u/Eidobe

i got stray cat home, i took care of him and now i decided to make him friend with my old cat coz he been alone for 8 years already, and i want friend for him. so i put him in different room to take care of him for almost 3 weeks, and let them meet only a bit to eat food together, and then separated, and now i am trying to make them friends.

the huge problem is, now when the new cat is trying to play with my old cat, every time he is near him my old cat SCREAMS and hissing, and starting to attack him and run away. i cut their nails, but my old cat is just so scared of him and getting so angry when he's near him, and usually he is extremely friendly and so loving, and the new cat is also extremely nice, and only wants to play with him but he is so scared that he thinks he wants to attack him and he screams non stop. the advices i got from people around are to just let them be, and they will take places in the house and slowly become friends.

from here, i got advice to watch videos and work according to them (which i tried) but it doesn't work because my old cat is so scared.

what should i do?

THAT LEVEL OF CRAZINESS!
I wanna see what’s the worst we can find here from all the subreddits I just saw xD

I struggle to socialize when I stand and talk, I have no tact, and a lot more.
I understand I need to specify more, but I will write part of it because it a lot and I am asking, where / how can I get help to improve them? Where can I find any professional help for that?

Now for explaining a bit more - I tend to get into conversations I don’t belong to, where people talk and I just get in and speak. I am being too nice to people very often, and I try not to be wrong. I lack confidence speaking to people, but that’s just confidence that I need to improve, I started working in sales and I am trying to improve it.
People often tell me I am awkward and let’s say not “normal” (you understand what I mean already by normal..)

Thanks for whoever helps

There is no filter that I can see for that so I will use newly diagnosed but it’s kind of self, I am not sure yet.

I am 24(M) and my whole life I been socially awkward, and different. But I never thought of having autism in any way, because I see myself like everyone else, but lately I been thinking of serious stuff.
I have problem reading people and understand situations
I don’t understand what people tell me like everyone else, it takes me time.
I am awkward and people told me I act weird
I sometimes raise my voice when I speak and talk loud
I struggle understanding social situations, and been told I have no tact - for example I can see people talk and just join the conversation even if I am not related and then I feel embarrassed because they think it’s weird (I don’t do it often but I tend to get to places I am not belong to a lot)
I ask questions that I shouldn’t because they’re too deep sometimes and I don’t understand that
I struggle making conversation normally and I feel awkward talking and standing, like I feel like I need to move or stand weird or don’t know what to do with my hands
I often act very impulsive and say whatever is in my mind without thinking much about them, and then later understand what I done was wrong
I am extremely straight forward.
Everywhere I work, I act very robotic and need exact instructions to know what to do because I am afraid of being wrong, I been wrong, and I try not to think myself what to do (be open minded)

Now, those are the ones I can think of right now, and the thing is my mom wanted to diagnose me actually like a year ago, but I told her it’s irrelevant and I don’t need and others said no need because I basically look “normal” - but those people don’t know me enough and I try to act different a lot.

I currently work in sales, and I started noticing it more and more and seeing myself, and I want to learn social skills but I don’t know how, and i started thinking wait- maybe it’s something real that i should check? Because apart from that, with people i am being extremely nice, people think i am very nice and would say “cute”, and one of my co-workers tells me i remind her brother in the way i act, her brother has autism and he is diagnosed.

I really don’t know if i have it or not, or I am just a complicated man who trying to figure himself, I will definitely go to diagnose myself in a professional place, but I wonder, does those actions look familiar to you? If so, how do you deal with it? Who helps with those stuff?

so i left my friend group with my "bros" around 3 weeks ago, i stopped talking to them completely, because they laugh often and are toxic to me, and when they want to go somewhere some said "let's go without (me)" but the thing is not all of them like that, and they're not trying to ask me to come back because they "know" i will come back, so they don't try.

the problem is now i am kinda bored when i get back home and i miss the fun times and some noises with friends because i don't have it anymore. some of them are good friends for real and care for me, some don't. it's also just discord friend group so i can mute whoever is toxic to me and talk to some and then unmute later until they completely stop or something.

know it will return to how it was before, and i asked already something similar, but i think it's time to return and just have more self respect and ego, you know? maybe i shouldn't act like that and just leave and come back and just respect myself? because they say i don't in general and now i do (i know that it's against what i say - that if i return i literally show that i have no self respect but it's different because i am going to just act different and care more if they are being annoying and be normal with the ones who care) and i also want to ask them "who wants me to actually be in the friend group and who deadass don't?" and if the majority says no i will just completely leave the discord server and whatsapp and that's it.

what do you think

Does anyone want tips for example posts / suggestions how to get over breakup and heal from toxic / bad relationships? I love this topic and I wouldn’t mind creating posts sometimes or if anyone needs questions here to help others because I enjoy that. But is it something people want?

So I posted here before that I am currently taking care of a stray cat for 2 days already, but the problem is he is falling and moving stuff in his cage (where I take care of him), and has worms. So you tried to call vets, only 1 is near and he recommended me to give him green tea with big teaspoon of honey, because it has micro elements that could help him because he barely ate today (he dropped the water all over the cage and the whole day he didn’t have food or water), I asked Gemini and he said it’s dangerous and I should talk to different vet and not take advice from this one. And me, a person who had basic knowledge about cats left with no clue what to do. So I didn’t give him the tea, coz I am scared, and I asked in r/askvets and I got no replies at all. Does anyone know about this kind of “trick”??

I got 2 days ago a stray cat, he has bad mouth infection, he had fever, and fire ants stung his eyes. I took him to vet (different from title) and they gave him pills, and vaccinated him with some stuff to try to make him feel better.
But, the cat for some reason falling sometimes on stuff, making stuff fall, and also have WORMS in his poop. I was very worried, so I tried to call vet but the only vet that works rn in this hour is night vet, and I asked him for advice. He said he could come and charge me, but he thinks I shouldn’t and I should give him tea with big teaspoon of honey, because maybe his sugar is low. And he said there’s probably 50cm worm inside him, and those worms in the poop are from it. Now, I made the tea and honey, but before I gave it to him I asked Gemini, and he said it does not make sense at all and I should not listen to that vet and ask advice from different one because it could even be toxic to him.
Can someone please help me??? I am scared for his life and I don’t know what to do, because they said he could die tonight, and I should bring him tomorrow morning. PLEASE!

I caught the kitten from previous post but she crying and screaming in the carrier! I am scared and I don’t know what to do coz I am taking her to vet

I keep checking on my ex’s Instagram, everywhere see if she changed pfp, just to see changes, IT BEEN 3 YEARS SINCE THE BREAKUP! But I am just obsessed and I can’t stop. I can’t delete her, I thought I am over it completely, idc anymore if she with someone else coz I know she is, we talked few months ago, and ended everything because she kept messaging every like once a year, and now she changed profile picture and I have ANXIETY!!! AT WORK AND I HATE IT, I thought I completely over it because I don’t care about her anymore or think too much although I keep checking her pfp, and boom. One change and I am anxious. I am not even attracted to her anymore, and I tell people it’s gonna be fine coz I was fine for some time, and now I am not.
All I need is reassurance to be honest, please reddit do your thing

I got whoop like 3 days ago, and I am using it to help track my steps,but the problem is, at night it adds extra tons of steps. How do I fix that?
I had like 11000 steps yesterday, and woke up with 17000… it’s very inaccurate

I will explain everything

basically i had good friend group for around 7 years, one i know from childhood, and rest i met online. we talk everyday all day on discord, and we met sometimes.

but the problem is i am kind of a person who is a bit weird, and i was unemployed for years, and never really gave too much to the group other than jokes, and making fun of me a lot.
they call me stupid a lot, and disrespect me, but sometimes trying to give me advices because they're tired of it and want me to be better, and i started having a job right now, idk how long it will last, but i decided that they're too toxic for me and i need better friend group and better environment after having a fight one with of the friends. the problem is, now i am bored, we kind of a friend group who just playing games on pc all day, and now i am bored and feel kind of lonely.

another important thing to mention, i talked to one guy in the friend group that i am cool with after i stopped getting in the calls, and he asked me why and i explained everything, and he said that one of friends have mentioned before that they wanted to go out with everyone, but not with "me", so i am thinking who it is could be and is it worth coming back to where you are not wanted, but also the way they are is like "just shut up and stop being a b\*\*\*\*" when i show any emotions like i am sick of them being rude to me sometimes.

i must say, don't get me wrong, i am kind of toxic as well in a way, but not like that i wouldn't want to hurt someone's feelings when they are truly hurt.

so is it worth coming back to that friend group because they are my only friends and closest? or should i really just give up on it and be alone? i can just be there for jokes and games but distant instead

**TLDR;** is it worth going back to closest friend group of over 7 years for them being toxic to you or just let it go and that's how friends are and just be distant from them, not go with them out, but just be there for the games and fun times.

I will explain everything. Basically, I had a friend group for around 7 years. One I know from childhood, and the rest I met online. We used to talk every day all day on Discord, and we met up sometimes.

The problem is I am kind of a person who is a bit weird, and I was unemployed for years. I never really gave too much to the group other than jokes, and them making fun of me a lot. They call me stupid a lot and disrespect me, but sometimes they try to give me advice because they're tired of it and want me to be better. I started having a job right now (I don't know how long it will last), but I recently decided that they're too toxic for me and I need a better friend group and a better environment after having a fight with one of them.

The issue is that now I am bored. We were the kind of friend group that just plays games on PC all day, and now I am bored and feel kind of lonely.

Another important thing to mention: I talked to one guy in the friend group that I am cool with after I stopped getting in the calls. He asked me why, and I explained everything. He told me that they sometimes say that they want to go out, but they say without me, but he didn't want to mention names. So now I am thinking about who it could be, and if it's even worth coming back to a place where you are explicitly not wanted. Also, the way they act is like "just shut up and stop being a b****" whenever I show any emotions or say I am sick of them being rude to me.

Don't get me wrong, I am kind of toxic as well in a way, but not in a way where I would want to hurt someone's feelings when they are truly hurt.

I am trying to figure out how to weigh this decision. Is it realistic to go back to this friend group just to have people to play games with, while remaining completely distant, not going out with them, and only being there for the casual fun times? Or is it a mistake to return to a group where this level of disrespect and exclusion exists?

TLDR; I [24M] left my 7-year gaming group [23M-26M] due to constant disrespect and finding out they sometimes talk about hanging out without me, though my source wouldn't name names. Now I am bored and lonely. I am looking for advice on how to decide if I should try to return to the group with strict, distant boundaries just for gaming, or if I should let it go completely.

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I got whoop today first time, and i paid for biceps strap, was i supposed to get 2..?

i will explain, i don't know why but in every game i ever played i have those times when i just jump around between stuff and doing some kind of parkour. every game.

i wonder if there's a GOOD game that i can do that in and enjoy it very much freely when i am bored.

i played clustertruck before and i saw a game called haste, both are around what i am aiming for but don't pinpoint that.

i just want a game where there's a LOT coming in, it moves fast, looks cool, and dynamic.

does anyone have a recommendation?

*i am not looking for shooter game specifically, just a game to jump around i guess and maybe collect stuff