u/Gullible_Rich_7156

Ex of nearly six years (separated six, officially divorced almost three) has always been difficult but it ramped up significantly after I began cohabitating with my GF of five years and her children about a year ago. Parental alienation, coercive control, letters from her attorney threatening motion practice over trivial things, and constant disputes over scheduling, extracurricular activities and reimbursements. Her text messages and emails to me are heavily laden with threats of litigation, insults, mockery and general hatefulness. My responses are all run through an AI bot and remain emotionless and child focused.

I ignored her threats for a long time and simply let her burn money on attorney letters that I would simply answer myself (if at all) via email. Now here we are: she spent $6000 a motion that basically attempts to give her exclusive control over all extracurricular activities that my children participate in and veto power over any and all costs associated with them. She is of course asking for fees and I also spent about $6000 on my defense. My attorney says it is one of the weakest filings she has ever seen and that at worst, the judge will toss everything out, nobody gets anything and the ultimate losers will be my kids because their parents are now collectively $12000 poorer.

Dude owns a tire shop near me that I’ve used from time to time. I’ve probably known him for about 10 years on and off and all during that time I’d say he looked early 70s at most. Spry, witty, sharp as a tack and completely mobile. I saw him in the gym this morning and we went for the same machine. After we got to talking a bit he casually mentioned that at 92 he’s grateful for everything he’s able to do. I about fell over.

The possibility of not only having nearly 50 more years but 50 more QUALITY years ahead of me is mind blowing. I’d say that I’m not sure if genetics would be in my favor, but among my grandparents smoking and alcohol use was pretty universal as was obesity, poor diet and the idea that as you age you just stop moving. My grandfather’s sister who led a pretty clean lifestyle and was always slender lived to 96 while the rest of them (there were eight altogether) were lucky to make it to 70.

Dude owns a tire shop near me that I’ve used from time to time. I’ve probably known him for about 10 years on and off and all during that time I’d say he looked early 70s at most. Spry, witty, sharp as a tack and completely mobile. I saw him in the gym this morning and we went for the same machine. After we got to talking a bit he casually mentioned that at 92 he’s grateful for everything he’s able to do. I about fell over.

The possibility of not only having nearly 50 more years but 50 more QUALITY years ahead of me is mind blowing. I’d say that I’m not sure if genetics would be in my favor, but among my grandparents smoking and alcohol use was pretty universal as was obesity, poor diet and the idea that as you age you just stop moving. My grandfather’s sister who led a pretty clean lifestyle and was always slender lived to 96 while the rest of them (there were eight altogether) were lucky to make it to 70.

In a local NJ (Peapack and Gladstone) FB forum someone posted a picture of a young JFK, jr riding his bike somewhere around Peapack and Gladstone which is the heart of Somerset Hills horse country in New Jersey. Being less than an hour from Manhattan Jackie and the children spent a fair amount of time riding, fox hunting, etc…there. My children ride and compete in the same area today as we live just a bit further west. I’m curious if anyone knows what farms (assuming they’re still there-some at least are quite old) they frequented and/or what events they competed in.

Ex has accused me of violating the MSA constantly during since the day it was signed nearly three years ago. I’d get nasty texts (which I saved and catalogued), threatening letters from her attorney (which I mostly ignored) and she would make the most mundane things (scheduling, item/kid exchanges, agreement on/payment for extracurriculars, etc…) nightmarish. About a year ago I started using ChatGPT to track her nonsense and draft responses to her. The more boring and dull my responses were the more insane she would get.

Finally, she began threatening an actual motion about three months ago mostly over a dispute regarding summer vacation timing. She started sending letters and I got a new attorney who was ready to play hardball. We asked for a four way conference; she said no. We proposed a draft consent order to put more structure in the MSA to eliminate ambiguities that led to friction; she said no. We proposed mediation; she said no. All the way she was threatening a motion both in attorney letters and in texts/emails to me. I submitted a reimbursement to her for her share of an extracurricular activity (mind you I pay child support AND alimony AND she is cohabitating) and she paid it along with a rant about how she “didn’t authorize the expense, doesn’t agree with paying it” and that it would be “added to the motion.”

Once she finally filed it my attorney about fell off of her chair and said it was almost laughable. In addition to all of the texts and emails that I used to not only rebut what she alleged but to also show that she in fact is the one violating the MSA and not acting in a child focused manner, we actually used some of HER exhibits in my cross motion because they illustrate her patterns of dictating/making demands inconsistent with the needs of the kids/confines of the MSA and then raging at me and threatening court action when I calmly cite the MSA and/or simply tell her no.

The bottom line is she is seeking attorney fees of about $6000 which my attorney says will not happen. However, I’ve spent about $6000 as well on my defense. My attorney did say that it’s rare that a judge would award fees to me since this is her first filing and would likely just toss the entire thing out and maybe at most scold her and warn her not to file something like this again so that we’re both out $6000-$12,000 total that could have been better spent on the kids. Just curious to hear from others who have been the target of bullshit litigation like this and how it turned out.