it easier for my dad to hide his heritage. Because of this, blanqueamiento happens here sometimes depending on the situation. Both of my parents are narcissists. I have a self-hating South Asian father who thinks if you're racist against other South Asians and that if you and your descendants marry South East Asians or East Asians, you'll be accepted by ethnic South East Asians and your children will be free from the racism. Despite this, me and my brother turned out to look more South Asian. Even though my dad hid his heritage from the family, he would take us to South Asian restaurants quite often. My Eurasian mom and her family would sometimes make fun of me and my brother's features, like telling me why my eyes are like that..telling me why my mouth looks like that..telling us not to grow facial hair because it'll make us look like <slur for South Asians>. Because of this trauma, I can't even date anyone who isn't South Asian or mixed with South Asian.