Often I hear about the people on Reddit who are doing financially well in their life and I am so happy for them . This post is for them who are not doing so much good financially in their life or in their career as according to them
How’s Your life right now ? What keeps you motivated and you hopeful for future :)
Only faced Heartbreak in Married Life. Feeling it gonna be arranged marriage for me
I am Indian, and because of my work and hobbies, I have met quite a few Americans online. I have always felt that American people are very warm-hearted because I have had such great experiences with them.
I still remember a kind woman from Arizona who was struggling to make ends meet herself, but still gifted me a game on Steam because she felt bad that I did not have a multiplayer game. We got along really well. Once, when I told her I was not feeling too good about myself, she wrote me a long paragraph complimenting me and telling me what she liked about me as a person.
Then there is a lady from Utah whom I met online because our PhD fields are quite close. Sometimes, we work together using a timer. She always makes it a point to ask how I am doing and what is going on in my life whenever it has been a while since we last talked.
I also remember an American man who was sitting beside me on a plane. We were both going to Bangalore. I asked him what he was reading, and he enthusiastically handed me the book, looking genuinely glad that I had asked. He also asked me what book I was reading. His energy was quite infectious, and I felt so glad that I had asked him about the book.
These are some of the most notable experiences I have had, among many others. So, I feel really glad that I got the chance to meet some American people, and I genuinely feel that there are a lot of good people in America.
Maybe it’s better to not comment negatively on people post who are earning lower income when clearly you all with higher income had to resort to this subreddit to find your partner . Ironically I haven’t seen much post by people here who earn lower income and based on my experience too they get married just fine . It maybe better to see what you all brings to the table apart from high income and high height and why you all struggling so much
I have been on matrimony platforms for some time now and have received a fair bit of attention. Recently, I received a marriage request that seems suspicious.
The woman is a CA and earns significantly more, about 50lpa, whereas I am currently living on a PhD (semiconductors and AI) stipend of around 50K. Secondly, she comes from a fairly large family with many brothers. The family otherwise seems decent, but both my family and I are quite clueless about how to proceed. My family is highly educated, with my father in a high government job
I have been on matrimony platforms for some time now and have received a fair bit of attention. Recently, I received a marriage request that seems suspicious.
The woman is a CA and earns significantly more, about 50lpa, whereas I am currently living on a PhD (semiconductors and AI) stipend of around 50K. Secondly, she comes from a fairly large family with many brothers. The family otherwise seems decent, but both my family and I are quite clueless about how to proceed. My family is highly educated, with my father in a high government job
I have been on matrimony platforms for some time now and have received a fair bit of attention. Recently, I received a marriage request that honestly feels a bit suspicious to me. The woman is a CA and earns significantly more about 50lpa, whereas I am currently living on a PhD stipend of around 50K. Secondly, she comes from a fairly large family with many brothers. The family otherwise seems decent, but both my family and I are quite clueless about how to proceed.
As someone who has been using Reddit for the last 4–5 years to meet people for dating or friendship (M here), I feel many people here have extremely high expectations from it.
Just make a profile and wait to see if something genuinely clicks. Based on my experience, there is probably only a 10–30% chance of forming any meaningful connection, and an even smaller chance of eventually meeting in person.
Because of that, the most reliable way to find meaningful relationships or friendships is still through real life, outside of Reddit.
I am not The OOP, OOP is u/UnderstandingThis430
Terminally ill and racking up credit card debt with zero fucks to give
Original Posted to r/confession
Original Post [April 9 2025]
I’ve had cancer for 2 years now, did chemo, lost my leg, beat odds and managed to even go back to work, well shit hit the fan and treatment stopped working. Probably got weeks, maybe couple months at best. I am 22, don’t own a house, don’t own my car. Have maybe £2k in the bank. So I took out a credit card, 6.5k limit, 0% APR for 20 months. (I was previously building up a good credit score) and am now buying whatever the fuck I want. The debt will die with me, and I give no fucks.
And if you want to beef me about driving your bank fees up with this behaviour, at least you get to live. lol
EDIT:: Thank you all for your amazing responses. Unfortunately it’s bone cancer that has spread through my whole body, so I’m too weak now to travel far, as much as I would have wanted to see the world.
I’m going to go bigger, and do some good stuff, if you have ideas. I want to do some big donations to food banks and cancer charities that supported me through my journey and make some differences before I pop.
Alsos shame on you all of you asking me for money.
UPDATE 2:
Took out some more cards, thanks for the suggestions
Some of you asking, I’m a girl haha
I’ve bought lots of things for my family, mostly sentimental things with my handwriting on.
I bought a crab at a fancy ass seafood place. That was awesome
I’ve donated to animal shelters and food banks. Also to the cancer charities who helped drag my ass through this.
Also can y’all stop telling me to find Jesus, I respect those of you who are praying for me, because I know that’s your way of thinking of me and I’m really touched by that.
But finding god is in no way in my plans and not what I believe will happen after death, trying to force religion down a dying persons throat is really not the vibe.
Update 3:
Still hanging on, I’ve deteriorated quite a lot now, lost a lot of functionality in my body at this point so I’m bedbound and mostly just watching lots of TV and seeing family. But I’m comfortable, eating apples and cheese and lots of little treats. Thank you all for still checking in and thinking of me.
I’m really fortunate to be surrounded by my friends and family right now, when you boil it all down to it in the end, it really is all you need.
Anyway I’ll try update again soon. ✌️
RELEVANT COMMENTS
OOP
> Sorry everyone, I feel like I should update on my fun happy times
> I have taken your advice and took some more cards out, live laugh love amarite
> Random purchases include
> Jewellery with my handwriting for my family
> £360 lunch of fresh, English crab. I really like crab, and the cancer is in my jaw so I really wanted to have some good crab before I lose function in my jaw.
> 3 jellycats, the frog ones. I’ve never owned a jellycat and wanted to know what it was like to be boujie enough to buy a BIG jellycat
> some really comfy trousers
> a hand knitted blanket for my niece
> £1000 of food for my local food bank.
> I took my brothers to the arcade for a whole day and played every game
> took my family to my favourite place - Weymouth
> went into a candy store and bought one quart of everything
> a minted lamb pasty
> I’m very nostalgia driven, and yeah definitely not going feral enough, however will endeavour for more.
> I do hear you all suggesting hard drugs and psychotics! I won’t lie I’ve been on pretty much every drug going through this fun time so I’m not too fussed about drugs haha.
~
Tracie10000
> I'm going to remember you. I promise you that. Sometimes, I just know I'm going to remember people who I spoke to or messaged. Even if I don't know their names, and I do remember them.
> I lost my little brother to cancer when he was 5. So I've always known how precious life is. I've grown up knowing it.
> You are a girl who deserves to be remembered.
> I don't expect you to tell me your name. But is there anything you would like me to think of you as?
> Obviously you are a kick ass warrior princess but I don't know if remembering you as credit card girl is right. You are so much more than that.
OOP
> I’ve told my friends to think of me when something slightly unhinged happens in their life, cause I’m hoping my energy just turns to chaos.
~
-2wenty7even-
> Hey bro.. you do your fucking thing and enjoy the time you have left. I'm not kidding when I say this, I wish I was terminal. I've been avoiding a serious growth because I want it to spread. Have had GAD and depression since middle school, good looking guy, always making people laugh and doing good for others, athletic and excel at almost everything I do... but I don't want to exist - for the longest time. And people don't understand why, hell neither do I..
> I'm sorry that you are going through this but you should definitely try some psychedelics and also make a bucket list. Run up that debt, take chances, go crazy bro. Live a 100 lives in the limited time you have. I won't lie in a way you made me think maybe I should change it up a little bit... Your one post is already impacting lives. Peace and love brother.
OOP
> It’s strangely liberating. I’d been “fighting” for so long. Finally letting it run its course now.
> It’s peaceful actually, I’ve done everything I wanted to do.
Update January 18 2026 (9 Months Later) by u/infinityangel26 - Her twin Sister
(UPDATE 4 from her twin sister)
I managed to track down this post whilst going through her phone and saw it blow up. She passed away peacefully in July, surrounded by her family, dogs and multiple credit cards.
She did a lot of good, including buying refurbs for local primary and pre-schools and making a lot of improvements in the community.
To those saying it would be passed to us: no, it was wiped and cleared. She had no inheritance, not a penny to her name since she was only 22 and didn’t have those adult things like life insurance or mortgages.
Thank you for all your support - she really kept this one hidden!
THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP
DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7
Got a 2nd rejection from 1st Work and 1st rejection from 2nd Work we are doing
Not a native . The only place I was able to
Found an Oxford bookstore at top floor of an abandoned mall . Makes me feel had I missed anything ?
Currently doing a PhD in Computer Science.
4th year, would transition into corporate next year.
Height 5’5–5’6.
Delhi NCR
Childfree by choice.
For my research work , I am at bhubneshwar for next two months
**Regarding me:**
I am a bit of a social, introverted guy. I can talk about country music, books, and writing all day. I love philosophy and psychology, or I think, in general, I love art and humanities.
I also like movies, video games, and TV shows. I am just very deeply interested in the narrative or plot behind them and how they are able to captivate people so much.
I think we as human beings are generally very reflective; we are just a sum of many experiences we have gained over the years. I am excited to share my life, filled with all those parts, with someone ;)
If you need some visualization of who I am, I am the fellow who can often be found sitting in a cozy cafe, reading or hopefully writing something on my tablet.
So, regarding hobbies, I am a writer, maintaining my own decently popular Instagram page (short poems, excerpts) and a Substack page where I usually write more involved pieces. A prolific reader. A newbie musician, dabbling my hands on the violin currently. I love to talk about fun stuff, deep stuff, or whatever we can vibe with. I also love anime, documentaries, and photography.
**Who I am looking for:**
A fine woman who can be a best friend, someone with whom we can establish a level of bonding filled with safety, trust, and communication.
Someone with whom we can feel like we are each other’s home and never feel lonely, because we have our best friend to share things with, who happens to live with us.
A person with whom I can establish wonderful communication, someone who is not afraid to have hard conversations, and most of all believes in tackling whatever problems we face as individuals together as a team.
**What I would bring to a relationship:**
Honest communication: I will not hesitate to tell you what I am having trouble with. I will make this relationship as secure as possible and make my partner feel as safe and loved as possible. It is my responsibility to chip away at any insecurity that comes into a relationship. All I ask is honesty, just like me.
Emotional and physical intimacy: I would strive to create an environment where you can safely be vulnerable with me, laying the groundwork for emotional intimacy to flourish and physical intimacy to develop organically.
My share of the partnership: I would stand with my partner in her decisions about her wants and career while also putting forward my views. Irrespective, she stands shoulder to shoulder in her life, and I would give her all the support and care she needs.
In short, it is my responsibility in the partnership to make my partner feel secure, comfortable, and loved, and I would do my absolute best to maintain that.
Healthy relationships should be about keeping your independent self, with your friends and hobbies, intact while sharing life. I strive for this and look for a partner who holds this view too.
If it resonates with you, do give a DM :)
Currently doing a PhD in Computer Science.
4th year, would transition into corporate next year.
Height 5’5–5’6.
Delhi NCR
Childfree by choice.
For my research work , I am at bhubneshwar for next two months
**Regarding me:**
I am a bit of a social, introverted guy. I can talk about country music, books, and writing all day. I love philosophy and psychology, or I think, in general, I love art and humanities.
I also like movies, video games, and TV shows. I am just very deeply interested in the narrative or plot behind them and how they are able to captivate people so much.
I think we as human beings are generally very reflective; we are just a sum of many experiences we have gained over the years. I am excited to share my life, filled with all those parts, with someone ;)
If you need some visualization of who I am, I am the fellow who can often be found sitting in a cozy cafe, reading or hopefully writing something on my tablet.
So, regarding hobbies, I am a writer, maintaining my own decently popular Instagram page (short poems, excerpts) and a Substack page where I usually write more involved pieces. A prolific reader. A newbie musician, dabbling my hands on the violin currently. I love to talk about fun stuff, deep stuff, or whatever we can vibe with. I also love anime, documentaries, and photography.
**Who I am looking for:**
A fine woman who can be a best friend, someone with whom we can establish a level of bonding filled with safety, trust, and communication.
Someone with whom we can feel like we are each other’s home and never feel lonely, because we have our best friend to share things with, who happens to live with us.
A person with whom I can establish wonderful communication, someone who is not afraid to have hard conversations, and most of all believes in tackling whatever problems we face as individuals together as a team.
**What I would bring to a relationship:**
Honest communication: I will not hesitate to tell you what I am having trouble with. I will make this relationship as secure as possible and make my partner feel as safe and loved as possible. It is my responsibility to chip away at any insecurity that comes into a relationship. All I ask is honesty, just like me.
Emotional and physical intimacy: I would strive to create an environment where you can safely be vulnerable with me, laying the groundwork for emotional intimacy to flourish and physical intimacy to develop organically.
My share of the partnership: I would stand with my partner in her decisions about her wants and career while also putting forward my views. Irrespective, she stands shoulder to shoulder in her life, and I would give her all the support and care she needs.
In short, it is my responsibility in the partnership to make my partner feel secure, comfortable, and loved, and I would do my absolute best to maintain that.
Healthy relationships should be about keeping your independent self, with your friends and hobbies, intact while sharing life. I strive for this and look for a partner who holds this view too.
If it resonates with you, do give a DM :)
I am a phd student 30M and have time free now much to explore dating . It’s seems so much stressful because to me it seems like on start I have to walk on eggshells so that I don’t trigger any of the past trauma relationships or even family relationships. We people are so broken in 30s 😭. I feel that people maybe better married in their earlier 20s because how the hell two emotionally mature people can find who have so much of baggage
Furthermore how the hell people are not very communicative at this age and time
Mom is pushing me for arranged marriage and honestly it feels a right thing to do at this moment
To see atleast some serious people
I am here for next 2-3 months and have a violin with me . I am a beginner in violin knows notes . I m looking for some teacher who can teach me violin
Few months ago I asked the subreddit about the tips of how to proceed for the interview for HW silicon engineering role phd intern. Thankfully I cleared it and want to thank the sub
I can’t formally tell the interview process but want to tell to please have your OS Concepts particularly strong and how does it intertwine with Architecture while applying for any systems role . The questions were not hard but pretty conceptual