u/OhMonDieu369

I’m pretty neurotic and can’t stop thinking about negative scenarios. I’m pretty sure about my ideas, logical reasoning and other things but I used to the fact that I might fail a little cause my brain might not function well at the moment, I can forget something or miss something crucial for the reasoning. At the end I usually get upset cause I didn’t showed my maximum and didn’t do the good job that I wanted to do. It also makes me question myself, like what if I forget something again and will look stupid. There are some things that I can’t control and those things negatively impact my work.

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Inattentiveness doesn’t apply for physical things but also for conceptual aspects, for example, missing the certain point that actually can be crucial. But I can also go deep into analysis, define concepts’ structure and easily explain things in easy ways even though I didn’t even looked into it before, I write exams just by logic and it works.

But I also find myself in stupid situations or make stupid decisions just because I was inattentive to obvious and visible signs

I already know that I’m So6 but I struggle to understand if I have 1 fix or not cause So6 is the closest to the e1 dedication to certain standards, following the rules and roles and perfectionism. It’s either 641 or 649, idk.

I often do something extra because I want to do something in a way it should be done or what expected of me.

Situation: We had a task at uni - to build our website, ideas for website were at our discretion. I knew that other people would do something with clothes, products and other items. I didn’t want that, I wanted original idea and something that interests me. I came up with idea, though I had problems in the process and much more work to do then others but I didn’t back down cause for me making a website with products was very low effort. Plus I made sure that everything runs ok, cause I noticed that some students didn’t make their buttons working when someone clicks on it. Professors who we presented our projects to were amazed by my project, and it definitely made me blush.

I also have certain values that are linked to society. Sometimes I can back down due to not wanting to have a conflict, and I know that some of my beliefs are controversial for many people or at least raise questions, so I don’t discuss it unless we are one on one. I’m also the one who defends rules and order. It is usually difficult to say for sure if I’m perfecting something due to possible unwanted situations or due to my own need to perfect something cause sometimes I just want to make something right, just like as it should be, because it makes the result greater.

But I also procrastinate a lot. I often don’t want to do anything about the possible problems because I want to hide and distract myself.

I already know that I’m So6 but I struggle to understand if I have 1 fix or not cause So6 is the closest to the e1 dedication to certain standards, following the rules and roles and perfectionism. It’s either 641 or 649, idk.

I often do something extra because I want to do something in a way it should be done or what expected of me.

Situation: We had a task at uni - to build our website, ideas for website were at our discretion. I knew that other people would do something with clothes, products and other items. I didn’t want that, I wanted original idea and something that interests me. I came up with idea, though I had problems in the process and much more work to do then others but I didn’t back down cause for me making a website with products was very low effort. Plus I made sure that everything runs ok, cause I noticed that some students didn’t make their buttons working when someone clicks on it. Professors who we presented our projects to were amazed by my project, and it definitely made me blush.

I also have certain values that are linked to society. Sometimes I can back down due to not wanting to have a conflict, and I know that some of my beliefs are controversial for many people or at least raise questions, so I don’t discuss it unless we are one on one. I’m also the one who defends rules and order. It is usually difficult to say for sure if I’m perfecting something due to possible unwanted situations or due to my own need to perfect something cause sometimes I just want to make something right, just like as it should be, because it makes the result greater.

But I also procrastinate a lot. I often don’t want to do anything about the possible problems because I want to hide and distract myself.

idk how but I somehow end up getting into a strange relationship with professors/teachers and falling into their dislike more often than others, even though I’m usually very polite and formal and don’t cross the boundary. I mean I look very basic, I don’t talk too much, I’m just a little unlucky lol.

Though sometimes I do cross but it’s more of the situational power dynamic boundary. I mean those situations where no one dares to say anything even though the teacher/professor says something offensive or does something really weird. People often tell me that I’m so calm and collected under pressure but in such situations I get pretty short tempered and grow a pair of balls.

I also had one situation where I made a good presentation when other people decided to copy and paste information from one web site. When I started presenting the professor told me that this is obviously a copy paste and they didn’t accept my work, but other people presented everything without any problem. This one still upsetting me to these days .

I also was that one student who almost always had technical issues when it was covid and we were taking exams via zoom. It was already stressful but I was even more stressed when professors didn’t want to cooperate cause I offered them a very good solution that would cover all the issues and risks (if I would try to cheat). Zero cooperation. They then told me that I am actually a better student than the others when we met up in rl lessons.

This one is off topic but there was kind of unusual situation. It was first year in uni, we were freshmen. One of our courses was taught by a very strict woman (probably istj or estj). Everyone was afraid of her. In the very first class we had a minor conflict because she demanded what wasn’t planned for this class and no one had it but she still decided to single me out. When we were presenting our reports, I knew she would likely ask us to retell them without looking at our notes, so I memorized mine in advance and everything went good for me. The following year, when we had the opportunity to work as teaching assistants, I was told that she specifically wanted me to work for her. I still can’t believe it, and I still don’t know what it was about me that caught her attention.

Do you have some stories?

I personally got to know him when I decided to watch the original version of the film «Suspiria». I was drawn in by its slightly theatrical visual style, especially the blue-and-red lighting. I’ve kept the music in my playlist; the visuals are very stylish. At the same time, I noticed that in his films Dario likes to choose specific professions and fields for his protagonists, ones connected to something cultural and intellectual; almost every film features a link to art and aestheticised environment which overlaps with violence and terror. Among the heroes is a student in a musical field, opera singer, pianist, ballet dancer, restorer, art historian, etc.

Though I didn’t pinpoint when exactly but his style changed towards more gory which I liked less but it still had a charm.

I fill my space with clutter very quickly because in the moment I’m too lazy to even put things back in their proper places. I can postpone washing dishes for a long time and avoid vacuuming the floor.

At the same time, I’m obsessed with organizing my space when I need to organise it which happens when I really have to focus on work, so I put away all distractions. I don’t like having many unrelated things in my life, so I try to store almost everything on my phone. Even having too many apps for each need feels burdensome, so I aim to use as few apps as possible, but for different purposes. The simplest example is my music playlist: I don’t go outside often, and when I do, it usually takes less time than the amount of music I’d like to listen to, so I trimmed it down to only the essentials. This removed the problem of choice. Reddit can be considered some kind of diary, lol. At least I record some of my thoughts here. This also combines with searching for interesting information or funny posts—multifunctionality. I discuss my other thoughts with AI, which sometimes acts as a conversational partner (in addition to those I talk to in my head) plus it can lead to some other interesting aspects which I didn’t think of.

I also try to organize the space in my room: books, the contents of desk drawers—everything should be neat and arranged by how often I need each item. When I clean my room, I immediately try to remove and throw away anything unnecessary. My goal is to organize my daily life so that I don’t have to make extra decisions in it, and can focus only on my ideas.

I’ve also recently been thinking about what kind of room I consider most suitable for myself, and I concluded that it’s a room similar to Harry Potter’s. A lack of large empty space; a desk, a bed, and a wardrobe with books and clothes—that’s all the furniture I need. I think I could even do without a bed frame and just sleep on a mattress, because the free space under the bed practically begs to be filled. For me, any available space, if it exists, should be used for practical purposes, except for the necessary gaps between essential pieces of furniture cause I need to be able to move around in the room lol.

I’m that one scientist who has its own robot with AI system that simply plays the role of assisting scientist’s research process or physical needs (like making a coffee), etc.

NOTICE: I meant approaching STRANGERS, not people you already know.

So, nowadays dating culture is cooked in general due to both sides of an argument. But I just don’t see how it is happening for other people specifically when someone approaches the other person. I know that approaching someone is a difficult and controversial thing for mostly everyone, but I would like to look at it as a concept in general.

Early romantic attraction is often a one-sided, projection-heavy process in which your brain uses visual and behavioral cues to activate old emotional templates. Therefore certain details of the person’s appearance make you recall the memories of certain moments, things, experiences and it arouse certain positive emotional connection to those things and make you attracted to the person.

But the other person, having no shared history with you yet, remains emotionally neutral. The other person hasn’t run the same associative loop between you and their past emotional experiences. Without some interaction (even minimal), you don’t yet occupy any positive or negative emotional category in their mind. So they have no built-in motivation to meet the initiator cause they’re just another person in their environment until something creates a link.

For example, brief positive interactions create a shared affective event for both people: telling the joke, small talk, asking a question. Even small moments give the other person something to associate you with, moving you from “neutral stranger” to “person who made me feel X.”

I mean would you agree if someone would approach you and ask if you would like to be their friend. I mean, it might work in the kindergarten..

NOTICE: approaching STRANGERS.

This culture is cooked in general due to both sides of an argument. But I just don’t see how it is happening for other people specifically when someone approaches the other person. I know that approaching someone is a difficult and controversial thing for mostly everyone, but I would like to look at it as a concept in general.

Early romantic attraction is often a one-sided, projection-heavy process in which your brain uses visual and behavioral cues to activate old emotional templates. Therefore certain details of the person’s appearance make you recall the memories of certain moments, things, experiences and it arouse certain positive emotional connection to those things and make you attracted to the person.

But the other person, having no shared history with you yet, remains emotionally neutral. The other person hasn’t run the same associative loop between you and their past emotional experiences. Without some interaction (even minimal), you don’t yet occupy any positive or negative emotional category in their mind. So they have no built-in motivation to meet the initiator cause they’re just another person in their environment until something creates a link.

For example, brief positive interactions create a shared affective event for both people: telling the joke, small talk, asking a question. Even small moments give the other person something to associate you with, moving you from “neutral stranger” to “person who made me feel X.”

I mean would you agree if someone would approach you and ask if you would like to be their friend. I mean, it might work in the kindergarten..

NOTICE: the situation applies to approaching STRANGERS.

This dynamic seems to be shaped by culture and by both sides of the interaction, but I still don’t fully see how it plays out for other people when someone initiates contact. I know approaching someone is difficult and controversial for most people, but I’d like to look at it as a general concept, not about any specific situation.

From a cognitive perspective, early social attraction often looks like a one-sided, projection-heavy process: your brain uses visual and behavioral cues to activate old emotional templates. Certain details of a person’s appearance trigger memories of specific moments, objects, or experiences, creating a positive emotional association with those memories and making you more inclined to approach that person.

At the same time, the other person, having no shared history with you yet, remains emotionally neutral. They haven’t run the same associative loop between you and their past emotional experiences. Without some interaction (even minimal), you don’t yet occupy any positive or negative emotional category in their mind. So they have no built-in motivation to engage with the initiator; you’re just another person in their environment until something creates a link.

For example, brief positive interactions can create a shared affective event for both people: telling a joke, small talk, asking a question. Even small moments give the other person something to associate you with, moving you from “neutral stranger” to “person who made me feel X.”

I’m curious: would you agree to form a new social connection if someone approached you out of the blue and asked, “Would you like to be friends?” It feels like something that might work in kindergarten, but becomes oddly charged later in life.

Ne just worsening it lol

Can’t bring myself to do anything and constantly having something on the background that makes me rethink everything