Defended my brother for years but now I'm finding out he was the leader of a bunch of unassuming but horrible group of bullies, how do I get revenge without violence?
Long story short, I defended him, often physically (I did years of kickboxing) when we were in school, maybe 16 years ago. Turns out I was wrong.
I heard him and his friends joke and thought it was lighthearted banter, but now I've learned that the reality was far more sinister.
Met two of his 'victims' the other day for the first time in about 18 years or more and they took a liking to me which was cool, and then, they opened up about 'how I'm very different than my brother'
That's when I inquired more and they were adamant. The 'lighthearted' stories I had heard now sounded far more realistic and honestly, I've no doubt that my brother, two years younger was/is a total dick.
Naturally my family will hear none of it and the little coward who I physically defended countless times ran and hid. So I was the 'drunk' bad guy naturally.
Is there anything I can do? Violence was my automatic reaction but I wasn't able to get to him, and people wisely talked me out of that approach so how can I give him his just desserts? He was a monster who picked on vulnerable kids.
P.S. When I defended him, it was against other bullies, like people my age who were much bigger than him and that ended that pretty quickly. Now I regret every second, should have left em for the wolves.