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should i take up a 3.3lpa job after btech from my tier 3 college or not

I have a 3.3 lpa job offer letter for trainee engineer research associate in Bangalore not in an mnc tho it's a tiny company also I'm a cse 2026 graduate so should I take it or prepare for better jobs in IT industry?

the market seems pretty unstable rn would this job help me with experience or should i stay at home and upskill and then apply for better jobs

even if i take it up how would switching be like

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I have a 3.3 lpa job offer letter for trainee engineer research associate in Bangalore not in an mnc tho it's a tiny company also I'm a cse 2026 graduate so should I take it or prepare for better jobs in IT industry?

the market seems pretty unstable rn would this job help me with experience or should i stay at home and upskill and then apply for better jobs

even if i take it up how would switching be like

I have a 3.3 lpa job offer letter for trainee engineer research associate in Bangalore not in an mnc tho it's a tiny company also I'm a cse 2026 graduate so should I take it or prepare for better jobs in IT industry?

the market seems pretty unstable rn would this job help me with experience or should i stay at home and upskill and then apply for better jobs

even if i take it up how would switching be like

I have a 3.3 lpa job offer letter for trainee engineer research associate in Bangalore not in an mnc tho it's a tiny company also I'm a cse 2026 graduate so should I take it or prepare for better jobs in IT industry?

the market seems pretty unstable rn would this job help me with experience or should i stay at home and upskill and then apply for better jobs

even if i take it up how would switching be like

so basically if i manage to produce all documents and everything needed to take a loan like my father's itr and income proof and everything would they need his consent if my mom's present there? my father isn't in the picture and won't support me if they try to verify the documents with my father he'll refuse.

ik it sounds bad but there's nothing i can do. i heard sbi scholar loan doesn't need a co applicant but in case they do my mom can sign but she's not earning and i can manage my father's documents but he won't approve if he gets to know about it in case the bank people call him

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do they take away original documents during admission and how much could the donation be?? also how is the college overall

so my father isn't really supporting me and i was wondering if my mom can sign as a co applicant for my education loan. it's collateral free and the college is a tier 1 nlu.

my mom said she can sign but she isn't an earning member and my father has her documents that he isn't giving. the house we live in has her name but we don't have the papers and she doesn't have her passbook but i can get a replacement for that so it'll be just her adhar ration and pan and her bank's passbook that i can produce

any chances for getting the loan?

so my father isn't really supporting me and i was wondering if my mom can sign as a co applicant for my education loan. it's collateral free and the college is a tier 1 nlu.

my mom said she can sign but she isn't an earning member and my father has her documents that he isn't giving. the house we live in has her name but we don't have the papers and she doesn't have her passbook but i can get a replacement for that so it'll be just her adhar ration and pan and her bank's passbook that i can produce

any chances for getting the loan?

how's techno salt Lake or techno international for bca?? or any other good colleges that you guys know of. I'd taken 4 drops for neet and scored only 65% in 12.

also like the fees shouldn't exceed 1l for the first sem incl donation since i may drop out if i crack clat in December. and they should let me drop out without paying the entire fees and shouldn't withhold documents

how's techno salt Lake or techno international for bca?? or any other good colleges that you guys know of. I'd taken 4 drops for neet and scored only 65% in 12.

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yesterday we had a huge fight and my parents are abusive but that's another story. yesterday he was staring me up and down constantly in anger and disgust which is pretty normal but i was wearing shorts and an oversized tee with no bra and I've big boobs they're pretty visible even if i wear oversized.

in the pg i used to live before everyone there including the owner was very respectful and his eyes never went anywhere else except my face so i never wore a bra there and was comfortable

yesterday's incident however completely flipped me like my father was staring idk if I'm overthinking but i felt really uncomfortable. he was staring down my legs at least and he looked up and down at least 5-6 times. i even caught him glancing my boobs but idk I'm having trouble believing it.

I've thought of covering myself completely at home now. was what happened was normal in anger and I'm overthinking or was it something way worse?? like i didn't feel this way ever with others.they don't usually stare at least when we're dressed like that right?

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I'm typing this while crying so this whole rant might sound a little too much but it's reality.

ever since i was a kid i was interested in being a doctor. my father's a homeopathy one and always spoke about how good it would've been if he were a mbbs. i used to get sick really often and was very talkative as a kid so knew a few doctors who used to talk to me and we laughed and i share very fond memories with them. long story short i was surrounded by medicine and got groomed into medicine by my parents iif that's the right way to put it out.

i used to be really amazing till 8th and my teachers used to call me gifted back then. always on the top of the class of all sections won debates speeches everything. i got burnt out however and my scores started dropping and i finally got compartment in 9th in my best subject maths. i remember not even learning the trigonometry values even though i was failing and understood everything i just didn't want to do it anymore. i was horribly burnt out from all the pressure extreme comparison and restrictive environment at my home where even if i smiled a little I'd be questioned why i was smiling and they scolded me for every little thing. i didn't understand why my grades were dropping why i couldn't study anymore. i was burnt out being the perfect child they wanted me to be

now cut to 11th i took pcb and lockdown hit. i literally had no guidance i remember scouring through vector lectures without knowing anything about calculus and being unable to understand a single thing. there was just no guidance for me. teachers didn't help out for some reason. reading truemans biology and crying how it's too vast and I'd never remember it all. and i wasn't really interested in chemistry

i got into an accident during preboards and was bedrest for 7 months approximately. scored shit in boards didn't appear for cuet and decided I'll take a drop and study hard. in my first attempt i scored around 300 and was happy with myself considering everything

first year went away trying to gauge syllabus

second went away in trying to study and trying to adapt myself in the schedule

paper leak happened in the next

the environment at my home was horrible all the times and i went outside maybe once a year for filling my forms. yes it was that bad.

in my fourth drop however i decided to move out and join coaching to a nearby city cause mine didn't have it. i stayed alone for the first time got the taste of freedom. my parents barely called me once a day. for the first time in my life i wasn't waking up by screams and teachers liked me even though i wasn't studying. they liked me for myself and always said how I'll make a great life for myself and i was good.

parents barely called me back home i used to go every month tho it was just 2 hours away to see my brother.

they used to kick me out at 5am in the winters and get me into a bus all alone even though I'm a girl and our city isn't safe at all. on my birthday our coaching had it's test 13 kms away and I'm not used to travelling so said my father i dont wanna go it's far and it'll get dark by the time i return. he was furious at me at even the thought of skipping the test even though the place was risky to go alone. he called me in the evening of the test asking how it went and i said good and he didn't even wish my happy birthday.

i somewhere had my doubts that they hate me and I'm just this degree producing machine for them but i thought my parents haven't scolded me ever for taking so many drops never forced me for another career they're probably just fine

my neet 2026 went bad cause of some reasons mostly because of my mental health and they went crazy upon me after that. threatened to stop my education forced me to get married character assassinated me and told me I'm being unladylike for wanting to do bca and that I'd sleep around staying in different cities. my father just wasn't listening to what i was saying he straight up said it's my money you'll do whatever i ask you to. these people were ready to invest in a pvt medical college but said they don't have any money for bca in a pvt college for which the fees is of around 5l

I've went through a lot since then and am still going through

idk if anyone is experiencing anything similar but if your abusive parents are being too supportive or too dismissive about you then please always have a backup and don't ever take multiple drops. my parents keep saying how people crack even after 6-7 drops I'm too weak to quit this quick.

if i make it out this time I'll make sure i never have to see them and depend on them ever. I've developed horrible migraine it stays for a week and ibs too. they wanted me to do mbbs and stay back in my tier 3 city so they could use my degree make money. I'm dying everyday no way I'd survive mbbs now but none of it matters to them.

if you notice a similar pattern run away. took a little too long for me to understand

i tried to quit neet last year but they convinced me to give it one more try since this is all I've ever wanted doctor. my parents never once scolded me and said I'm free to do whatever i want to do.i wasn't.it was just all a show till i was trying.now they're giving up on me cause I'm not willing to do it anymore. please choose yourself your well being is more important than you being a doctor

I'm typing this while crying so this whole rant might sound a little too much but it's reality.

ever since i was a kid i was interested in being a doctor. my father's a homeopathy one and always spoke about how good it would've been if he were a mbbs. i used to get sick really often and was very talkative as a kid so knew a few doctors who used to talk to me and we laughed and i share very fond memories with them. long story short i was surrounded by medicine and got groomed into medicine by my parents iif that's the right way to put it out.

i used to be really amazing till 8th and my teachers used to call me gifted back then. always on the top of the class of all sections won debates speeches everything. i got burnt out however and my scores started dropping and i finally got compartment in 9th in my best subject maths. i remember not even learning the trigonometry values even though i was failing and understood everything i just didn't want to do it anymore. i was horribly burnt out from all the pressure extreme comparison and restrictive environment at my home where even if i smiled a little I'd be questioned why i was smiling and they scolded me for every little thing. i didn't understand why my grades were dropping why i couldn't study anymore. i was burnt out being the perfect child they wanted me to be

now cut to 11th i took pcb and lockdown hit. i literally had no guidance i remember scouring through vector lectures without knowing anything about calculus and being unable to understand a single thing. there was just no guidance for me. teachers didn't help out for some reason. reading truemans biology and crying how it's too vast and I'd never remember it all. and i wasn't really interested in chemistry

i got into an accident during preboards and was bedrest for 7 months approximately. scored shit in boards didn't appear for cuet and decided I'll take a drop and study hard. in my first attempt i scored around 300 and was happy with myself considering everything

first year went away trying to gauge syllabus

second went away in trying to study and trying to adapt myself in the schedule

paper leak happened in the next

the environment at my home was horrible all the times and i went outside maybe once a year for filling my forms. yes it was that bad.

in my fourth drop however i decided to move out and join coaching to a nearby city cause mine didn't have it. i stayed alone for the first time got the taste of freedom. my parents barely called me once a day. for the first time in my life i wasn't waking up by screams and teachers liked me even though i wasn't studying. they liked me for myself and always said how I'll make a great life for myself and i was good.

parents barely called me back home i used to go every month tho it was just 2 hours away to see my brother.

they used to kick me out at 5am in the winters and get me into a bus all alone even though I'm a girl and our city isn't safe at all. on my birthday our coaching had it's test 13 kms away and I'm not used to travelling so said my father i dont wanna go it's far and it'll get dark by the time i return. he was furious at me at even the thought of skipping the test even though the place was risky to go alone. he called me in the evening of the test asking how it went and i said good and he didn't even wish my happy birthday.

i somewhere had my doubts that they hate me and I'm just this degree producing machine for them but i thought my parents haven't scolded me ever for taking so many drops never forced me for another career they're probably just fine

my neet 2026 went bad cause of some reasons mostly because of my mental health and they went crazy upon me after that. threatened to stop my education forced me to get married character assassinated me and told me I'm being unladylike for wanting to do bca and that I'd sleep around staying in different cities. my father just wasn't listening to what i was saying he straight up said it's my money you'll do whatever i ask you to. these people were ready to invest in a pvt medical college but said they don't have any money for bca in a pvt college for which the fees is of around 5l

I've went through a lot since then and am still going through

idk if anyone is experiencing anything similar but if your abusive parents are being too supportive or too dismissive about you then please always have a backup and don't ever take multiple drops. my parents keep saying how people crack even after 6-7 drops I'm too weak to quit this quick.

if i make it out this time I'll make sure i never have to see them and depend on them ever. I've developed horrible migraine it stays for a week and ibs too. they wanted me to do mbbs and stay back in my tier 3 city so they could use my degree make money. I'm dying everyday no way I'd survive mbbs now but none of it matters to them.

if you notice a similar pattern run away. took a little too long for me to understand

i tried to quit neet last year but they convinced me to give it one more try since this is all I've ever wanted doctor. my parents never once scolded me and said I'm free to do whatever i want to do.i wasn't.it was just all a show till i was trying.now they're giving up on me cause I'm not willing to do it anymore. please choose yourself your well being is more important than you being a doctor

idk what to do I'm gonna score bad in neet and my father has said it's either that I get admission in a shit nursing college near my home and get married right after or stop studying altogether. i want to go to kolkata for bca and he's refusing me to send me outside of my tier 3 city. what to do guys idk i can't think rn

so is it possible to view the result without password?? i plan to hide it. I'm leaving neet and my parents are really toxic i will have to hide it somehow

so for reference this abusive asshole doesn't want to send me college. he's uneducated himself and downright horrible physically abused me and my mom.

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forced me to take multiple drops for neet and now that I'm burned out and want to quit he wants to send me to a shit nursing college near my home in a tier 3 city so i stay under control and get married. he has said stuff like she'd work like a man going to other big cities ruin her character no one would marry her. i fought and he said it's his money he'll decide what degree I'm gonna do. said it's either nursing or no college for me

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has anyone gone through anything similar?? i need suggestions how do i make this man send me to study engineering in kolkata. I'm deep down in trenches

exit he's not that uneducated it's mostly his thought patterns but yeah he hasn't studied after 10th

so I'm taking a partial drop for clat. would my college make it hard for me to drop out?? like make me pay some fine of some sort?? I'll be in a shitty pvt college most probably for bca in techno kolkata

same as title. if anyone knows please let me know.

I've thought on quitting neet and joining nlu fees is pretty high so i need scholarship. father doesn't want me to go outside the state so isn't helping me. please don't tell me to pick my state nlu he isn't agreeing for that either. he doesn't want me to be a lawyer. I'm above 18 any chances i can get income certificate as nil in my name and apply for scholarship?

he's uneducated and ignorant and believes I'd be spoiled if i go away that far and girls aren't meant to be in professions like those. he's forcing me for nursing in a nearby college so he can get me married right after

they do have scholarships that'll get my fees covered most probably but in a way that I'll have to pay and it'll get refunded back into my account ig. and I'll also have to show my income certificate below 8lpa to qualify.also i need more for extra expenses. nlu is very expensive overall I'd need 35 lakhs