Defended my brother for years but now I'm finding out he was the leader of a bunch of unassuming but horrible group of bullies, how do I get revenge without violence?

Long story short, I defended him, often physically (I did years of kickboxing) when we were in school, maybe 16 years ago. Turns out I was wrong.

I heard him and his friends joke and thought it was lighthearted banter, but now I've learned that the reality was far more sinister.

Met two of his 'victims' the other day for the first time in about 18 years or more and they took a liking to me which was cool, and then, they opened up about 'how I'm very different than my brother'

That's when I inquired more and they were adamant. The 'lighthearted' stories I had heard now sounded far more realistic and honestly, I've no doubt that my brother, two years younger was/is a total dick.

Naturally my family will hear none of it and the little coward who I physically defended countless times ran and hid. So I was the 'drunk' bad guy naturally.

Is there anything I can do? Violence was my automatic reaction but I wasn't able to get to him, and people wisely talked me out of that approach so how can I give him his just desserts? He was a monster who picked on vulnerable kids.

P.S. When I defended him, it was against other bullies, like people my age who were much bigger than him and that ended that pretty quickly. Now I regret every second, should have left em for the wolves.

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u/JediBlight — 2 days ago

Walt was a terribly teacher! Maybebecause he didn't care to teach. (Unpopular opinion?)

Was working all day, and for whatever reason, the scene where Jessie finds his homework came to mind, not verbatim but, 'ridiculous', 'apply yourself' was angrily written by Walt. I bet this was far from the first time and unlike Jessie, the rest of his students who struggled, he likely never saw again, same would have applied to Jessie.

Teachers should be encouraging and not so negative and discouraging. No tips on how to improve, just condescending remarks. So, knowing Walts history pre-teaching, I think he resented the job, not just financially but on a deeper level.

All this said, dude loved explaining SCIENCE to Jessie and others throughout the show and seemed enthusiastic so maybe I'm wrong here, or maybe, 'he was doing it for himself', to show off and feel superior to colleagues and enemies. We know he has a giant ego and that was buried and grew as the show went on.

I don't know, just a thought, worked all day in lovely weather, now I'm chilling to the setting sun, so don't ruin it and be a Walt to my Jessie!

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u/JediBlight — 11 days ago

Of the two days of sunshine in Ireland, I wore a watch, relatively long T-shirt and trousers...

I look ridiculous... And by 'two days on sunshine', I'm not exaggerating...

u/JediBlight — 12 days ago
🔥 Hot ▲ 38.1k r/BakaNewsJP+5 crossposts

Laojun Mountain, Henan, China. The refuge of the founder of Taoism 2500 years ago

u/JediBlight — 12 days ago

Can someone please share play and kill Commander Honglan? (PS5)

Hi guys. I'm so close to deleting this game. I've beaten pretty much every Souls game dozens of times, and pretty much every Souls like. I've looked online and no matter what, I just can't beat her.

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Roamed the entire map looking for a 'new' area or something but no. I've cleared everywhere and I cannot progress until I beat her.

Using longsword, level 30ish, but it's been a night and hours today and the best I've gotten is maybe a third of her HP. Love the game and really don't want to quit or delete but I just can't do it.

'Help me Redditor, you're my only hope!'

SHE'S DEAD! Thanks everyone!

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u/JediBlight — 16 days ago

The GTA franchise doesn't deserve the amount of critical acclaim it gets, and pales in comparison with it's sister, Red Dead in every way.

Grand Theft Auto is a decent franchise, but is highly overrated and doesn't compare with it's sister game, Red Dead.

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Don't get me wrong, I usually play em, usually finish em, but that's it. Don't like the multilayer and I see nostalgia for GTA 3, San Andreas etc. I was around back in those days and again, played em maybe once, might not have even finished em. I did finish 4 and 5, probably 4 was probably my favourite.

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Now, Red Dead Redemption and RDR2, I absolutely love and have played em both a dozen times. Funny since they're very much the same game but in different eras, but yeah, GTA just doesn't grip me and I can't say why.

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u/JediBlight — 16 days ago

Some drawings I did at rehab, I know they're not very good, but advice would be cool, especially regarding depth and distance. (Only had a pen)

Sorry, one is a little, well no, one is very much political, but it's my favourite so I'llpost it, I'm not skilled enough to show subtlety but basically, there's three realms in that one: pre-life, life (emphasis on how where you're born plays such a role), and then the afterlife as well as a little political commentary regarding state lines etc. God I'm deep!

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More excuses, a lot were done in very dim light and as I said, I don't think I'm good at all, thats why I'm here, looking for tips, especially regarding depth and distance.

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Enough excuses, feel free to roast em lol. Maybe somebody can point me in the right direction while we're at it.

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Thanks guys! And yeah, I was working on the grounds, I liked it, drew my shed (and shelter) and the vegetable garden from memory.

u/JediBlight — 20 days ago
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PSA: Cuan Mhuire deeply misrepresents itself, and despite everything they claim, i.e. that religion is optional, are very much focused on promoting Christianity, and as seen below defend the Sisters at Tuam, just one example.

Alright guys, I'm not here to spread any idea positive or negative, just giving examples of some of my experience ar CM which claims that, while it's founded and based on religion, it's optional. In reality it's not. Spent weeks there, spent a lot of money, and never received therapy except for group meetings.

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These meetings would consist of questions that were given prior, 'Are you aware that you are made in God's image?', 'Do you realise that you need God to recover?' etc. When I brought up my grievances they would say this is mandatory and you need to go slow. To me, this meant giving a lot of money for weeks where you essentially learn nothing.

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They say it takes time before they delve into that sort of thing, I'm skeptical and feel like it's all about money and promoting Chtistianity rather than using any form of scientific approach.

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Note: the image is from a pamphlet which was in church, which they claimed was optional, but was absolutely mandatory. Plus, even the meetings and pretty much at every opportunity, long prayer sessions followed that you weren't bullied but pressured into participating.

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All in all, this is just a PSA of my experience being there, had to leave because it was too much, I felt I was wasting money, and all of these things such as defending the Sisters at Tuam was just way too much. I haven't seen any criticism of CM online, so hopefully the next person has a better idea of what it is actually like, at least my experience as Afnostic.

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P.S. I would say 75% of the staff were nice or at least okay, but there were a lot of very rude and condescending staff members that were universally hated.

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Starting Cuan Mhuire in a few hours and already I don't think I can hack it, anyone have any experience?

I'm on a long-term detox from valium, but I'm mostly here for getting too drunk and then not being able to control my anger which gets me in trouble with the Gardai and other people...

Past two months following an incident, I barely drank, and even went several days without touching alcohol, no side effects at all, despite wanting to drink.

So, very soon, I'm going. I have a Master's degree in politics and study languages, which I can't do due to a non-electronics rule, and feel I will go mad or quit the program in days.

Anyone been? Apparently you cannot do press-ups according to the staff, so library? Are there books to improve my linguistics skills? I have a few novels packed but I'm not great at reading, tend to lose track of the characters etc.

Any experience would be great, I will be there in like 7 hours so sorry if I don't reply. I have no interest in the religious aspect, cannot exercise according to them (I do K1), surely once a week I can have my phone etc.?

Thanks, freaking out right now...

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u/JediBlight — 2 months ago
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Gotta go to rehab and just found out how deeply religious it is...and I'm not even allowed to do press ups! How am I supposed to get through this?

Ugh, hi guys...

So yes, I drink too much, and I have anger issues so long story short, I'm going to rehab.

No laptop, no phone so extremely anxious about being bored to death, had my first panic attack in years so I called them for reassurance.

Turns out it's way worse than expected. I'm a kickboxer, so exercise and improving my Ukrainian through a textbook is all I could think of doing.

But no, the gym is closed, I cannot jog around the grounds, and if I do any form of stretching (for kickboxing) or pressups, situps or anything of the sort, they will kick me out. They also do spot checks...10 times a day apparently.

Bad as all of this is, day to day is basically mass and the rosary like 10 times a day also

I'd prefer jail than the One Flew Over the Cuckoo's nest scenario I'm facing. How am I going to get through this?

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u/JediBlight — 2 months ago

Constantly have dreams where I need to do something but am either completely paralysed or partially so, anybody ever experience anything similar?

Thematically it's always the same, I'm in a rush and my body is frozen, only partially works, or my coordination is completely off (I'll explain in my example)

So last night, for some reason, my deceased grandmother came looking to buy tobacco, she died about two years ago and never smoked.

I had like 20 plates with food I hadn't finished, some was stuck to the plates, so that example I mentioned, I was trying to pour peas from one plate to another where I was collecting all the food on one plate. I was missing and peas were falling everywhere, my mother was like, 'what the hell?'

Then I was on the street for some reason related to cleaning these plates and my body became mostly paralysed in the middle of the street, so I had to hop on one foot.

Anyway, these dreams, typically involving paralysis and whatnot happen to me all the time. Before anyway asks, I don't have any deadline or anything I need to do anytime soon, so I've no idea what's behind it and why they are so vivid and frequent.

Any ideas? Thanks.

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u/JediBlight — 2 months ago

How to cut off my parents, not your typical reasoning. (Long story)

Hi, so, I 31 was arrested for the first time ever, apparently a month ago...feels like at least three. Spent some days in solitary, again, a blur, but let out on bail without being given any documents etc. Cops lied, proved it after court with blood tests etc. and that all witnesses say I'm innocent.

Anyway, since then, I've been stuck at my parents home in a tiny tiny village, house arrest basically, and it has been a nightmare. Feels like 36 hours of solitary again except I have the internet...which I'm bored of. My parent's and partners have been mocking me, starting arguments, holding my credit card hostage. Feel like I'm still in solitary and it'll be like this for months.

The way they are treating me like an animal, refusing to help, my partner has spent every second day, tried to entice me into violence, and has hit me (far from the first time), I didn't resist.

So, for the 5th time, maybe? I have made the choice to leave my partner of like 10 years, and my parents permanently. I'm being treated like a caged animal, I've lost all time perception, haven't been outside in about a month, and honestly, the walls are closing in on me.

I can't explain it, but I have this pressure in my chest, well, my whole body actually is just...I don't know, but the anger and frustration is through the roof to the point it's physically uncomfortable. I tried the 'nice way', no joy, and then made 'threats', I would say demands explaining how I need a sense of liberty instead of being locked up like an animal.

I need to get away from these three people permanently, I have tried, but this time, I need to make sure I stick with it. BTW, this doesn't stop my partner from coming into my room and pestering me, mocking me, or making light of the situation that she cannot even fathom.

I'm honestly ready to smash the house up so I can get arrested, charged and just be away from this and closer to ending this nightmare.

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u/JediBlight — 2 months ago

Привіт з Ірландії! Я залишив посилання нижче для тих, кому цікаво, але я невинний. Втім, це не має значення. Мій рівень української приблизно B1, але я використав ШІ, щоб написати це, бо це занадто складно. Через два тижні я потраплю до “м’якої” в’язниці — це щось між реабілітаційним центром і тюрмою. Мені не дозволять мати телефон чи ноутбук, але, здається, можна брати книги. Тож у мене буде багато часу, і я шукаю хорошу книгу, щоб покращити свою дуже слабку українську 😄 Гарного дня і велике дякую!

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u/JediBlight — 2 months ago
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Sorry, not the ideal sub, but nowhere else will let me post.

I visited my parents, have been trying to help a friend who has a serious drug addiction. Some drunk people gave me names, info, everything. Told my family, who basically told my friend, and he gave me up, so now I'm a rat.

That night, I was paranoid as hell so stayed up. These people have attacked and even killed people (no exaggeration). Anyway, had a knife for protection, hadn't slept, and when my mother woke up questioning me, I tore into her for being so stupid, and threw the knife away to show I wasn't harming her...obviously.

Regardless, she called the guards and made a complaint (again, not thinking). I spent about 24 hours in solitary, no water, no food, toilet was literally a hole. Hearing followed, I'd been awake for about 3 days now, and I was released on bail after my mother, now realizing the seriousness of the matter withdrew her complaint. In court, one guard lied about my testimony saying I admitted to taking several substances, coke, spice, weed etc.

Guards were dicks, and want to press their own charges despite my mother withdrawing. So, was sent to the psych ward and hospital, psych ward said I was mentally stable, and A&E took blood and urine and found no illegal substances.

Part of the bail includes not drinking, a curfew, and not associating with criminals (which is everyone here is). I left here the second I turned 18 because it's such a horrible place. Now, a decade later, and I'm basically under house arrest with my parents who I don't and never have gotten along with.

I don't see anyone, I don't talk to anyone, going outside could be dangerous and I can't go home and meet my friends, kickbox etc. and that's been the case for a month or two, and will be for another two months? Time has lost it's meaning. Begged my father to get me whiskey just for a bit of relief, but he hid my card, and I've no cash. No ATM's or banks or anything in this hellhole.

Then, in two months or whatever, because I had alcohol and prescription valium in my system, which the guards of course blamed it on, so I have to go to a rehab center for another 6 months.

Honestly, my mental health is fucked, again time has lost all meaning, and I can't do this. I'm considering fleeing the country, but I can't leave this village so I'm sure my passport has been flagged...and I have no bank card, so not a lot of options left... My life was shit before this, now it's unbearable.

I can only really think of one way out...

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u/JediBlight — 2 months ago

Saw a post today and every comment was saying Wildlands is the superior game. I've played it before with my brother on coop, was fun but didn't get too far. Playing solo now and I've some issues but overall its fun.

Apparently I also played Breakpoint at some stage but only for two hours, so is it worth trying after or should I skip it and play something else in my library?

Lots of time to kill, but not enough to put a dent into my library. Thanks in advance.

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u/JediBlight — 2 months ago
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Live in Galway, but home with the parents for a short time in a rural part of Ireland, posted it in r/casualreland and was banned...so I need to vent somewhere. Hope ye don't mind.

Stuck with them for the time being. Everything is political. Just non-stop look at how the 'government are replacing windows' in the neighbours house, refugees of course. Simple answer, my parents bought their house, replace your own windows and don't expect a handout, they work a lot and aren't short on cash.

Went hospital a few days ago, 'nothing but paki's working here, should be hiring Irish people'

I could go on all day but I think I've said enough, remember, this is every second thing they say, its exhausting. Also, to be fair, I'm from the sticks so, they were very poorly educated, very very poorly educated.

Again, it's like a leech just draining your energy (Colin Robinson anyone?) and hard to deal with. Every single thing is followed by a tut or negative remark. Paul MacCartney comes on TV, complain. Someone says something they don't agree with, complain. Can anyone relate?

Edit: Fox News, some really sketchy UK news source and Piers Morgan are on constantly spewing nonsense which they 'tut' at without ever looking up any sources to confirm these ridiculous statements.

Edit 2: I say 'slightly racist' because I don't believe in the real world, they would step in if say a refugee was attacked but at home, wouldn't their take part in a far rightbrally but their minds are twisted into insane ways of viewing the world. Fear is their central characteristic.

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u/JediBlight — 2 months ago