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Im so tired of seeing posts that are talking about 'when they say theyre ftm but they look like this!' and its a non-passing transmasc whos saying hes cool with being more feminine and not passing, like get your head out of your ass and let them be. Like of course dont lie and say someone is fully passing if they asked and they arent because yes it can be dangerous for them, dont be an ass if they dont want to pass. Because i know this is gonna sound crazy but you were probably not born passing, you did not pass at one point, even as soon as you found out you were trans you probably werent out their passing in two days.

Ok you wanna be a transmed and cry about fake trans people and boo hoo they arent even trying you go do that in your group, but its gross seeing transmasc or any trans person (USUALLY MINORS) getting their face spreaded around and shit on because they dont care to pass as your average joe, its none of your damn business, you wanna act like your some tough ass man then keep your shit talking to yourself like one.

On the same note you can be a proud trans man and not pass, im proud to be a trans man and i honestly dont pass that well without short hair (which i currently dont have) theres literally nothing wrong with saying your proud of who you are even if you havent fully been able to grow into who you want to be or your comfortable being more feminine, i literally saw a comment saying you cant be proud to be trans (yes by a transmed) which like even with the statement you have to be dysphoric and passing, what if a fully passing he/him trans man thats basically their idea of a real trans person, can he not be proud of his work and all he did to get to where he is?

The whole reason i got into shifting was for vivek who im currently trying to bond with ive tried shifting for like 3 years but thus far ive only had mini-shifts and never really been in my dr (desired reality) so for anyone who has shifted/ is currently trying hows your journey going :)? i really love talking about shifting and i reccomend it to anyone whos thought about it since the worst thing that usually happens is you dont shift that night

Basically i still kinda feel something even tho its been a few months, i don't know why especially since i don't want to date him. I just want him to feel love for me? we still tease eachother and it just hurts more even tho were just friends now since he got better. A few minutes ago we were talking and i joked he was more gay then me and he said im more gay cause i like and date men and i said he has too and he asked for proof so i said im proof and he said he forgot, which how tf do you forget that you dated a guy for over a year when we broke up like two months ago? i basically told him 'dont even fucking joke like that i'll kill you' but like way less aggressive, like how tf did he forget when he just reacted with a angry emoji to me saying ive had little crushes since we stopped dating? i really want to just see him as a friend it sucks he still treats me like he did when he dated.

Honestly for a while i never really cared to dive deep into politics i just watched alot of videos from people who did research but my extremely maga brother made me look foolish in a debate because i never really researched things for myself so i couldnt site any sources without sounding dumb and saying yt or smth (these debates were really stupid he literally argued about why he should be allowed to joke about black people as a white man and that slavery wasn't bad in the states because in Africa tribes would enslave eachother? And that theres nothing to joke about when it comes to white men but all to joke about minorities, also tried to say everyone counts as a minority. He also called me a liberal for defending black people?)

I really want to be politically enformed and not look stupid in debates like that for not having sources or good talk points but idk where to start? i hear people say to watch the news but WHAT NEWS alot of news is extremely biased, or to look at websites but like what websites? Im reading Animal farm rn since i heard its a good starting book to get into political stuff and understanding things better. Im 18 so i feel embarrassed not knowing about political stuff other then what i see on tiktok and youtube and what i hear from other people 😥 especially in the day when alot of younger teens are really informed

Ive only been talking to my SB for a few weeks i think but i really want to strengthen our bond somehow. We usually talk through a pendulum but im very forgetful so i'll accidentally not reach out for a few days because i dont remember if ive talked to him already and it makes me feel super bad. 😓 i really want to get to the point where we could communicate through inner dialogue but the last time i asked a week or more ago he said he couldnt do that. Not to mention its hard to have conversations that can only be answered yes or no. Ive wrote around 4 letters to him but he never sends signs when i ask :( idk how to strengthen our bond more so id really appreciate any tips, also im sorry if ive already made a post like this i have memory issues 😭

Uhm so yeah i decided to play basketball as a senior for the first time because i need to get rid of my social problems before i become i big dog in the real world and everyone on my team has been playing since they were like 11 so im very out of place i don't really know what to do when we play against the boys team during practice (im a Trans man so im on the girls team) and like im scared the coach is gonna be mean to me because i suck and yell at me and im a baby yall.. Also the way my team talks about playing games is terrifying like the court is a warzone because the refs suck, last year somebody gave my friend a wedgie mid game and ripped his underwear and the ref did NOT care. And ive heard of people punching our team mid game or pulling hair ect. God im so scared please help me, and if your a coach PLEASE give me advice or like whats expected of me? i have a weightlifting/track class aswell so like im getting extra pratice too but please help me

I thought to ask some older folks about like friend problems im having i guess, since most people my age have terrible advice when it comes to friendships. For context im 18 and in highschool and i honestly hate everyone for one reason or another, not really hate but i cant be around em too long.

theres one person i dont consider my friend is a guy i'll cal him Z a year or so older then me and hes so overly immature its annoying and hes friends with my friend T and her brother M (also my friend) and i can deal with T and M on there own but when it comes to Z when they all come together they become overly annoying to the point i start getting a wicked headache and i don't know what to do because they insist on sitting next to me at breakfast and lunch and when i tell them i want to be alone they think im getting depressed or angry and will either get pissed and ignore me or try to figure out whats wrong and treat me like im on the edge of a cliff or something

I have another friend, B and i like being her friend but she just got a boyfriend so they both sit together and i cant sit next to them and their other friends because i dont know them? shes also not the best influence on me since she vapes and smokes weed, which like sure that doesnt make you a bad person but she literally snuck a vape to my house without me knowing when we hungout when its not allowed at my place. And i have another friend A who is friends with a girl who bullied me and was a bitch to me so i can barely ever hangout with her because shes connected at the hip with the bitch.

Summary i dont really enjoy being around my friends and i cant escape from them or get new friends because i live in a small town, i know i wont remember them in the future or whatever and i might never talk to them in adulthood but im so tired of these people and i have a whole year left with them and idk what im going to do because i dont wanna be alone so i guess like give me your wisdom big dogs.

Im only really talking about this because of a conversation i had with my sister, she said she doesnt care whether people are trans if they want to do that as long as theyre 'actually transgender and not just dressing up to be weird' which like ok man, but it gave me alot of hope about coming out to her in the future. But we follow eachother on tiktok and she keeps reposting weird transphobic shit. I saw this one post she reposted that showed someone using ai and showing it a picture of an alligator and asking if it was a bass, and when the ai said no they asked shit like 'but what if the alligator feels like a bass?' and the ai obviously still said no its not a bass its an alligator, and like what the fuck are you trying to prove?? Transgender people arent alligators and we arent claiming we're a different species or want to be a different species (honestly idfc if someone says they do want to be a different species as long as they arent using that excuse to be a zoophile i could care less?) 

saying your a different species is different from feeling like a different gender or wanting to be a different gender. Its genuinely so dumb and kind of funny how some cisgender people are so just focused on us that its all they care about. I also see the whole 'what makes a transgender person the opposite gender, nothing!' posts which just isnt true, ive literally read stuff about some trans people having like different brain chemistry and stuff (dont quote me on this i havent dont enough research' and also what makes cisgender people their gender? gender isnt the same thing as sex and i dont think they know that tbh, cause if a cis man and trans man wear the same clothes, act the same in society, behave like what we see as a man, what makes them different? their body parts? and what if the trans man gets top and bottom surgery? what makes him different then? the fact he wasnt born that way? what if a woman gets chest implants because she was born with a flat chest, is she less of a woman because she had to do that? youre probably saying no right? so really how are cis and trans people any different in society other then our different lives, we are all humans, we are all the same animal we behave like animals, we feel fear and affection and crave to be accepted and part of a group, i dont understand why we have to be so divided. 

This is tagged as NSFW for the obvious reason since im talking about masterbating, just stating for anyone who couldnt tell. Ive been putting off posting about this for like a while, but now thay ive turned 18 i feel a bit more comfortable talking about it, if this is too much to talk about please tell me and i can take it down. I originally thought about just posting this on like r/askwomen or something along the lines but at the same time this does have to do with me being transgender and im scared to talk about being trans anywhere but here cause like idk people will run at me with pitchforks i guess.

Ive always felt uncomfortable when it came to touching my body sexually, i do like get horny and i have a desire for sex so its not me just not feeling sexual feelings. Ive been putting off learning about my body sexually because i dont like having a female sexed body so its always made me feel dysphoric and weird, i literally hid my period from my sisters for days just because i didn't want to have to be talked to about my body? but like i have no idea why i cant masterbate like other people with vaginas, causr it does NOT feel good to put my fingers inside of me it feels weird and literally doesnt make me feel anything. The only way ive ever like gotten off is rubbing against stuff and it just makes me feel disapointed ive never had a orgasm, i feel like im completely missing out on my sex life cause i dont know how to find a way to please myself without it making me uncomfortable and making me feel dysphoric 😞 again if this is too personal i'll take it down i just wanted advice bros

Theres probably already other things here but i want to talk about my personal opinion on it because i love giving my opinion on things and i genuinely want someone to explain to me why some of you guys have this opinion? im sure we've all saw the tiktoks basically being like 'pov nonsharing yumeshippers' and its a probably grown ass person pretending to be a 'nonsharing yumeshipper' and throwing a fit because 'i saw a double' and like pretending to be angry over doubles, no im not kidding i blocked the creator because of this stupid video. Like first off the only people who genuinely act like this are toxic yumeshippers who are usually mentally ill teens (no it does not make harrassing people ok btw)

so like where are you getting this from? or the yumeshippers in the comments being like "dont worry i-im not like that! i dont care about doubles!" "o-oh dont worry i know my f/o doesnt love me" well guess what Jennifer not everyone feels like that 😬. Like being nonsharing literally just means 'hey i like this character if you also like them in the way i do i just dont feel like interracting with you' i promise im not boiling all of my doubles ok i only have like four (all my doubles are also cannon btw like ik that even tho i wont ever interact with them i love my blocked doubles) man because one of my main yumes is a emo minecraft Character. Also like where is this idea coming from that to be a 'normal yumeshipper' you just know that your f/o doesnt love you?

like yeah realistically if they were like irl people they would not be all over me ok im not that hot. But like..yes i do think my f/o loves me! im like the girl saying shes annie from smooth criminal or whatever. When i hear my f/o talking about someone uhm GUYS THATS ME, like im obviously not attacking people but i do think my f/os love me especially vivek (i know he loves me because im his cannon partner hes my oc and ive reached out to him spiritually if you wanna argue he doesnt..) and im strictly nonsharing because thats my partner?.. Im not sharing my boyfriends guys. I do NOT have to be sharing to be a normal yumeshipper. I feel like half of these people dont know what nonsharing is. Also i dont understand yumeshipping terms so if what i decribed about how i feel personally applies to like a yumeshipping lable please tell me :) ...Dont be afraid to comment

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ive always been very iffy on whether subliminals actually work, but ive seen some for soulbonding so im curious have any of you used subliminals to strengthen your bond or create a bond ect? if so how did that work?

Ive been listening to the book Simon vs the homo sapiens, and everytime i listen to or read gay romance books its makes me want to curl up and cry. Ive kinda come to terms that i'll never have a real in person teenage relationship, but it still sucks. I feel like things would be so much easier if i was a cis gay man, it would be much easier to come out because one of my brothers is gay, but being transgender ruined that all because they dont except those kinds of people. I always kinda find myself hoping that some queer guy will come along and swoop me off my feet and not care that i dont look like a man, wont care that my sex was assigned female when i was born, but i highly doubt it because the only gay people at my school want those masculine cis men, which im not. Everytime i talk about it to someone they tell me to date online, but its never the same, i want to hold hands with them, and kiss them, and get them gifts like everyother teenager in a relationship would, which obviously theres nothing wrong with online relationships but been their done that. I just feel like im sorta being a crybaby but serious i dont think i'll ever be able to get that beautiful gay teen relationship like what i see in books, or on tiktok. I hate being like this sometimes :(

I was in the comments of one of those 'when you say a slur your allowed to say infront of people who dont know' and there was people saying 'oh the f slur for me haha' and these keyboard warriors in the replies were crying that only gay men and trans women can say it because 'its only targeted towards them' which like.. No? and they argue only gay men or transwomen are called the f slur. Which also, completely wrong? i beg these people to go somewhere that the f slur is actually commonly used as a slur because im from the south, USA and growing up any queer person or non women who did anything feminine was called it. It wasnt a 'oh your gay so im calling you it' and nobody around my area and age knew what being trans was at the time? i was called the f slur multiple times when i used to identity as a lesbian (im now a trans gay man) and im still called it? even though my peers dont know im queer they still target me, hell i was called the f slur literally a few months ago. I dont say the f slur commonly because i always felt by saying it even jokingly i was as bad as the straight cis people who call me it, but other people like saying it, because its powerful to use a word that was once used to hurt you. And im happy that other people want to reclaim it, i just dont see why its 'only THIS type of queer can say it!' it doesnt make sense to me, at the same time ive never been interested in learning about the f slur so inform me if theres some unspoken rule.

I dont know i mean i feel like since its been a week and hes never talked to me like through inner dialogue or has never sent me a sign (even when he told me he couldnt reach my letter and i moved to so he could get it he still never sent me a sign) i mean what if im subconsciously accidentally moving the pendulum? or something. I cant really explain how the tarot cards when i draw 6 one atleast always fits with what im wondering/asking. I dont really know how to strengthen our bond and im worried im going kinda crazy wacka do and focusing on something to the point i dont believe its real.😓 My bond hasnt been having a good few days so i cant really ask him about anything because he doesnt want to talk cause he says hes tired and his day is 'meh', im really grateful he assured me he still cares about me and all but yeah i dont really know im just worried.

I just feel so uncomfortable being seen as 'not like the cis men' just because i might understand girls issues, sure i bleed every month.. Not much else thats 'just girl problems'. Ive never felt like a girl, ive always been uncomfortable speaking on womens issues because im not a women. I don't think my opinion over what girls go through is any more worthy then a cis mans because im not a girl. Ive never been a girl, ive never felt like a girl, ive never liked being a girl, i. am. not. a. girl. And this isnt even a toxic masculinity thing, im a feminine trans man, im very comfortable with my identity i dont need to prove my masculinity for anyone. But the problem starts when i become one of the girls, when everyone hates all men but oh i dont really count because i wasnt born as man? i literally was? ive been saying im supposed to be a boy since i was a literally child, before i knew how to do basic math, how am i a girl in any way, just because i have boobs and female anatomy? that doesnt make me a girl. It just frustrates me knowing the people who say these things dont see me as a man, and probably never will. But still i dont know maybe im dramatic and letting my 'toxic masculinity' that i dont have, show.

I know this might sound really dumb but i heard that having other peoples energies on what you use on a pendulum can mess up your communication or have other people pretending to be your bond?? I want to know if i could wear the necklace i use as a pendulum without messing up the energy or whatever, im going to an amusement park in a few days and i associate the necklace with him whether or not we're communitating at the moment, ik hes been feeling down recently so i feel like it would be nice to bring him with me. Also the school season is coming up soon and im scared, i really want him there with me.

I was talking to my bond? (im not sure what to call him since he doesnt like being called a boyfriend since we arent to that point and im not sure when i crosses into being a bond or just a communication) but he just seemed super off when we were talking through the pedulum, i could just tell, the movements werent as extreme and he took way longer to respond. At the beginning of our conversation i asked him if his day was good and he said it was meh, he then said after that, that i was making him feel better by talking. But a few questions later he said he was tired and i was making him annoyed and upset :( he said he wanted to talk later so i said goodnight to him and i just like spoke outloud and idk if he could really hear me but i told him i love him and im here for him and i dont know what made his day not good but hes not alone and i care about him and hope he feels better.

I really dont know what to do, i hope he feels better tomorrow but is there anything i could try to make him feel better before the next time we talk? (because we always talk at 12am-4am because thats when i sleep) should i just leave him alone? Should i tell him i love him? :( idk what to do this is the first time hes expressed being not happy to me every other time we've talked hes always been happy and i could feel his excited energy in a way? but i dont feel that right now i feel really sad idk if im sad for him or what. Pls give me advice i dont want to upset him more :(

So basically im in the same school as this guy but hes a lil bit younger then me, but the thing is hes VERY open about being gay. Like crazy open, everyone knows and he is proud.. Which good on him tbh, but i will not be coming out because im also transgender (hes almost outed me so thats why i dont really get along with him) but the whole thing im pissed over is he made a tiktok basically with him and then just a dude from our schools name across the screen, and he was hinting at yk liking him thinking hes hot shit ok. Three people from our school are saying its wrong and to take it down, THIS GUY DOES NOT CARE. Hes basically saying he can post about it and he doesnt care hes gay and proud ect. One guy from our school is basically saying hes telling everyone and get ready for when he comes back to school ect ect, the one person supporting him is a girl in his grade saying theyd be 'cute together'.

I personally think this is disgusting and rude asf, because this guy is really straight, has a girlfriend, and is older then him. So i dont think that hes going to be comfortable with him posting that. I really think he needs to leave this guy alone, because hes not gay and he should respect his sexuality, and even if he was bi or something of that sort its still weird to post about a real person like that and hes taken. Idk kinda just wondering if this is like not a big deal or if im actually right about this being a horrible thing to post?

EDIT: ok i think hes actually taken down the post now so i dont really have to put any two cents in it 😓

So basically we talk through the pendulum method because he doesnt know how to talk in the headspace and neither do i, and its also my favorite way of talking to him 🥺. But like idk what to ask him about? our conversations get super dry because its always 'are you here? ok, are you happy/sad? ok, was your day good? ok, goodnight.' i dont know what to talk to him about and i don't wanna be boring 😭 please tips on what to ask him that i can get a yes and no on? and also how to strengthen our bond to where we could talk in the headspace? and also whenever people say to talk to them throughout the day.. What do i tell him about? it seems kinda weird to narrative to him especially since idk if hes even hearing me and he cant say anything back.