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I had a quick consultation call and almost cried from anxiety during it. She said the first session will be learning a lot about me. But i'm scared I will be too scared and start crying and not be able to speak. What will happen? Is that common?

In detail please. I had a 15m consultation call and almost cried ON THE CALL from anxiety. She said the first meeting will be to "learn a lot about me" but when I get really scared I struggle to talk so what will happen then?

Ive been looking for a therapist for the first time. I notice a lot of their intros talk about "helping you navigate life". While I do need help with that too most of my struggles stem from past trauma. Are they just going to give me advice on the "now" or will they help me deal with past too? Do i need to specifically seek this out or will all of them do this?

Theres an edited comparison pic that went viral and nobody bothers to check into it and the comments always get flooded with people believing its him. The "comparison photos" somehow have pete and epstein in the exact same shirt, location, angle, lighting, etc. Totallyyy not edited. They merged petes features with jeffreys and passed it off as jeffrey. But if you just go to google and look up pics of him its so obviously different. Like entirely. If the pics arent edited I can tell them apart almost 100% of the time. Different hair, different wrinkles, jeffrey had hooded narrow eyes, pete has droopy round eyes, petes nose is chunky jeffreys is more pointed, pete has a longer chin. Eyebrows COMPLETELY different. They sound different. It pisses me off seeing EVERYONE think its him!! Are people so brainwashed they cant even google photos and make their own comparisons???

I just want to hear your story. I feel like so many posts on this sub are from people who get dozens of LOs and obsess for a couple of months and move on which just isnt relatable to me. Sometimes I feel even more isolated after reading stuff like that.
My LO is my first boyfriend when I was 14. I'm 25 now. We stayed friends for a long time but had to stop talking years ago due to jealous partners who didnt want us talking to our exes. I cut my friendship off with my LO so that I could try to move on because I finally found someone else I was interested in. That relationship was ass and ended after 3yrs of abuse. I reached back out to my LO to find out he was married and his wife didnt want him talking to me. but he told me he always felt the same about me the whole time then said goodbye. I'm doing a lot better than I was at the peak, around 17-18. But i still miss him and think of him all the time and what couldve been had he just said something.

Or would that be a stretch? I hate my career in embedded sw and wish i went with something criminal justice related.

I hate them. When i try to wear eyeliner theres always an ugly light gap between the eyeliner and the mascara because i cant cover 100% of all of my lashes with the mascara. Half the time i try to do eyeliner it looks nasty so i take off all my makeup. Any tips??

I was looking for a lace parasol for renfair because I burn super easily and didnt want to be gooping sunscreen all over me while in costume. I wanted something nice and handmade, budget around $80. Most of the "handmade" parasols i was seeing were suspiciously similar. Went onto google and found the exact ones on ali express and temu for 1/10th the price. I found one that looked a bit nicer for $80. I messaged the seller just to be sure and said "are you reselling this from somewhere or is it handmade" and she said "handmade". Well after further investigation I found the exact "base" parasol on temu as well and realized she just sewed a few extra lace ruffles on it. That was the "handmade". 3 extra ruffles apparently means its handmade and worth $80 instead of $8. Ive resigned to making my own for next year but I wont be able to in time for this year. Apparently nobody makes stuff anymore. great. This isnt a one time thing either, etsy is RIDDLED with dropshippers calling shit handmade when it isnt.

got second lobe piercings in october and they will not heal. Theyre always leaking liquid and smell. Might be infected right now a tiny bit bc they feel warm. I have flat back titanium studs in. Even if i dry them they end up always kinda moist bc they leak. Can i put a hoop in or should i really not?? I feel like studs trap so much moisture and stop it from ever being dry. pissing me off.

I love my bf. But I find it hard to relax when we are talking. I hate hate hate this condition so much. I wont ever get to have the kind of love and relationship I always wanted. I wince when he talks sometimes because of the mouth sounds and tense up in anticipation of the next. Only on the bad days really but it makes me so sad. I already struggle with depression but this just adds another severe layer. It really affects your entire quality of life. For me the noises only become really bad the longer ive spent around someone. I have to experience my friends trigger me more and more as time goes on. Its going to be at the point soon where i have to start wearing my ear plugs to eat with my best friend ive known for about 3 years. The only way to ever feel at peace is to be alone. This must be one of the most isolating conditions there is. Because what other condition out there makes it HURT to be near the people you love the most.

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Just a rant really. My misophonia started in highschool when i lived alone with my mom. She made the most god-awful disgusting soft smacking noises, sniffling, MOANING, sighing, just every kind of disgusting body trigger you can imagine. She set up her desk in the loft area DIRECTLY outside my bedroom door like 5 ft away, and when she concentrated she would hold her breath and then let it out in a big moan/sigh then hold it again. And then constantly subjected me to the most disgusting eating noises. She was fat and ate constantly. Bananas and yogurt in the car with me when driving to school. I have a scar on the back of my hand from when i was so insanely uncomfortable i stabbed a pencil in. And visual triggers too. She would always stick her tongue out and slide it back and forth when "concentrating". Disgusting. Lately i have had a few nightmares of her noises and my bf wakes me up cause he hears me whining/crying in my sleep. i'm no-contact with my mom for other reasons but i literally refuse to ever meet up with her again just because of the absolutely ridiculous noise level.

I got a filling over a year ago. It was a horrible dentist. There was a ridge on the filling and he was filing it down and couldnt find the ridge so he was getting pissed off and just filing wherever. He got fired later due to attitude reasons. Anyway since then I have super bad pressure pain. Both top (where i got the filling) and bottom. New dentist has checked my bite and tried to adjust several times. Didnt work. Tried sensodyne toothpaste and night tooth guards. Didnt work. If i bite something too hard or chewy there I get shooting pain. Sometimes top sometimes bottom sometimes both. They did an xray and found a darkish shadow under the filling that is "very slightly" worse than last year. He said it COULD be the cause but doesnt know. And anyway the pain is also on the bottom so I doubt its just that. I'm scheduled for a re-filling but idk if i should go. I really dont think it will work. Just looking for advice. Why might this have happened and how can i fix it? Thanks.

Omg. I tried to post in relationship_advice and got deleted for no reason. Tried again and got deleted because i didnt put age and gender in the title in the correct format. Tried again and got deleted bc my account is "too new or inactive" despite me using it consistently for a month. Tried to comment on someone elses post and got deleted for the same reason. Posted on a girls subreddit and got deleted because i didnt select a flare for my gender. Successfully posted and got only 1 reply that got deleted because they didnt select a flare for their gender. Tried to post on r/rant and couldn't because i dont have enough karma. Got deleted off political-discussions because I shared my opinion in the post body instead of the comments. Couldnt ask for a foundation shade match on the korean beauty sub because they only let you post videos instead of pics. And another one only lets you post 1 pic or no pics.
Reddit mods are such fucking losers who need to add a bunch of unnecessary rules to their sub so they feel important or like they're controlling something. How about let people discuss what they want!! I get it if its like "no nsfw". But shit like "You can only ask for opinions on Wednesday" is just like, fuck off. WHO IS THAT HELPING? I hate reddit. If you delete this i hate you.

This is mostly a rant or just me looking for support :/ I'm planning to try therapy for the first time. I saved a bunch from "psychologyToday" and wrote an email to send to all of them. It was just a short email where i introduced myself, said what i'm struggling with and what type of help i'm looking for, and asked 3 simple questions: do you think you might be a good fit for my issues, how would i expect the sessions to go, and what is your availability.

Is it weird to ask those things?? Cause i've gotten 3 responses so far and ruled out those 3 therapists bc their response is just so lacking. The first one just said 2 sentences basically "thanks for reaching out and im available monday and friday". The second one did address an issue i mentioned but not if she has ever worked with it (its not super common) and just generically told me her therapy approach. 3rd one didnt answer any questions and also just told me her general approach to therapy, ignoring the other questions. it made me chuckle that the first therapist specialized in anxiety, because only telling me her availability after it took so much mental willpower to send those emails was certainly anxiety inducing. None of them closed off with "heres your next step if you want to connect in person or have a consultation" or anything. Idk i guess I just expected therapists to be more understanding/accommodating.

I know i'm probably being too quick to judge. It just pissed me off that I told them im severely struggling bad enough to finally try therapy, and get these weird vague responses that dont clearly address 3 simple questions i asked. Which its always been a pet peeve of mine when I clearly ask someone questions and they just ignore them.

Dont know what im looking for here. Just, ugh. Doesnt feel like a very hopeful start to this journey.

How do you do it? I love my bf but my misophonia from him is just getting worse and worse. Sometimes i avoid starting a conversation if i know its a time that i wont be able to handle the noises. But thats not good for a relationship. I have to wear my earplugs to eat with him unless we have the tv super loud. He does a smack after sipping something which is really hard to avoid bc people need to hydrate all day long. Everyone triggers me when ive known them for enough time so i cant just "find another bf" nor do i want to. I just feel hopeless and would like to hear stories of people successfully having relationships despite severe misophonia. Thanks.

Never done therapy and plan on starting. Had suicidal thoughts for majority of my life, but dont plan on acting on it. How much can i tell the therapist? When are they "allowed" to report it and when are they "required" to report it? Can i tell them i have suicidal thoughts but will not act on it without them reporting me?