u/Particular-Drive1454

I really want to wake up and be a man instead. I'm not afraid of getting older itself but the ageism women receive is insane, not to mention the biological tax being (peri)menopause. Once you are out of your early 20s, you are an old hag/aging woman and your worth is supposedly going down. How am I expected to be okay with it? I still want to live a colourful life with romance, love, adventures. I myself remember looking down on older women when I was 16 while glazing older men for some reason. Grandmas are invisible while grandpas "still have it" in them. Being born as a human female is a cruel punishment

How the fuck do I stop thinking about myself as an undesirable woman because I've grown out of the early 20s 🥺

Yeah, this may be stupid but society is obsessed with female youth, and it feels weird not to be a part of it anymore and be never coming back to this position

I'm discouraged. 24 and forced to have roommates because renting a simplest decent flat would cost me 70% of my income.

Women are not having a lot of children (3 and more) if not forced to. Pregnancy is really hard, children are for life once they are born, and being dependent on your husband who can easily cheat and abuse you sucks. It's logical that almost no one will submit herself to the fate of being a helpless, limited tradwife birthing children 24/7 starting at 18 in a modern world full of possibilities.

And... Don't you think that world leaders will find it bad over time???

Don't you have an impression that soon enough there will be a wave of misogyny, because world leaders are going to try to raise the birth rates? I'm afraid of them limiting women rights, banning abortions, normalizing teen pregnancies and establishing pedophilic standards again.

All women, no matter the age and marriage status, seem to get a lot of reaction. Given some of them are married and have kids, I assume it isn't related to the goal of having them as partners (?). Also, I definitely saw women in their 50s and above getting a lot of traction too, despite society telling that "women expire with age" and being very negative towards female aging.

At the same time, men of any age and personal life status barely get any upvotes here. Not sure about the DMs.

Why is it so?

Як ви боретесь з тривожністю через вік? Мені 24 роки, я жінка, вже в тому періоді, коли однолітки стають серйозними, а мені ментально 8 років. Освіта моя по спеціальності, яка в нашій країні не дає перспектив, за кордон поки не дуже хочу, планую перевчатися на щось перспективне й добре оплачуване, а що — хз. Некомфортно спілкуватись з людьми, бо всі очікують від тебе успішного успіху, а ти блять обдолбан. Смаки з 18 років у мене теж взагалі не змінилися, люблю те саме, що й тоді, просто стала трохи старшою. Стосунки будувати складно. Відчуваю ось це тікання годинника до неминучої смерті, проти якого я нічого не можу зробити

When you feel deeply apathetic, like nothing interests you and nothing is pleasant, and like every day means rotting alive, what do you do to engage with people again? I just sit in my own company, and I feel like nothing connects me with those around me. I really want to have friends/romantic partner but this bullshit is truly unachievable when I'm like this.

Before you send me to psychiatrist, I already met one and she told me to go fuck myself.

How did night shift affect your health and appearance? Some people say it makes things worse, some people say it makes things better.

From a medical point of view, you don't get solar insolation and related UV damage, so your skin ages slower than the day shift fellows', but at the same time you wreak up your entire hormonal system.

Young men (especially 20-25) are extremely sweet but men above 40 all feel like misogynistic perverts with pedophilic/predatory behaviours. In my experience young men demonstrate way lesser levels of bigotry against women, they are more caring and not so prone to negging, emotional abuse etc. But frankly 40+ y.o. men are suddenly fucked in the head. They massively cheat on their wives, neglect their children, try to pursue women in their teen years/early 20s, and overall treat female population with such disdain and instrumentality it makes me want to puke.

How does this transition even happen? Is this the difference between generations/different upbringing and Gen Z won't be like this, or is it what happens to all men naturally? Or maybe I'm completely wrong and something else is going on?

я трохи порефлексувала і прийшла до висновку, що деякі мої проблеми з соціалізацією пов'язані просто з тим, що мені загалом нічого не цікаво, всі розмови даються з трудом, апатія залізобетонна, немає мотивації займатися хоббі, починати нові справи. ну через те й розмовляти з людьми немає про що, бо я просто порожній виток м'яса на кістках. як відновлюється інтерес до життя? ._.

Have you ever felt like all your best years are behind, and now you are going to permanently rot in the routine? Would you like to pretend the feeling isn't here while sitting in front of the screen and chatting with a stranger (me)?

Hey hey!

I'm 24F, feeling pretty down but looking for somebody to consistently chat with. I was once what they call a creative person but I feel braindead today. I'm taking some big chances in my life and I would like an understanding/non judgemental friend.

Also, I'm looking for someone to learn German/Spanish with. My knowledge right now is basically zero so be prepared for cringe!

короче, це пизда. у мене не викликає ніякого інтересу ідея з кимось зустрічатись, і це мені вже солідні такі 24 роки. в теорії стосунки звучать прямо чудово, я люблю читати романтику, але як тільки з кимось йду на побачення, відчуваю безмежну апатію і небажання тут бути в принципі. напевно, залишусь одна на все життя і буду просто тусити з подружками. шкода тільки родичів, які на щось від мене сподіваються XD

форевер елони реддіта, як ви ставитеся до того, що ви скоріше за все будете одні, та чи це вас змушує задумуватись про власне майбутнє?

What are your worries related to aging? Are you afraid of health deterioration? Loneliness? Wasted opportunities? Loss of looks? How rational are your worries?