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They always manage to get the barricade and the members seem to remember them all the time. The members make signs and gestures to them that they will go to them after they perform (I have videos showing that). Hanbin took 3-4 selfies with the same girl over the course of the three days. Matthew with another of them as well. Another fan got elbowed by one of them. They called the security and they just gave a warning. Another fan got scratched and her arm slapped away twice, and this episode was straight in front of hanbin because he was interacting with fans and taking some selfies just before leaving. Security got called again but it was already the end of the show and they dashed away. It seems they don’t want anybody to interact with the members in their territory.

I am sorry but after what I witnessed I feel there is some sort of favoritism.

Last year they got physically aggressive with fans at the meet and greet and in the same year I also noticed the same patter of the members doing high five with the girls of that fandom but it was more subtle. It was discussed here before.

Sorry but after the discussion we had here about gunwook controversy, this all situation with that specific fandom is giving me bad taste in my mouth. People line up and wait for hours and spend the same money at kcon like those Japanese fans but what is the point if they are in any case more preferred

In addition: they get barricade but 50% of time they just play with their phones, squat down or check their social media while other artists are performing

I am already at kcon, meeting here before 11:30am

edit: sold

I have had mild neck pain for a while, it was well managed with low dose of ibuprofen once a while and topical OTC cream.

In the past a deep tissue massage used to give me relief for some months.

I asked if anybody had massage therapists recommendations in the Bay, and I was told that a center in Palo Alto was great. So, I booked there.

The first time with the first therapist was good.

The nightmare started a few weeks ago when I went there a second time with another therapist (well praised here).
I don’t know what she did but I indeed felt more pressure than usual and some click sounds in my muscles when she was manipulating them

That day and for the following days until now, I have been having constant never-ending muscle pain at the neck that does not go away with anything. The pain has also spread in spots where I did not feel pain before and indeed where the therapist insisted during the session. I already went to the urgent care and my primary care twice. They prescribed muscle relaxant and higher dose of oral and topical pain killers, but they just don’t work. I tried with heat, with cold, stretching exercises, changing pillows, medications but no matter if I stand or lie down the throbbing dull pain is always there. My range of arm motion is impacted, I started having migraines too because of the muscles in constant tension: I could feel hard lumps sometimes in the most painful spots.
I can’t even stay sit down for long. Now I am just begging that my physical therapist will have an opening soon for an appointment to evaluate the situation.

I reached out to the massage center but they never replied to me.

Sung hanbin again?

Townhouse, 3bd 2.5ba.

Edit: to clarify I want to add European style separated bidet, not the electric toilets

I tried a super popular sunscreen from lancome and it made me break out

Then I tried another famous skincare set from the same brand: serum + moisturizer cream and it made me break out in a few days again

I have a third famous skincare set (serum + moisturizer cream) again from lancome that I have not opened yet.

Should I give the third one a try? Or maybe my skin just doesn’t tolerate their formulations?

I am bringing for sure the originals of what we submitted for I140 EB1a and AOS and the originals+copies of new evidence like bona fide marriage etc etc. color and single sided print outs

However, how about the tons of documents we already sent by the time of submission?
For example do I have to print single sided and colored all the pages of all my previous passports again? And all the evidence of extraordinary ability including scientific publications, awards, conferences and media articles again?

Interview scheduled for July.
I am the principal applicant. My spouse is the derivative but we used his country of birth.

My I140 got approved last summer in 9 days without any issues.

I was hoping we could skip the interview but apparently we cannot. I am actually stressed about what they can ask, especially after the new memo. On other subreddit they say they have been asking the applicants why they skipped consular processing and decided to adjust status in the US.

It sounds such a stupid question but does anybody know if there were any interviews that address this and what they thought?

I read everywhere that he is very different.
More dark, possessive, jealous and cynical.

But can anybody provide some examples or part in the novel describing it?

For example what does it mean he was very jealous, possessive and obsessed with the FL?
Any concrete example of it?

Thanks

I just finished the series after being convinced by friends. All of them loved the series but especially praised the first episodes in the small village.
I actually had hard time watching through those episodes. I felt the atmosphere of the village was a bit fake (the village looked the ones I would see in video games) and the acting a bit stereotyped. I could not get the chemistry between the FL and ML with some scene that got me second hand embarrassment.
She was too stereotypically pure and innnocent for my liking and the ML too nice and caring (I read that in the novel they stressed more the merciless side of him, I would have appreciated that it was hinted more in the drama).
The pace was also a bit slow to me.

Things changed from episode 17 around when Sui Yuanqing was introduced and wooow the series got me hooked.
I did not sleep and almost did not eat for 2-3 days LoL. The climax, the acting, the delivery, the scenery, the script… I don’t know everything felt much more elevated to me. The characters became more complex and real. 17-20 to me were amazing episodes. Then the episodes when they were stuck on the mountain surrounding by enemies where chef kiss. I liked the episodes after that when they went to the capital city but I wished they covered more the FL and ML relationship besides spending so much time on the intrigues.

Anyway as many of you I feel such a huge void now, after finishing the series. I kinda feel sad that it has ended. I don’t know if I want to start a new one, I have big problems with binge watching lol.

When I started reading this story I did not like the parts about mincheol either. I just wanted to see how the main relationship between the FL and ML developed over time.

But the layers of depth that the author has added to the character of Mincheol and how he became what he is today is so tragic and sad.

Poverty is not only having difficulty in surviving, it messes with your personality, it makes you spiral into bad behavior. It builds resentments, distrust and despisal. Money can shutter the strongest bonds. Financial issues destroy the most loyal relationships.

Sometimes I feel that it is kinda easy to side with the rich chaebol. Too easy.
What if mincheol and na haesoo never had financial problems? A scenario where he went to the university and got a good job. A scenario where she was healthy and with a good job as well. With Children and living in a nice, cozy home. I genuinely believe that the author wants to say that Mincheol really cared when they were young. In his inexperienced and naive young self he really believed they could make it and be happy together.
But poverty and life punch you straight in your face. There is no happy ending, there is no escape and you just become the antihero.

I can think of Walter White in Breaking Bad: how poverty and health issues can question all your moral believes and get you do things that you would never ever have expected.

Mincheol now is pathetic and disgusting and I am not justifying him, but his fall is interesting, relatable and well written.

I am getting closer to 40. My husband is my same generation. My Obgyn told me to consider embryo freezing if we still did not know if we wanted kids, because time is running out.

My reasons why I haven’t decided yet are classic: I grew up in a modest family and now that I am adult and we make more money, I am enjoying everything I could not do while younger. I travel, I book last minute crazy trips, we eat out, we go to a lot concerts, festivals, events. I have weird sleep habits, like an owl. I like my freedom, our routine and our adult life. We are overall happy.

But all these reasons are secondary to the main one: I am scared of having a child that will end up like my sibling.

I am sorry that it will sound harsh but I am scared of going through what my parents had to go through. I don’t know if I can do it again as well, because I grew up being the older sibling, much older sibling of a child that was born with mental disability. My sibling has mental development delay (confirmed and diagnosed) to the point he can’t be independent now (as adult). He literally has a mentality of a 14 years old teenager even now that he is closer to 30s. During his teenage years, he was also hospitalized for psychiatric reasons and in these months he used to scream all the possible horrible things to my parent and also having bad psychosis. Since he used to listen to me more, I was always treated as second mum. I had to take care of him, follow his school progress, meet with the doctors and so on. My parents suffered a lot but I was exhausted too. They were very painful years and the condition of my sibling put a strain on my parents’ relationship too. Now that they are getting older they constantly worry how my sibling will be able to get by in the future.

After finishing college I decided to leave and now I live far away with my husband, we are happy. Sometimes we talk about how it will be having a child. I sometimes dream about a happy family, after reading what people say about the deep joy that child brings to a couple (even in this subreddit). I image my husband teaching our child how to ride a bike or me being proud of his/her first success, then suddenly the memories of the years with my sibling come in my mind and I recoil. Is the risk is too high? If it happens to me, I really don’t know how I can go through that again.

I am in that age and a husband and still not sure if we want a child. I am closer to 40 than 30 and I know time is running out.
My obgyn suggested that we can freeze embryos.

Anybody that wants to talk about the reason why you have not have children yet? Do you want to stay child free? Is it because you haven’t found the right person? Are you planning to have them or not at all?

At work, I am surrounded by people with kids. Some colleagues have been asking me what I am planning to do or telling me how much I am missing out

Just asking because in tech it seems quite common