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So I went to the my psyc because I have always had issues getting things done, and struggling in school, rejection sensitivity, emotionally unregulated, zero motivation, but not sad or depressed.

She said the ‘thought’ I had adhd and prescribed me concerta, Im on the second dose up (27mg) and today she prescribes me 32 or 36 mg i forgot. but says that shes not sure i actually have adhd…? why did you give me medicine then? Im confused.

I have been telling her the meds arent working..becuase I dont feel any diffrent.. but from what ive seen the first dose or 2 dosent affect a lot of people.

I dont really understand whats happening, because i think i have adhd and want to keep trying meds to see if anything else works.. so idk. whatever.

has this happen to anyone else????

Hi I have delta dental ppo plus premier.

i’m having 3 retained baby teeth extracted + 1 adult molar and a bone graft.

I was quoted $1300 for all of this, everything on there is basically free, besides the bone graft which they are charging me $1000 alone for?

I really don’t understand WHY? Is there anything I can ask my dentist about to get a lower price on the graft…?

$1300 is like my life savings, and I still need a whole other phase of work after this, quoted at another $2000.

what can i do?

so I have a quadruple tooth extraction plus bone graft this week. One adult molar And three retained primary teeth.

I knew I was going to need some crazy work done because my parents never really took me to the dentist and I just turned 18 and want to get my life together, anyways that’s besides the point so I found a special dental office that is always talking about how they offer sedation for people who are scared of needles and the dentist.

I obviously thought this was perfect, I almost hit a dentist once because they were coming near me with a giant needle, and then proceeded to cry the whole time I got my cavity filled… I’ve never even had a tooth extracted before, I am beyond terrified. I’m most likely going to cry in hyperventilate the entire time..

But yeah, when I went to schedule the extra extractions I asked if I could do the oral sedation because I was really incredibly scared, and she proceeded to tell me no because apparently a quadruple tooth extraction is not a big deal, one of my baby teeth is ankylosed and I have an abscess or something under my molar??

In my opinion, that is absolutely beyond terrifying and a major thing to get done? I can’t really think of something worse, other than wisdom teeth? So I’m just not understanding why she told me no, when that is like their thing?

Is this standard practice or should I ask again?

So I turned 18 like 4 months ago and Ive had a part time job at dunkin since i was 17, so just over a year, and ive mostly stopped asking them for a lot of stuff like I pay my phone, doctors appointments, food, ect. nothing crazy, I dont pay rent or anything, yet.

im starting community college this month, which I was under the impression that my dad was going to pay for it since he 1. said he would, and 2. Insisted i had to go, and actually wanted me to go to a 4 year college which costs WAY more money. Anyways the payment deadline is now in 2 days and i asked him if he was paying it and he asked me why i didnt apply for a loan yet.

My family is NOT poor by any means, but I myself am, which is why I dont understand why he is randomly changing his mind. I didnt get anything from fasfa either.

I also went to the dentist for the first time since I was in probably 5th grade, parents stopped taking me to the dentist, And i found out i need 3k in dental work (+ braces) and most of its urgent. I asked my dad if he could help me pay for some of it since I only have 2k, and it is my car savings, Ive been saving basically every dollar ivr made the past 3 months, for a car, and he basically said he didnt have any money right now. So now i have to give the dentist my whole life savings this week, and neglect a lot of the work I need because I dont have enough money to pay them.

He says he cant help me, meanwhile he was going to pay my school, and randomly flipped on me, and he and my mom are going on a cruise this month, AND he was literally just showing me he had 500$ in stocks,, which even just half of that would help me a lot to pay for my dental work, but he is deliberately choosing not to help me and I dont understand why, I havent asked them for anything in like a year. Just if he was going to pay my school, and then just a few hundred dollars for NEEDED dental work.

I just dont understand, I feel betrayed and like theyre trying to sabotage me and set me up with debt and failure.

On top of that I could get removed and waitlisted for my classes now if I dont get a loan and pay for school in time.

So I’m 18 and my now ex bf is 20.

He lives with his mom obviously, works in a warehouse, has no dreams that he is working towards, and doesnt want to move out of our hometown/state.

He pays his moms entire rent, she has no job (for no reason really). He put 10 thousand dollars into a flipper house in the middle of the ghetto for him and his mom to live in, meanwhile, his mom is in so much credit card debt, they will lose the house.
So now hes paying the debt, because she “doesnt know how credit cards work”.

Honestly he really has no other choice than to help her though, she would be quickly homeless if he stopped paying.

I honestly am really sad I had to break up with him, and I already miss him, but we are not on the same path at all. Is that really a reason though?

We never went on dates, and only hung out at one of our houses, as well as him being so emotionally unavailable . I just feel like i deserve more despite loving him.

Ive heard a lot of the reasons people have for their eating habits with arfid and theyre mostly surrounding throwing up or choking + sensory issues , which is not my problem, nor do i have body image issues, or want to be as thin as i am.

So i was wondering if these are the only reasons (+ closely related ones) or if you guys with arfid have weird rules and reasons behind not eating some things.

My diet is extremely limited, I log my food because i am trying to gain weight, so an average day is looking like…
A bunch of chips, lunchables, uncrustable, and a nutrition shakes..coming to about 1100 calories

That is most of my diet plus select fast food items from select places and I like some fruit, and chicken under the right circumstances.

some of my limitations are-

food someone else cooked and plated in their house

frozen and thawed meat is not okay.

rice is not okay, it looks like maggots

food someone cooked without me watching

food cooked in a pan I wouldnt use

cheese

anything in a blender, they are not clean

Dishes out of a dishwasher are not clean

dont use milk unless its brand new and the person wasnt at the store too long

anything left out of the fridge for more than 20 mins (10 if its hot out) even if i suspect it

pork

fish

steak.

Mine is that i have an amazing sense of direction, like im a human compass that points directly back to my house.

Like if im within a 80 mile radius of my house i can make it home with no map or directions and have done it tons of times since i didnt have cellular data on my phone for a while.

But yeah just want to see what everyones talent is.

i dont know if this is even an adhd thing, but i dont miss people, and struggle keeping friends.

For example with past boyfriends, friends, or even people in my life that i dont see/talk to a lot, I just dont really miss them or think about them a lot.

When i broke up with my last cheating boyfriend, who i did love and hung out with almost everyday, I didnt cry, wasn’t really sad, I didnt think about him barely at all after that day, the only time i remembered him was when he would text me off fake numbers.

With my current boyfriend, I dont really miss him per say, and sometimes forget to text him for a day or 2, but i eventually do even if he doesn’t text me.

And with a few past friendships, everything will be alright, but then they’ll start being distant or treating me weird when id come around in school, so Id stop coming around and they would just drift out of my life like they were never there.

I haven’t had any friends since sophomore year and i just graduated.

Just wondering, because I have not kept up with any habits EVER!!!

I guess i have a habit of doing my makeup everyday if im leaving my house, but thats about it. ( my only habit since i was 14)

I dont even really have a habit of consistently brushing my teeth.. which i know is horrible.

I dont really clean my room either,, unless i buy something new and then ill clean because im excited, but recently that hasnt even really been working as well Lol.

edit: okay all the brushing and flossing comments inspired me,, im flossing now, BEFORE brushing.. in my room like a weirdo.

Right now i weigh 90lbs at 5’4, and i just started adhd stimulants and am never hungry, but i want to gain weight not lose more.

I dont want to make anything really, because i dont want to eat in the first place, so I was wondering if anyone knew a meal replacement shake that was cheap and higher than 300 calories. I just bought the equate ones for now, and they were 8$ for 6, and have 220 calories, which isnt going to make much of a difference if i dont eat much else.

or if anyone else is on stims and has any good ways to eat 1650 calories (my surplus amnt) a day easily.

So i started concerta around 3 weeks ago i think, and i started with 18mgs, felt no different, even on my first time taking it. Then my DR put me on 27 mgs and i still feel exactly as i normally do? The only effect i get is not being hungry at all.

How is this even possible???? I have never taken a stimulant in my life and i get no results? Is my brain producing 0 dopamine?

Anyways DR said if this wasnt working still by aug 18 ( my nxt appointment) Im going to be put on adderall, which i was not hoping for because of the shortage and the research that shows it doesn’t work on women during certain parts of our bodies cycles, but here we are.

Has this happened to anyone else, and did adderall work better for you? especially asking the girls because the research was pretty interesting.

So, I dont care if the job is 'under the table' or anything, its honestly better. I just need to know if it is or not, because if I'm not paying taxes or whatever, I don't want them keeping it.

So this is a franchised fast food place, everyone who works there is indian, that could be important or maybe not idk, and i was looking for a job, and got hired there on the spot, started the next week. No onboarding, no paperwork, no nothing. The manager just asked for my address, name and ssn, But no W-2? So i dont know what thats for. There is no option for a direct deposit, I asked multiple times because she was being vague about it, but she finally just told me no. Every employee gets paid in cash, not a check or deposit just cash. so im just really confused.

Should i expect taxes taken out of my money or no? I get paid on friday.

EDIT: what should i say/ ask my manager?

so how do I request off for one singular day because WorkJam only lets me take off like long periods of time? Should I do this on workday somehow? I don’t have my manager’s phone number.

TL;DR i applied for part time merchandise associate yesterday, during my orientation they said they want to promote me. Should i be scared and look for a new job?

So essentially I applied to this job (retail merchandise associate part-time) and they call me about two days later to come in for an interview the next day.

I go for the interview. Everything is normal at first. The manager asks the normal interview questions and then proceeds to ask me “how I feel about ladies clothing.” and I of course, make a joke and say I wear a ladies clothing so you know, i’m good on that. And then she is like yeah we’re gonna make you the woman’s department coordinator next week after you start.

I’m like OK not what I applied for but sure. At this point, I didn’t realize it was full-time work. Interview goes good. I go home whatever.

Then when I go to my orientation, I end up getting my schedule for the week… it’s full-time hours. I didn’t realize I agreed to this? I am 18 years old. freshly. I don’t want a full-time job at Marshalls?

This is very strange and I don’t like it… should I just reject the promotion when they attempt to give it to me and let them know that I would prefer to do part-time work as a cashier or merchandise associate? I just don’t really know what to do but I do need this job so I can’t really just ghost it.

Has anybody else experienced anything like this???