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I wondering because the song makes me think of my ex. She was deeply insecure and jealous.

She was not conventionally attractive, and she moved in a way that proved she agreed with that?

I however thought she was beautiful and stunning and tried to tell her often. But she still didn’t believe me, and would regularly think that I was lying. Or worse that I would cheat on her like her ex did.

She had clear signs of being avoidant. How was I supposed to reassure her when she didn’t express how she really felt?

I’m trying to understand her. I don’t want her again but I blame myself even when I shouldn’t. The sombr song made me think so much about her and her inability to love me because of her own insecurities.

Basically she pursued (kinda stalked) me for three years from a far.

Then I liked her back and she freaked out. She went from idolizing me to hating me to then loving me again. She also couldn’t stop stalking me.

She would say that she “loves to watch me interact with ppl”, and how put together I am. She also admitted accidentally to stalking me after she ended it. This was all confusing because I can’t tell if she really liked me or not. Or if she was only interested in me before she had me?

She would tell me how special I was. After SHE ended it she pretended like nothing happened and that I wasn’t deeply hurt, and wanted to move on and start this cycle all over.

I blocked her but still confused at her push and pull behavior. Did she like me too much or just not at all?

She was my first time, and my first relationship and first experience with another girl as well.

She pursued me. And would make comments about how much she loved watching me talk to ppl, and how smart and beautiful I was. I felt like she didn’t see me as a person rather on a pedestal. She would FaceTime me ALL the time to the point it got exhausting on my end.

After things got too intense for her she freaked out and said she couldn’t do this. I had to beg her to talk to me though. She just started being distant and I felt crazy. But her obsession with me stayed. Her emotions towards me were insane. After the breakup she went from being happy to see me (she would wave so hard which made me so scared of how someone can flip a switch with their emotions) to then being visibly upset with me if we ran into each other.

It was the most confusing, traumatic, situation of my life. I stayed strong but it was awful. I gave so much of myself and it felt like I got thrown away but I also felt like she hated me for not begging her to stay?

She would stalk my social media. We had a conversation afterwards where I asked her what happened and if I hurt her in anyway (I put her feeling above my own). She pretended nothing happened, but she accidentally admitted to stalking me on socials.

Her friends were a part of the problem. I’m not sure how truthful she was about how she treated me but her friends would stare me down anytime they saw me, as intimidation?

I blocked her everywhere and don’t plan on ever letting her back in. However it hurt so much in the moment. How do I make sense of this? I question if I got taken advantage of, did she ever care or just wanted to sleep with me? I feel like she had a weird obsession with her ego and her seeing me hurt from her leaving made her feel better about herself? Is this ego thing a sign of an avoidant. Any advice? I’m not sure if I developed an unhealthy attachment or not. It took me a very long time to come to terms with what happened.

She was my first time, and my first relationship and first experience with another girl as well.

She pursued me. And would make comments about how much she loved watching me talk to ppl, and how smart and beautiful I was. I felt like she didn’t see me as a person rather on a pedestal. She would FaceTime me ALL the time to the point it got exhausting on my end.

After things got too intense for her she freaked out and said she couldn’t do this. I had to beg her to talk to me though. She just started being distant and I felt crazy. But her obsession with me stayed. Her emotions towards me were insane. After the breakup she went from being happy to see me (she would wave so hard which made me so scared of how someone can flip a switch with their emotions) to then being visibly upset with me if we ran into each other.

It was the most confusing, traumatic, situation of my life. I stayed strong but it was awful. I gave so much of myself and it felt like I got thrown away but I also felt like she hated me for not begging her to stay?

She would stalk my social media. We had a conversation afterwards where I asked her what happened and if I hurt her in anyway (I put her feeling above my own). She pretended nothing happened, but she accidentally admitted to stalking me on socials.

Her friends were a part of the problem. I’m not sure how truthful she was about how she treated me but her friends would stare me down anytime they saw me, as intimidation?

I blocked her everywhere and don’t plan on ever letting her back in. However it hurt so much in the moment. How do I make sense of this? I question if I got taken advantage of, did she ever care or just wanted to sleep with me? I feel like she had a weird obsession with her ego and her seeing me hurt from her leaving made her feel better about herself? Is this ego thing a sign of an avoidant. Any advice?

She was my first time, and my first relationship and first experience with another girl as well.

She pursued me. And would make comments about how much she loved watching me talk to ppl, and how smart and beautiful I was. I felt like she didn’t see me as a person rather on a pedestal

After things got too intense for her she freaked out and said she couldn’t do this. I had to beg her to talk to me though. She just started being distant and I felt crazy. But her obsession with me stayed. Her emotions towards me were insane. After the breakup she went from being happy to see me (she would wave so hard which made me so scared of how someone can flip a switch with their emotions) to then being visibly upset with me if we ran into each other.

It was the most confusing, traumatic, situation of my life. I stayed strong but it was awful. I gave so much of myself and it felt like I got thrown away but I also felt like she hated me for not begging her to stay?

She would stalk my social media. We had a conversation afterwards where I asked her what happened and if I hurt her in anyway (I put her feeling above my own). She pretended nothing happened, but she accidentally admitted to stalking me on socials.

Her friends were a part of the problem. I’m not sure how truthful she was about how she treated me but her friends would stare me down anytime they saw me, as intimidation?

I blocked her everywhere and don’t plan on ever letting her back in. However it hurt so much in the moment. How do I make sense of this? I question if I got taken advantage of, did she ever care or just wanted to sleep with me? I feel like she had a weird obsession with her ego and her seeing me hurt from her leaving made her feel better about herself? Is this ego thing a sign of an avoidant. Any advice?

I understand that the stop sign is for other cars.

But if there is no stop sign and pedestrians are crossing with white lines are they supposed to stop?

This angry driver going above the speed limit in a residential neighborhood screamed at me for crossing because there was no stop sign. Even though he’s doing 25 in a school zone!

Edit: I am not the driver. The driver is arguing that without a stop sign he doesn’t have to stop his vehicle for the pedestrian (me) crossing even with white lines

I understand that the stop sign is for other cars.

But if there is no stop sign and pedestrians are crossing with white lines are they supposed to stop?

This angry driver going above the speed limit in a residential neighborhood screamed me for crossing because there was no stop sign. Even though he’s doing 25 in a school zone!

Edit: I am not the driver. The driver is arguing that without a stop sign he doesn’t have to stop his vehicle for the pedestrian (me) crossing even with white lines

She was my first time, and my first relationship and first experience with another girl as well.

She pursued me. And would make comments about how much she loved watching me talk to ppl, and how smart and beautiful I was. I felt like she didn’t see me as a person rather on a pedestal. She would FaceTime me ALL the time to the point it got exhausting on my end.

After things got too intense for her she freaked out and said she couldn’t do this. I had to beg her to talk to me though. She just started being distant and I felt crazy. But her obsession with me stayed. Her emotions towards me were insane. After the breakup she went from being happy to see me (she would wave so hard which made me so scared of how someone can flip a switch with their emotions) to then being visibly upset with me if we ran into each other.

It was the most confusing, traumatic, situation of my life. I stayed strong but it was awful. I gave so much of myself and it felt like I got thrown away but I also felt like she hated me for not begging her to stay?

She would stalk my social media. We had a conversation afterwards where I asked her what happened and if I hurt her in anyway (I put her feeling above my own). She pretended nothing happened, but she accidentally admitted to stalking me on socials.

Her friends were a part of the problem. I’m not sure how truthful she was about how she treated me but her friends would stare me down anytime they saw me, as intimidation?

I blocked her everywhere and don’t plan on ever letting her back in. However it hurt so much in the moment. How do I make sense of this? I question if I got taken advantage of, did she ever care or just wanted to sleep with me? I feel like she had a weird obsession with her ego and her seeing me hurt from her leaving made her feel better about herself? Is this ego thing a sign of an avoidant. Any advice?

She was my first time, and my first relationship and first experience with another girl as well.

She pursued me. And would make comments about how much she loved watching me talk to ppl, and how smart and beautiful I was. I felt like she didn’t see me as a person rather on a pedestal. She would FaceTime me ALL the time to the point it got exhausting on my end.

After things got too intense for her she freaked out and said she couldn’t do this. I had to beg her to talk to me though. She just started being distant and I felt crazy. But her obsession with me stayed. Her emotions towards me were insane. After the breakup she went from being happy to see me (she would wave so hard which made me so scared of how someone can flip a switch with their emotions) to then being visibly upset with me if we ran into each other.

It was the most confusing, traumatic, situation of my life. I stayed strong but it was awful. I gave so much of myself and it felt like I got thrown away but I also felt like she hated me for not begging her to stay?

She would stalk my social media. We had a conversation afterwards where I asked her what happened and if I hurt her in anyway (I put her feeling above my own). She pretended nothing happened, but she accidentally admitted to stalking me on socials.

Her friends were a part of the problem. I’m not sure how truthful she was about how she treated me but her friends would stare me down anytime they saw me, as intimidation?

I blocked her everywhere and don’t plan on ever letting her back in. However it hurt so much in the moment. How do I make sense of this? I question if I got taken advantage of, did she ever care or just wanted to sleep with me? I feel like she had a weird obsession with her ego and her seeing me hurt from her leaving made her feel better about herself? Is this ego thing a sign of an avoidant. Any advice?

TW EMOTIONS AND A “BREAKUP”

She was my first time, and my first relationship and first experience with another girl as well.

She pursued me. And would make comments about how much she loved watching me talk to ppl, and how smart and beautiful I was. I felt like she didn’t see me as a person rather on a pedestal. She would FaceTime me ALL the time to the point it got exhausting on my end.

After things got too intense for her she freaked out and said she couldn’t do this. I had to beg her to talk to me though. She just started being distant and I felt crazy. But her obsession with me stayed. Her emotions towards me were insane. After the breakup she went from being happy to see me (she would wave so hard which made me so scared of how someone can flip a switch with their emotions) to then being visibly upset with me if we ran into each other.

It was the most confusing, traumatic, situation of my life. I stayed strong but it was awful. I gave so much of myself and it felt like I got thrown away but I also felt like she hated me for not begging her to stay?

She would stalk my social media. We had a conversation afterwards where I asked her what happened and if I hurt her in anyway (I put her feeling above my own). She pretended nothing happened, but she accidentally admitted to stalking me on socials.

Her friends were a part of the problem. I’m not sure how truthful she was about how she treated me but her friends would stare me down anytime they saw me, as intimidation?

I blocked her everywhere and don’t plan on ever letting her back in. However it hurt so much in the moment. How do I make sense of this? I question if I got taken advantage of, did she ever care or just wanted to sleep with me? I feel like she had a weird obsession with her ego and her seeing me hurt from her leaving made her feel better about herself? Is this ego thing a sign of an avoidant. Any advice?

My ex friend 21F Chloe was really possessive over me and thought she knew what was best for me at all times.

She made the comment that I had internalized homophobia because of a mutual friend who had a crush on me who I didn’t reciprocate. Chloe’s friend Stella F22 then made a rumor saying that I was sleeping with that mutual friend. Stella wouldn’t stop obsessing over my love life and sexuality.

And after I told Chloe this she kinda shrugged her shoulders and made it seem like it was normal for Stella to be invasive and obsessive over ppl.

I actually shared with Chloe that I didn’t feel comfortable discussing my love life with her going forward. I dated a girl around this time but I never told her before because of how judgement and possessive she’s always been with me.

She started to cry not because she hurt my feelings but because she fucked up.

Now she’s avoiding me and really don’t seem to want to be friends anymore. I didn’t do anything negative or mean to her. All I did was express all the hurtful things she did and I guess this had an impact on her ego! Advice ?

My ex friend was really possessive over me and thought she knew what was best for me at all times.

She made the comment that I had internalized homophobia because of a mutual friend who had a crush on me who I didn’t reciprocate.

It was hurtful and I actually shared with her that I didn’t feel comfortable discussing my love life with her going forward. I was dated a girl around this time but I never told her before because of how judgement and possessive she’s always been with me.

She started to cry not because she hurt my feelings but because she fucked up.

Now she’s avoiding me and really don’t seem to want to be friends anymore. I didn’t do anything negative or mean to her. All I did was express all the hurtful things she did and I guess this had an impact on her ego! Advice ?

She was my first time, and my first relationship and first experience with another girl as well.

She pursued me. And would make comments about how much she loved watching me talk to ppl, and how smart and beautiful I was. I felt like she didn’t see me as a person rather on a pedestal. She would FaceTime and call me all the time.

After things got too intense for her she freaked out and said she couldn’t do this. I had to beg her to talk to me though. She just started being distant and I felt crazy. But her obsession with me stayed. Her emotions towards me were insane. After the breakup she went from being happy to see me (she would wave so hard which made me so scared of how someone can flip a switch with their emotions) to then being visibly upset with me if we ran into each other.

It was the most confusing, traumatic, situation of my life. I stayed strong but it was awful. I gave so much of myself and it felt like I got thrown away but I also felt like she hated me for not begging her to stay?

She would stalk my social media. We had a conversation afterwards where I asked her what happened and if I hurt her in anyway (I put her feeling above my own). She pretended nothing happened, but she accidentally admitted to stalking me on socials.

Her friends were a part of the problem. I’m not sure how truthful she was about how she treated me but her friends would stare me down anytime they saw me, as intimidation?

I blocked her everywhere and don’t plan on ever letting her back in. However it hurt so much in the moment. How do I make sense of this? I question if I got taken advantage of, did she ever care or just wanted to sleep with me? I feel like she had a weird obsession with her ego and her seeing me hurt from her leaving made her feel better about herself? Is this ego thing a sign of an avoidant. Any advice?

My ex friend was really possessive over me and thought she knew what was best for me at all times.

She made the comment that I had internalized homophobia because of a mutual friend who had a crush on me who I didn’t reciprocate.

It was hurtful and I actually shared with her that I didn’t feel comfortable discussing my love life with her going forward. I was dated a girl around this time but I never told her before because of how judgement and possessive she’s always been with me.

She started to cry not because she hurt my feelings but because she fucked up.

Now she’s avoiding me and really don’t seem to want to be friends anymore. I didn’t do anything negative or mean to her. All I did was express all the hurtful things she did and I guess this had an impact on her ego! Advice ?

She was my first time, and my first relationship and first experience with another girl as well.

She pursued me. And would make comments about how much she loved watching me talk to ppl, and how smart and beautiful I was. I felt like she didn’t see me as a person rather on a pedestal

After things got too intense for her she freaked out and said she couldn’t do this. I had to beg her to talk to me though. She just started being distant and I felt crazy. But her obsession with me stayed. Her emotions towards me were insane. After the breakup she went from being happy to see me (she would wave so hard which made me so scared of how someone can flip a switch with their emotions) to then being visibly upset with me if we ran into each other.

It was the most confusing, traumatic, situation of my life. I stayed strong but it was awful. I gave so much of myself and it felt like I got thrown away but I also felt like she hated me for not begging her to stay?

She would stalk my social media. We had a conversation afterwards where I asked her what happened and if I hurt her in anyway (I put her feeling above my own). She pretended nothing happened, but she accidentally admitted to stalking me on socials.

Her friends were a part of the problem. I’m not sure how truthful she was about how she treated me but her friends would stare me down anytime they saw me, as intimidation?

I blocked her everywhere and don’t plan on ever letting her back in. However it hurt so much in the moment. How do I make sense of this? I question if I got taken advantage of, did she ever care or just wanted to sleep with me? I feel like she had a weird obsession with her ego and her seeing me hurt from her leaving made her feel better about herself? Is this ego thing a sign of an avoidant. Any advice?

She was my first time, and my first relationship and first experience with another girl as well.

She pursued me. And would make comments about how much she loved watching me talk to ppl, and how smart and beautiful I was. I felt like she didn’t see me as a person rather on a pedestal

After things got too intense for her she freaked out and said she couldn’t do this. I had to beg her to talk to me though. She just started being distant and I felt crazy. But her obsession with me stayed. Her emotions towards me were insane. After the breakup she went from being happy to see me (she would wave so hard which made me so scared of how someone can flip a switch with their emotions) to then being visibly upset with me if we ran into each other.

It was the most confusing, traumatic, situation of my life. I stayed strong but it was awful. I gave so much of myself and it felt like I got thrown away but I also felt like she hated me for not begging her to stay?

She would stalk my social media. We had a conversation afterwards where I asked her what happened and if I hurt her in anyway (I put her feeling above my own). She pretended nothing happened, but she accidentally admitted to stalking me on socials.

Her friends were a part of the problem. I’m not sure how truthful she was about how she treated me but her friends would stare me down anytime they saw me, as intimidation?

I blocked her everywhere and don’t plan on ever letting her back in. However it hurt so much in the moment. How do I make sense of this? I question if I got taken advantage of, did she ever care or just wanted to sleep with me? I feel like she had a weird obsession with her ego and her seeing me hurt from her leaving made her feel better about herself? Is this ego thing a sign of an avoidant. Any advice?