My experience with a possible psychopath.
So this is a long story. I was dating this guy, he idealized me in his head around half a year before, got super obsessed with me quick. I’m talking he wanted to marry me 2 weeks in, built an entire world of our future together. He’s super poetic and romantic about it. Most of this is over text and he’s too shy to express it irl. He looks so sweet and most of all he acts and treats me like he’s the healthiest person in the world, which is something I needed. He appeared super shy and laid back when we talked irl. On text he would tell me these large, dramatic declarations of love (but also like “I would die if you left me…” etc.) He would be patient with me and did not come off as controlling. He even drives 6 hours to see me one day, on a bike. A month in, though, he starts telling me stuff. He tells me how his dad was a murderer, his PTSD, running from the cops, and how he could “be as easily manipulative and narcissistic” as his dad and so on... He tells me about his paraphelic “lucid” dreams and fantasies about me, specifically somnophilia and masochism. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with it and he treated it like he needed it. He’s also constantly smoking weed, being an edgelord, talking about how extreme his lifestyle is, especially his adrenaline and caffeine addiction.
Once he let me know about his dark fantasies and shit I started to feel unnerved. One time we were sexting and wanted to get on a call, once he picked up he was jacking off in the dark, staring at me. I keep asking him what’s wrong, what’s going on and he doesn’t answer for 30 minutes. I just started laughing and asking, then we would js sit in awkward silence for so long. He told me he didn’t make any noise during sex but I didn’t think he would totally ignore me. Once he also told me he has a bunch of knives laying around each corner, hell no. Every time when we would meet up irl I looked up and him and he smiled down back at me I felt like my judgment was scrambled and fucked up, like I couldn’t tell if he was a good person or not.
So I break up with him but from what he understands is I wanted to work on myself and not commit so early. He gives me this entire spiel about how he won’t act passive aggressive but he never wants to see me again. So, the next day i see him he’s completely fine, he looks happy. According to his friends he never mentioned me again, like what? The first girl he ends up talking to that’s interested in him is my best friend, she loved men who were creepy and that’s a whole nother can of worms.
A week later he pretty much manipulates her into dating him, not that she needed much of a push. He tells her all the same stuff he told me “i blocked her out of my memory, when stuff like that happens i forget it.” They have deep conversations for days on end and she is totally blindsided because she’s “never been treated this good before.” Well, a little while later he starts narcissistically abusing her. Things are constantly about sex, he’s fitting into her fantasies about being a dark bf. All the sudden 6 months after we break up he pulls my date aside to tell him he’s gotta warn him how I’m crazy and a player. He had an entire attachment thing where he didn’t want her to leave. She broke up with him because he insulted her friend. He blocked her, but strangely afterwards he came up to her and told her that her new boyfriend was hot. Totally unhinged! When me and the girl reconnected I asked her if she thought he was a psychopath and she said absolutely yes. I saw a picture of him hanging with some friends and he looks completely healthy and happy. How can someone like this act so fucking healthy?