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I can’t believe I’m saying this but

In my 20s, I never understood why my friends got excited by the men they met. For me, I would have crushes and meet nice guys and soon realise they never saw me in the same way back and therefore I never got opportunity to date

Over time I just learned to give up.

I had a brief thing a few years ago and we instantly clicked and connected, had intimacy for the first time, fun dates and stuff and I thought gosh this is what my friends are so excited about and what it’s like to have someone like you. It felt nice but it only last a few years before he told me he ‘thinks I’m lovely but I don’t see you in that way.’

Tried to meet other guys since, yet it’s the same thing, guys never like me back. I’ve even tried asking guys out myself with no luck which is so embarrassing and I feel so much shame

I’m very sad about all this. I want to settle down and have a family, only one out of my friends that have not had a partner

People say to join clubs and stuff and I’ll meet someone there, but I never understand it, I do all that but I never come across single guys and if I do, they are not interested in me in that way. I don’t know how to change that

Im otherwise very fit, like doing my hair and makeup and dressing nice. Guys look at me and ogle when im walking down the street but thats as far as it ever goes.

Very worried , just joine dating apps with no luck

What are people’s thoughts on this?

I work from the office two days a week, 3 days at home. My job can fully be done from home

But my boss, is really weird about office days, in that there is no flexibility in it, and she gets angry if anyone needs to work from home on those days such as medical appointments

So on Wednesday it was my office day and the lady in my team next to me had come into the office absolutely full of cold. I started to get really anxious because I didn’t want to get it as I was visiting my family this weekend and my dad has gone through cancer treatment and so is immunosuppressed.

I did go home for the weekend and I’ve currently travelled across the country, to wake up this morning absolutely full of cold myself. My family are really angry with me

And then what’s made things more worrying for me is I am currently 3 hours from home, due in the office tomorrow, and I have driven here and I have severe vertigo. So how am I supposed to drive home 😭 I mean I’m going to have to drive home because my manager will not be impressed if I say I’m working from home tomorrow

But I wish there was more flexibility.

Plus I was really looking forward to all my plans this week :(

I feel so sad tonight

When I was 25, I had my first boyfriend. I remember feeling so full of love and excitment, he felt like home to me. I found out my love language was gift giving and in particular, I liked knitting him jumpers or hats and scarfs.

There was one jumper in particular, a navy blue half zip I made, I was so proud of and he liked it too.

He told me he cared about me, we were very close and I’ve never shared such connection and closeness with someone. We would have picnics and kiss in the park, something I’ve never experienced before, deep convos, nice walks, nights away, cooking together, we shared a lot in common particularly experiences of grief. I was so comfortable around him like no one I have ever felt before, so I felt so confident and happy and like he woke something in my that made me so funny and witty too. I really cared for him and I thought he did too, be was the sweetest most caring man I’ve ever met in my life

but suddenly he started pulling away. He became kind of mean probably because he didn’t want to be with me anymore. Eventually he phoned me up one day and said he never fell in love and dated me as lonely

It broke me so much and I was so angry with myself, wondering how I managed to ruin something so amazing with so much love. I never knew why he ended things and to this day I believe something wrong with me but I don’t know what

I never did see him again, he never reached out to me, he just forgot about me like I didn’t exist. For a whole year I missed him so dearly, I couldn’t understand how we could go from so close to like we never met

But today I saw him on a random train, we said hi but it was like we were strangers. But what makes me so sad is he was wearing the blue zip jumper I made

I don’t know why it’s made me so sad. I’ve never managed to find a partner in the 5 years after him, no guys have shown me any interest at all, and i feel unlovable

But seeing him wearing the jumper that I made, whilst he forgot about me made me feel like such a nobody

I wish I could find love again as I feel so behind age nearly 31, and never been loved despite my best effforts to put myself out there

I hear of other women being pursued by men, asked on dates, treated and spoiled

Yet I am 30 and never experienced that. Every guy I’ve ever dated, I had to be the one that asked them out. A lot of the times I had to be the one that planned the dates, which got tiring

When I go to hobby groups, I’m friendly and chat to people, but I feel invisible. Like I can tell guys are never into me or interested in me, it’s never happened before

Tonight I’m just having a big cry about it, I’m exhausted. All my friends getting married and having babies with wonderful men, I’ve never been pursued by a man

Went on a date in May, and he kissed me and ever since he keeps texting me but then disappearing. He says he’s interested in seeing me again and told me the other day that he is attracted to me, but he’s just not making it happen. Don’t know if this confirms I’m just undesirable

I get told a lot by people that I’m beautiful, even random women come up to me in the street but surely if I was, I would have been pursued

Trying the dating apps again but when I get a match, they never really seem to respond

Every day I question… what is it that’s wrong with me?

I’m 30 and never had a boyfriend. Throughout my teens and my time at university and into my 20s, I wondered why every time I met a nice man, they didn’t see me in any romantic way back. I lost hope.

Finally at 26, dated a guy and it was one of those times when you feel like you met the right one. We were just a match and we clicked. I was so so happy, everything falling into place, working on myself and my hobbies. I felt things I had never felt before, like he just woke something in me

6 months in, he sat me down and said ‘this is not going to be an easy conversation. You’re amazing but I realise I date you because I was lonely and you were pretty, and don’t see myself loving you.’

It broke my heart. A year later I met someone else and the same thing happened. And 2 years later, it happened again when I thought it would be impossible for a guy to date me seriously, before telling me they are not romantically into me.

I notice with every guy I date, they start off so nice but you can tell they don’t like you any more, as they turn a bit mean and tell you that you’re annoying etc

I’m now turning 31. Time is not on my side as I want kids. Family and friends keep asking me why I’m not trying to find a partner. Mum keeps going on about how all my friends have kids and it upsets me as that is all I want, my friends manage to find partners with no issues at all. I don’t know what is different between me and them which made men pursue them.

I’ve never been pursued by a man in my life, and I always question, why? Because I’m not a boy crazy person, I work hard, gym, go for runs, travel and enjoy my life otherwise

The thing is I am trying, I put myself out there through run club and hobbies, but I’ve never felt so invisible. I feel like my life is just me working a stressful job, and feeling drained and sad.

Occasionally I will manage to get a date, but I’m either not attracted to them, it’s awkward or the rare occasions we have a spark, share a kiss… the conversation will just fizzle after the date and they aren’t interested in seeing me again. Or they will text and flirt every so often, without asking me on a date. When I communicate I don’t want a penpal and ask their intentions, they ignore any questions that I have

I keep asking myself is it me? I’m a very caring and deep meaningful person. I like intelligent, kind, men but they seem to not want me!

I want to have a baby, I long for that but I don’t have much money to do it alone.

I’m terrified.

I’m so sad this evening, I am trying my whole 20s to meet a partner and put myself out there. Even dated a guy for several months who I just clicked with and had the best time with and he said I was special to him, for him to turn around one day and say he never loved me

Hurt so much and thought I’d never like anyone again, and then 2 years later met another lovely lovely man. Things were moving in a romantic direction, I felt confident that he liked me for him to turn around one day and tell me he doesn’t feel romantic.

I’ve tried to date ever since, put myself out there but I can’t meet someone who is decent to me.. all the guys I meet are so inconsistent, hot and cold, act in such a way which makes me feel they don’t even have any interest in me. I’ve abandon the dating apps and try and meet people organically but I don’t meet any men who are single and who are straight

I’m literally having a breakdown tonight as two of my friends announced they’re pregnant.

I have never been pursued by a man, and even I feel if I was, I don’t know how I can trust them since the first two guys led me to believe they liked me. I am scared too when I finally get in a relationship, what do I do? Like I don’t have the experience so I feel I will mess it up

I’m 30 and I thought by now I would be settling down and having kids. I am so ashamed that I can’t attract a decent man into my life

Early last year I decided to put my worries and past aside and met a guy who seemed interested. We started going on regularl dates and then a holiday together. I thought he liked me, but then he went on a lads holiday to the USA and when he was there met someone else and chose her over me. But he came back and didn’t tell me he was pursuing her too, I just got a guy instinct and then I saw messages pop up when we were using google maps on his phone from her

I last went on a date a year ago and I basically gave up, because it was the third time in a year that a guy kisses me on a date, tells me how attracted to me he is, for him to never ask me out ever again (I asked him out but he ignored)

So my last relationship was 5 years ago and it’s the first guy who made me feel happy and safe. He took things slow, he wasn’t overly sexual early on and we had so much in common. Before him I had tried to date but didn’t meet anyone who sparked attraction in me. I feel I am somewhat demisexual but not totally

Meeting him, by the second date we did an escape room together and then we went to a pub and sat close to each other on a sofa and shared our first kiss. Ending up missing the last train. I just knew from that date he was someone going to be very special to me

Life was good and my attraction just kept growing and growing. I fell in love. But he abruptly one day ended things 6 months in, saying he never fell in love. I beat myself up so much, I didn’t know how I could ruin the ONE THING that felt right to me and I felt safe

Dated one guy since him, got similar feelings but not as intense. I wanted to take things even slower and do things right, and in time the feelings developed. He was an amazing lovely man and it felt amazing to be with someone I liked again. I felt happy that I was healing too and to have found someone else Met his friends, he said he wanted a serious thing, only to turn around randomly a few months and say he doesn’t feel like he will love me

I’ve not many guys since who has sparked any attraction in me, and one one this year. I meet guy friends who are interested in me, but the feelings just aren’t there for me and I feel sad but also scared and frustrated. What if I don’t feel it again?

It makes me ever more sad for the things I had with the two guys prior, why did I feel so happy and safe with them, and then no one else sparked the same feelings

I am fed up of it all and dating but I want to remember what it feels like to fancy someone! Help!

I did fancy someone on a date in November last year really badly lol, we kissed and it was amazing but I never heard from him again. Same thing in May this year, good date and then he keeps texting me and saying he likes me but when I ask when we can meet, he makes excuses. I’m finding it hard to stay attracted to these guys and I don’t know if that’s normal
When I go on holiday to Europe, I see loads of attractive men just not in my little town

So my last relationship was 5 years ago and it’s the first guy who made me feel happy and safe. He took things slow, he wasn’t overly sexual early on and we had so much in common. Before him I had tried to date but didn’t meet anyone who sparked attraction in me. I feel I am somewhat demisexual but not totally

Meeting him, by the second date we did an escape room together and then we went to a pub and sat close to each other on a sofa and shared our first kiss. Ending up missing the last train. I just knew from that date he was someone going to be very special to me

Life was good and my attraction just kept growing and growing. I fell in love. But he abruptly one day ended things 6 months in, saying he never fell in love. I beat myself up so much, I didn’t know how I could ruin the ONE THING that felt right to me and I felt safe

Dated one guy since him, got similar feelings but not as intense. I wanted to take things even slower and do things right, and in time the feelings developed. He was an amazing lovely man and it felt amazing to be with someone I liked again. I felt happy that I was healing too and to have found someone else Met his friends, he said he wanted a serious thing, only to turn around randomly a few months and say he doesn’t feel like he will love me

I’ve not met a single guy ever since who has sparked any attraction in me. I meet guy friends who are interested in me, but the feelings just aren’t there for me and I feel sad but also scared and frustrated. What if I don’t feel it again?

It makes me ever more sad for the things I had with the two guys prior, why did I feel so happy and safe with them, and then no one else sparked the same feelings

I am fed up of it all and dating but I want to remember what it feels like to fancy someone! Help!

I did fancy someone on a date in November last year really badly lol, we kissed and it was amazing but I never heard from him again. Same thing in May this year, good date and then he keeps texting me and saying he likes me but when I ask when we can meet, he makes excuses

I really find my manager unpleasant. Every day at 10.30 we have a catchup with our team of 3 people and she will just talk at us for an hour and want to know every detail about everything we are working on. It’s exhausting.

When we are talking about non work topics, she will talk about herself for a while, her weekend plans. And when I get the chance to talk about myself or something about my weekend or what I did at the weekend, her face will just drop and she will go ‘excellent. Anyway let’s focus on work.’

If ever I have a chat with someone in the office, it gets noticed by her and guarantee the next day she will message me on teams and say ‘too much chatter yesterday. Keep chatter to lunchtimes. I know that if I didn’t have a desk next to you, you would get no work done!’ I disagreed with her and she said I was defensive.

But then she’s allowed to chat to me all about her personal life when I’m trying to focus on work, sometimes she talks on and on about stuff for over half an hour. As soon as I talk about something about myself, it’s immediately ‘excellent, let’s get focused back on your work please.’

What even is this behaviour, makes me so annoyed

I really find my manager unpleasant. Every day at 10.30 we have a catchup with our team of 3 people and she will just talk at us for an hour and want to know every detail about everything we are working on. It’s exhausting.

When we are talking about non work topics, she will talk about herself for a while, her weekend plans. And when I get the chance to talk about myself or something about my weekend or what I did at the weekend, her face will just drop and she will go ‘excellent. Anyway let’s focus on work.’

If ever I have a chat with someone in the office, it gets noticed by her and guarantee the next day she will message me on teams and say ‘too much chatter yesterday. Keep chatter to lunchtimes. I know that if I didn’t have a desk next to you, you would get no work done!’ I disagreed with her and she said I was defensive.

But then she’s allowed to chat to me all about her personal life when I’m trying to focus on work, sometimes she talks on and on about stuff for over half an hour. As soon as I talk about something about myself, it’s immediately ‘excellent, let’s get focused back on your work please.’

What even is this behaviour, makes me so annoyed

I’m 30, and have never met a man who intentionally wants to date me in a serious way.

In my 20s, I met some lovely men who said that they were looking for serious and as we were building something, came up with some excuse that they realised they weren’t ready or they need to stay single for longer. It hurt a lot. And then I find out the next year they’ve settled down or got married and had kids. All those guys said to me ‘you’re amazing but I will never love you.’

It felt like I am unlovable

Tried dating apps and I hate them. Guys sent innuendos before we’ve even met, weird sexual questions, send photos of themselves shirtless in the mirror. I don’t want that! Then I go on dates sometimes and on the date they tell me how they just looking for something casual.

Is it just me? I’m so scared I’m never going to find a partner and struggling now to even feel attracted to anyone online, I feel nothing. I’m someone who needs a connection sometimes that comes on the first or second date to feel anything, I don’t do casual intimacy

I’m 30, and for my whole 20s I put in so much effort into trying to find a partner. I never felt attraction very often, but when I did, it was very strong and usually built on the personal character. I tried dating apps but it was so impossible to find someone decent on there, guys didn’t put any effort into their profile, they were lazy with messages, they sent sexual innuendos. In the time that I was on them, I probably found around five people that I thought were decent, and I got to know a few people. And they were great and I felt really attracted to them, and fell in love with one. I was extremely attracted to him, he was a lovely amazing guy and I experienced intimacy for the first time it felt so comfortable and so special and I really felt like I had met the one, but he turned around Monday and said that he didn’t feel romantically towards me.

I took a big long break from the dating apps, I met someone organically but the same kind of thing happened

I recently rejoined dating apps, and I’m swiping away and I feel absolutely nothing to any of the guys on there. When I do get a reasonable match, the conversation just stalls, I find texting a complete stranger so strange and force and I just don’t know how to create spark and chemistry through a virtual connection. I don’t know if something‘s wrong with me but I’m just not feeling attracted to anyone on the dating apps, and even when I go to hobby groups and stuff, the guys that are meeting just do not interest me and I’m so so scared. At 30 I’m scared that I will never feel it again, I forgot what it feels like to fancy anyone, and I have this worried that it’s permanently switched off within Me and I’ll never fancy anyone again

It seems crazy to me that I used to actually fancy people, and now I feel nothing. I’m not depressed I am the most confident I’ve ever thought in my life, I’m busy and I have hobbies. I don’t know what’s going on.

I’m worried I’m never going to be able to get a boyfriend

I’m not allowed to use my phone at work, if I even pick it up to see who’s calling, I get evil eyes from my manager who will take me aside and remind me I’m here to work not look at my phone.

I get on the train home and go to the gym on the way home, get back and then make my dinner, clean, take bings out.

By 9pm, I can look at my phone and respond to guys but I feel like because I can’t have a back and forth texting thing going, I’ll never be able to keep a guy interested. I will reply in the evenings and then guys will never reply back. I go to bed at 9.30pm and I’m just fed up. 30 and never had a boyfriend

Dated 2 guys who I loved but they didn’t like me back. One got annoyed that I couldn’t text him until the evenings or in my lunch break

How do people do it?

Everytime I meet a guy I like, I feel embarrassed

I’m 30 and I’ve never had a boyfriend, and it’s something I’m very insecure about.

I’m not one for dating apps, after trying them briefly I found it to be unnatural and guys on there to be flakey. I prefer to meet people organically and I have an active lifestyle with running and hiking, not a party girl at all

I had a brief thing for a few months during Covid times. Me and the guy had a lovely connection, fun times and adventures and he was so sweet and kind. But he struggled with work and finances and despite me supporting him and showing him I cared, he ended up pulling away. I always beat myself up and worried I ruined things

I tried to date ever since, but sometimes you think something is going well, connection and nice dates and things I common. Amazing kisses , they even kiss you on forehead and say they care, only for the next week they turn round and say they have no feelings

I’ve started to feel invisible now like I did in my early 20s, meet guy and like them but they not interested at all. Sometimes I get hopes up

There’s a guy at hiking club who is so handsome, gorgeous even. He seems nice and down to earth the brief few times we chatted, but I feel nervous as he so handsome. Last weekend, I spotted him looking at me from other side of the bar, a little smile. It probably means nothing, and I’m delusional, I have to tell myself and remind myself that every other time I’ve thought a guy might be interested, he never was. So yeah maybe I am imagining it, we briefly chat a few times and never even asked each others names and I don’t know why.

So yeah I feel embarrass and I don’t know how to change my luck as I’m running out of time

I also been disappointed so many times, I don’t have a sex drive anymore and that’s worrying me also. I’m scared it’s the end of my dating life forever and I’m delusional to think someone I meet would be interested in me

I’m 30 and I’ve never had a boyfriend, and it’s something I’m very insecure about.

I’m not one for dating apps, after trying them briefly I found it to be unnatural and guys on there to be flakey. I prefer to meet people organically and I have an active lifestyle with running and hiking, not a party girl at all

I had a brief thing for a few months during Covid times. Me and the guy had a lovely connection, fun times and adventures and he was so sweet and kind. But he struggled with work and finances and despite me supporting him and showing him I cared, he ended up pulling away. I always beat myself up and worried I ruined things

I tried to date ever since, but sometimes you think something is going well, connection and nice dates and things I common. Amazing kisses , they even kiss you on forehead and say they care, only for the next week they turn round and say they have no feelings

I’ve started to feel invisible now like I did in my early 20s, meet guy and like them but they not interested at all. Sometimes I get hopes up

There’s a guy at hiking club who is so handsome, gorgeous even. He seems nice and down to earth the brief few times we chatted, but I feel nervous as he so handsome. Last weekend, I spotted him looking at me from other side of the bar, a little smile. It probably means nothing, and I’m delusional, I have to tell myself and remind myself that every other time I’ve thought a guy might be interested, he never was. So yeah maybe I am imagining it, we briefly chat a few times and never even asked each others names and I don’t know why.

So yeah I feel embarrass and I don’t know how to change my luck as I’m running out of time

I also been disappointed so many times, I don’t have a sex drive anymore and that’s worrying me also. I’m scared it’s the end of my dating life forever and I’m delusional to think someone I meet would be interested in me

I had a few short things in my 20s, I feel attraction quite rarely and I’m attracted to personality, character and most importantly intelligence. I dated 2 guys one when I was 26 and another at 28. And both guys I felt connected to and strong attracted to.

The first one, makes me sad when I think about it. I felt so safe and happy around him, like he woke something in me I had never felt before. We connected so well and had so much fun. But he was new to the uk and not very established here, he met me just after he moved here which I felt was a bit of an immigration honeymoon period. Several months in, the reality of lack of work, finances hit, and he was struggling. I cared for him and tried my best to support him, not financially but emotionally and helped him apply for jobs and find new accommodation. I fell in love with him which I hated. Because he started to pull away, get quite annoyed with me and say some hurtful things, he made no effort.

The mismatch between him and I became apparent. I knew I wanted kids in future and he wasn’t sure. But also I had a good job, my own property, things I had worked for. And I felt he was somewhat insecure.

He dumped me and said he never fell in love with me, something that really affected me as I worried what was wrong with me or that I might be unlovable. But he found love quite soon after

It took me over a year to meet someone new. A lovely man local to me, who I found handsome, smart, and once again we really connected. The guy said he was so happy to have met me and felt me and him just had such a good connection. It was great, and the physical connection was amazing too. No one made me feel good just by a single touch on my arm like electric. He would introduce me to his friends, tell me he felt a long term thing with me, and we would have amazing dates cooking nice things together, making out in the kitchen. He would hold my hand everywhere and kiss my forehead.

What confused me though was after ever date, he would just take ages to reply, and in the mornings after I stayed over, he always wanted me to leave immediately and his attitude really switched up

It felt really confusing and I got a bit upset about it. Tried to communicate how I felt but probably got too emotional, wish I showed no emotion. And then after that, he ignored me for the whole of Christmas. Not even merry Christmas text message

And on New Year’s Day, a long text message about how I’m amazing, funny, empathetic, and all these things, and that unfortunately he doesn’t feel a romantic aspect with me. I didn’t really know why, he certainly acted romantic on dates

That was a few years now and I’m 30, and back on the dating apps and I don’t feel attracted to anyone and it worries me. I go on dates just to see if anything is there, but I always feel a bit uncomfortable as no attraction. I forgot what arousal feels like, I forgot what it feels like to fancy someone. I have hobbies such as running club and hiking club, and although I’m a sociable person, I just can’t feel attracted to anyone. Even some nice guys I talk to there, I’m confused why I feel nothing . I used to fancy guys a lot and I was a bit boy crazy

This is causing me quite a lot of upset. I’m not depressed, in fact I’m quite happy and busy and occupied in my life. Although a bit too busy for my liking!

I’m terrified why I’m not attracted to anyone on the dating apps, it’s like a switch has gone off in my brain and hasn’t come back on. No one sparks any interest in me and when I try and have a chat on the dating apps, it just feels forced, boring and uninspiring

A few years ago, I got a couple matches that I felt I connected with, and that connection existed in person too. But they said they didn’t feel romantic about me. I’ve always been insecure about that, the worry that there something wrong with me or I do something wrong that means I can’t be loved.

I used to be quite naive I think, I used to believe a guy messaging you on a dating app meant he really liked you. Now when I get matches I don’t feel much excitement at all. I feel like texting a stranger is so forced, I just don’t want to do it. I put effort into my messages but I’m someone who likes to stay of my phone and focus on my life offline, so I don’t have any interest in back and forth texting.

But then when I do make it to chatting with someone off the app via text, they send me shirtless photos, ask for pics. And most of the time, guys just give short boring answers

I also have a couple of guys who want to message me forever and never meet up. They tell me I’m attractive and that they hope to see me soon, but when I ask them they are always busy
Am I supposed to be attracted and excited about all this? I’m tired and fed up. I’d rather meet organically with Someone through my hobby groups but that’s not happening either, I feel invisible in such groups

So I don’t know if something wrong with me.

I had one ‘boyfriend’ although he didn’t make me official we date for 6 months a few years ago and then one day he told me he saw me as a placeholder what ever that means

Tried to date since, always put myself out there through hobbies, apps and dating events but I can’t find one guy who likes me

I went on a few dates for a month with a guy last year and he admitted after a month he didn’t find me physically attractive

Try to improve myself via gym and health and diet and I feel so sad about it. I feel like if ever I did meet a guy now, I just going to expect they using me like the rest

I’m 30 and I find my situation so embarrassing and sad because I want to have a baby but I have such a low wage job and live in a house share I don’t think I will be able to

I’ve recently turned 30 and feeling a little bit hopeless about my love life

I tried to date during my 20s, and during that time when I was 25 met the absolute love of my life Who I was really really happy with. Unfortunately, he was not where he wanted to be in life and it seemed that he had some issues and problems, so he wasn’t able to commit at the six month mark, told me he never fell in love and had some problems. But then I had to find out he met another woman soon after, and they moved in together and had a happy ever after.

I tried to date ever since I even met a man who was absolutely wonderful when I was so attracted to and the most amazing connection with, only for him at the three month mark tell me he didn’t see me in a romantic way

This has led me to you have this worry that I can’t be seen in that way, it’s really making me scared to date and put myself out there because I worried that when I do meet someone, they’re just gonna hurt me

But in 2025 in February, I took myself on a little solo trip and met a fellow traveller in Portugal. He was also from the UK. And when we got back, we started going on dates. He was lovely, I was very attracted to him, he was consistent, he planned dates and we both put in the effort to build a relationship together.

During this time, though I had to have some therapy because at the back of my mind I was really worried that like all my other exes that he didn’t see me in a romantic way, that he didn’t actually like me but I walked through these worries I had with a therapist so I approached it in a healthy way. I never told him my worries because obviously that’s just gonna scare a guy off.

Then six months and he had a boys holiday to the USA, I didn’t even have any worries about him going because I trusted him. But when he was there, I noticed that his Instagram following was just shooting up. He sent me some kind of suspicious messages which were out the blue saying that I’m his most favourite person in the world. It didn’t sit right with me.

And when he came back, it all changed, he was telling me I was annoying, he was being cold with communication, he would just walk ahead of me when we went out. I immediately just felt like you didn’t like me anymore, so I ended things.

Six months later, I find out that he is now engaged to the woman he met on his holiday in the USA. It has shot me tonight to find that out because it has made me worry why every time I try to date, they always end up getting engaged and finding their love like immediately after me and it’s never Me. I really am worried what’s wrong with me?