u/Shining_Swan

Just for fun, hehe

I read so many female marriage profiles on various muslim marriage subs and I find one thing recurring along with other : girls wanting someone "who doesn't have female friends".

And it's a valid request.

If a girl can consciously never have had male friends then why do muslim men openly have so many female friends and some even have female best friends.

I no more want the things I wished so badly in life. Maybe I want it, but I am not actively looking for it. I have left it on Allah. I feel calm, now that I am not behind it so much. This is about the spouse search.

I don't know what this phase is, but I am at peace. I want it, but I'm not looking for it as rigorously as I would. I don't know what this is, or why everything feels calm.

I watched this for the first time and loved the show.

Kashaf's character was so relatable.

Zaroon was so loving and caring towards her. He made mistakes, a lot, on a few occasions he accepted his mistake and on a few he didn't.

Kashaf's mom, was a resilient optimistic woman.

Great show.

Mainly light hearted romcom or a romcom with a good story line.

Context: These are some of the movies I like.

1. Leap Year (2010)
2. How to lose a guy in 10 days
3. The proposal
4. Letters to Juliet
5. The wedding date
6. Life as we know it
7. The decoy bride
8. Something borrowed
9. 27 Dresses
10. Flipped
11. The Choice

Any other recommendations?

I will start, mine is to marry a man who would love and respect me, Insha'Allah have a nice beautiful house and raise lovely kids. And live away from city, maybe surrounded by nature in greenery and near water. 🙃

What's yours?

What are the avenues you are using to find a spouse?

And what would you say about the quality of the profiles?

Any decent matches?

Dikr during your menstrual cycle.

(I hate it, especially the first two days, I get severe cramps 😭😭😭 and I've never taken any medicine to subside it, never did when I was young, neither I do it now.

This is the time, every month I am at my lowest, physically, mentally and emotionally.

It feels like I am not capable of doing anything).

Came across a couple of post today and realised men or guys or boy who get married don't think for once that their wife is someone else's daughter. That you guys are taking her out of her father's and family protective space into yours. Only difference is they don't want to be the provider and looking after is out of picture.

Just a sad plight of muslim mens.

May Allah bless all the single woman with a good, caring, decent husband Insha'Allah.

Mine is spouse search.

What about you?

I used to read a lot at one point. But then stopped as I gradually lost interest in it. I want to start reading again.

Can you recommend your most favourite book or a book which I should definitely give a try?

Ladies, how much Mahr would you ask for? And those who are already married, how much did you have as Mahr?

If the roles were reversed, as a guy how much would you have asked for?

Jupiter protects earth from the asteroids!

Nothing, just tired of the marriage search.

I feel like my time is running out, not that I'm not searching or I don't have faith in Allah, but just a thought which keeps visiting my mind.

Would you give someone who was your friend at a point a chance, if they are trying to patch up with you ?

OR

Would you maintain a respectful distance?

(Context: I was hurt by a friend, what she did and her intent. Now she is getting another friend involved and see if I patch up with her. Not that I didn't respond to her when she messaged, but I maintained a polite distance and tried to keep our conversation short on text messages.

Today, she tried to reach out via another friend saying we are going out and were wanting for you to join. In my heart, I'm done with her. And I am someone, if you do wrong to me once and do hurtful things it's hard for me to get back to the person with the same energy.

I don't want to fake when I meet her. Am I being cold, in not wanting to meet her?)

So this is about Muzz, I matched with a guy a few weeks ago.

We message once in a while and had one call so far.

After he saw my pic on my profile today (as it was blurred until now) he didn't say anything about it. Just continued the conversation, whatever we were talking about.

Is it normal for a guy to not say anything about you, or am I overthinking cause of my periods.

Two incidents happened in the last two days.

1. While on a train to London, a Pakistani lady in her 50s was sitting next to me. She started talking and suggested we could go to our destination together as we were heading the same place and spend the rest of the day together. She seemed like a good lady and I didn't see any harm in it. We ended up spending the afternoon together and she told her life story, how she was divorced and how she's moved on and all.

2. Then, today on my way back from somewhere on a train, there was this white/english lady in her 30s sitting next to me. And she ended up telling me her sob story of what her ex boyfriend did and how they broke up and that she was meeting him today and how she was feeling. At one point she started crying and I was listening to her and consoling her. And later before getting down, she said I believe you that you will find someone by the end of this year and we had all good talks.

So, has anything like this happened to you before?

Do strangers share their personal life with you?

Is this normal?

Or is something wrong with me?

This is another avenue I wanted to test if this works for marriage search.

People who use Muzz and are this app and searching let's make it easier to find a spouse.

Let's use this as an example.

This has worked previously. This is for men and women, both who are based in the UK. ______________________________________________

Drop this in the gender specific comments:

Age, Gender | Marital Status | Ethnicity

(Example: 30F | Never married | Indian origin) ______________________________________________

Do not spam with any other messages/comments. This is only for people in the UK.

Good luck with your search.