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Anybody experience fluctuations in orientation? Honestly never been sure what I am, not 'out' or anything, guess I would be considered bisexual

I am very afraid that things will just never fluctuate back. My life is normal otherwise, but I oddly can't watch movies/TV shows because of this. Can't date at all either. I've just been focusing on work and hobbies, but I feel like I'm missing out and it's affecting my mental health pretty badly.

How do I deal with this?

Thinking of getting a line of Sanskrit script down my forearm but I have a few nagging doubts:

1. Judgment from older Desis (particularly family members)

2. How it will look on my skin tone.
I think I have medium-brown skin? Though I tan to a deeper brown. I'm worried that the ink will not be prominent/fade quickly/turn greenish. The greenishness is my biggest concern.

3. Afraid of regret.
Either because of the judgement, how it looks, or the ink turning green. I also don't know how it will look/whether I will still like it 30 years down the line when I age. I feel like I'll get even more judgement than I would now because I never see older adults with tattoos, let alone Desi ones. I'm afraid it'll look trashy.

Any and all advice is appreciated! :)

I see and understand the consequences of my actions, yet I keep doing the same thing over and over. Why?

I know it's partly a question of discipline, but genuinely it does not take that much discipline to even do what I'm trying to achieve. One small assignment, an email to a supervisor, rehabilitation exercises for an injury that is causing ME pain, things I put off for no reason. I feel like I am good for nothing but making bad decisions and creating new problems for myself and others.

I work out regularly, eat clean, wake up early, and yet I can't do these things? I'm so lost and sick of myself.

Do any of you guys have tattoos? How has your experience been? I would like to get a tattoo, but I have some nagging fears/doubts.

1. Judgement from other Desi folks.

2. How it will look on my skin tone.

I think I have medium-brown skin? Though my legs tan like crazy compared to the rest of my body and can be considered a deep-to-dark brown. I want the tattoo on the calf, but I'm worried that the ink will not be prominent/fade quickly/turn greenish. The greenishness is my biggest concern.

3. Regret.

Either because of the judgement, how it looks, or the ink turning green. I also don't know how it will look/whether I will still like it 30 years down the line when I age. I feel like I'll get even more judgement than I would now because I never see older adults with tattoos, let alone Desi ones.

Any and all advice is appreciated! :)

My car is holding on for dear life, bus trip would be 2-3 hours. Title basically sums it up.

My car is holding on for dear life, bus trip would be 2-3 hours. Title basically sums it up.

Commuting has been insanely difficult throughout my time at Guelph. My family has one dysfunctional car, ride from my house to the GO stop is 20 minutes and the the bus ride is 45 to 60. It's kind of hell. On top of that, my commute to work is long and is taking a toll on the car. I don't want to have to quit my job just because I can't commute.

(I would take the local bus, but the loop that runs from my house to the stop is over 1 hour and 2 connecting buses, total commute would be 2 hours or more)

I'm trying to get as many DE courses as I can, but there aren't many options. What can I do? I'm thinking I might ultimately have to change institutions.

Title says it all. I'm lost and stuck and scared out of my mind and it's been years of this. Posted on here a thousand times. Need urgent help on what to do.

Will say I'm a woman so joining a trade or enlisting are not a good fix for me. I would, but I hear it is unsafe and I'm not the most athletic.

I can't find anything good on Studocu. Does anyone know where I can find sample question banks/old exams, etc.? Thank you!

I know that I'm going to end up chronically single, probably unmarried, probably never gonna have kids, probably gonna be extremely stressed and frustrated wherever I'm working, financial stress will be through the roof, future health issues, parents are gonna get even older and die (or develop some serious disease with age), relationships with my siblings already dying out, probably not going to be talking to each other at all. This isn't even an extreme, just a summary of the lives of every other older adult I know.

I can't imagine a future where anything good happens. The only good in my life is derived from the fact that "things could always be worse" and that's about it.

We really just have to slave away today so that things will only be moderately bad instead of catastrophically bad in the future. No real glory or reward to any of it. Why do people have kids.

It's been 7 weeks today that I've had Achilles tendonitis. First 4 weeks were really bad, pretty much housebound.

Thinks improved substantially at week 6, was able to walk pretty fast (almost zero limp) and run slowly. I haven't really been doing any rehab (regular calf raises inconsistently) because it's still pretty painful to get into the eccentric exercises that require dorsiflexion.

Tried to do some eccentric heel drops yesterday, heard a crack and now my limp is back and easy calf raises are painful again. The flare isn't as bad as they used to be, mostly localized tenderness. Used to get a bright red line right down my Achilles, now there's no superficial signs of inflammation at all. Only concerning thing is that it's been 24 hours, longest flare I've had so far and I'm afraid I've regressed by 2 weeks.

I'm not hearing anything hopeful about this injury, endless stories of people battling AT for years, and I'm afraid that's where I'm headed.

According to my doctor, I should be good to run in 2 weeks (from now), but that doesn't sound right. Struggling with calf raises as is, I think even attempting plyometrics would do serious damage.

What might be a more realistic remaining recovery time?

Edit: Went on a 30-minute power walk, little pain and no flare (yet). Most of the pain is the occasional sharp/burning pull at the point of insertion.

Edit #2: Probably should've specified that I'm 19. Will that cut my recovery time?

Getting out of the house and being out of the house is a battle for me. I was dreading going to the grocery store today, but told myself I would fight the fear.

I bumped into an old lady walking with her husband-- not even her, but the front wheel of her walker. I apologized. She started with "No, no! Thank you, I'm fine!" and then added "Fucking idiot."

I will also say that I'm injured at the moment with a pretty significant limp, not the most coordinated for that reason. But my head keeps telling me I'm using that an as excuse and that obviously I'm an inconsiderate asshole who likes to terrorize the elderly. I'm paranoid that the people in the vicinity thought so as well.

Went home and stared at a wall for an hour, still thinking about it now.

I have a life and hobbies I swear, and I know there's more to life than this. However, relationships, dating, sex, are everywhere as a constant reminder that I have no idea what is going on with me, and that what is a given for everyone else is in constant flux for me.

I don't watch movies and TV shows because of this, can't really date. Can't relate to the majority of people around me when they bring up dating or anything related.

Not really experiencing strong physical attraction to either sex as of late which is a hell and heaven difference to how things used to be. I feel defunct and stunted. It's not even about dating, I miss feeling sexual attraction at the drop of a hat. Worst part is that there's no telling if it'll ever be the same again.

Don't think it's being alone that I'm afraid of, it's the feeling of anhedonia, the fact that I can't make any sense of this, and the complete lack of control of my circumstances. It's affecting my mental health pretty bad.

Going through a rough stretch for a number of years. This year, things have hit the fan again. Injury with an uncertain recovery timeline, other health issues, parents getting older, money, career/academic stress, and more trivial things like personal insecurities regarding overall success, appearance, etc.

I personally know people in far worse circumstances who are fighting and thriving, but I can't seem to handle myself at all.

I don't understand how they do it at all, been trying to figure it out for years. I find I get overwhelmed really easily when things get stressful and immediately look for an opportunity to bolt.

How can I be better?

Been recovering from Achilles tendonitis for 6 weeks exactly. It's healing as expected, not particularly fast but not pain-stakingly slow either. I had a severe limp and was struggling to walk across the begin of this, now I'm able to walk briskly without little to no limp at all. Think I am functionally able to run and jump, just don't want to rush into it.

A new issue that came with all of this was referred knee pain. It started when I had to climb up the stairs. I found that my AT didn't hinder my ability to climb the stairs at all even at the very beginning, but my knees were suddenly taking the full force of it.

Never had any knee issues prior to this. It sometimes goes away if I do the right physio and activation exercises for a couple days, but it keeps coming back despite my AT healing (again, no knee issues prior).

The pain is above the knees, and as well as the sides. Feels like something is being pulled across(?) or underneath(?) the patella, there's some frictional sounds and occasional clicking. There is also swelling above the knee.

What might be causing this? I'm just praying it isn't quadriceps tendinopathy.

Been recovering from Achilles tendonitis for 6 weeks exactly. It's healing as expected, not particularly fast but not pain-stakingly slow either. I had a severe limp and was struggling to walk across the begin of this, now I'm able to walk briskly without little to no limp at all. Think I am functionally able to run and jump, just don't want to rush into it.

A new issue that came with all of this was referred knee pain. It started when I had to climb up the stairs. I found that my AT didn't hinder my ability to climb the stairs at all even at the very beginning, but my knees were suddenly taking the full force of it.

Never had any knee issues prior to this. It sometimes goes away if I do the right physio and activation exercises for a couple days, but it keeps coming back despite my AT healing (again, no knee issues prior).

The pain is above the knees, and as well as the sides. Feels like something is being pulled across(?) or underneath(?) the patella, there's some frictional sounds and occasional clicking. There is also swelling above the knee.

What might be causing this? I'm just praying it isn't quadriceps tendinopathy.

My doctor has suggested stress or rapid weight loss, but can't be sure since bloodwork came normal. Elevated DHEA-S but wasn't flagged for an adrenal tumor. PCOS was ruled out via ultrasound and a lack of other PCOS-related symptoms. I began getting mini-periods during my follicular phase after a stressful few months (not something that happens consistently however), but my libido issues started prior to that.

I had initially chalked it down to the bi-cycle since this all happened after a sudden preference shift from women to men for maybe a few months, and then it just fizzled out to nothing at all.

Now I'm uninterested in either sex. Romantically and sexually, I feel close to nothing, maybe even slightly repulsed? It really sucks.

Wouldn't say I'm entirely depressed or especially stressed. I eat very clean, I'm active.

It's been just over 2 years, and now I'm dreading a reality where this is forever. I want to put myself out there, I want to fall in LOVE, I want to get married, I want to have a great sex life, I want to have kids, I want to feel like myself again. I'm honestly terrified.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

My account has been up for less than 48 hours, some guy tells me that someone else is using my photos. I'm aware that he might just be saying whatever he thinks will get him a reply, but I want to play it safe. Identity theft isn't something to be taken lightly, and it's frustrating that some people actually use that line for something as unserious as getting a text back.

Worse is that Hinge doesn't have any kind of immediate support line. With these kinds of risks in the matter, they really should. I sent them an email instead.

What are my next steps/what can I do?

My account has been up for less than 48 hours, some guy tells me that someone else is using my photos. I'm aware that he might just be saying whatever he thinks will get him a reply, but I want to play it safe. Identity theft isn't something to be taken lightly, and it's frustrating that some people actually use that line for something as unserious as getting a text back.

Worse is that Hinge doesn't have any kind of immediate support line. With these kinds of risks in the matter, they really should. I sent them an email instead.

What are my next steps/what can I do?