I see realtors tend to have clients in specific economic tiers. How did you end up in the tier u interact with typically. I am obviously more curious about dealing with clients of a wealth level way above yours. Like the mega rich. How do you scout these people? i cant imagine a superrich person has to call a number of brokers to say i am looking for X. How does this whole thing work?

what is the best source for real occupancy? i looked at the rentals around me assuming blocked days meant rented out. I have since learned that hosts just block out rooms.

so what is the best way to determine pricing?

edit: someone is going around down-voting almost every single post and comment i make about hosting. seems to have started when i expressed concern about some type of guests.

Can y'all give my posts some love so i dont get downvoted to oblivion and not be able to post?

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I tend to do a load of laundry once in two days,mainly because I travel light. Or I will wash all my clothes so about 2 to 3 loads before i pack up to leave.

If you use laundry facilities, or have had hosts arrange for laundry use by agreement what has your experience with rules and restrictions been?

I moved back into my rental recently and its a great house. However i had tenants who had a dog and almost as soon as i moved in, something started biting me and causing severe itching.

It looked like pictures of scabies and so i took the treatment. However, it is not quite gone so my research tells me it may not have been scabies because the house was empty for a month before i moved back in.

I discovered birds nesting in the roof above my room. Could this have been bird mites? I had not even heard of these things.

How tf do i treat this?

I am wondering if any of you have recently gotten back yo work after time off without employment and are also in that specific age where you tend to become invisible to tech recruiters/ATS.

How was your experience, how long did u have to look?

I am writing because I truly have no idea of what i should do and need advice. If you can muster it specific action items.

It is easy to say get therapy but this is crisis mode and so very specifically tied to my identity as an engineer, I don't know if therapy will help/if they will understand or if i can even afford it. I feel frozen in fear.

Perimenopausal/menopausal/divorced, i lost my job 3 years ago after a long career in tech. I am diagnosed adhd/autism.

My engineering job in s/w supported me. I would say it took every ounce of mental energy to keep the job and take care of my child. I would definitely say I gave my work my best as i was capable of with all the additional stress because it helped keep my child and me solvent. So I may not have been the best parent i could have been. I tried, but my anxiety for sure affected my daughter.

When i lost my job, i was already spiraling for years. I got divorced a few yrs ago, he was likely on the spectrum too. I could have made better choices of a mate financially speaking, but i took this path against all advice because he seemed to make me feel less alone and I never truly understood conventions and that some of those rules existed to protect people.

My parents are long gone. I really cannot lean on extended family for long periods of time or even share my misery. In any case, they are not even in the same continent. Sometimes I sense a level of schadenfreude there because I was the "successful" one, when I was younger. I also married outside set parameters prescribed for someone in my position, breaking norms.

So basically I have ZERO friends, no community, one distant sibling and very distant family. People looking in have no idea how hollow my existence is. From experience I am terrified of being taken advantage of so I am pretty guarded too. People are less interested in you when they realize you have no money or anything of value to give them. I doubt if they are aware of it but it is what they seem to do.

I catastrophize. I am at an absolute brick wall, if I don't do something, I will go into foreclosure, take away a small measure of sense of belonging my daughter has. But if I am gone, she will have the finances that i would have had to support me available to support her. On paper my home has a decent value and some equity, but after fixing it up and taxes I will just break even on the sale. My retirement account is not enough to support me and her for the rest of my life. I was at least scrappy in my younger years, she probably isn't as scrappy as I was.

The bottom-line is I feel so completely absolutely alone. I am watching the bills pile up and savings going down at a rate that next month's bills will basically go unpaid. I can't seem to get out of this deer in headlights mode. But bills are just a small part of this overall untethered existence. In fact my house is probably the only thing that is making me feel halfway normal. If that goes everything goes.

It feels easier to not be. There should be a way to get off this train when it gets to be too much.

This is how I feel today. Maybe when I take my hrt patch and get some caffeine in me I wont feel this. But this is what is underlying that I am ignoring and not addressing.

I thought I was doing a good job of picking up my life after my dad died when i was a young teen. But it has just been one terrible thing after another, a couple of malignancies, and i am kicking the can down the road, operating in crisis mode to get anything done. People in crisis mode do not build connections.

So my advice to my younger self, some of you may be in that mode. Make wise decisions, make backup plans, save money, find community but not community that just takes but community that supports when you need it.

Edit: I don't know why I even posted this. Maybe because once in a while my anxiety gets the better of me before the day takes over and I have to do things. So a raw from the heart post.

To those that down-voted this, why? I hope life teaches you empathy through experience.

Warning: this will read like a disjointed rambling sob story. please skip if this might bother you.

I am writing because I truly have no idea of what i should do and chronicling my story might help someone out there to identify and correct issues in their own life.

It is easy to say get therapy but this is crisis mode and so very specifically tied to my identity as an engineer, I don't know if therapy will help/if they will understand or if i can even afford it.

My engineering job in s/w supported me. I would say it took every ounce of mental energy to keep the job and take care of my child. I would definitely say I gave my work my best as i was capable of with all the additional stress because it helped keep my child and me solvent. So I may not have been the best parent i could have been. I tried, but my anxiety for sure affected my daughter.

Perimenopausal/menopausal/divorced, i lost my job 3 years ago after a long career in tech. I am diagnosed adhd/autism.

When i lost my job, i was already spiraling for years. I got divorced a few yrs ago, he was likely on the spectrum too. I could have made better choices of a mate financially speaking, but i took this path against all advice because he seemed to make me feel less alone and I never truly understood conventions and that some of those rules existed to protect people.

My parents are long gone. I really cannot lean on extended family for long periods of time or even share my misery. In any case, they are not even in the same continent. Sometimes I sense a level of schadenfreude there because I was the "successful" one, when I was younger. I also married outside set parameters prescribed for someone in my position, breaking norms.

So basically I have ZERO friends, no community, one distant sibling and very distant family. People looking in have no idea how hollow my existence is. From experience I am terrified of being taken advantage of so I am pretty guarded too. People are less interested in you when they realize you have no money or anything of value to give them. I doubt if they are aware of it but it is what they seem to do.

I catastrophize. I am at an absolute brick wall, if I don't do something, I will go into foreclosure, take away a small measure of sense of belonging my daughter has. But if I am gone, she will have the finances that i would have had to support me available to support her. On paper my home has a decent value and some equity, but after fixing it up and taxes I will just break even on the sale. My retirement account is not enough to support me and her for the rest of my life. I was at least scrappy in my younger years, she probably isn't as scrappy as I was.

The bottom-line is I feel so completely absolutely alone. I am watching the bills pile up and savings going down at a rate that next month's bills will basically go unpaid. I can't seem to get out of this deer in headlights mode. But bills are just a small part of this overall untethered existence. In fact my house is probably the only thing that is making me feel halfway normal. If that goes everything goes.

It feels easier to not be. There should be a way to get off this train when it gets to be too much.

This is how I feel today. Maybe when I take my hrt patch and get some caffeine in me I wont feel this. But this is what is underlying that I am ignoring and not addressing.

I thought I was doing a good job of picking up my life after my dad died when i was a young teen. But it has just been one terrible thing after another and i am kicking the can down the road, operating in crisis mode to get anything done. People in crisis mode do not build connections.

So my advice to my younger self, some of you may be in that mode. Make wise decisions, make backup plans, save money, find community but not community that just takes but community that supports when you need it.

Reasonably priced. I am seeking to be armed with this in case of pests.

Someone who sort of works in your corner and goes the extra mile, uses their network, shops your skills and gets you interviews?

I'm so sick of the linkedin blackhole... tbf i haven't been there lately since i am thoroughly discouraged and it makes me all sorts of miserable

I am considering just signing up to a pest control company because it seems like a good idea to have someone else deal with keeping pests out of my home than myself.

Is this routinely done with a specific problem of can you just get a contract with a company to deal with all kinds of problems on a quarterly or biannual basis?

For homes that are older than 30-40 years there would have been treatments of various sorts I am imagining - like bed bugs/termites/rodents/racoons

Do buyers get scared off if these are present? I would assume there are few properties that old that have not had to deal with critters trying to sneak in an live with us.

how do you handle this? Which is better, routine pest control once every few years, recent pest control, no pest control treatments?

I had the same insurance agent at the most popular known roadside assistance agency and she retired recently. I just got sent to another agent who was vague did not answer my questions properly and in general feels less personable. He has also attached my rental property claim history to my primary home insurance which seems unusual. He is off on vacation and I have to submit my application. I am not too happy about this.

How do people go about getting quotes for home insurance typically? I'd like to find a good one and set it and forget it.

They keep saying unemployment is low. No doubt their data however they collect it says so. but what is the ground truth?? I keep hearing about layoffs and my own situation as well weights into it.

Is it only some parts of the economy that is doing well or bad? how is it working out for us?

From my own survey of female friends in tech it is not all that great. Some have left the field for other employment u could say under-employed after layoff. Some have quit the field altogether and had a spouse to lean on or they just got rid of daycare for their kids and cut back on extra curriculars. so essentially no longer lookng for a job.

can we have an informal poll?

edit: Why would anyone down-vote this post?

anyway, if the unemployment numbers are not taking into account real unemployment doesn't it mean the Fed's reading is inaccurate as to what is going on with the economy? how could they not have accounted for this or have they?

I am trying to get an idea of how the work world is as i sit isolated in my home figuring out a way back. I am doing the usual stuff, github, courses, a bit aimless but mainly ai focused, have a project or two going but I am wondering what is going on in actual companies.

I am trying to get a sense of what changed with AI concretely. At a high handwavy level i know AI is being used for coding, meeting minutes etc but in your actual work flow how does it go?

After all work is about the team and process and ":enterprise" level ceremony, not just skill and right now i have no team, process or ceremonies. just me and github with whatever silly thing that catches my eye.

Would love to hear about how you are working now. Everyday I am not back to work I feel more and more left behind even if i am keeping pace with the learning

Not sure if the flair is right for this question but I just went with it

Edit: posting it here for more responses. this may be a better subreddit that womenintech for this?

My condo is up for rent and another one in the same building is as well. They are renting it out furnished.

Finding two issues with the listing;

1 Zillow has clubbed them all into one listing for the community which is townhomes as well as condos.

2 The listing variously shows up with filters selected and sometimes disappears. I am wondering if the is some how listed to them clubbing all the rentals together? Can they do something about showing them as seperate listings?

This is not an apartment complex but separately owned homes.

I am trying to get an idea of how the work world is as i sit isolated in my home figuring out a way back. I am doing the usual stuff, github, courses, a bit aimless but mainly ai focused, have a project or two going but I am wondering what is going on in actual companies.

I am trying to get a sense of what changed with AI concretely. At a high handwavy level i know AI is being used for coding, meeting minutes etc but in your actual work flow how does it go?

After all work is about the team and process and ":enterprise" level ceremony, not just skill and right now i have no team, process or ceremonies. just me and github with whatever silly thing that catches my eye.

Would love to hear about how you are working now. Everyday I am not back to work I feel more and more left behind even if i am keeping pace with the learning

Not sure if the flair is right for this question but I just went with it

I have not been employed since 2023 ( at that point health was an issue, and i was not sure i'd still be around either). Now i am better. But am finding that the 3 year hiatus is a HUGE detriment. My network seems to have dried up and a number of them are retiring, and a close friend and mentor actually passed away, she was amazing.

I need advice on how I can go about getting a contracting gig or anything at all that basically gets me back into the tech sector. I am 45+ and have had a long time in the industry. I have to say my confidence has taken a brutal lashing. I have been the go to person over my career but that feels like a life-time ago.

I am at a minimum wage job part-time rn and while i enjoy it immensely, it is not a substitute for a gig that pays me enough to keep my home.

Help?

edit: 700 views and few responses. Let me be more specific: What can I do to make myself more attractive to employers, not just my resume. My resume from 3 years ago is probably useless and all that experience is likely not so important.

How would I go about reinventing myself in a way that is interesting to a hiring manager. Some of you are hiring managers, what would you like to see someone like myself have done ? Do certifications help? which ones? I code routinely and use AI but since i am on my own there isnt any teamwork going on.

Are any of you hiring?

I have not been employed since 2023 ( at that point health was an issue, and i was not sure i'd still be around either). Now i am better. But am finding that the 3 year hiatus is a HUGE detriment. My network seems to have dried up and a number of them are retiring, and a close friend and mentor actually passed away, she was amazing.

I need advice on how I can go about getting a contracting gig or anything at all that basically gets me back into the tech sector. I am 45+ and have had a long time in the industry. I have to say my confidence has taken a brutal lashing. I have been the go to person over my career but that feels like a life-time ago.

I am at a minimum wage job part-time rn and while i enjoy it immensely, it is not a substitute for a gig that pays me enough to keep my home.

Help?

Over the years, I've seen many leadership changes that are external hires mostly men. I don't think I had a single female engineering leader, who was an outside hire, where I worked. Most of these men seem to follow a pattern to integrate themselves into the fabric of the company. But men did things differently perhaps?

There is a specific pattern I have observed that gets repeated but does not seem to be beneficial to all the people involved.

For instance, a new VP or director is hired. They find the nicest. quiet person in the teams, mostly often a diligent woman, and chat them up, give them a great deal of attention, pick their brain, questions etc.,. This is almost always NOT in meetings, just individually. These informal sessions do not give the person any credit and power from having leadership asking them for advice. Once they get a lay of the land, the tech, the politics, map it all out, they tend to cut lose the person they first connected with.

This is a repeated pattern and feels quite distasteful. This is how the world works? There must be a better way.

How do you integrate yourselves into the existing work matrix?

How did you get back to work? How long were you on the break and in general how did you manage your finances, sense of self-worth, self-image not working in tech, did you do anything else, try an alternate career? anything at all..

I am getting back from a 3 year hiatus due to health issues but tbh even with the horrible healt stuff, a part of me was delighted i was not having to go to work. I am over that specific hump but finances are brutal.

Appreciate any advice on how to get back to work. ATS systems DO NOT like me resume.

I learned too embarrassingly late in my life the benefits of networking... so that is a big hurdle