u/Pitiful_Ad2591

Im 24F. Im married. I went to college. I got my associates and I planned to get my bachelor's in Art. I planned to be a teacher or an art teacher. All I knew was that I wanted to be a mom. Everything gives me anxiety and the idea of working or finishing school and regretting it or even not doing either and becoming a mom makes me want to throw up. Idk what im doing and it all feels wrong. I hate school and i hate working. I worked two jobs to pay for my college and i quit when I got married bc my husband had a good job and i went to get my bachelor's. But we just moved across the country and im trying to really think about what i want from life and i dont know. I feel like its all so finite and im just terrified to make the wrong choices and everything feels wrong.

I was so depressed moving and I just got a new job here and ima preschool teacher in training but its so hard. Im still training and im debating what would even make me happy atp. Im telling myself to stick it out with the daycare and to really give it my best try. But the idea of going back to school and being an art teacher also sounds nice. But what if i suck at it and i try so hard only to hate it too and be horrible.

I also thought about getting my degree and working at the same place my husband does but in a different department. So a nice office job sounds nice? But it sounds strict and difficult mentally/spiritually.

I went to Japan last year and i was able to try out multiple bidets bc they were literally everywhere there. And I still dont understand how its suppose to clean you??? Maybe I did it wrong each time. But there was just wetness everywhere after??? Do you just pull up your pants and go all wet?? I had to buy toilet paper for the airbnb we stayed at bc I took a poop and I just was left with poop water all over my bum and idk how thats clean yall... i dont know how splashing the dookie out my crack with water makes me clean. Please educate me. I MUST have been doing it wrong?? Even if you wipe first then its still water splashing the yuck around down there 😭

I moved across the country so i had to find a new job and I got hired for a job at a Daycare near me. I have only every substitute taught and I used to go afterschool care for school aged kids. So i am worried about the whole switch to daycare/preschool teaching. They had already warned me its a big change and that I will be working with someone experienced so I can get the hang of it since its going to be different for me. But I sat in on a class before being hired and it was very chaotic and i quickly got overwhelmed. But I want to give this job my best effort.

I havent had a 9-5 in many years, I liked the flexibility and choice i had with subsitute teaching. I will definitely be challenged at my new job. Is there any advice? I dont want to lose my sanity lol.

My whole life i have felt like a mom bc I have an 11 year age gap between me and my younger siblings. They still to this day accidentally call me mom from time to time. I learned very young to feed them, bath them, i would be the one putting them to sleep bc my mom told me to do it. So I would stay up all night with them and at one point I was doing so bad in school that I was failing and she pulled me out to homeschool me so I could stay home and watch them all day.

That experience made me feel like I never got to really develope into my own self. Like I lost a big part of my childhood and I had to raise myself. I resented my siblings some days bc I felt like a child mom. But I love them so much. Everyone told me growing up that id be a good mom when i got older. But im afraid to have children and lose myself to them again. Like i just got my freedom and now im expected to lose that to raising more kids.

Im married now and everyone is always asking when we are going to have kids. Both sides of our families are very supportive and they always ask. It is funny seeing the change from everyone telling you to not have kids young and then suddenly youre ready and they want you to want it. I see so many of my old friends my age having kids. And I do want my own. I would love to raise my own family. But how do I know if im ready? Some days I feel like the idea of children stresses me out because we still struggle with money. We just moved across the country and I dont even have a job. And maybe its because I lost all my friends and family but the idea of having a baby sounds really lovely right now. But I dont want to have a baby if im not ready or if its just because im lonely and miss my family. And idk.

How do you know when your ready? My husband thinks its not the right time but how do you know when it is? I have been taking birthcontrol for years and im going to my gyno appointment for more so thats why ive been thinking about it even more.

I heard about it only yesterday and I am on a health kick so I had salad. Then both me and my husband had a horrible stomach ache and other things in the middle of the night. I didnt think I would actually be worried about jt but now im wondering if we genuinely should stop eating fresh vegetables and fruits for now? Is everyone else doing that too? Now im not sure what to eat or what to do with my fresh produce currently in my fridge and if we should be buying more during our grocery run this week.

I did hear something about using vinegar to wash produce but its unclear if its effective at removing the risk of cyclosporiasis at all so should we avoid fresh produce? What are you guys feeling or doing regards to this?

Me and my husband just moved from Hawaii to Ohio. I am worried about the winter here bc we have almost nothing for winter. We bought some things a while ago bc we went to Japan during winter but its definitely not enough for a whole winter closet or for how cold it gets here in Ohio. Im trying to figured out what to buy and when and where to buy that is cheapest. Because I know a full closet of winter clothes is going to be expensive for two people who have nothing.

I found some coats and vests on sale at khols but it wasn't much. I saw some big bargain stores with a bunch of coats back in April but I was not sure if i should buy them at the time. Please let me know any good times for deals on winter clothes and items please!

Im turning 25 this year and i constantly compare myself to other women my age and I never feel like im doing enough or even the right thing. Idk whats wrong with me. I definitely need therapy but I cant afford it right now. I had a traumatic childhood but I had a support system that pushed me to finishing high school. I got a job right after graduation. Then I got into college. So I did both bc I felt like that was what was expected of me. Then I lost all my highschool friends bc they said I worked too much. But my job wanted me to work more and then my school became last priority and my grandma said it was her wish to see me graduate so I did that too. My balancing skills suck I guess bc it took me 4 years to graduate with my associates bc I decided i needed to work two jobs at the same time and lose all my friends.

I got new friends and got married and decided to go back to college and pursue a degree that I felt passionate about but whenever people asked me what I wanted to do with an Art Degree I didnt know what to say and I felf ashamed. My husband supports me fully. But he got a nice job across the countrt so we left behind everything and drained all out savings and got into sever debt. Its been months and I feel like I lost myself and idk what to do. I havent been able to find a job and I havent gone to work or school since the moving process at the beginning of the year. And idk im scared to start over.

Im scared to go back to work and be horrible at it or to have it take over my life again. Managers give me bad anxiety bc of one reason or another. Like asking for time off or being late one day or maybe having a customer yell at me. I worked as a substitute teacher the last year and it was great until I got a lecture about how substitute teachers aren't suppose to call out sick and that was horrible to my anxiety. I want to possibly go back to school but we need the money more than I need a bachelor's degree. But im worried I'll be a horrible worker or there will be workplace drama and i cant handle it. Nothing is getting back to me anyways. I applied for every job I qualified for. Its been almost two months and no job has gotten back to me. Now im stuck feeling bad I cant even get a job and also worrying about what happens if I finally do get a job and I hate it?

Oh and everyone wants me to become a mother now but I genuinely have a fear of trying to raise a child through this era of my life. How do I get past this? I feel lost and scared and alone all the time.

Please I know someone out there knows it 😭🙏 please share i beg

There's that saying that nothing tastes as good as skinny feels. And yes I totally get that. But damn does a whole seafood boil everyday and buldak ramen everyday, etc tastes amazing. Like i crave food all the time. Im always thinking about the next meal. It sucks. I am trying to switch to healthier food but its so hard. And cooking is so stressful sometimes that I just crave fast food. Its such a comfort. I want to get skinny again. Not just to be hot but to also feel healthier again. I miss being in high school and feeling like I could climb any mountain or run forever. But now its all too much.

And I am insecure some days. And I do miss how I looked when I was skinnier. I often think about how other perceive me even if I do love myself. Its hard. Im also in a happy marriage and I think we just feed into each other's bad food addictions and bad habits. We both got bigger after getting together and our families comment on it all the time. But we also love food. Idk how we can ever get over that.

Ive been feeling it a lot lately. My posts are gaining traction and idk if my self esteem can handle the hate that comes with that. I feel like every other comment has been a mean one that just comments something unnecessary that gets to me. Ive been called annoying, ugly, fat, or people make fun of my breathing or my voice. Its hard. I almost wanted to quit but I kept posting. I just felt like my safe place to be myself and be creative is not that anymore. And I wish I was better at not letting it get to me. I more so than ever have been really critical about myself and what i wear or say before I post. Which is stealing a bit of the joy I had from posting. Especially with me thinking I need to wear makeup or fix this or that before I post. But I dont want to my content to feel like I have to be perfect or else. But if its not other people will point out mean things.

It is soooo hot. And its going to get hotter in July. I always default to a tank top and shorts but how do the fashionistas deal with the summer heat? Im also a bigger girl but ive always been a sweaty girl even when i was younger. How do I keep a cute fashion sense in the heat? There's less layering options 😭😭 ive even looked into cottage core but it still looks hot. I just default to a granola girl outfit everytime. What's your secrets to being cute in the summer? Or are we all wearing something akin to athlesure except for things like a music festival or a pool party?

I recently was sharing on social media how i was trying to find needohs bc the reason I was finding any at all is bc I was copying how other people were finding them and it took me a long time to find any and when i did i posted them and i was very clear like "6am Walmart search for needohs"

I got my first regular needoh in like a year. The regular sized cube. And I only took one single one because there was only one box of them on the shelf. And when I posted my video I got mostly hate comments saying im an adult so I dont need it. But aren't adults the ones buying these anyways? I only got one as well. Anyone else could have got it so why could I not get one? I dont understand why there's so much negativity 😭😭

And on monday i found like 10 boxes full of them! So I got a good amount. I got two of each one that i didnt have one of(i had only two of my own before this) and then I got spares for my four younger siblings who had literally zero because I didnt find any before this that I could give them! And people got really mad at me. I think it was mostly children asking me why I needed so many and how I basically bought most of them(even thought I showed in the video all the boxes were full even after I left).

Idk its making me feel really nervous to continue posting in the needoh squishy community. Other adults were being super sweet and we were commenting to each other about our finds and there were people who were super sweet. But I find that most of the initial reactions is just hate and it sucks. All the content I see about squishies and needohs are from adults my age so I know im not the only one but it sucks getting mean comments.

Maybe it's just me, and while i do love my maxi skirts, idk in the summer im sweating and it causes my thighs to be chafing so bad bc of the lack of air flow. So I invested in those deodorant sticks for that. But even spring or fall is good temperature wise but I feel like the skirt ends up wet because its almost always raining! And does anyone wear a maxi skirt in winter?? It feels like a disaster waiting to happen.

When i first heard Begged on Snl I was instantly connected to it and played it over and over again. I cried to it and i didn't get why I felt so touched by the song. But my husband and i had a fight last night and it's the same fight we keep having every few months. And my instinct was to listen to Begged and when I heard the lyrics it made sense to me. My subconscious knew that was how im currently feeling in my relationship. Olivia's writing is just so brilliant. I feel like im growing up with her and her songs always match what im going through. I literally was getting my driver's license when that song came out. Its so emotional rough being a livie that can relate so hard to her music but it's such a gift as well to be in this moment with her music growing with me. 😭😭

(I listened to never do while writing this and now I'm even more sad. How does she manage to write songs that just encapsulates my feeling so well.)

I moved out of state and I am craving spicy pastele stew so bad! My husband and I would always go buy from Miki when we had late night cravings for it. It was so so good. Does anyone have a good recipe for it? I see so many online that are just the pastele stew recipe. What do I add to make it spicy? Or just a good spicy pastele stew recipe in general. Please help I cant stop thinking about it 😭😭