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So, there's this didi in our extended family who left her husband and he's in jail of UK now.. no one knows what he did but my family, especially the women are blaming this didi saying ki ghr ki izzat barbad krdi ye ldki kisi se nahi smbhlegi,I said ki agar case hua hai that also in UK toh kuchh to kia hoga na domestic violence or smth and they're like ki usme kya hai adjust krleti,I was like are you being frr?? And then wo mujhe kehte ki tu bhi adjust nhi krti chhoti choti baato pe hmare sath argue krti hai rone lgjati hai, just because I don't support their mysogynist mindset and call out their double standards..

And fir meri mummy and my aunt they were telling my sister about me ki wo bhi aise hi kregi aage uske badi dikkat hogi ek minute me aake Ghar pe baith jaayegi chhoti si baat pe,adjust nahi krti hai ghr walo ki respect Krna sikh lo tum aage apne husband ki nahi kroge.

And it's boiling my blood kyuki ye apni beti ko marne chhod denge but izzat nahi jaani chahiye inki....har baat pe blaming women.

I hope I get out of this house very very soon.

Hii, So My younger sister is 13 and recently started posting reels.Her account is private, but she’s been copying trends from creators she watches, like biting her lips in videos. I know kids copy what they observe, and I get that it’s normal.

The thing is, most of the creators she watches are adults, and I don’t think she fully understands that some things can come across differently when someone her age does them.

She even told me she copied it because she saw one of my edits where I bit my lip once (which honestly I only did once and didn’t think much of it, I'm 21). So now I’m wondering if I accidentally influenced her too..

Also i feel like she tries to exaggerate expressions that makes her look more mature and often feels intentional

I want to explain to her as an elder sister that not every trend is meant for her age and that even private accounts aren’t always fully private, but I don’t want to make her feel ashamed or controlled.

Women here, how would you handle this? Am I overthinking it, or is this something worth addressing? And if I’m wrong, please tell me honestly.

Hey everyone,

I’m naturally a very vivid dreamer, and a light sleeper, so I usually remember my dreams and they tend to get pretty intense. I am a writer and on my journey to become a music artist, and lately, my creative brain has been taking over my sleep in the craziest way.

A month or two ago, I used to get song ideas right as I was falling asleep (hypnagogic state). Back then, it was mostly simple poems that were easy to recall. But lately, it's shifted deep into my actual, long REM dreams, and the writing has gotten way more complex and imagery-heavy. It’s not just lyrics anymore,it's intricate melodies, full music video concepts, and fictional storylines.

Since I haven't officially released any of my own music yet, my brain is apparently doing all the prep work in my sleep! I literally dream about directing and editing my own music videos, specifically figuring out how to direct them on a budget. I’m completely immersed in the entire creative and production process while I sleep.

Because the songs are so complex now, there's not a single hope of me remembering the exact words when I wake up. For example, two days ago I dreamt two long, complex songs,one was about self love, and the other was a really heavy, intense piece about war, peace, and inspired by the suffering of people in countries like Sudan and Palestine. I don't remember the exact lyrics because the writing was just too intricate, but I vividly remember the images I was visualizing while writing it in the dream,just seeing the war happening, buildings collapsing and the awful things those people are going through.

Then last night, I dreamt another song. I don't remember the exact sound now, but I know it was a super cheerful pop melody for a love song. I was actually smiling in my dream while trying to track it, and I even remember turning to my sister in the dream and saying, "Hey, let me record this melody or else I'll forget it!" But I couldn't wake myself up to do it, and now it's gone.

So, About a month ago, I started keeping a journal and phone right next to my bed to catch them, but as soon as I did that, the music dreams completely disappeared. They only just came back, but now they are so complex that I can't retain them..

How do I get my subconscious to stop getting "stage fright" from the notebook and phone and how do I actually retain these melodies and lyrics the moment I wake up?

Hey everyone, I really need some outside perspective on something that’s been making me super uncomfortable and confused lately.

For context, I live in a joint family, and my uncle has a really big say in the household. His opinion carries a lot of weight, which makes this whole situation so much harder to deal with. To give you an idea of how much control he wants, he literally doesn't let us wear nail paint, lipstick, or any kind of clothes of our own choice. He deletes our dance videos if he sees them, and tries his best to isolate us from the "cool," independent didi in our extended family who actually makes her own choices. He wants us to meet big doctors and engineers, but treats her like she's a threat.

Growing up, I was never really allowed to wear what I wanted. I’m on the shorter side, but I’m also curvy and on the heavier side. Because of my body type, I feel like my body has always been policed. Even my mom has told me to exercise to "lose my chest fat" and constantly tells me to wear a dupatta because "guys will look at me." It always made me feel so uncomfortable, like my body is the inherent problem.

But lately, the situation with my uncle has been messing with my head.

For the longest time, whenever I’d go out in a casual t-shirt, he would criticize me. He’d say things like, "This is not appropriate, can you wear a jacket at least?" One time I was literally walking out the door and he straight-up told me, "At least wear something appropriate, wear a scarf or a jacket. Can't you see your sister wearing it?" Another time, he actually confronted me on the street asking why I wasn't wearing a dupatta. Hearing a grown man directly comment on my chest and order me to cover up made me feel incredibly weird and unsafe.

But recently, his tactics shifted,

On Diwali, I wore a traditional suit, and he started overly complimenting me. Like, bombing me with praise. He was like, "You look so pretty, I can't even tell you, please buy all the other suits." Then, a few months later, I wore a t-shirt to his house. He didn't say anything to my face, but the second I walked out, he was like, "Oh my god, kurtis look so good on you, that t-shirt looked very bad, you look so short in it. Why can't you just buy kurtis? And then telling my mom and aunt and they agree with him.

The breaking point happened recently.So my aunt bought me a short kurti. I wore it, and my uncle went completely over the top again. He was like, "I will buy you this, this looks so good on you!" I just wanted to diffuse the tension, so I said, "Okay, buy me one if you find it so beautiful."

This man hates shopping and never buys anything for anyone. But the second I said that, he said, "No, I won't buy you one. I will buy you six kurtis so you can wear one every single day of the week."

It feels so pushing. Traditional clothes and kurtis create a longer vertical line, so yeah, technically they make me look taller and leaner. But I am not here to look beautiful or fit some ideal silhouette for him. I am just trying to look and feel comfortable. It feels like he is trying to force a daily uniform on me to completely crowd out my t-shirts.

Because we live in a joint family and he has so much authority, I'm trying to figure out if he's just being an aggressively overprotective traditional Indian uncle who thinks he's "protecting" me, or if he is actually hyper-fixating on my body and sexualizing me under the guise of "tradition." The shift from shaming me to trying to buy my compliance with six kurtis feels so manipulative. But I'm also confused coz everyone compliments me even my friends that traditional looks so good on me.

Am I overthinking this, or is this literal overpolicing and creepy fixation? Help me out🥲 Edit: I'm 21F

I’m feeling completely broken and exhausted right now. I just need to vent to people who might understand what it's like to try everything to fight for your freedom, only to be painted as the villain while everyone else gets a pass.

Last year, I reached a breaking point with my family. I expressed how unhappy I was and asked for the freedom to make my own choices. When they were yelling at me, I reminded them of everything I had done for this family,how I used my creativity and hard work to win major prizes to help them pay off their debts, and how I even won a scooty and gave it to them when they had no form of transport. I handed them everything.

In response, they completely turned on me. They called me an egoistic, ungrateful child and a "homewrecker." They told me I was mentally ill, abused me, and gave me the silent treatment for months. Even now, they constantly invade my privacy and check my phone.

Recently, my brother rebelled because he wanted to go to a college they didn't like. He threatened to take harmful steps. Because I love him, I actually helped and supported him through it. In response, my family completely flipped. They comforted him, gave him money, and told him to go wherever he wants because "he's the only one."

To make it more painful, whenever my brother is angry at our parents now, he compares himself to me and my sisters, claiming we "always get to do whatever we want." He is completely blind to the fact that I risked my own safety to help him, and that my reality is nothing like his. When he talks to girls, they give a mild warning. When I talked to a guy, they made a massive scene at my school, abused me, and cut me off for months.

I try to rebel just to go out,even just for a walk outside the house and I am locked down. Then, they turn around and call me "disrespectful" and claim I don't know how to talk to outsiders or relatives. They are literally stunting my social skills by trapping me inside, and then blaming me for it.

Worse, other girls my age are allowed to come to our house completely alone. I have to sit there in sheer frustration and hurt watching my family treat these outside girls with so much warmth, telling them to come over every day and being so good to them. When I point out how hurtful this double standard is, they turn it on me and call me a "bad daughter."

I have tried everything to rebel. I told myself, it’s okay if they paint me as the villain, as long as they finally say yes. But they don't even say yes. They just take my phone, check it, lock me down further, and talk behind my back.

People always say "girls have to rebel for their freedom," but my rebellion just brings surveillance and cruelty, while my brother is handed his freedom on a silver platter after I poured my own achievements into keeping this family afloat.

How do you cope with the grief and anger of being trapped, isolated, and villainized by your own family while watching everyone else receive the love and grace you are denied? How do you survive when rebelling only tightens the cage?

(Refined with ai)

I’m literally losing my mind over the hypocrisy on my feed today.. It just proves that men really get away with anything while women are forced to be perfect 24/7. Look at how the internet treats anger and frustration based on gender.. We all saw Wonyoung getting dragged and called a "disrespectful","arrogant" and what not just because she doesn't bow. A female idol showing even a hint of frustration or not smiling is instantly demonized and given pure hate. But then I scroll and see these wild edits of Jungkook with tens of thousands of likes. The videos are literally compilations of him looking genuinely angry and frustrated, with captions like "I wanna make him angry once" and "he looks so hot when he's mad"💀 When a woman shows anger, y'all call her a villian. When a man shows anger, it’s romanticized into some dominant "alpha boyfriend" Wattpad fantasy. The double standard is so real. A female idol is penalized for not being a smiling, submissive doll 24/7, but a male idol showing actual anger is repackaged as a sexual aesthetic. Why are we treating real human beings like fictional characters? It’s so weird ngl..

EDIT: Downvote me all you want, you’re just proving my point lol. The fact that y'all are doing Olympic-level gymnastics to normalize blatant misogyny is wild. Women attacking other women to protect a man who doesn't know they exist is peak internalized misogyny. Keep the downvotes coming, you're literally proving how normalized this brainrot double standard actually is!

I wanna talk about two things that have been on my mind lately. First, I know we’ve already discussed the Arirang album a lot on this sub, but I wanted to share my own perspective. Don't throw any hate, this is just my personal opinion! I actually think the songs on the album are good,I really like "FYA" "Body to Body," and "Like Animals," though "Normal" is definitely my favorite. However, my issue is that this album was marketed as a return to their Korean roots, yet most of the tracks are in English. There's absolutely nothing wrong with making English music, but in this case, it feels like the songs were manufactured specifically for Western validation and radio play. When the intention behind the music feels manufactured, the songs themselves start to feel that way too. We didn't see this with older BTS albums like the Love Yourself series. When an album has true authenticity, the language doesn't matter. It feels like the company is prioritizing the Western market over originality. If they genuinely loved singing in English, the members would be actively learning the language, but outside of RM, that isn't really happening. They just continue to release English music that sounds decent, but it doesn't have that timeless quality that makes you want to stream it on repeat forever. I just wish the company, in particular, cared more about the ART itself rather than just marketing.

The second thing I want to address is the fact that they still aren't doing concerts in India. It really feels like the company is doing Indian fans dirty by constantly extending their tours in America for Western marketing while completely ignoring South Asia. India drives some of their highest streaming numbers globally, and they've successfully held concerts in places like the Philippines and Thailand before, so why skip India? It's definitely not a matter of filling seats, because the demand is absolutely there. What makes it worse is that while they won't bring the actual group here for a concert, HYBE is actively trying to establish a new local group through HYBE India. It feels like they just want to generate revenue from the region because they know Indian fans will completely blow the new group up, without giving the existing fandom the actual concert experience they deserve. I'm really not trying to offend anyone, but these are just the two main things I wanted to get off my chest in a neutral space.

Pata hai aaj kya hua,

So, I stay in room the whole day and I have a lot of hobbies also i study but I don't like staying around my family cuz they keep arguing, yelling and are so controlling..

And they treat my brother like a king he yells at me like my uncle yells at his mom and wife..

And when I complained about him they dismissed me saying that you both should love each other and stuff I felt so dismissed that I got irritated and went inside and i heard them talking behind my back that she has gone mentally ill and calling me doomed forever,also they were making plans to get me out of the room anyhow like wtf😭

I hate the hypocrisy the most when I was a kid they bragged about me(they still do) and they used to tell everyone she's a good daughter she's perfect in studies.

she doesn't even know how to do other stuff and hobbies and i adapted that.i had no childhood and now I want to do everything so i built resentment towards them.i love going out I love people but not them and they think it's "ME" problem that I don't sit with them and stay alone the whole day

and now they're saying that people have fun watch movies and I hate that line so much coz my family never let me watch any movie and i still watch everything secretly idk how do they have this audacity saying such things!!

I hope I move out from here soon!

Hey guys, wanted to share my success story and I hope this helps you keep persisting!

so, last year I entered 3 writing competitions, and for the first one, I was just so excited while writing my story. Right away, I wrote affirmations in the past tense saying I already won all three. For a whole month before the results came, I visualized every single day. Whenever I was running or exercising, I’d get so hyped picturing the winning day and my family's reactions. I also visualized during my afternoon naps because I get super vivid dreams then, and I’d literally see flashes of the money, the prize, and the notifications. I was so sure of it that I felt like I already won.

But the 3D threw so many hurdles at me. The app was brand new and kept glitching, so it wouldn't let me submit. I sent email after email, and even when they replied, it still didn't work. I almost gave up thinking the comp was a fraud, but I didn't want my work to go to waste. I tried logging in from different emails and it failed, so I had to make a whole new ID just to finally get it submitted. After that, I was just happy and waiting for result day. I wasn't even worrying about the outcome, I was literally just waiting like "okay, my money transaction is happening that day" lol. The date got delayed twice, but I just focused on my studies and kept visualizing because the work was already done.

Then my uncle saw the app open on the phone. My family is super controlling, I’m 21 and dependent, and he’s a total narc. He started yelling like "wth did you download, this is a fraud, delete the app and your account right now." It scared me so bad. I was going to argue, but I stopped myself because I knew inside that I won. I told myself I’d give him his reply on result day, so I didn't delete anything.

By the time the results came a month later and I WON, it felt so normal because I had already lived it out during my workouts and daily chores. And it wasn't even just the $500,I got so many crazy opportunities and recognition on social media because of it!

The funniest part is how the Law proved itself with the other two competitions. I knew I could win them, but I procrastinated, submitted at the last minute, and wasn't satisfied with my work. That exact feeling reflected right back at me in the 3D (I didn't win those two) because my assumption wasn't there.

Law of Assumption is so real. I've used my imagination to manifest my glow up, SPs, and academic validation too. It’s already yours guys, just keep persisting!

EDIT: Forgot to mention that this was actually an international, US-based competition, and I’m from a country where English isn't even our first language! It makes the manifest feel even bigger.

Hey everyone, I’m looking for subliminal recommendations to find out the real reason behind a situation.
​My close friend of 4 years suddenly went super distant and dry, even though she is chronically online. I’ve asked her twice what happened, but she avoids the question and ignores it. I feel like there's a misunderstanding or a reason she's hiding.
​I am NOT looking for a "get them to text me" or "desperate communication" sub. I just want a sub for revealing the truth, uncovering the real reason, or gaining absolute clarity (maybe through a dream or a mutual source).
​Has anyone used a "reveal hidden truth/honesty" sub that actually worked? Please drop your recommendations below!!

Pata hai aaj kya hua, okay so this is the storytime of my college and the sheer hypocrisy of people still makes my blood boil.... so,I joined college late, and the system was already toxic. Boys and girls had to sit separately, so I sat far away, but I saw everything.

There was this one guy who was a proper topper and super smart. He was amazing at speeches and debates. He was quiet, had a unique voice, and just cared about his studies.

But the backbencher guys hated him for absolutely no reason. They were just insecure and they started bullying him.

They targeted his voice and his nose. Every time he spoke, they would laugh, mock him, and pass cheap comments to humiliate him. They acted like a pack of wolves targeting one innocent guy.

The worst part is he was friends w some girls who were the members of "speech club" of our college,they knew how nice and talented he was. They would take his help during debates and become teachers favs with him, but the moment they entered the classroom,

they would laugh with the same bullies i got to know they were those bullies' friends. One girl was literally dating the main bully guy. They just watched him get destroyed every day and laughed w them just to look "cool."

But the guys were the real monsters.The bullying got so bad, you guys. First, this poor guy left the college hostel because he didn't feel safe or comfortable. Then, he started sitting completely alone in the class.

Whenever we had breaks, he would just vanish and hide in the library. He went into total survival mode. Eventually... he just stopped coming to college altogether... They literally hounded a bright, talented student out of his education.

I wanted to sit with him so badly. I wanted to tell him that his voice was fine, his mind was amazing, and that he didn’t deserve any of this.

But because of that segregated seating arrangement and joining late, I could never gather the courage to break the barrier, and I still carry that regret. He never even knew that someone in that room actually saw his pain and cared..

Those guys probably think they won, but they are just pathetic. Wherever that guy is today, I hope he is happy and successful, because he was the only good person in that whole classroom.

edit: I just remembered that those guys filmed him bathing and all and then circulated the video in the whole campus,now i feel worse

TL;DR: Mean backbencher guys bullied a smart classmate for his voice and nose until he dropped out of college. The girls who were his friends in debate club just stood there, watched it happen, and even dated the bullies. People are so fake.

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I don’t know if this is just a coincidence or something strange, but it really weirded me out.

I almost never get fevers. I hate them so much that I actually remember the dates whenever I get one because they make me feel awful.

Last year, on 15th May, I got cough and cold symptoms. Then on 16th May around 2 PM, I got a really bad fever that lasted for two days. What’s weird is that on that exact day, before the fever hit, I suddenly had a strong urge to do my makeup and click pictures, and I actually did it. I remember it clearly because I had taken so many pictures that day.

Now this year, the exact same thing happened again.

On 15th May, I got cough and cold symptoms. Then today, 16th May around 2 PM, I got fever again. And for the last two days, I kept having really vivid dreams about doing makeup. And I felt weird because from last so many months I haven't done makeup I don't feel the energy to do it so yesterday I thought meh!why makeup dream..

Last night especially, I had another makeup dream, and this morning I told my sister that I suddenly wanted to do my makeup and click pictures because I felt really excited about it for some reason.

I kept delaying it and saying I’d do it later, but before I could actually do it, I suddenly got fever and had to go lie down.

This time the fever got a little better after taking tablets, but I still don’t feel fully okay. What makes it even stranger is that there’s not even any weather here right now where people usually get fevers. It’s literally summer.

I only realized later that it was the same date last year because I went back and checked my gallery. I was so sure it had happened on that day that I looked at the timestamps of the photos to confirm it, and it really was 16th May and the time was also same.

Guys is that a subconscious thing?!ya fir weather hi aisa hai😭 but the makeup wala part freaked me out haha I already experience precognitive dreams a lot but yeah I wanted to share it haha!