What Do I Do If My Mom Is Cheating On My Dad?
I’ve never done this before so give me grace. For the sake of identity I’ll give everyone an emoji because I don’t know what name to give everyone. I’m 🐝 F (16) and my mom is 🐻 F (35) my step dad is 🦁M (44). My mom is currently cheating on my stepdad with 🐼 M (46) and I don’t know how to feel. This started about a month or two ago. I was at my boyfriends house 🐵 M (16) and we were laying in his bed when suddenly I get a call from my mom asking “If someone needed plan B could you get it for them?” My heart drops because already I know she’s lying. I ask for who and she just says we listen and we don’t judge then proceeds to repeat her question. I let her know I don’t have plan b because I have it to a friend a while ago. She keeps asking her question then finally breaks down crying and admits she needs plan b and she cheated on my stepdad and didn’t use protection. I ask her with who and where is she. She tells me she’s at her office (where she did the act) and it was with this guy I remember hearing previous stories of him flirting with her, bringing her food, and even kissing her. She never had given into anything according to her, but her friend told her she should since her and my stepdad aren’t sexually active anymore and aren’t very romantic towards each other anymore. Me and my mom had a convo earlier that day about my stepdad cheating on her in her earlier years of dating, and his porn addiction, and possible cheating within the last 4 years. I told her she’s a grown women and strong and independent and can leave him anytime if she feels the need, but I wasn’t expecting this.
I turn my boyfriend who’ve I been dating a little over a year, and tell him to get his keys we have to get my mom. We stop at my house and I grab $50 and I try to avoid looking/talking to my stepdad because I’m feeling so guilty even though I didn’t do anything. We get my mom from work and talk to her for a while and get her plan b and she starts to feel better and then we take her back to work and we go back to my boyfriend’s house and that was that. I try to be supportive of her but I also don’t really want to talk about it.
Since then I’ve met him a few times, he knows my mom’s married. I met him once with my boyfriend at goodwill, where he works, and once at claw machine place with my mom’s friend and her son(8) and my sister(14) and mom. But besides that I hadn’t heard too much from him.
A little later my stepdad and stepbrother(16) and my sister go to a different town to watch race cars, but I wasn’t interested so I asked to stay home, especially since my mom and I haven’t spent much time together recently. Once they leave she takes me to dinner but explains she has plans with 🐼 and she’s been waiting for my dad to be gone. She starts going into detail about their sex life like it’s normal. I tried to change the convo a few times but nothing worked. She said we could hang out after she has sex with 🐼 but we have to go because right now is the only time she can. So she drops me off at home and spends two hours with this guy. I kept texting her asking if we can follow through with our plans, but by then they were closed. She comes home around 9 and takes me to the dollar store for a project and she tells me about her night and that was the end of the night.
Fast forward to now. I hate watching my parents interact like everything is fine when my dad has no clue. A few days ago my stepdad’s mom died so he’s been upset and hasn’t really been doing much so my mom can’t get out without him asking to come too. Last night my mom had plans to have sex with 🐼 but she was also house sitting for her friend so he was supposed to meet her there and I was supposed to take my dad to the race track but I explained multiple times I wasn’t interested in going and it didnt make sense for me to ask. So she was going to have him stay home with me, so I agreed. As she was leaving he followed her out the door anyways and I couldn’t really do anything to keep him home. So today after my dad’s softball game I’m supposed to keep him distracted while she’s gone, but I’m supposed to go fishing with my boyfriend. What do I do?