u/Final-Highway-4934

I said yes and I cried and his mom hugged me and said she always knew I was the one and I believed every word of it. That was five weeks ago, buttt

last night he left his phone unlocked on the counter and I wasn't going through it, I was moving it to put down a glass of water and the notes app was open and I saw my name so I looked. It was the proposal written out, which made sense because I knew he'd planned it.

Except the first LINE had a different name where mine should have been.

I stood in the kitchen holding his phone and I don't know how long I was there. He was in the shower. I put it down and said nothing and it's been eighteen hours and I still haven't said anything.

I've gone through every explanation - old note he never deleted, a template he forgot to edit, a draft that survived by accident. None of them feel like something I can actually hold onto....

My mom has already told everyone. I have a dress appointment next month.

What do I do with this? Help please.

matched with someone last week and spent about three days trying to figure out why he seemed so familiar and then it hit me he's almost identical to my ex. same energy, sense of humor, way of deflecting when things get serious

the thing is I still have feelings for my ex, not "I want him back" feelings, more like "I know exactly how this person works and there's something comfortable about that" which I think might actually be worse than wanting him back

my ex was not a good partner and I know this, I've spent enough time in therapy unpacking exactly why, but apparently knowing something intellectually and being attracted to the same pattern anyway are two completely different things that can exist in the same brain simultaneously.

I matched back and we've been talking for five days and it's going well in a way that makes me nervous.

has anyone dated someone who was clearly a version of their ex and had it actually work out differently or does the pattern just repeat?