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My boyfriend is a fan of RM and had told me that he likes to get a home jersey. So I want to buy him one for his birthday. Howeverrr, I need y'all's help for the number and name on the back of shirt.

I have two questions:

1. would you all prefer when the name printed on back is a player's name or your own name?

2. if you think printing a player's name is better, are there any controversies among top players? Like do you all like Mbappe and he would be a safe choice? Or can it be someone who he happens to hate?

I'm planning to ask him these questions very indirectly too, but would appreciate some insider info, so i don't ask him too many questions and his gift doesn't become obvious.

Thanks so much!!

I guess the title says it all. By thought provoking i don't necessarily mean something dark or something that changes your mindset; but something that has a message beyond entertainment, and when you saw ut you were like "every single person on this planet must watch this". All genres and languages are welcome.

I have nothing on my list now, so I'm basically going to use this thread as my watchlist for a few years. I'll get back and respond to comments once I finish watching that.

Me and my friend go shopping on the weekend. For context, I have a car so i give ride to her every week for shopping. This week the plan was to go to trader Joe's, then Costco, then loading off grocery at home, and then going to target.

I finish shoppin at tj earlier, so i go to the car and sit waiting for her. She calls me and asks if she should buy milk, because it might get spoiled while we're at Costco. I tell her it's her choice, but i want to explore Costco for a longer time. I don't think milk would get spoiled in a few hours, but again it's her decision. She tells me that she'll buy it and bring it to Costco so the milk isn't left at car to get hot and spoiled.

Then we go to Costco. She says i should get milk with myself. I tell her I don't really think it will get spoiled so soon. So she leaves it at car.

Then we're at Costco, and I'm doing my own thing, and she's suddenly getting angry at me for "wandering around", starting to sulk and just following me frowning, so i finish shopping earlier. I tell her that "I have explicitly told her before coming that I'm gonna spend more time here." So I just keep wandering around as usual and not rushing myself.

Still I finish shopping earlier than I expected, because a bit of guilt runs in my body and i think to myself that although her behavior is wierd, her concern for the milk might be correct.

As we sit in the car, I ask her if she still wants to come to target. Because she apparently isn't happy and still frowned not talking to me at all. I drive for a few minutes thinking in my head, and once I feel my body is regulated enough, I ask her if she has lunch at home (just opening conversation casually, and also because i suspect her anger is related to hunger). She says she has, and then she apologizes for her behavior earlier, suggests we can eat together.

So we make it up anyway and eat lunch together.

But after days, I'm still not in peace with what she did. I keep getting back to it. Thinking where it went wrong. What went wrong. Had I really not made it clear to her that I'm gonna spend longer time in Costco?

I really don't like to anymore give ride to her for next weeks. I feel like I'm doing a favor, going out of my way, and not only what I do gets unrecognized, it builds up some kind of expectation that I can't afford.

Though I also think not giving ride to her for one time such behavior might be too much and it might look like as punishment, which is not my intention.

But this is on my mind still. I wish some outer perspective to be able to navigate what just happened in my mind.

I'm a computational biochemist and have always been using python for data visualization. I just realized there is a software called Prism that people use.

So the question is, for those who have used both, which one has been better? (You define good with your own metrics).

I'm just thinking whether I should learn to work with prism, or python already covers it all.

Context: we don't use big data. Data is usually on the order of megabytes.

I can be as cold as ice and do something that everyone thinks is cruel and emotionless, but I think is just the rational thing to do. And then I can burn inside like hell. And no one will ever know how much pain I'm holding within, let alone being able to comfort me. I will be accused of being heartless, while my heart is burning in extreme cold weather. Just like how you feel that burning sensation when you're holding ice in your hand.

Sincerely,

An Aqua

So I got multiple quotes from different places. The thing is, Costco sells BF Goodrich Advantage control for $131/ea, making the total cost to $544 (with installation).

But everyone around me suggests Discount tires. Discount tires has cheaper tires, but then they charge $100 for installation. So for example if I go with Falken pro go touring A/S which is $117/ea, the final cost would be $584. And they sell the same bf Goodrich for same price as Costco ($131).

I'm a little bit confused here as why people say Discount tires is cheaper than Costco.

I appreciate any recommendations too. I don't want to keep my car for long so I'm not planning to buy a Michelin, but I live in a very rainy city, so good control in wet weather specially on road trips is still very important to me.

I've realized one reason I get along very well with scorpio and virgo is that we all are "No BS" signs. Just in different ways.

Me (aqua): "I can see the pattern. I've seen this all before. Stop the BS."

My scorpio friend: "I can see the hidden motives. I read your undertone. Stop the BS."

My virgo friend: "They said X, and did Y. The math doesn't add up. Stop the BS."

If you're any of these signs, do you relate? How do you call out BS?

+ I personally give people lots of time, despite seeing their reality from the beginning. I wait to see the patterns rather than judging quickly. But as I've grown up, I can judge faster. I need less incidents to conclude a pattern. So I guess I'm getting closer to acting like a virgo. Lol.

So I'm dating this guy (Virgo sun sag moon) for about a month. And I couldn't see much Virgo in him. He seemed more sag to me with his fun and flighty tendencies and easy-goingness. The only Virgo thing he had was his skin routine, a bit more than average flossing, cleanliness in general, compared to any other guy I've known in my life. It's like when you see his home, you'd think a girl is living there.

Then, we were planning to go on a short trip. And even though I'm generally The Planner among my friends and I want to know everything beforehand. This guy is nexxxxt level. Lol.

I had made a list, very well written with details (as much as i know!), consulted with chatgpt and reddit, and this guy goes "we should make an excel sheet!". At this point I can't keep my laughter and I just couldn't tell him why I'm laughing so hard too, because he's not into astrology. Therefore, I had to come here and tell you guys.

So yes, he's proven to be a virgo. The sun finally shined!

Hi all. I'm a programmer/developer, and i mainly use my mouse only to move over multiple monitors, or drag a drop things. I'm using just a simple mouse pad right now, with a Logitech M330 mouse. But many times while I'm moving mouse the cursor has a lag in movement or stops fully and it's not a pleasurable experience. I want something that allows me to move smoothly across long ranges (multiple monitors) without leaving me in the middle of the way.

I have no budget limit, but the cheaper the better of course.

Thanks!

Hi yall! Aquarius here! I'm dating a virgo man with Sag moon, virgo Venus, and ​Libra mars. So I want someone to spill the tea for me! What should I expect? Who is he? especially if you have similar placements I'd love to hear more.

Our friend's birthday was a few days ago. We wanted to surprise her (me and another friend). We're a group of three that hang out a lotttt together. So I just casually said let's watch a movie tonight at my home. And then when she came, we surprised her with a cake and a gift.

Now here goes the tricky part. The birthday person (let's call them B), had been talking about wanting to host a party or celebrating a birthday for herself but she hadn't planned it out yet. And when we presented her with cake and gifts, she said "can we not eat the cake today so I can take (instagram friendly) photos with it with?" [Cuz she was just wearing casual clothing and had no makeup at the time].

We both agreed. But we somehow felt weird too. I can't quite explain even why. It's not like that I'm upset. It's her birthday after all and her day. I'm totally fine to abide to whatever that person wants for one day in a year. But again, something doesn't fit in my mind about her reaction. I'm hoping for someone to just explain to me what happened, or what it looks like from an outsider's perspective.

Location: USA

Major: bioengineering

Field: protein engineering, computational biochemistry, cheminformatics, medicinal chemistry

When everyone was saying aquarius never commits or they are detached, I was never getting it. After all I have a Capricorn Venus. But I'm 28 now (female), and I honestly deep down don't like to commit. I'm okay with not even having a sexual partner for my life time. ​it's like my relationships ruin my friendships. And having a few platonic friends who have your back is much more appealing to me than having a life-long partner. My only worry is that once those friends get into a relationship, our friendship won't stay the same. And also, if they have intentions beyond friendship, jealousy might get in the way and I end up with male friends who don't like each other.

I don't know how to deal with this feeling.

I can't express enough how much I'm into enemies to lovers theme. It's like my love language is arguing to the hell with each other and at the same time flirting in between.

Is this an aquarius thing? That you like to show your don't give a f*** to others, so you show your feelings by giving an actual f*** to someone you care about? Like when someone makes a mess, you're the first person who shows up for them because you care so much, but you also tear them apart for making such a mess.

So I can't be with people who cry in this situation. I love people who argue back strongly. It's like my favorite dance is fencing.

It's been a month. I honestly thought he would reach out to me. Because that's what he told me when we broke up. He said let's think more about it and talk another time. Now I know people usually say these things to make the final goodbye moment less awkward.

I can't say my feelings for him are completely over. But I've thought about alm the aspects, analyzed everything, and i can certainly say there isn't anything that i haven't analyzed about our relationship and the breakup. And even though I liked him, I was suffocating in that relationship.

I started dating again this week once I made up my mind about my ex. I found out what are the things that I'm looking for in a partner. What went wrong previously and stuff like that.

We just had our first date and he expressed his interest to continue talking more. I'm trying to take it super slow, to get to know him before getting emotions much involved.

For every one out there: it gets easier. Believe me. Don't settle for half-hearted love just because of history and memories. Mental health is very serious.

I have a friend who has very good characteristics. But there is one thing about her that bothers me a lot, and I don't even understand why she does it. And that's that she tells lots of white lies.

Today for example, I wanted to visit her. And she's living in an area that has assigned parkings for each unit. She doesn't own a car, so when I visit her I park in her spot. But when we got there today, someone else had parked in her spot.

She sent a photo of the car on their apartments' group chat, so if someone has mistakenly parked there can move the vehicle before she calls for it to be ticketed.

And here goes the white lie: instead of saying something like "someone has parked in my spot. I appreciate if you can move it" (she didn’t even need to explain why). She goes "I'm waiting here in my car because someone has taken my spot,...".

It might be a very small thing. But she does it very often. I never understand her. And it makes me not be able to trust her even though I've known her for a long time.

I'm constantly working, and it never ends or gets easier. You build more skills, and then you're given more and harder tasks. Actually I accept them, but I can't say no in this job market. I need a good resume. But I'm exhausted. I'm truly exhausted. I need to shut my mind just for a second. And I can't. The moment I sit to relax, I remember there is something I need to do.

It's been two weeks since we broke up. I thought I've moved on. Because I had accepted that that relationship was not healthy. He was controlling and insecure. we were fighting every week. we were exhausted.

I knew I didn't want to date. But I installed a dating app with fake account just to see what's out there.

And now I miss him. I try to think rationally about the times he had made me walk on eggshells. But I just can't think of having sex with anyone other than him. Not that he's a bodybuilder super attractive guy that I'm just attracted to his looks. It's just that my heart can't accept anyone else.

I remember in all my last relationships, when I broke up, and installed app, even though i didn't start dating until months after, just looking at available people gave me some excitement and feeling of "To the hell with him!"

I didn’t get this feeling this time, to my surprise! And it's not even that I don't see his flaws clearly, but I still miss him, and my heart wants him back, even though my mind says "it's wrong".

I won't contact him anyway. Just wanted to share my feelings.

UPDATE: I was just scrolling, and then it happened. He was there. On the dating app. I didn’t know what to feel. I didn’t know what it meant. I couldn't think clearly. I just told myself "you don't need to have all the answers right now". And kept living my normal life...

We have a hiking group that I'm the organizer of. We started small and then invited more and more people to it.

Now, there is this girl, who had previously picked up a fight with me and cut ties. She never explained why. She just blocked me and went from close friend to someone who doesn't even say hi to me when we see each other. Let's call her A.

Now my other friend B, is also very close to A. In fact, A is friends with everyone else other than me in that group, but she's closer to B.

Now one day, B just adds A to our hiking group. I just don't know what to do. A shows up to the hikes (that again, I organize), proceeds to ignore me (not saying hi), and even though i didn't have an issue with it. It makes me mad that I can't set a boundary for myself. I feel trapped, always accepting the desires of others. I feel resentment because I'm always the one whose needs is dismissed. And I don't blame them, it's me who allows it. Who has no boundaries. Who people please.

How can I fix this situation now? I don’t want to be rude. But I really don't want to welcome her to our hikes. I like to set my boundaries clearly.